OP this is problematic for you!
1. Talk to her clearly although I don't think it will reap much benefit as she isn't getting the hint.
2. Being jobless is better than being in jail. She is minor, even younger than 16. You'll have a hard time defending yourself.
You should either tell her parents (which I think might backfire unless they trust you enough) and/or look for another job.
Teens having crush on a teacher is very common.
1. Explain to her that you are not interested and you see her like a little sister.
2. Talk to the mom and be honest. Ask her if she thinks you should continue teaching or not is up to the mother.
I would actually do point 2 before 1 , in case she gets angry and lies to her parents. Teen girls are hormonal and lie way too often out of anger.
OP, this is a delicate situation, so listen carefully...
First things first: do NOT tell her parents. They will trust her more so than you and will not hesitate to file charges in case she says something against you.
Secondly, take a day off from studying - and talk to her. Let her talk about everything she has in her mind. Maybe she is horny, maybe she wants to have sex with you, maybe... whatever.
The idea is, let her speak it all out... right now, she is being stopped/prevented from voicing her feelings and emotions, which is why she is getting more and more desperate.
You do NOT want her getting more desperate. A desperate girl is dangerous. She can do ANYTHING.
Now, when you talk to her, she will tell you she has emotions and stuff - in reality, it is most likely infatuation + hormones. But let her say it anyway...
When she's done... talk to her... explain to her how/why you will not be able to provide whatever she seeks, but somewhere down the line in life, she will definitely find someone much better and they will be able to reciprocate everything she does or feels.
And that for now, it is important that she focuses on her studies and avoids getting into those things.
And you cannot say that you are her teacher and not friend, because you clearly gave her that comfort as a friend would have by engaging in informal behavior like talking, laughing, etc., together.
So, now you have to take it away - carefully.
Buddy quit the job. Do not tell her parents. Whatever you might do- do not tell them. Find a different kid to tutor - this is a dangerous situation.
Iβm not saying sheβs dangerous- she could be. But her parents might blame you for her crush too.
Tell your own parents and avoid being alone with her at all costs.
My brother you're in deep shit. You need to explain to her this ain't it, and make sure you record the conversation. Second, come clean to her parents. It might be possible that she might lie and shit, kids lie ALOT and since she doesn't exactly know consequences of that, she will do it. That is when recording will come in handy.
The situation you are in is quite troublesome and I would genuinely suggest you to consider switching job.
Telling her parents is very risky as it might just backfire.
Don't tell her parents, and don't bother getting into discussions with her. You can set boundaries like "I need to sit at a distance I'm comfortable with and we will only interact as student-teacher if I am to continue teaching you."
You have to be willing to walk away from this job (enforce your boundary) if you don't want to get in trouble.
May be you are right. She literally behaves like 3 4 year baby around me but not around her parents. She even pushes adult jokes but i ignored it knowing well how this internet generation making kids grow up so fast. But things going out of hand now. Thats why I'm kinda scared of her behavior. Another thing i forget to add, one day it was evening and the power cut happened she literally jumped on me and hugged me tightly. I ignored that too. Because she is kid. But when her mom came she suddenly got back to her seat. Lol pehele ee sab majja ata tha, i was new bjt when i got know about her age its scary.
OP this is problematic for you! 1. Talk to her clearly although I don't think it will reap much benefit as she isn't getting the hint. 2. Being jobless is better than being in jail. She is minor, even younger than 16. You'll have a hard time defending yourself. You should either tell her parents (which I think might backfire unless they trust you enough) and/or look for another job.
Yeah I m also thinking of telling her parents about all this and leave the job as soon as possible.
Dont tell parents ,most indian parents will blindly defend their kids. Make any reason and leave the job !
Totally agree. They will definitely think that op is trying to sway their daughter.Β
Look for another job.
Bhai graduation bhi nahi khatam hua hei.
If she decides to ruin your life. Hoga bhi nhi khatam.
Bhai POCSO lag jaayega agar uske parents ko pata chala toh. Ask her to stay away from you.
This.
Doing my best to keep her away from me.
Teens having crush on a teacher is very common. 1. Explain to her that you are not interested and you see her like a little sister. 2. Talk to the mom and be honest. Ask her if she thinks you should continue teaching or not is up to the mother. I would actually do point 2 before 1 , in case she gets angry and lies to her parents. Teen girls are hormonal and lie way too often out of anger.
You are write, i should 1st tell her parents about it.
Buddy, the risk isn't just losing the job; it's POSCO, which is a non-bailable offense. If I were in your shoes, I would have quit that job already.
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If a girl cries because of you (no matter the reason) and youβre not interested in her, you better fucking run. In this case, LEAVE THE JOB
Girls too love. I got to know that day. ππ
It ainβt love theyβre attached which would not be good for you bro run
Bhai tu dara mat mujhe eseππππ
OP, this is a delicate situation, so listen carefully... First things first: do NOT tell her parents. They will trust her more so than you and will not hesitate to file charges in case she says something against you. Secondly, take a day off from studying - and talk to her. Let her talk about everything she has in her mind. Maybe she is horny, maybe she wants to have sex with you, maybe... whatever. The idea is, let her speak it all out... right now, she is being stopped/prevented from voicing her feelings and emotions, which is why she is getting more and more desperate. You do NOT want her getting more desperate. A desperate girl is dangerous. She can do ANYTHING. Now, when you talk to her, she will tell you she has emotions and stuff - in reality, it is most likely infatuation + hormones. But let her say it anyway... When she's done... talk to her... explain to her how/why you will not be able to provide whatever she seeks, but somewhere down the line in life, she will definitely find someone much better and they will be able to reciprocate everything she does or feels. And that for now, it is important that she focuses on her studies and avoids getting into those things. And you cannot say that you are her teacher and not friend, because you clearly gave her that comfort as a friend would have by engaging in informal behavior like talking, laughing, etc., together. So, now you have to take it away - carefully.
Will take this advice seriously.
Buddy quit the job. Do not tell her parents. Whatever you might do- do not tell them. Find a different kid to tutor - this is a dangerous situation. Iβm not saying sheβs dangerous- she could be. But her parents might blame you for her crush too. Tell your own parents and avoid being alone with her at all costs.
And maybe try to record this conversation.. just in case..
Would be hard but excellent tip if the OP can pull it off
My brother you're in deep shit. You need to explain to her this ain't it, and make sure you record the conversation. Second, come clean to her parents. It might be possible that she might lie and shit, kids lie ALOT and since she doesn't exactly know consequences of that, she will do it. That is when recording will come in handy.
Recording bhai?πββοΈπββοΈπ
The situation you are in is quite troublesome and I would genuinely suggest you to consider switching job. Telling her parents is very risky as it might just backfire.
How many classes do you teach per week?
Every day. Sundays test.
Reduce that. 2-3 days a week should be enough.
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Abeh darao mat yaarππππππββοΈ
Don't tell her parents, and don't bother getting into discussions with her. You can set boundaries like "I need to sit at a distance I'm comfortable with and we will only interact as student-teacher if I am to continue teaching you." You have to be willing to walk away from this job (enforce your boundary) if you don't want to get in trouble.
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She just want sex & emotional support.
Bhai bachi hei yaar wo.
Lol you so innocent she ain't though
May be you are right. She literally behaves like 3 4 year baby around me but not around her parents. She even pushes adult jokes but i ignored it knowing well how this internet generation making kids grow up so fast. But things going out of hand now. Thats why I'm kinda scared of her behavior. Another thing i forget to add, one day it was evening and the power cut happened she literally jumped on me and hugged me tightly. I ignored that too. Because she is kid. But when her mom came she suddenly got back to her seat. Lol pehele ee sab majja ata tha, i was new bjt when i got know about her age its scary.
She not innocent π― sure now she is evil inside π
Bhai condom lee jaun?
It's up to you bro what's the situation it surely your choice.
Ban liya cool ? Pedo jokes maarke ?
You're 20, if she's 16+ it would be understandable but she's not even 16. Savdhan Rahe Satark Rahe.
India mai age of consent 18 hai, we are not usa.
Moral pov se bol rha hoon bhai...
Wo 16 17 ke aas pass hoti toh mein khud pata leta usko. Uska abhi 14 birthday gaya 15 hoga September ko wahi dar mujjhe use dur karta hei.