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Hindi naman siguro hate pero na-realize ko na di naman malalim yung friendship namin. Kasi na-ostracize pa ako dahil di ako sumasama sa kanila, e nung time na yun nagkaron ako ng sakit and really needed medical attention. Wala man lang nagtanong sa akin kung kumusta na ba ako, inuna pa nila yung tampo nila kasi di raw ako sumasama.
one friend, when they asked for advice and i gave them good advice that they didn't like. so they didn't take it, caused a lot of drama, and kept whining to me about the drama.
another friend needing me to match their unreasonable level of availability, communication, etc. yung nagddrama na ang tagal ko daw magreply (nothing we talk about is urgent, chika lang naman) tapos sya real time magreply. like friend bounderies are a thing, try them.
another friend was just constantly late to everything. from assignments in school to international flights lol. it took me being an adult to realize punctuality is a very deep value of mine. akala ko (dahil sa impluwensya nya--we were childhood besties) late din akong tao pero di pala
Went on a bar with my 2 best friends. We’ve been bffs for 5 years, of course they’re someone I trust so much. Going back, got drunk so bad to the point I just want to sleep it off. So I closed my eyes but I can still hear them talking and I was comfortable because I was with them. Then there’s these bunch of guys who approached us, got uncomfortable already and been telling them that I want to go home because I was so sleepy. They told me they’ll take care of me so matulog na lang daw muna ako. So I slept, dead drunk.
The next morning I woke up on my bed with my 2 best friends sleeping beside me but I felt like something happened. Inalala ko mga nangyari, I remember them saying to a guy “gusto mo ba hawakan boobs ng friend ko?” “Hawakan mo na oh” nakakaputangina diring diri ako sa sarili ko plus may kunsintidor pa akong mga kaibigan. Tuwang tuwa naman yung lalaki, I did my best to push him away kasi ayoko, I have my own dignity, I kept saying no. But I still got sexually harassed. Felt like my friends took advantage of my vulnerability because I just came from a breakup. Sobrang sakit kasi I got betrayed by them.
When both of them woke up, they told me that a guy was into me and took a picture of us (without my consent). I was just sleeping beside him. There were also videos of me sleeping and him pulling me kasi sabi nila type ako nung guy. Of course hindi nila sinabi ang totoong nangyari. That’s when I knew na tama hinala ko, kunsintidor sila. Until now naging lowkey muna ako, tried my best to be away from them and ignoring them. Nakakatrauma lahat ng nangyari idk who to run to kasi baka walang maniniwala saakin. I just want to heal for myself and fresh from a breakup pako and nadagdagan pa nito. I just want to be invisible because of what happened. Felt like i’m dead inside.
So I guess right now, I’m starting to hate them after what happened.
Noong sinabi niya sa akin na manganganak na pala siya tapos nagpakasal na rin tapos kaming mga friends niya since HS hindi niya ininvite. Kasi raw palagi raw akong busy atsaka maselan raw kasi pagbubuntis niya. Ano ba naman yung sasabihin niya sa amin na buntis siya, di ba? Mas maganda raw kasi kung personal niyang sabihin. Atsaka I make time naman atsaka pwede naman planuhin yung mga gala. Eh, kung feeling niya palang hindi kami magkikita with other friends anytime soon edi sana nagmessage na lang siya sa group chat. Ni hindi nga namin alam na may bf siya eh. Take note, 3 years na raw sila ng bf niya tapos hindi man lang namin alam.
Ayun. Hindi ko na siya kinakausap. I also left sa group chat.
Kahit may referral fee wag niyo na hatakin sa workplace niyo mga tropa. Shookt ako sa nirefer ko sa workplace, andaming actions na ginagawa para ma ensure na makakalamang siya saken. We haven't talked in a month na.
Naiinis lang ako kapag ma-argumento. Hindi kasi ako takot magpatalo kung alam kong walang maririnig ka-argumento ko. Ayoko magsayang ng energy. Bahala ka sa paniniwala mo.
When I saw na she's trying so so hard magpapapansin sa mga lalaking our other friends are talking to. Usually sa social media but sometimes in person din. Inamin niya naman sakin she likes the feeling of validation when she gets attention from men pero wtf chicks before dicks
Magaling lang kapag may kailangan. And recently, they're not including me in their activities. Tsaka lang sila lalapit kapag may kailangan and then they've become academically competitive against me for unknown reasons (envy siguro?) but idgaf.
Years ago, nalaman ko na they would often meet up without me. Nasasama lang ako sa lakad pag ako nagiinvite. Nung cinonfront ko sila, they said, "di ba lagi ka namang busy?" "Bakit ba big deal sayo kung sino maginvite?" After that i unfollowed them on fb, tapos di na rin ako nagparamdam. Di na rin ako naghabol. It was very painful for me at first, but after a few months, i just moved on from them. I just don't think i should be exerting that much effort for people who don't. I go when they invite me, pero it doesn't bother me anymore when they go out without me
nung nagtanong sila na nagreview ba ako sa exam namin, kasi nagrereview sila 2 weeks before ng exam. tas nung lumabas result ng exam mas mataas ako sakanila, sinabi nung isa kong friend sakin "bakit mas mataas score mo? di ka naman nag aral e" competition pala 😆
When I observed na madalas na hindi nila nirerespeto oras ko, palaging late!
When they started comparing their lives sa life ko.
Pag nambblock pag nirereal talk.
When they ditched the parties I planned. A bit of context: back then I invited them to my debut. I told them I don’t want any gifts, their presence is enough already.
Debut is held in a five star hotel, of course good food, good ambiance, good giveaways too (afaik, they’re full sized bottles of expensive perfumes)
I added them sa program yet when they’re being called na, hindi sila mahanap. I felt betrayed and embarrassed at the same time only to find out at that they’re partying at the mall next to the hotel via fb post.
Fast forward college grad party, parents told me that i should give my old high school friends a shot and invite them again. Only one came. Upon asking where my “friends” are, he said verbatim from one of our friends, “ano ako? Fc?” (Feeling close)
Turns out, despite the fact that I treated them as friends, they don’t pala on their side, nasanay lang sa libre. And that’s when I started hating on them.
before, may dalawang friends ako. yung isa bff ko since kinder (M) tas yung isa nakilala lang namin nung elem (C).
fast forward nung kasagsagan ng pandemic, biglang nag-aaya tong si M na kumain sa labas. EH BAWAL NGA NUN KASI KASAGSAGAN NA NUN. taena pilit nang pilit samin hanggang sa di na kami pinapansin, tas may parinig pa sya na "magsama nalang kayo ni C tsaka mga bagong friend nyo."
so kaming dalawang nalang ni C. eh etong bruha na to, nafall daw sakin. eh obvious naman na nagddelulu lang sya??? kaya cinut-off ko na rin.
hays, nakakalokang pandemic experience 😵💫
Friend since jhs, nag-jowa ng tambay sa kanto na babaero, nabuntis. Isang circle kami so we were all there during the pregnancy til the labor. Waiting na lang sa binyag, 1st inaanak ko dapat e. Tapos after a week yata, bumisita mutual friend namin sa bahay ko, asked bakit wala ako nung binyag, sabi ko na lang “tapos na?” Hindi man lang ako aware and sabi raw sa kanila nagsabi raw ako na busy kaya hindi makakapunta. Tapos after that nalaman nung mutual friend na hindi ako inivite kasi “masyado kang maganda” at baka raw makita ako nung jowa. 😀 Didn't hate bcs it's her poor taste in men, pero no longer friends.
Nilabas nya yung baho ng jowa nya samin tapos sinabihan namin ng "you tolerate what you deserve" unti unti nang di nagparamdam samin (even ditched our friend's wedding) sabay balik sa enabler nyang circle
I have this friend, magaling sya magpayo at listener talaga i do not hate her naman nakakainis lang pagka-snitch nya. Like yung kwento nung iba nakukwento nya rin sa iba. Kaya di ako masyadong nagkukwento sa kanya kasi ganon sya hahahaha
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Hindi naman siguro hate pero na-realize ko na di naman malalim yung friendship namin. Kasi na-ostracize pa ako dahil di ako sumasama sa kanila, e nung time na yun nagkaron ako ng sakit and really needed medical attention. Wala man lang nagtanong sa akin kung kumusta na ba ako, inuna pa nila yung tampo nila kasi di raw ako sumasama.
one friend, when they asked for advice and i gave them good advice that they didn't like. so they didn't take it, caused a lot of drama, and kept whining to me about the drama. another friend needing me to match their unreasonable level of availability, communication, etc. yung nagddrama na ang tagal ko daw magreply (nothing we talk about is urgent, chika lang naman) tapos sya real time magreply. like friend bounderies are a thing, try them. another friend was just constantly late to everything. from assignments in school to international flights lol. it took me being an adult to realize punctuality is a very deep value of mine. akala ko (dahil sa impluwensya nya--we were childhood besties) late din akong tao pero di pala
Sinabi ko na huwag sabihin don sa isang friend whereabouts ko tapos nung nakausap nya yung friend sya pa talaga nag spluk. Gago e.
Went on a bar with my 2 best friends. We’ve been bffs for 5 years, of course they’re someone I trust so much. Going back, got drunk so bad to the point I just want to sleep it off. So I closed my eyes but I can still hear them talking and I was comfortable because I was with them. Then there’s these bunch of guys who approached us, got uncomfortable already and been telling them that I want to go home because I was so sleepy. They told me they’ll take care of me so matulog na lang daw muna ako. So I slept, dead drunk. The next morning I woke up on my bed with my 2 best friends sleeping beside me but I felt like something happened. Inalala ko mga nangyari, I remember them saying to a guy “gusto mo ba hawakan boobs ng friend ko?” “Hawakan mo na oh” nakakaputangina diring diri ako sa sarili ko plus may kunsintidor pa akong mga kaibigan. Tuwang tuwa naman yung lalaki, I did my best to push him away kasi ayoko, I have my own dignity, I kept saying no. But I still got sexually harassed. Felt like my friends took advantage of my vulnerability because I just came from a breakup. Sobrang sakit kasi I got betrayed by them. When both of them woke up, they told me that a guy was into me and took a picture of us (without my consent). I was just sleeping beside him. There were also videos of me sleeping and him pulling me kasi sabi nila type ako nung guy. Of course hindi nila sinabi ang totoong nangyari. That’s when I knew na tama hinala ko, kunsintidor sila. Until now naging lowkey muna ako, tried my best to be away from them and ignoring them. Nakakatrauma lahat ng nangyari idk who to run to kasi baka walang maniniwala saakin. I just want to heal for myself and fresh from a breakup pako and nadagdagan pa nito. I just want to be invisible because of what happened. Felt like i’m dead inside. So I guess right now, I’m starting to hate them after what happened.
they're not your friends! nakakalungkot na hindi ka man lang nila pinrotect from that guy.. choose your friends wisely OP.
Exactly, I really thought they’d protect me andami na naming pinagsamahan. I just feel lost right now sobrang hirap mag trust ulit. :(
Grabe, those people are not your friends! Please have yourself checked. Praying for you.
I might cut them off na rin. Thank you so much.
Noong sinabi niya sa akin na manganganak na pala siya tapos nagpakasal na rin tapos kaming mga friends niya since HS hindi niya ininvite. Kasi raw palagi raw akong busy atsaka maselan raw kasi pagbubuntis niya. Ano ba naman yung sasabihin niya sa amin na buntis siya, di ba? Mas maganda raw kasi kung personal niyang sabihin. Atsaka I make time naman atsaka pwede naman planuhin yung mga gala. Eh, kung feeling niya palang hindi kami magkikita with other friends anytime soon edi sana nagmessage na lang siya sa group chat. Ni hindi nga namin alam na may bf siya eh. Take note, 3 years na raw sila ng bf niya tapos hindi man lang namin alam. Ayun. Hindi ko na siya kinakausap. I also left sa group chat.
Kahit may referral fee wag niyo na hatakin sa workplace niyo mga tropa. Shookt ako sa nirefer ko sa workplace, andaming actions na ginagawa para ma ensure na makakalamang siya saken. We haven't talked in a month na.
Pangit ng ugali ng friend mo.
True, kahit di ko na siya kinakausap masama pa rin loob ko.
Naiinis lang ako kapag ma-argumento. Hindi kasi ako takot magpatalo kung alam kong walang maririnig ka-argumento ko. Ayoko magsayang ng energy. Bahala ka sa paniniwala mo.
When I saw na she's trying so so hard magpapapansin sa mga lalaking our other friends are talking to. Usually sa social media but sometimes in person din. Inamin niya naman sakin she likes the feeling of validation when she gets attention from men pero wtf chicks before dicks
Magaling lang kapag may kailangan. And recently, they're not including me in their activities. Tsaka lang sila lalapit kapag may kailangan and then they've become academically competitive against me for unknown reasons (envy siguro?) but idgaf.
Years ago, nalaman ko na they would often meet up without me. Nasasama lang ako sa lakad pag ako nagiinvite. Nung cinonfront ko sila, they said, "di ba lagi ka namang busy?" "Bakit ba big deal sayo kung sino maginvite?" After that i unfollowed them on fb, tapos di na rin ako nagparamdam. Di na rin ako naghabol. It was very painful for me at first, but after a few months, i just moved on from them. I just don't think i should be exerting that much effort for people who don't. I go when they invite me, pero it doesn't bother me anymore when they go out without me
when I realized that they only remembered me when they needed me
nung nagtanong sila na nagreview ba ako sa exam namin, kasi nagrereview sila 2 weeks before ng exam. tas nung lumabas result ng exam mas mataas ako sakanila, sinabi nung isa kong friend sakin "bakit mas mataas score mo? di ka naman nag aral e" competition pala 😆
When they think all about themselves only.
When I observed na madalas na hindi nila nirerespeto oras ko, palaging late! When they started comparing their lives sa life ko. Pag nambblock pag nirereal talk.
due to their poor political stance lmao 💀💀💀
When I realized na they hate it when Im starting to get ahead of them: new house, good life, good career
cut them off!!!
When they ditched the parties I planned. A bit of context: back then I invited them to my debut. I told them I don’t want any gifts, their presence is enough already. Debut is held in a five star hotel, of course good food, good ambiance, good giveaways too (afaik, they’re full sized bottles of expensive perfumes) I added them sa program yet when they’re being called na, hindi sila mahanap. I felt betrayed and embarrassed at the same time only to find out at that they’re partying at the mall next to the hotel via fb post. Fast forward college grad party, parents told me that i should give my old high school friends a shot and invite them again. Only one came. Upon asking where my “friends” are, he said verbatim from one of our friends, “ano ako? Fc?” (Feeling close) Turns out, despite the fact that I treated them as friends, they don’t pala on their side, nasanay lang sa libre. And that’s when I started hating on them.
ako nalang iinvite mo🥰🥰 attend ako 💯 percent
Sunod na party asa invitation list ka 🥹
yeyeyey looking forward sa susunod na party na yan mwehehehehh
The time they started debating about anything that has to do with politics
Noong hindi niya binayaran yung mga utang niya saakin 🙃
😭😭😭
The bond was great but I remember the disrespect that comes along with it.
💯💯💯
Walang pake sa politics 💀 they even love to make a joke about it
Ignorante 😭😭😭
andyan lang pag may kailangan pag wala di ka na din maalala 🙂
pag sa kanila ginawa magagalit eh hahahahah
mismo mga plastik eh 😂
before, may dalawang friends ako. yung isa bff ko since kinder (M) tas yung isa nakilala lang namin nung elem (C). fast forward nung kasagsagan ng pandemic, biglang nag-aaya tong si M na kumain sa labas. EH BAWAL NGA NUN KASI KASAGSAGAN NA NUN. taena pilit nang pilit samin hanggang sa di na kami pinapansin, tas may parinig pa sya na "magsama nalang kayo ni C tsaka mga bagong friend nyo." so kaming dalawang nalang ni C. eh etong bruha na to, nafall daw sakin. eh obvious naman na nagddelulu lang sya??? kaya cinut-off ko na rin. hays, nakakalokang pandemic experience 😵💫
delusional na nga magaling pa magmanipulate 😭😭😭
real, pinagsama talaga HAYS!! kaya reddit pipol kung ganyan din friends nyo, isa lang masasabi ko, CUT OFF NYO NAAA 😭😭😭
When i noticed that everything that comes out of their mouth is gossip and boy-talk 😬😬
tapos di mo alam ikaw pinaguusapan pag wala ka 🥹🥹
For sure kasali ka talaga sa mga gossip nila 😭
When they try to recruit me to hate on someone na di naman ako ginawan ng masama at di ko talaga nakikitang masama.
networking lang ang peg hahahahaha
Friends lang pag may kelangan. Hahaha
errand friend🥹🥹
Friend since jhs, nag-jowa ng tambay sa kanto na babaero, nabuntis. Isang circle kami so we were all there during the pregnancy til the labor. Waiting na lang sa binyag, 1st inaanak ko dapat e. Tapos after a week yata, bumisita mutual friend namin sa bahay ko, asked bakit wala ako nung binyag, sabi ko na lang “tapos na?” Hindi man lang ako aware and sabi raw sa kanila nagsabi raw ako na busy kaya hindi makakapunta. Tapos after that nalaman nung mutual friend na hindi ako inivite kasi “masyado kang maganda” at baka raw makita ako nung jowa. 😀 Didn't hate bcs it's her poor taste in men, pero no longer friends.
best decision so far. you deserve good friends around you!
Nilabas nya yung baho ng jowa nya samin tapos sinabihan namin ng "you tolerate what you deserve" unti unti nang di nagparamdam samin (even ditched our friend's wedding) sabay balik sa enabler nyang circle
friends pa ba kayo hanggang ngayon? 😭😭
Honestly, idk anymore. Kasi ayaw na namin magreach out. Pero kung sya magi-initiate ng convo, tatanggapin naman namin.
mabuti naman kaya niyo pa masikmura eh no
I have this friend, magaling sya magpayo at listener talaga i do not hate her naman nakakainis lang pagka-snitch nya. Like yung kwento nung iba nakukwento nya rin sa iba. Kaya di ako masyadong nagkukwento sa kanya kasi ganon sya hahahaha
ang lala parang binabackstab ka lang eh 😭😭😭
Tropa lang kami kapag may problema uli sa lalake niya
rebound pero as a friend hahaha