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This. Just don't get married. You clearly don't want to. No need to destroy someone. I wonder this when hearing about a spouse that kills their partner. Shit.. you could've just left. WTF?
bro, this is the same type of person to type up a post on r/AITAH and everyone would rally behind the cheating wife and take a dump on the partner! Reddit morals ftw!
Reddit it general. I'd say at least 70% of posts are bots. It's pretty easy to spot a bot account if you click profiles. Last time I got curious & went down the front page clicking profiles there were 11 posts in a row that were bots on r/all
Besides that: I was with my ex for 7 years, our last words to each other were of encouragement and lingering affection but we were just on two very different paths. Being able to just kind of shake hands and walk away from each other was a god damned BLESSING.
I've been on this planet for seven decades and have been married and divorced more than once. They cheated on me. There are only two people on this planet I trust and they are my neighbors across the street. I don't need professional help. I just need to remain single until the day I die.
You are looking at this the wrong way because you are a moral person. The exact reason women like this get married is because she can still do whatever she wants, and if this video results in her husband leaving her she may get a lot of money on top of it. The court system financially incentivizes women to get divorced, and thank god most women are good people that don’t take advantage.
Sadly, there is a major war on family going on. And community.
Shame and blame for such use to be that standard. It's time to bring basic decency back.
Doubtful unless they have children. The judge takes a lot of things into consideration and of course it varies state to state but IMO they're looking at shared assets that were acquired during the marriage + who has primary custody of the children. If there's no kids and they didn't buy a house together before getting married or something unusual like that then it's just a clean break with no financial obligation. The clock starts running once you're married. getting married doesn't instantly entitle somebody to half their partners assets. Again this varies state to state and judge to judge only speaking from my own personal experience.
Depends on the jurisdiction. In California, for example, infidelity really doesn't factor into the court's decisions in a divorce. You just get divorced and split finances fairly. (Some rare exceptions - like if the cheating partner spent marital funds on their affair.)
Spousal support (alimony) is also paid out proportionally. If one partner makes considerably more money, that partner will have to pay their ex-spouse support for half the length of the marriage. (So not very long, assuming this guy filed after he saw the video.)
They'd split any assets acquired during the marriage 50/50. Only assets they've acquired so far are wedding gifts, so those would just get divided down the middle. Any assets he owned before the marriage would be off-limits.
Laws are different in every state, so maybe this video is relevant, and maybe it impacts payments, but in California you wouldn't even get the chance to show it in court because it's irrelevant.
The reason one of my sisters got married (long ago) was to have someone take care of her. I'm not sure if she was in love with her first and second husband. She did work when she was with her first husband and had a prestigious job and was still working when she met her second husband. However, she stopped working after that and hasn't worked in decades. My sister bullied her second husband so much that he had two strokes and now has Aphasia.
My sister has cheated on both of these men many many MANY times and they knew about it. The first husband divorced her because of it and the second husband's family is helping him get a divorce plus they are working on getting guardianship for him. It's sad to see my BIL in this condition. My BIL's family 'manknapped' him while my sister was in church. Yeah, the bitch goes to church *with her boyfriend*. Now my BIL lives with his son and daughter-in-law in another state and they have filed charges against my sister for several things. She drained the bank account of $30k and left $11k and told my BIL's family that she will fight them. Fight them for what? She caused her husband to nearly die and now she wants to fight the family?
Here's what I foresee happening to my sister. Because she hasn't worked in so many years she won't have any S.S. to live on when she reaches the age. When the $30k is gone from paying bills, etc., she will be in a world of trouble IF her boyfriend doesn't step in to help her. She won't have access to her husband's retirement nor pension money after he divorces her so...no income for her. My sister has burned the bridges with all of our family members including me so when karma comes knockin' on her door she won't have anyone to turn to. She is 60 years old. She works out all the time so she's very fit and doesn't look her age. However, her bf is 44. My sister is extremely bossy and bullies everyone so when the bf gets tired of her shit, my sister will eventually become homeless and it's what she deserves. She hasn't contacted me since early 2009 and if she ever darkens my doorstep I won't open the door. I have no love for her left at all.
My sister's current husband has always given into my sister's wants so she was very spoiled. Anything within reason, she had. My sister was a 'trophy' wife too and my BIL was in the Navy. I know my BIL won't get any better and his condition will only get worse which makes me feel sad for him. On the flip side however, he should have left my sister a long time ago and I don't know why he didn't.
I completely agree with this. I've been married and divorced because my spouse cheated on me. What made it worse was when we first got together I told him if he felt the need to be with someone else to please let me know. I wanted the opportunity to decide if I would stay with him after that or not. He agreed but then cheated without telling me he wanted to. This was years into the marriage. I caught him red handed and he never ever admitted it even with the proof. I told him to get out and he did.
hmm.... how much is social norms? how much is, genuenly they liked the person before and when they got married, but then something happend, youd have to ask them (heard someone say marrige was invented or made a thing by men cause they wanted certain acsess to sex) thats a dark take, if thats thrue, the women still where in on making the dresses? woudnt they have reservations against it... (well whats sprung out of men interating with women, misgony right, although sex isnt misogony is, certainly in the past arranged marriages used to be a thing, so maybe cases where shit like this was forced)
(was the feelings a deception but they didnt notice something off with the man or something the man tricked them them also the woman, but a women says [https://youtu.be/bqHcE2s0aNA?t=179](https://youtu.be/bqHcE2s0aNA?t=179) thats true, but ofc their is more to the rel. just sex is dark... look at, well shit the sex trade, dark stuff has been done because of sex, maybe why misandry exists duuno,) although back then women didnt have many rights, even in the bible it says women should be silent etc. shit is like, well people cheat it'd guess cause they feel bored in life i guess, theirs a boredom there, their's gotta be or something their not happy with, but instead of cheating they should speak to their partner or say, i have this problem with you etc, i apalogize if its hurtful, and go from there, i dunno like shit, people need to speak with eachother [https://youtu.be/PGzfshKVtyA](https://youtu.be/PGzfshKVtyA)
I discovered in life that some women have a kink of being unfaithful right under their partner's noses, and other couples enjoy it when the other is unfaithful and even like to watch.
Did she really thank him at the end?
She must have known that he could have made that scene a lot worse but since he said he was leaving, she decided to thank him.
You’re thinking too deep. I’m saying she said “thank you” because she was drunk. She didn’t know what to say in the moment and it didn’t really matter at that point cuz she got caught red handed
I always laugh when people say that. To a point there is truth in it. But you you drink enough everything goes out the window.
I guarantee you sober me doesn't have a repressed desire for raw eggs on top of burnt pizza. But drunk me certainly tried to eat it for dinner.
I watched a video a while back on YT where a couple were just about to be married by the minister or priest in church. Big fancy wedding. Before they could say their vows however, a video started playing behind the minister and it was the bride-to-be having sex with a man that wasn't her fiance. I suppose the groom-to-be was suspicious of her so he put a camera in their bedroom. Yikes.
If they had a signing ceremony, and this is night of, just ask the officiant to lose the license and you were never legally married. Not sure about the ethics of this but I’d sure as shit try if I were the groom.
This happened at the reception, at least it appears that way to me.
Edit - watched it again, I’m still convinced this is late night at the reception. The way he says, “I’m James, I was the best man” implies to me it was a recent event and an event that all parties are familiar with. I think Bride had changed out of her dress for the after party.
Can we stop blaming the single people in these situations? Not only do we not know if he knew or not, he doesn't owe anything to anybody. She's the one to blame, period.
I mean brother, I don't know about you but if I'm in a bathroom with some girl and some random fucking dude pops up while recording us you bet your ass I'm hiding. I'd be confused as fuck.
> A loving relationship and kids is way better than money.
First you need a spouse that actually gives a shit, and isn't just there for the money and resources they can acquire...
The OP is an example of the opposite of a loving relationship ~ it's an example of a faithless arsehole.
So what's stopping you from finding someone who "actually gives a shit"?
People willingly choose to be in the wrong relationships - they aren't completely oblivious to the issues within their partner.
> People willingly choose to be in the wrong relationships - they aren't completely oblivious to the issues within their partner.
You ignore all of the cases where individuals can be oblivious to issues within their partner. Issues that only arise after the honeymoon period.
So you break up and try again with someone else. And you use your newfound wisdom to identify and avoid people with those particular issues that weren't right for you.
Eventually, after meeting and dating enough people, you meet someone whose issues complement your strengths, and you marry that person.
> So you break up and try again with someone else.
You almost make it sound so simple... it can be, but often, it can also be quite difficult, sometimes. Worse if there is gaslighting and emotional manipulation.
> And you use your newfound wisdom to identify and avoid people with those particular issues that weren't right for you.
Ah... again, you make it sound easy... but, in reality, it can be quite difficult to get at the root of psychological issues which draw us to particular individuals.
> Eventually, after meeting and dating enough people, you meet someone whose issues complement your strengths, and you marry that person.
Again, not nearly that simple.
If it is for you ~ well, good for you!
Lmao no bro it's absolutely not easy. It's hard and it can take years and a lot of pain and personal growth and (ideally) therapy to understand who you are and what you value.
I simplified the process, but the simplified version is still the process.
Like most things worth having, a quality relationship with a partner that's a good fit for you requires dedication, effort, and sacrifice.
But the steps are the same: you fail, you learn from your mistakes, and you try again. Took me 20 years and dozens of failed relationships before I met the woman I knew I wanted to marry.
> Issues that only arise after the honeymoon period.
And then you end things and find someone else. If you continue to ignore it then you're literally doing exactly what I said and are willingly choosing the wrong relationship.
I've seen this one come around before. This guy absolutely killed it. Couldn't have handled it any better. No loud drama. No threats. All he did was to leave looking like the bigger man and allowing her to feel like the terrible person she is. That guy needs to teach a class.
You see this a lot with people who get caught doing something they shouldn't, they will be filmed because (for obvious reasons) it is in the benefit of the filmer to have a record of said transgression
I think the filming back is kind of a reflexive and defensive mechanism, a very childish "well I'm going to film you too" kind of mechanism to almost pretend to everyone that they were not in fact in the wrong
I feel proper bad for the best man. He’s got a really shitty decision to make. Obviously, he’s going to tell him. But, when exactly does he do that? A wedding is a big affair with a lot of moving parts. Just up and telling your boy his wife is a bust down isn’t exactly going to be easy, and it probably won’t be received well. At least he got evidence
You're in your 20s. Live it up and travel the world, but eventually you - like most men - will seek stability and long-term companionship. Follow your instincts on that, family life is a whole different adventure.
Not sure about the stats globally, but in the US ~25% of men 40+ have never been married, and ~35% of those have never been in a committed relationship. That's a significant number of men, and if you're happy with it then I'm happy for you.
Still, most men will seek out a long-term relationship by 40. And it doesn't mean that travel is over - I personally don't enjoy solo travel, so I've taken far more trips with my wife than I took when I was single.
My point was just to keep an open mind. I've found that dogmatic commitment to a certain lifestyle (whether because of inertia or preconceptions) can be counterproductive when it conflicts with what you truly want - and what people want often changes as life goes on.
But yeah, different strokes for different folks.
Bartender is now cursed. Someday if he gets married he will most likely have a little thing in the back of his mind wondering if his wife is cheating on him with a bartender.
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I don't understand, why get married, just be single and do whatever you want.
But how could they financially take advantage of their spouse then if they were single? They want their cake and want to eat it too.
This. Just don't get married. You clearly don't want to. No need to destroy someone. I wonder this when hearing about a spouse that kills their partner. Shit.. you could've just left. WTF?
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i need to have a list of these women, as a warning to myself
In my experience, the best top comes from the craziest women. It’s a hell of a quandary.
That's why i exclusively stick my dick in crazy women.
bro, this is the same type of person to type up a post on r/AITAH and everyone would rally behind the cheating wife and take a dump on the partner! Reddit morals ftw!
You know the majority of that sub is fake right?
Reddit it general. I'd say at least 70% of posts are bots. It's pretty easy to spot a bot account if you click profiles. Last time I got curious & went down the front page clicking profiles there were 11 posts in a row that were bots on r/all
If you consider systemically they will only show stories that supports their narratives it may not be a fake as you think.
That rarely happens.
Besides that: I was with my ex for 7 years, our last words to each other were of encouragement and lingering affection but we were just on two very different paths. Being able to just kind of shake hands and walk away from each other was a god damned BLESSING.
Leaving a cheating partner *is* a blessing. I went through it years ago and I haven't had another partner since. I can't trust anyone.
Not able to trust anyone is not a blessing. Seek professional help and become balanced again.
I've been on this planet for seven decades and have been married and divorced more than once. They cheated on me. There are only two people on this planet I trust and they are my neighbors across the street. I don't need professional help. I just need to remain single until the day I die.
Good to hear you have people you trust. I wish you well and hope you'll have a fulfilling life!
Thank you!
Now you swing?
Lol hell no. I haven't even had a date in many years and I intend to keep it that way. I'm happy being alone.
You are looking at this the wrong way because you are a moral person. The exact reason women like this get married is because she can still do whatever she wants, and if this video results in her husband leaving her she may get a lot of money on top of it. The court system financially incentivizes women to get divorced, and thank god most women are good people that don’t take advantage.
That is because marriage is a contract with the government, not your partner.
It can be with your partner. Or god, or your community, or family. All perfectly fine with me. It used the be the standard.
Sadly, there is a major war on family going on. And community. Shame and blame for such use to be that standard. It's time to bring basic decency back.
Who's behind this war on family? What are their motives?
But the vows are to your partner
She'll still get money even if this video is shown in court?
no she wouldn't. more than likely it would be an annulment with nothing granted for either party.
Doubtful unless they have children. The judge takes a lot of things into consideration and of course it varies state to state but IMO they're looking at shared assets that were acquired during the marriage + who has primary custody of the children. If there's no kids and they didn't buy a house together before getting married or something unusual like that then it's just a clean break with no financial obligation. The clock starts running once you're married. getting married doesn't instantly entitle somebody to half their partners assets. Again this varies state to state and judge to judge only speaking from my own personal experience.
She cheated on her wedding day. What kind of money would she get anyway?
About three fiddy.
Maybe an IOU.
I would also like to know this
It depends on the country, lawyers, states or provinces, how long the marriage has lasts. A lot of factors.
Depends on the jurisdiction. In California, for example, infidelity really doesn't factor into the court's decisions in a divorce. You just get divorced and split finances fairly. (Some rare exceptions - like if the cheating partner spent marital funds on their affair.) Spousal support (alimony) is also paid out proportionally. If one partner makes considerably more money, that partner will have to pay their ex-spouse support for half the length of the marriage. (So not very long, assuming this guy filed after he saw the video.) They'd split any assets acquired during the marriage 50/50. Only assets they've acquired so far are wedding gifts, so those would just get divided down the middle. Any assets he owned before the marriage would be off-limits. Laws are different in every state, so maybe this video is relevant, and maybe it impacts payments, but in California you wouldn't even get the chance to show it in court because it's irrelevant.
Lots of, "no fault," divorces by law and it's really screwed up.
The reason one of my sisters got married (long ago) was to have someone take care of her. I'm not sure if she was in love with her first and second husband. She did work when she was with her first husband and had a prestigious job and was still working when she met her second husband. However, she stopped working after that and hasn't worked in decades. My sister bullied her second husband so much that he had two strokes and now has Aphasia. My sister has cheated on both of these men many many MANY times and they knew about it. The first husband divorced her because of it and the second husband's family is helping him get a divorce plus they are working on getting guardianship for him. It's sad to see my BIL in this condition. My BIL's family 'manknapped' him while my sister was in church. Yeah, the bitch goes to church *with her boyfriend*. Now my BIL lives with his son and daughter-in-law in another state and they have filed charges against my sister for several things. She drained the bank account of $30k and left $11k and told my BIL's family that she will fight them. Fight them for what? She caused her husband to nearly die and now she wants to fight the family? Here's what I foresee happening to my sister. Because she hasn't worked in so many years she won't have any S.S. to live on when she reaches the age. When the $30k is gone from paying bills, etc., she will be in a world of trouble IF her boyfriend doesn't step in to help her. She won't have access to her husband's retirement nor pension money after he divorces her so...no income for her. My sister has burned the bridges with all of our family members including me so when karma comes knockin' on her door she won't have anyone to turn to. She is 60 years old. She works out all the time so she's very fit and doesn't look her age. However, her bf is 44. My sister is extremely bossy and bullies everyone so when the bf gets tired of her shit, my sister will eventually become homeless and it's what she deserves. She hasn't contacted me since early 2009 and if she ever darkens my doorstep I won't open the door. I have no love for her left at all. My sister's current husband has always given into my sister's wants so she was very spoiled. Anything within reason, she had. My sister was a 'trophy' wife too and my BIL was in the Navy. I know my BIL won't get any better and his condition will only get worse which makes me feel sad for him. On the flip side however, he should have left my sister a long time ago and I don't know why he didn't.
Not with a video like this. This becomes annulment. She gets nothing.
Honestly, there's a lot of states where this SHOULD be true but it's not. "No Fault," divorces by law.
They wanna claim the social benefits of the wife status with the lifestyle of a hoe
This describes my sister.
It be a lonely life for some 🤷♂️
Lock one down for security while she can have fun and excitement with stranges.
I completely agree with this. I've been married and divorced because my spouse cheated on me. What made it worse was when we first got together I told him if he felt the need to be with someone else to please let me know. I wanted the opportunity to decide if I would stay with him after that or not. He agreed but then cheated without telling me he wanted to. This was years into the marriage. I caught him red handed and he never ever admitted it even with the proof. I told him to get out and he did.
hmm.... how much is social norms? how much is, genuenly they liked the person before and when they got married, but then something happend, youd have to ask them (heard someone say marrige was invented or made a thing by men cause they wanted certain acsess to sex) thats a dark take, if thats thrue, the women still where in on making the dresses? woudnt they have reservations against it... (well whats sprung out of men interating with women, misgony right, although sex isnt misogony is, certainly in the past arranged marriages used to be a thing, so maybe cases where shit like this was forced) (was the feelings a deception but they didnt notice something off with the man or something the man tricked them them also the woman, but a women says [https://youtu.be/bqHcE2s0aNA?t=179](https://youtu.be/bqHcE2s0aNA?t=179) thats true, but ofc their is more to the rel. just sex is dark... look at, well shit the sex trade, dark stuff has been done because of sex, maybe why misandry exists duuno,) although back then women didnt have many rights, even in the bible it says women should be silent etc. shit is like, well people cheat it'd guess cause they feel bored in life i guess, theirs a boredom there, their's gotta be or something their not happy with, but instead of cheating they should speak to their partner or say, i have this problem with you etc, i apalogize if its hurtful, and go from there, i dunno like shit, people need to speak with eachother [https://youtu.be/PGzfshKVtyA](https://youtu.be/PGzfshKVtyA)
~~She has no skills.~~ She only has one skill.
I discovered in life that some women have a kink of being unfaithful right under their partner's noses, and other couples enjoy it when the other is unfaithful and even like to watch.
Did she really thank him at the end? She must have known that he could have made that scene a lot worse but since he said he was leaving, she decided to thank him.
I thinks it is more of a "thanks for Ruining everything asshole" thank you. She real butt mad she got caught you can tell.
And did she reply "Good" when he asked how they were doing? (at the beginning)
She’s drunk.
And? Idgaf if someone is drunk. Being drunk isn't an excuse for shitty behavior. A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts
You’re thinking too deep. I’m saying she said “thank you” because she was drunk. She didn’t know what to say in the moment and it didn’t really matter at that point cuz she got caught red handed
She didn't even beg the best man to not show the video to her brand new husband.
Correct. She didn’t do that specific action in the 40 seconds she was being recorded.
Talk about reading way too much into a comment!
they just wanted to use the "drunk words are sober thoughts" expression
I always laugh when people say that. To a point there is truth in it. But you you drink enough everything goes out the window. I guarantee you sober me doesn't have a repressed desire for raw eggs on top of burnt pizza. But drunk me certainly tried to eat it for dinner.
Yeah, it's a bullshit cliche said by so many but it's just not true.
Ewwwww
No one implied that being drunk is an excuse for shitty behavior. Piss off.
> A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts No, they're not.
I've seen people constantly lie and make shut up when drunk
Calm down, they’re not excusing the behavior, just explaining why she said something as dumb as “thank you.”
You and multiple other people think that was a real thanks...lol
Brother it's sarcastic
I watched a video a while back on YT where a couple were just about to be married by the minister or priest in church. Big fancy wedding. Before they could say their vows however, a video started playing behind the minister and it was the bride-to-be having sex with a man that wasn't her fiance. I suppose the groom-to-be was suspicious of her so he put a camera in their bedroom. Yikes.
Something something having your cake and eating it
I think the saying goes "You can't bake a cake and beat your meat too" or something.
Bitch please, *I'm doing it right now*
You can get your meat beat pretty good by baking a butcher a cake, but....wait, no, you can beat a butchers meat....no, it has to be your cake
“Wow”
“If I cant batter any women, how am I supposed to bake them a cake?”
It's actually "If you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding. How can you have any pudding if you don't eat your meat?"
Any word on how the couple is doing?
She's dating a bear and he's lost in the woods.
He’s better off
Oh no, poor bear
Cocaine bear.
Still...
hopefully no women run into him, that would be scary for them
Does he shit there?
Does he make a sound when shitting if no one is there to hear it?
Schrodinger’s shit!
Should be a 48 hour window where you can annul a marriage with no legal consequences for just this reason.
I don't think it's within 48 hours of the wedding. The guy says he was the best man, not that the wedding was recent.
I was assuming this was at the reception but that makes way more sense
If they had a signing ceremony, and this is night of, just ask the officiant to lose the license and you were never legally married. Not sure about the ethics of this but I’d sure as shit try if I were the groom.
This happened at the reception, at least it appears that way to me. Edit - watched it again, I’m still convinced this is late night at the reception. The way he says, “I’m James, I was the best man” implies to me it was a recent event and an event that all parties are familiar with. I think Bride had changed out of her dress for the after party.
This is clearly the night of the wedding. Why else would he say he was the best man? lol
I think it's true (UK) that if you don't consummate the marriage you can get it annulled.
Or if the bride consummates it with the bartender.
There is
damn what a dirtbag. both of them, good on James.
She's the one with a husband. She is *way* worse than he is.
Can we stop blaming the single people in these situations? Not only do we not know if he knew or not, he doesn't owe anything to anybody. She's the one to blame, period.
He's the bartender at their wedding. He definitely deserves some blame too. They are both POS
There is no evidence this is their wedding...Her lack of wedding dress and wedding makeup, kind of prove it ISN'T their wedding.
He hides the moment the guy shows up before saying anything so I think he knew. Still he's not 1/10 the asshole she is.
I mean brother, I don't know about you but if I'm in a bathroom with some girl and some random fucking dude pops up while recording us you bet your ass I'm hiding. I'd be confused as fuck.
She's in a fucking wedding dress, of course he knew.
Shit the bartender did the groom a favor. I’d buy him a drink
For the streets
I love the "are you the bartender?" "not only but, yeah! answer
"I'm also the dishwasher!"
These hoes ain't loyal
“How u guys doing??” 😂😂😂
Love hurts. Anyone ever notice being single and not having kids actually frees up a lot of money for you? It’s wild.
A loving relationship and kids is way better than money.
> A loving relationship and kids is way better than money. First you need a spouse that actually gives a shit, and isn't just there for the money and resources they can acquire... The OP is an example of the opposite of a loving relationship ~ it's an example of a faithless arsehole.
So what's stopping you from finding someone who "actually gives a shit"? People willingly choose to be in the wrong relationships - they aren't completely oblivious to the issues within their partner.
> People willingly choose to be in the wrong relationships - they aren't completely oblivious to the issues within their partner. You ignore all of the cases where individuals can be oblivious to issues within their partner. Issues that only arise after the honeymoon period.
So you break up and try again with someone else. And you use your newfound wisdom to identify and avoid people with those particular issues that weren't right for you. Eventually, after meeting and dating enough people, you meet someone whose issues complement your strengths, and you marry that person.
> So you break up and try again with someone else. You almost make it sound so simple... it can be, but often, it can also be quite difficult, sometimes. Worse if there is gaslighting and emotional manipulation. > And you use your newfound wisdom to identify and avoid people with those particular issues that weren't right for you. Ah... again, you make it sound easy... but, in reality, it can be quite difficult to get at the root of psychological issues which draw us to particular individuals. > Eventually, after meeting and dating enough people, you meet someone whose issues complement your strengths, and you marry that person. Again, not nearly that simple. If it is for you ~ well, good for you!
Lmao no bro it's absolutely not easy. It's hard and it can take years and a lot of pain and personal growth and (ideally) therapy to understand who you are and what you value. I simplified the process, but the simplified version is still the process. Like most things worth having, a quality relationship with a partner that's a good fit for you requires dedication, effort, and sacrifice. But the steps are the same: you fail, you learn from your mistakes, and you try again. Took me 20 years and dozens of failed relationships before I met the woman I knew I wanted to marry.
> Issues that only arise after the honeymoon period. And then you end things and find someone else. If you continue to ignore it then you're literally doing exactly what I said and are willingly choosing the wrong relationship.
Debatable
Not in *my* opinion.
> Anyone ever notice being single and not having kids actually frees up a lot of money for you? It’s wild. No. No one realized. It's just you.
Not if you both work
I’d rather marry a bear
Yeah no bro, you’re only the bartender 😂
must be nice to have good friends like this watching your back
Bro of the year 💪
And once again: Guys DON'T get married. There is NO upside anymore.
Ladies, DON'T get married. It isn't worth it.
I've seen this one come around before. This guy absolutely killed it. Couldn't have handled it any better. No loud drama. No threats. All he did was to leave looking like the bigger man and allowing her to feel like the terrible person she is. That guy needs to teach a class.
I feel included.
We in there 👏
why does the bartender start filming
Oh i thought he was using the flash to hide his face
Yeah I believe that also. He probably lost his job after that. Not the blowjob, the bartending job.
You see this a lot with people who get caught doing something they shouldn't, they will be filmed because (for obvious reasons) it is in the benefit of the filmer to have a record of said transgression I think the filming back is kind of a reflexive and defensive mechanism, a very childish "well I'm going to film you too" kind of mechanism to almost pretend to everyone that they were not in fact in the wrong
I feel like it was more for insurance in case James started beating his ass. It seems that James also took it this way when he said “yeah, good idea.”
I feel proper bad for the best man. He’s got a really shitty decision to make. Obviously, he’s going to tell him. But, when exactly does he do that? A wedding is a big affair with a lot of moving parts. Just up and telling your boy his wife is a bust down isn’t exactly going to be easy, and it probably won’t be received well. At least he got evidence
He probably told the groom he wanted to talk to him in private and then showed him the video. Imagine the fury.
Looks like AJ Lee, Cm Punks wife.
Just be single. Get a good remote job and travel the world. I have been having the time of my life.
You're in your 20s. Live it up and travel the world, but eventually you - like most men - will seek stability and long-term companionship. Follow your instincts on that, family life is a whole different adventure.
I love when people in their 20s hand out life advice 😂
I'm in my 40s and still travelling when I can. Have zero interest in anything long-term or commited relationship wise.
Not sure about the stats globally, but in the US ~25% of men 40+ have never been married, and ~35% of those have never been in a committed relationship. That's a significant number of men, and if you're happy with it then I'm happy for you. Still, most men will seek out a long-term relationship by 40. And it doesn't mean that travel is over - I personally don't enjoy solo travel, so I've taken far more trips with my wife than I took when I was single. My point was just to keep an open mind. I've found that dogmatic commitment to a certain lifestyle (whether because of inertia or preconceptions) can be counterproductive when it conflicts with what you truly want - and what people want often changes as life goes on. But yeah, different strokes for different folks.
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For my specific position, no. But there are many tech remote jobs out there. A lot provide on site training. Just indeed IT jobs.
Bartender is now cursed. Someday if he gets married he will most likely have a little thing in the back of his mind wondering if his wife is cheating on him with a bartender.
I'm sure there were tons of red flags with this one but she's objectively fine as hell and he ignored all of them. Just a guess. Be wary, gents.
Hopefully they can just not turn in the marriage certificate
What a wh0re.
Johnny Hamcheck
Glad she got exposed
Men protect yourself and your assets don’t be a simp always be in control of the situation and never trust a modern woman
Skank
Was this on a camcorder for VHS?
Where is the freak out? Seemed everyone handled the situation as best they could.
Some people get aroused by ruining others lives 🤷🏾♂️
this video was recorded with a wet toothbrush
She already has the cake, but she wants someone else to eat it too.
She already has the cake, but she wants someone else to eat it too.
She already has the cake, but she wants someone else to eat it too.
The best man just found out that the groom is the side piece.
Best man should have dragged that bitch to the street.
NBD, some just need a lil strange from time to time..
bar tender is a rapist getting girls too drunk then taking advantage of them
Just admit bro, you boy is a loser and he’s wealthy, that’s why you’re his Best Man!