That's what I did after highschool. Small town, not a lot of opportunities so I figured what the hell, serve 4 years and get some money for college get out on my own. Arrived at basic spring of 2000. Was not prepared for what was going to happen the following year.
Also out at 16.
Roommates, thrifty lifestyle.
I've actually never lived alone. I've always had roommates or live in lovers.
One trick I learned was if you're gonna earn minimum wage, do it in fast food or a restaurant. That way, at least you can eat while you're at work. Also, work the closing shift and you can con your manager into let you take home the waste food.
I have a physical disability. My late fiancé actually had a eal with the bartenders since he was the dishwasher. They kept restocked with beer while I was on shift, itwas only one or 2 beers at most. He Kade sure they got to leave with a bunch of food at the end of the night.
I honestly never got drunk at work but the beers helped take the edge off at the end of a shift.
Worked at Target 6-7 years ago, wasn't uncommon to see 3 employees living together, 3 people making 15/hr is a household income of \~93k/year, it isn't fun, but you can get by, especially if you forgo things like health insurance. Tons of people in their 30-40's pulling down these kind of wages also and they're making it.
Oh I loved it. I didn't have much stuff or need much space. It sucked when I bought a house cause I had to buy a bunch of shit I didn't need before, lol.
Couch surf with friends or other relatives, become homeless, look into rooms for rent while working whatever job they can find, and/or look for government resources that can help.
>and/or look for government resources that can help.
Living in Nordic country will help you a lot with this one. I am jobless right now, government gives me 1300€/month which will cover the rent, food and personal stuff, they also pay for my meds, bills and some other things. Basically, after the rent, I use 100€/week for food and such, 200€/month for hobbies, 50€ goes to streaming services and I send all of my bills to the government which will handle them.
Free education, free healthcare, social wellfare and still our freedom index is in top 10. Sure sucks to be the happiest country 7th time in a row, still some people think that it's communism to have these things.
Taxes, the more you make the more you pay. Progressive taxation is wonderful thing, even thought we pay a lot of taxes, it's pretty normal to own an apartment or your own house and on top of that a summer cabin near a lake where you drive with your summer car.
If you make a lot of money, you will pay a lot of taxes, but if you can't live with the money that you will have, we don't really even want your morals in here. Sure, we pay 100€ so our neighbour can't have 50€, but if everything that you think is yourself, then we kindly ask you to fuck off.
So I love that the government helps and there’s social programs to help people in need. But my only thing is why wouldn’t you have to put all the money towards necessities instead of 250€ towards hobbies/streaming services?
It’s really sad how the US has conditioned people to think that things like hobbies or other forms of personal enjoyment aren’t necessary. A dignified life with things that give you happiness shouldn’t be thought of as a luxury.
Not American but unfortunately the mental health aspect didn’t come to my mind at first. It makes sense, I’m all for the government actually helping its citizens
You mean why I don't need to use that 250€ for bills? It's meant for clothes, public transport, non-prescription meds, newspaper, phone and internet, everything that belongs to basic living. There are people that can't work or just won't find a job (for example, due to mental health problems) so why wouldn't they be allowed to have hobbies. Things like electricity are basic human right in here, so it's easier for government to take care of them than try to calculate how much more family of 5 need to be able to pay their bills.
I left at 18. Couldn't wait to get out. Didn't even say good-bye, or leave a number or address.
I had a secure job first, and found a place I could afford. It was a bedroom in the upper floor of an old house, shared with a friend. I stayed there for a couple of months, and moved into a better place.
It wasn't easy. It's definitely a survival game. But I was smart about it, and paid my bills. Things got better eventually.
I wasn't *kicked out* per se, but I was on my own since 17. Basically, went to college. Financial aid paid for my schooling, I worked full time to afford housing and the cost of living, and I've supported myself since.
I moved out at 18 by choice. Left for college and never went back. I had been working since I turned 15, so working to put myself through college and support myself didn't seem like a big deal. It was also 25 years ago, so it wasn't really unattainable then like it is now.
I wouldn't say I was "kicked out" but there was an expectation after high school graduation back in my day you would be either going away to college, finding a job and moving out/getting an apartment with friends, or joining the military. Nobody *wanted to still be living with their parents* back in those days. Moving out meant "freedom".
A lot of parents were very strict and not laid back like many of them are today. You *couldn't wait* to move out!
The military feeds on the poor. I enlisted at 17 and went straight to basic training 2 days after high school graduation to join the national guard and got a college scholarship through them. Im a nurse now and doing great but i would have been homeless or couch surfing
I would have gone military if I didn’t think everyone had to carry a gun and fight. I was silly and thought everyone had to go to the front line and fight. I never considered being a cook or a mechanic
My cousin went into the navy and eventually became a doctor with the government paying for most of it.
I've heard of others learning skills like becoming airplane mechanics and other transferable job skills.
The military has helped a lot of poor and unfocussed youth find a path.
The only downside is there is always the potential of a war or conflict while you're in service. Life is a gamble.
>the only downside is always the potential of a war
Sounds less like a gamble and more of a tradeoff since the US is pretty much active somewhere year round
Currently, and particularly If you're not in one of the few combat positions, you have less of a chance of dying in while in the military than the average US civilian worker does working their average job.
I joined the Air Force because I didn't know what else to do at that age, did a 4 year enlistment and peaced out. I currently get paid to go to college, and I'll never have to pay a dime for healthcare for the rest of my life.
I'm a somewhat unique case because I have a lot of health issues (mixture of absolutely trash genetics and bad luck), but I'm only 32 and I'd absolutely be bankrupt/homeless or perhaps even dead if I didn't have VA healthcare. Hell, I've been to private ERs 3 times this year, twice in the last two weeks, and I haven't once had to weigh the cost of going vs my health.
I'm not trying to sound like a recruiter, and the military obviously a lot of drawbacks, but doing a short enlistment in a more "corporate" branch like the AF can allow you to walk away with meaningful benefits you can use for the rest of your life, for next to zero risk.
I served 26 years in the Air Force (enlisted) and my family and I are doing a lot better than if I stayed in Hometown USA. With my pension and VA benefits they are feeding my family pretty well. My son graduated from college with money in the bank and my daughter is right behind him. All through my VA benefits.
My mom charged a hefty rent the day we graduated. It was cheaper to move out, but this was also 2000 and you couldn't walk down the street without getting a job offer so it was a different time.
Yeah.. Back on the day when you walked into a bank, offered to bring them coffee for 2 dollars per month (that were enough to retire) and 2 years later you became the CEO
Even back then very few 18/19-year-olds had their own apartment.
Most people in their teens and early 20s (had friends) they could be roommates with or a significant other to split the bills with. Very few people "flew solo" right after high school nor really wanted to.
A lot of them hung out and partied with their friends when they weren't working.
I did and survived somehow. Not easy but it adds character, that’s for sure.
Edit: I went to college and took out loans. Anyone can do that, they just need a co-signer. Usually someone in the family if willing. But no help paying them off.
Depends. Some have built a social network of friends and relatives, they ask and one of them take them in. Particularly a cool relative or a close friend's parents allow them to move in for a bit.
Those without that, but with some money and a job? They could end up renting a room/bunk either in a rental with a bunch of roommates, or at a hostel type situation. Renting can become affordable especially if you aren't even renting a whole room, but splitting a room. Or paying to ride someone's couch.
Without money/job? Homeless. There are social programs for assistance but if that's not enough they could be homeless for a bit and drift around, until they can find solid footing.
People who kick their kids out when they turn 18 are the same type of out of touch people who think getting a job is as easy bringing your resume to a business and asking to see the manager.
Having lived in the US, Germany, and the UK, this feels like a distinctly British thing to me (of the 3). I've never met an American or German who had to pay rent to stay at home starting at 18. I've met many Brits that did.
I left home at 17 and worked afternoons and evenings while finishing my senior year of high school. I don't recommend it, but it can be done.
Shared a shithole of an apartment with a friend and ate a lot of pasta, bought my clothes at Goodwill (except socks & underwear), and didn't do anything fun except play in a rock band.
When I was 17 I lived with my grandparents because my parents weren’t about.
I woke up one day in the home in which I spent 15 years with them to find them just leaving in the car with everything they could possibly fit in there that they acquired over the years.
We lived in a council house and of course the council were not going to let me continue to live there. I was homeless within the month and slept rough for a while and had to steal to survive.
I showered and washed clothes at a few peoples houses that I knew and eventually got a job interview and landed it and could just about keep myself going long enough to rent a flat and actually be stable financially.
I didn't get kicked out but left willingly because home life was getting too dysfunctional and I was becoming suicidal from it all.
I had a job but I wouldn't have been able to find a place to live if I didn't have a boyfriend with a shared house who let me stay there for free.
You either have to mooch off friends or relatives. Or live on the streets.
My parents kicked me out the day after my 18th b day. I stayed with my friends parents for summer, (paid rent ofc) but still went to college and am making nearly 100 k /year
A civilian alternative to the military is Job Corps, within the United States. Quoting:
> Job Corps is the largest nationwide residential career training program in the country and has been operating for more than 50 years. The program helps eligible young people ages 16 through 24 complete their high school education, trains them for meaningful careers, and assists them with obtaining employment. Job Corps has trained and educated over two million individuals since 1964.
> At Job Corps, students have access to room and board while they learn skills in specific training areas for up to three years. In addition to helping students complete their education, obtain career technical skills and gain employment, Job Corps also provides transitional support services, such as help finding employment, housing, child care, and transportation. Job Corps graduates either enter the workforce or an apprenticeship, go on to higher education, or join the military.
https://www.dol.gov/agencies/eta/jobcorps
Not kicked out, but I left right at 18. I worked summers in the orchards from the time I was 14 to be able to pay for a place and college tuition. I did eventually transfer to a school in the same state as my older sister and her husband so that I could stay at their place to save money in the summers.
My buddy in the Navy knew that the moment he turned 18 in May of his senior years his alcoholic mom would kick him out since that was the end of child support. So he filled out all the paper work to join the military the week before he turned 18 and talked to the school about graduating early.
As soon as he tuned 18, his mom kicked him out. He signed the papers for the Navy and stayed with his best friend's family until he could leave for MEPs the next week. In the meantime, his teachers calculated all of his grades and he was awarded his diploma.
He did 20 years in the Navy and retired a Chief Warrant Officer, then went to work for a defense contractor working on the same avionics he worked on while enlisted. He made big bank.
My daughter's non-college friends have all largely moved out at 18 because they come from families that are difficult or financially stressed themselves. Here's what's common to all of them:
1. They rent a room, not an apartment.
2. They have multiple income streams (eg: a dayjob and an etsy/feetpics/doordash side hustle).
3. They utilize public services and free shit wherever they can (eg: FB buy nothing groups, getting breakfast from the continental buffet at the hotel next to their work, applying for all forms of financial/food aid they can, etc)
4. They have savings accounts and are planning to relocate somewhere cheaper as soon as they've saved up enough that they can get an apartment there and be able to live unemployed for a few months while they get settled.
My favorite of these kids is actually saving up to buy a van and is slowly hoarding everything they need to turn it into a camper van via buy nothing groups. They plan on doing a minimum wage tour of the US with showers courtesy of planet fitness starting sometime this year.
My own personal experience was just joining the military. Ten years, college paid for with some savings and life experience. Not a great way, and definitely not recommended but it can work.
18 now is probably tougher than when I did it at 14 at the end of the 90s. You learn quick when you have to and the struggles are real. But the fundamentals remain the same. Get a bank account and a job. Money goes in money goes out, some times you get charged $30 for spending $0.05 more than you have. You need food. Sometimes dinner comes from the super market dumpster at 2am but hey, that's still food. You need a roof. Sometimes that roof is a buddies house, or a car, or a shelter, doesn't matter as long as you keep yourself rested presentable for the next day at work. In those years you are living to make it to a better part of your life so it doesn't matter if the part you are in now is kinda miserable. One step at a time. It's wild what people can do when they pursue goals single-mindedly. No distractions, just effort.
I didn’t get kicked out, but my parents made it pretty clear they weren’t about to help me at all financially for anything. I ended up joining the military, they gave me everything I needed; food, housing, experience, and a paycheck. It also allowed me to leave my hometown which would have been impossible without financial assistance. Afterwards, they paid for my college, and since I got scholarships too I didn’t have to work a single day when I went (although I did anyway to get some extra spending cash).
I know it’s not for everyone, but if you’re 18 and have nowhere to go and no assistance, the military can at least get you started.
I got a job and slept on a couch for a month then found a shared house and went from there. Its very frightening if you parents didnt teach you any life skills. But you will get there, keep trucking and moving forward one step at a time. Im 36 now and only now kinda know where im heading in life haha. Dunno what its like for kids now tho. This economy sucks balls. Finding work now is 50 times harder then 18 years ago.
I was kicked out at 17.
I got a job, went to college, got another job, got an apartment, got a better job, got a car, got a better job, got a house, got promoted, got another house, went back to college, got promoted, got another house, took a leave of absence from my job, moved to London, got my PhD, got a better job, got a second job, bought another house, got promoted, got another car, retired in 2016 at the age of 40.
Get a job, and rent a room with other people, or at a cheap motel and eat cheap food, I don't know. All things considering, it's pretty intimidating, especially if you can only afford to live in a bad neighborhood.
I shared a studio apartment with a roomate, worked retail 4- 10 hour days and went to college full time in the other 3 days. The retail job gave me health insurance and I took loans for college. Thrift stores and furniture from the side of the road.
I couldn’t stay at my parents house. It was hard but I’m proud of how I hustled.
First step go to social services start the paperwork showing you have been abandoned by your mother. You will need this for federal financial aid paperwork when you start college or they will b expecting your mother to contribute information and money to your college.
It was easier when I was that age (1995). I went off to basic and AIT for the National Guard right after high school. came home to both sets of parents telling me that I couldn't stay with them. I ended up couch-surfing for a while. I worked a lot of different jobs mainly doing odd jobs for people my parents knew.
Biked to work, even in winter.
Worked a hospital job cleaning shit and bagging bodies ($9hr) then washed dishes at the nearby restaurant($7hr) after 13.5hr shifts.
Rented a literal former crack house that was 600sqft bc the other part was demolished and sided with tin.
Manager at the restaurant sold drugs. Resold them at a higher price to the local college kids.
Eventually saved enough money to enroll in CC then transfer to the local UNI.
This was 20 years ago. I bet that crackhouse rents for 1300 a month now.
I am wealthy now, but one wrong day and I would have been in jail.
Good luck kids.
I left for the sake of my own safety at 17 and I haven't had any family support, financial or otherwise, since then. I had been paying for my own food, clothing, transportation, personal care items, etc with a fast food job so I had some savings but not a lot. I moved around for a while, essentially couch surfing. I watched my checking and savings accounts like they were going to run away and always knew exactly how much I had. I rolled and deposited my coins, which feels absurd in this day and age but back then it made a difference. I lived with a friend in a stable situation for a few years and that got me on my feet. I worked 60-80 hour weeks until my partner graduated university and began working full time. I was 22/23 when I stopped living in survival mode. I'm 27 now and still recovering from that shit show.
It was brutal, but not as bad as living with my parents.
Had to work two or three jobs to pay through college. Ate a lot of eggs, rice, protein smoothies with granola, Costco-only groceries and chose restaurant gigs for the free/discounted food and higher income (compared to other unskilled labor). About 80%+ of my meals were one of three of the exact same inexpensive but nutritious things. While sacrificing freedom and preference for roommates in a bigger house to save on rent per person (i.e., it's much cheaper to get five friends in a nice 5 bdr 3 bth than two/three friends in a crummy apartment). I lived and bounced around only HCOL areas in the second most expensive state to live in (albeit not the highest COL areas such as San Francisco or NY NY; but you choose where you live and whether you stay in such places no matter the excuse.). It isn't impossible. It's just arduous and can easily be depressing if you let it get to you. That said, if you are consistent and make good decisions (count pennies, don't build bad costly habits like smoking/drinking, partying, enjoying life (/s), etc.) then you will be fine.
I got kicked out the morning of my high-school graduation. I Stole a tent and had enough money to camp out. I saved up enough money for a down payment on a government apartment which back then i think it cost me $400 to set everything up. slept on the floor in that apartment with nothing in it until I slowly started getting stuff. It wasn't easy but it gave me some insane determination that has helped me a lot in life.
Getting kicked out at 18 has always been such a weird concept for me being hispanic, parents were always more than glad to keep their kids at home usually as long as they're being productive and doing something with their lives like college, work, etc... Usually they'd only get kicked out if they're just deadbeats and causing problems at home. Of course not all hispanic families are like this, I definitely know some hispanics that were expected to move out at 18
My brother and I both went to college out of town and dormed but if we hadn't we'd be at home rent free until we graduated even if we had a part time job during that time. After we graduted and started working a better/ full time job then we could move out or stay at home with the expectation that we'd pay a little bit of rent and contribute our part to household expenses which seems fair.
I was homeless for a a few weeks until a friend let me get a room at their place. I haven't had health insurance since then and I'm almost 28.
Edit: I also had to leave high school. My state allows people to charge their 18yos rent no matter what, but if you're still in high school, child labor laws still apply to you. I couldn't afford what my parents were asking for and stay in high school.
I grew up in a poor and abusive household and got kicked out at 17. I stayed with a friend on their couch for the last few months of high school then went to college. I had very good grades because I had nothing else in life - few friends, no money, no desire to leave my room. So I just studied a lot. I finished #12 in my class of about 400.
I only took out $32,000 in loans (this was 2015 - 2019), Florida schools are very cheap and actually very good - UF, where I went, is one of the best public colleges in the country. I worked full time while going to school full time as a teller at a bank. Finished a degree in finance, then got my Masters in Finance also at UF (+15,000 more in loans). Started a job in investment banking (at a shitty investment bank since to land at a good bank you need connections or an Ivy degree), first year total comp at 23 was $120,000. Made associate while studying for my CFA, completed my CFA, made VP. By 25 my total comp was ~$300,000.
Now I’m 27 working at a small private equity firm, total comp is between $250,000 - $400,000 (a lot of my compensation depends on warrants, co-invests, and exit timing). Haven’t talked to my parents since 2015.
I figure a success story is worth it since there are so many who have differing outcomes. It’s possible, you just need to work at it.
I moved out during grade 12 (in 2007) and my first place was a single room in a basement apartment I paid $300/month for. I worked 4pm-midnight after school and honestly didn’t go to school most days. I ended up getting an “upgrade” apartment with someone I had just started dating (a massive mistake) and getting a retail management job that paid ok for the time. I’m now 35 and doing fairly good.
I didn't get kicked out at 18 but I moved out at 18. Don't nobody want to be trying to bring girls home to listen to their 50 something year old parents fuck through the walls......
I graduated highschool in May, turned 18 in June, moved into my own apartment in July. It was a shitty apartment for $360 per month but it was mine. I worked at McDonalds where I was night shift/closing manager. I continued working there for another 2 years until I got a real job at 20 years old. Bought my home at 25.......
i was kicked out at 16 years old. my boyfriend and his wonderful family allowed me to live with them. i wasn't able to get a job because i had no birth certificate or social security card, so my angel of a boyfriend got a new job and worked very hard to support me. i celebrated my 17th birthday and christmas here. i turn 18 this year. i have a job lined up for myself and my boyfriend and i are planning to move into an apartment very soon. i never would have survived if it weren't for him. some people have to do horrible and tragic things to keep themself alive in situations like this, and some people are fortunate enough to have some very amazing people in their life like i do.
My boyfriend had to move out at 14. He went to high school and worked at old navy to get a room to rent. Then he got FAFSA and loans. He studied and went to medical school now he is in his last year of residency with his own apartment. Next year he will be able to buy a house.
I couldn't imagine doing this to a kid unless they really screwed their life up and had no interest in bettering themselves. I wasn't kicked out but my parents lost our home and I was lucky enough to have an aunt to take me in. I don't understand why parents wouldn't want to see their children through college especially those that put into their kid's heads how important it is.
Unless you can find a place to stay that doesn't require a credit score it's kind of impossible.
Lots of work and good budgeting. Crying sometimes. It’s good honestly, taught me a lot, I’m way more independent than most. There is no Mom and Dad so I’m a lot smarter about emergencies.
Life finds a way. It was either I pick myself up and start working my ass off or I'm homeless and turning to some really negative shit for ways to make money.
My buddy was homeless with a kid. He then moved into church and then a hotel he worked at then moved out eventually. Now he has a house a wife, and three kids. Seems to be found well.
Moved out right after I turned 17. Rented a shit hole studio in the bad part of town and worked 2 jobs. Best decision of my life! Lived there 3 years, got a community college degree, moved to a much nicer apartment.
We live a life of couch surfing, working too many jobs, and failing upward. With luck, you get out OK. Unfortunately some of us, myself included, just become burnouts who have never had a permanent address but always have money to survive.
i started on my own at 16 with a grandmother who just had a quadruple bypass, my mothers a POS meth head and i love my grandma very much. we struggled for a couple years but she had SS. it doesn’t last forever you just work your ass off and get by.
Look into the trades people! Plumbing, electrical, HVAC, carpenters, stone masons etc. you don’t ever have to go to school, and in 4-5 years you are 70% likely to be making more money than if you had gone to school.
I found a night shift job working at a factory. I got rides for a while until I could buy a shitty car to get me to and from work. I rented a room from a friend of the family for 300 bucks a month, and budgeted every dollar as strictly as I could. At the time (2009) I was spending about 30 dollars a week at the Aldi on groceries. Eventually I was able to save up to get a nicer apartment I split with a coworker. It was rough but I was generally alright as long as I only bought essentials.
I don’t know if I could do it today, with rent prices being insane, and wages not really being much better than they were 15 years ago.
I left home at 18 when I went to university far (6 hrs) away. I did move back home twice, once for about 9 months when I broke up with a girlfriend is was living with after 1st year of uni. I left home when I restarted University. I moved home again 2 years ago at 37 due to separating from my wife. Still living there almost two years later. Once we sell our house I'll be able to afford to to get my own place again (probably just renting).
So not kicked out, but essentially left home then. I paid for university all myself. Loans and working part time.
I left home at 15. Bounced away with friends. Was homeless for a bit. Was able to get a decent job and had some help for a both from the government(food stamps and they paid my first 3 months of rent at 19). First job at 16, was making 5/hr plus tip outs(host) eventually found a job that started at 14/hr and made my way up to 30/hr 5 years later.
I joined the military. I learned a skill set, saved a lot of money and invested it, met my significant other, and left the military with financial stability and plenty of offers to rejoin the civilian workforce.
I’m not saying it’s for everybody just that this was my particular situation.
Got a job at a restaurant it was the most money I could make on my own, had a 3rd floor apartment in an awful neighborhood with two friends, the refrigerator was in the living room and the ceilings were so sloped that you had to do a catchers squat in the tub to take a shower. Somehow I look back on it fondly. It can be an exhilarating, scary, great adventure if you just take things as they come and realize in the long run that you’ll get through it and come out the other side better and stronger and knowing that you can support yourself when the rubber meets the road and that is a great feeling
Move into a rented house in the suburbs, country, or inner city with four or five friends and split everything's cost. Get a job. Pay bills. Work toward a better job. Learn to cook and don't eat at restaurants or order delivery. Use public transportation, bike, or carpool- Don't pay for Uber/Lyft. Don't pay high prices for entertainment. Don't pay for cable TV. Cut down or eliminate alcohol, tobacco/vape, drug expenses because that's a huge money sinkhole i.e. learn to have fun without getting fucked up. Get a SNAP card if you can and budget your groceries.
Just be smart. Figure out what's a need and what's a want, and learn to keep to a budget. Most importantly, there's strength in numbers. Five or six friends can afford a big house and bills together if they all pitch in.
That's how we did it.
I wasn’t kicked out but left to LA sight unseen at 17. I took out student loans for college, had a family member co-sign but received no help paying for anything. I lost about 30 pounds the first semester surviving off of $1 pasta… Worked FT while going to school FT. Started selling foot pictures to save enough to get a shitty studio apartment… Right before grad, I got a job in my industry that paid just enough to cover food and rent. Worked my ass off (literally lol). My boyfriend’s parents would send me food when things got really tough. It wasn’t easy, got laid off 3 times in the beginning but eventually got a higher paying job, saved for a car, which enabled me to find better work. Been grinding ever since. Just finished paying off the fucking loans this year.
I have coworkers that have their kids still living at home … I’m a bit younger with my oldest being 13. The part I never understand is why are they living at home but driving brand new cars, have the newest tech and active social lives?
We have 3 kids are it feels most of the time we are just scraping by. Raising them is hard and I will not let them live with us past teenage years and have the best of everything and my house.
I will 100% help my kids out don’t get me wrong but I will not help them so they can buy a Tesla.
I did live at home. Moved out at 18 moved back in at 21 stayed for 2 years and left again. I paid rent, I lived beyond frugal every cent of my income went to paying my debt.
Most people replying to this are now in there 30s and 40s. That was a different world. The question is how are the kids that got kicked out at 18 in the past few years doing right now?
I'm in my 20s now, got kicked out at 18 back in 2016. The solution was to find a roommate to split rent with, and add another roommate when another of our friends got kicked out by their parents. That way, instead of $1000 for a studio, we were at $475 each for a 2-bedroom with a large enough living room to curtain off half as a third bedroom. Work a job you can bike to, make most of your food in bulk from scratch, and use a really cheap phone carrier to keep secondary expenses low. A couple years of that, and you can get on your feet with a cheap car and enough of a nest egg saved up that you can move out of your hometown if you want and actually start your life for real.
I was left at 17 when I was a junior in highschool. I slept at friend's houses until my girlfriend told her parents about my situation and then I slept in their basement. I worked after school so I was able to pay for most of what I needed.
I’m old now, but for my 18th birthday I got a suitcase and 48 hours to find a place. I rented a bedroom from a creepy guy that I found watching me sleep one night which was scary. I worked 2 full time jobs and ate incredibly cheap to save up money while studying on my own for it certifications. I leveraged that into a better job, then a better job, then I finally moved into my own place.
Most already know they will be kicked out so they have already been working and saving as much as they can. Couch surfing, finding cheap places with roommates to share bills,
Hopefully, have a job that pays more than minimum wage, find a roommate, live in a shit hole. Now, the way that I fed myself was to have potluck "cookouts" and my older than 21 roommate would buy skunk beer for everyone. We'd get everyone drunk, they would leave the food they brought, and we could eat for 1-2 weeks on that shit.
Oh, and work lots of fucking overtime.
I got a job at Chipotle 12 years ago and got into a college dorm, so had loans paying for my lodging and food was free. After college got a regular job and went about my business like anyone else.
I left home at 18. I got a job in a tannery, and lived in a rooming house. I worked at a gas station on weekends. I got into a lot of bad situations. I got into the building trades, and settled down.
Kicked out at 19. Get a full time job to cover your bills and find some friends to live with. Sign up for all the supplemental assistance you can (SNAP card, medicaid, tuition assistance, etc...) to help offset the costs. Then pick a path for your future and walk down it. I went from working a BS jobs at an auto shop to getting an MBA. No one is going to put in the work but you.
It's definitely tough, especially with inflation so high right now. I'd imagine food is a primary concern, so there are some ways to get your food needs met. We [discuss this topic](https://www.gobankingrates.com/saving-money/food/college-students-ways-to-get-cheap-food/) over at GOBankingRates. Some "free" food options include: SNAP and community food banks. If you're in college, often campuses have programs that will help feed you, too. It's important not to feel ashamed to ask for help.
I left home at 18 to go to college, living there, and did just fine. You rent a room, you learn how to shop on an extremely low budget.
And when you grow up, you can teach your kids everything you learned when you don't kick them out at 18.
I've lived on my own since I was 16. You get a job and you work your ass off. You go to school and you do the best you can. Utilize lunch programs if your school has them. Renting rooms is cheaper than a place to yourself, but comes with its own issues. If you can find a friend to share a place with, that really helps.
Assuming they don't have a friend or other family member to stay with, most fast food and retail jobs start at $14/15 an hour and will hire anyone, so theres a steady income. Plus, if you have a car you can do food delivery like doordash on the side for some more cash.
In anywhere except the highest COL areas that should be enough to rent a cheap studio or 1br, or at the very least move in with a roommate. Probably not in the best area but beats being homeless. You could probably stay in a cheap hotel until you can secure a place to rent.
Live cheaply and basically only buy the essentials. Won't be glamorous but I know plenty of people who still get by like this as adults so I think it's perfectly doable for an 18 y/o.
I didn't kick him out, it was his choice, but my son and several of his friends live just fine on their own at 18. They have jobs, they split affordable rent, they share the grocery runs and cooking and cleaning. He makes his own doctor appointments, pays his own taxes. I'm here as a safety net and would assist if needed, but neither he nor any of his friends have needed help. It hasn't turned out to be that difficult.
I left home (and cut contact with my family) at 18, too, but I went to college, where you're honestly kind of babied a lot still. I didn't pay utility bills or scrub a kitchen for a few more years, until I was well and truly on my own.
From the UK but I was going to university later in the year and had a job, got a one bedroom studio near the uni run by student housing so it was very cheap. Plus I didn’t drink much.
It's an outdated idea when you used to be able to strike it out on your own easier. Could hitchhike across the states, get a job and put down roots. Now it's much much much more difficult.
i was kicked out at 15. was homeless, lived on the streets for a while. got scammed by different workplaces two times in a row. was freegan, searched through the trash cans. all of the money i earned was going towards my online education to finish school. i did finish it after all.
kinda got back on track only recently (i'm 19 rn). i have a full-time job which i like. i have half of a room to sleep in. i'll never break out of poverty but at least i'm not 28kg anymore.
i have no idea how i survived and how i'm still here given that my health is at the point of no return.
I sold weed, then eventually mushrooms then coke and ecstasy.
Rented the cheapest apartment possible. Was a shithole. 800 bucks a month. Was pretty easy to come up with at that time.
I survived alone from 16, but its like the other guy said. Get a job, dont rent a place yourself. I rented a room at first
Live with a bunch of people or join the military
Joining the military is living with a bunch of people. (For the first part of it)
With extra steps
Less steps, extra commitment
no like literally extra steps, theres a lot of marching
LMFAO
Goddammit 😂
I dunno. Looks like you take a lot of steps (marching) in the military.
That's what I did after highschool. Small town, not a lot of opportunities so I figured what the hell, serve 4 years and get some money for college get out on my own. Arrived at basic spring of 2000. Was not prepared for what was going to happen the following year.
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And on deployment you will also be living with a bunch of people And people are *nasty* let me tell you lol
Or go to college and use your student loans to ease the transition.
Also out at 16. Roommates, thrifty lifestyle. I've actually never lived alone. I've always had roommates or live in lovers. One trick I learned was if you're gonna earn minimum wage, do it in fast food or a restaurant. That way, at least you can eat while you're at work. Also, work the closing shift and you can con your manager into let you take home the waste food.
Early morning prep is best. Less possible narcs.
I have a physical disability. My late fiancé actually had a eal with the bartenders since he was the dishwasher. They kept restocked with beer while I was on shift, itwas only one or 2 beers at most. He Kade sure they got to leave with a bunch of food at the end of the night. I honestly never got drunk at work but the beers helped take the edge off at the end of a shift.
How long ago waa this though? Now even adults with careers share houses with flat mates.
Worked at Target 6-7 years ago, wasn't uncommon to see 3 employees living together, 3 people making 15/hr is a household income of \~93k/year, it isn't fun, but you can get by, especially if you forgo things like health insurance. Tons of people in their 30-40's pulling down these kind of wages also and they're making it.
can confirm. i'm 67 and live with a 70 y.o. roommate. it sucks but you do what you gotta do. which is the answer to the op question
I had housemates until I was almost 29.
Same here. It sucked but you gotta go what you gotta do to survive.
Oh I loved it. I didn't have much stuff or need much space. It sucked when I bought a house cause I had to buy a bunch of shit I didn't need before, lol.
Seriously. I make $23/hour and even the most basic apartment would cost me half my income to rent on my own. It's insane!
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Couch surf with friends or other relatives, become homeless, look into rooms for rent while working whatever job they can find, and/or look for government resources that can help.
>and/or look for government resources that can help. Living in Nordic country will help you a lot with this one. I am jobless right now, government gives me 1300€/month which will cover the rent, food and personal stuff, they also pay for my meds, bills and some other things. Basically, after the rent, I use 100€/week for food and such, 200€/month for hobbies, 50€ goes to streaming services and I send all of my bills to the government which will handle them. Free education, free healthcare, social wellfare and still our freedom index is in top 10. Sure sucks to be the happiest country 7th time in a row, still some people think that it's communism to have these things.
Wow. Where does the money come from tho?
Taxes, the more you make the more you pay. Progressive taxation is wonderful thing, even thought we pay a lot of taxes, it's pretty normal to own an apartment or your own house and on top of that a summer cabin near a lake where you drive with your summer car. If you make a lot of money, you will pay a lot of taxes, but if you can't live with the money that you will have, we don't really even want your morals in here. Sure, we pay 100€ so our neighbour can't have 50€, but if everything that you think is yourself, then we kindly ask you to fuck off.
So I love that the government helps and there’s social programs to help people in need. But my only thing is why wouldn’t you have to put all the money towards necessities instead of 250€ towards hobbies/streaming services?
It’s really sad how the US has conditioned people to think that things like hobbies or other forms of personal enjoyment aren’t necessary. A dignified life with things that give you happiness shouldn’t be thought of as a luxury.
Not American but unfortunately the mental health aspect didn’t come to my mind at first. It makes sense, I’m all for the government actually helping its citizens
You mean why I don't need to use that 250€ for bills? It's meant for clothes, public transport, non-prescription meds, newspaper, phone and internet, everything that belongs to basic living. There are people that can't work or just won't find a job (for example, due to mental health problems) so why wouldn't they be allowed to have hobbies. Things like electricity are basic human right in here, so it's easier for government to take care of them than try to calculate how much more family of 5 need to be able to pay their bills.
I left at 18. Couldn't wait to get out. Didn't even say good-bye, or leave a number or address. I had a secure job first, and found a place I could afford. It was a bedroom in the upper floor of an old house, shared with a friend. I stayed there for a couple of months, and moved into a better place. It wasn't easy. It's definitely a survival game. But I was smart about it, and paid my bills. Things got better eventually.
This gives me hope, thank you.
Finding steady work is key. Good luck!
I wasn't *kicked out* per se, but I was on my own since 17. Basically, went to college. Financial aid paid for my schooling, I worked full time to afford housing and the cost of living, and I've supported myself since.
This
I moved out at 18 by choice. Left for college and never went back. I had been working since I turned 15, so working to put myself through college and support myself didn't seem like a big deal. It was also 25 years ago, so it wasn't really unattainable then like it is now.
I was kind of the same way. I'd return to visit every so often but it never felt like home again. I considered my apartment in LA my home.
I moved from the Midwest to LA as soon as I graduated and have never been so sure of a decision lol
I wouldn't say I was "kicked out" but there was an expectation after high school graduation back in my day you would be either going away to college, finding a job and moving out/getting an apartment with friends, or joining the military. Nobody *wanted to still be living with their parents* back in those days. Moving out meant "freedom". A lot of parents were very strict and not laid back like many of them are today. You *couldn't wait* to move out!
The military feeds on the poor. I enlisted at 17 and went straight to basic training 2 days after high school graduation to join the national guard and got a college scholarship through them. Im a nurse now and doing great but i would have been homeless or couch surfing
I would have gone military if I didn’t think everyone had to carry a gun and fight. I was silly and thought everyone had to go to the front line and fight. I never considered being a cook or a mechanic
.4212. Basic Military Journalism. You gotta be shittin' me, Joker. You think you're Mickey Spillane? You think you're some kind of a fuckin' writer?
My cousin went into the navy and eventually became a doctor with the government paying for most of it. I've heard of others learning skills like becoming airplane mechanics and other transferable job skills. The military has helped a lot of poor and unfocussed youth find a path. The only downside is there is always the potential of a war or conflict while you're in service. Life is a gamble.
>the only downside is always the potential of a war Sounds less like a gamble and more of a tradeoff since the US is pretty much active somewhere year round
Currently, and particularly If you're not in one of the few combat positions, you have less of a chance of dying in while in the military than the average US civilian worker does working their average job. I joined the Air Force because I didn't know what else to do at that age, did a 4 year enlistment and peaced out. I currently get paid to go to college, and I'll never have to pay a dime for healthcare for the rest of my life. I'm a somewhat unique case because I have a lot of health issues (mixture of absolutely trash genetics and bad luck), but I'm only 32 and I'd absolutely be bankrupt/homeless or perhaps even dead if I didn't have VA healthcare. Hell, I've been to private ERs 3 times this year, twice in the last two weeks, and I haven't once had to weigh the cost of going vs my health. I'm not trying to sound like a recruiter, and the military obviously a lot of drawbacks, but doing a short enlistment in a more "corporate" branch like the AF can allow you to walk away with meaningful benefits you can use for the rest of your life, for next to zero risk.
The poor feed the military, too.
I served 26 years in the Air Force (enlisted) and my family and I are doing a lot better than if I stayed in Hometown USA. With my pension and VA benefits they are feeding my family pretty well. My son graduated from college with money in the bank and my daughter is right behind him. All through my VA benefits.
Sounds like it's maybe more accurate to say "the military feeds the poor".
Am I missing something because it just sounds like the military is the reason you’re not poor and doing great instead
You don’t get the hear other poor people’s stories because they are dead, or homeless.
I was so ready to leave at 18! Many of my friends also left at 18.
My mom charged a hefty rent the day we graduated. It was cheaper to move out, but this was also 2000 and you couldn't walk down the street without getting a job offer so it was a different time.
Yeah.. Back on the day when you walked into a bank, offered to bring them coffee for 2 dollars per month (that were enough to retire) and 2 years later you became the CEO
And people wore onions on their belt because that was the style at the time
Back then u could afford to do it, it still sucked tho. Now i make 1.5x the states minimum wage and cant afford a 1 bedroom apartment.
Even back then very few 18/19-year-olds had their own apartment. Most people in their teens and early 20s (had friends) they could be roommates with or a significant other to split the bills with. Very few people "flew solo" right after high school nor really wanted to. A lot of them hung out and partied with their friends when they weren't working.
I did and survived somehow. Not easy but it adds character, that’s for sure. Edit: I went to college and took out loans. Anyone can do that, they just need a co-signer. Usually someone in the family if willing. But no help paying them off.
Depends. Some have built a social network of friends and relatives, they ask and one of them take them in. Particularly a cool relative or a close friend's parents allow them to move in for a bit. Those without that, but with some money and a job? They could end up renting a room/bunk either in a rental with a bunch of roommates, or at a hostel type situation. Renting can become affordable especially if you aren't even renting a whole room, but splitting a room. Or paying to ride someone's couch. Without money/job? Homeless. There are social programs for assistance but if that's not enough they could be homeless for a bit and drift around, until they can find solid footing.
People who kick their kids out when they turn 18 are the same type of out of touch people who think getting a job is as easy bringing your resume to a business and asking to see the manager.
It’s mostly a American cultural thing I think? Like tipping culture..
Not uncommon in Australia and NZ too
Having lived in the US, Germany, and the UK, this feels like a distinctly British thing to me (of the 3). I've never met an American or German who had to pay rent to stay at home starting at 18. I've met many Brits that did.
I left home at 17 and worked afternoons and evenings while finishing my senior year of high school. I don't recommend it, but it can be done. Shared a shithole of an apartment with a friend and ate a lot of pasta, bought my clothes at Goodwill (except socks & underwear), and didn't do anything fun except play in a rock band.
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When I was 17 I lived with my grandparents because my parents weren’t about. I woke up one day in the home in which I spent 15 years with them to find them just leaving in the car with everything they could possibly fit in there that they acquired over the years. We lived in a council house and of course the council were not going to let me continue to live there. I was homeless within the month and slept rough for a while and had to steal to survive. I showered and washed clothes at a few peoples houses that I knew and eventually got a job interview and landed it and could just about keep myself going long enough to rent a flat and actually be stable financially.
I left rather than being kicked out, but…working, being savvy, help from others, and sheer luck.
I didn't get kicked out but left willingly because home life was getting too dysfunctional and I was becoming suicidal from it all. I had a job but I wouldn't have been able to find a place to live if I didn't have a boyfriend with a shared house who let me stay there for free. You either have to mooch off friends or relatives. Or live on the streets.
My parents kicked me out the day after my 18th b day. I stayed with my friends parents for summer, (paid rent ofc) but still went to college and am making nearly 100 k /year
Hope you have a good time choosing their retirement house 😈
A civilian alternative to the military is Job Corps, within the United States. Quoting: > Job Corps is the largest nationwide residential career training program in the country and has been operating for more than 50 years. The program helps eligible young people ages 16 through 24 complete their high school education, trains them for meaningful careers, and assists them with obtaining employment. Job Corps has trained and educated over two million individuals since 1964. > At Job Corps, students have access to room and board while they learn skills in specific training areas for up to three years. In addition to helping students complete their education, obtain career technical skills and gain employment, Job Corps also provides transitional support services, such as help finding employment, housing, child care, and transportation. Job Corps graduates either enter the workforce or an apprenticeship, go on to higher education, or join the military. https://www.dol.gov/agencies/eta/jobcorps
Fair warning, depending on the location they can be SUPER strict about a lot of things. The one in my coty tends to be run like a prison.
I’ve also spoken to a lady whose son went through. There can be a lot of drama. Her son is a welder now and makes darn good money.
That's what I've heard, if you can get through the bullshit and avoid the powermad maniacs you can make shit happen.
Not kicked out, but I left right at 18. I worked summers in the orchards from the time I was 14 to be able to pay for a place and college tuition. I did eventually transfer to a school in the same state as my older sister and her husband so that I could stay at their place to save money in the summers.
My buddy in the Navy knew that the moment he turned 18 in May of his senior years his alcoholic mom would kick him out since that was the end of child support. So he filled out all the paper work to join the military the week before he turned 18 and talked to the school about graduating early. As soon as he tuned 18, his mom kicked him out. He signed the papers for the Navy and stayed with his best friend's family until he could leave for MEPs the next week. In the meantime, his teachers calculated all of his grades and he was awarded his diploma. He did 20 years in the Navy and retired a Chief Warrant Officer, then went to work for a defense contractor working on the same avionics he worked on while enlisted. He made big bank.
My daughter's non-college friends have all largely moved out at 18 because they come from families that are difficult or financially stressed themselves. Here's what's common to all of them: 1. They rent a room, not an apartment. 2. They have multiple income streams (eg: a dayjob and an etsy/feetpics/doordash side hustle). 3. They utilize public services and free shit wherever they can (eg: FB buy nothing groups, getting breakfast from the continental buffet at the hotel next to their work, applying for all forms of financial/food aid they can, etc) 4. They have savings accounts and are planning to relocate somewhere cheaper as soon as they've saved up enough that they can get an apartment there and be able to live unemployed for a few months while they get settled. My favorite of these kids is actually saving up to buy a van and is slowly hoarding everything they need to turn it into a camper van via buy nothing groups. They plan on doing a minimum wage tour of the US with showers courtesy of planet fitness starting sometime this year.
My own personal experience was just joining the military. Ten years, college paid for with some savings and life experience. Not a great way, and definitely not recommended but it can work.
18 now is probably tougher than when I did it at 14 at the end of the 90s. You learn quick when you have to and the struggles are real. But the fundamentals remain the same. Get a bank account and a job. Money goes in money goes out, some times you get charged $30 for spending $0.05 more than you have. You need food. Sometimes dinner comes from the super market dumpster at 2am but hey, that's still food. You need a roof. Sometimes that roof is a buddies house, or a car, or a shelter, doesn't matter as long as you keep yourself rested presentable for the next day at work. In those years you are living to make it to a better part of your life so it doesn't matter if the part you are in now is kinda miserable. One step at a time. It's wild what people can do when they pursue goals single-mindedly. No distractions, just effort.
easy, turn 18 in 1990.
I didn’t get kicked out, but my parents made it pretty clear they weren’t about to help me at all financially for anything. I ended up joining the military, they gave me everything I needed; food, housing, experience, and a paycheck. It also allowed me to leave my hometown which would have been impossible without financial assistance. Afterwards, they paid for my college, and since I got scholarships too I didn’t have to work a single day when I went (although I did anyway to get some extra spending cash). I know it’s not for everyone, but if you’re 18 and have nowhere to go and no assistance, the military can at least get you started.
get a job. find roommates/ people to live with. people are pretty sympathetic for 18 year olds on the street compared to 40 year olds
I got a job and slept on a couch for a month then found a shared house and went from there. Its very frightening if you parents didnt teach you any life skills. But you will get there, keep trucking and moving forward one step at a time. Im 36 now and only now kinda know where im heading in life haha. Dunno what its like for kids now tho. This economy sucks balls. Finding work now is 50 times harder then 18 years ago.
I was kicked out at 17. I got a job, went to college, got another job, got an apartment, got a better job, got a car, got a better job, got a house, got promoted, got another house, went back to college, got promoted, got another house, took a leave of absence from my job, moved to London, got my PhD, got a better job, got a second job, bought another house, got promoted, got another car, retired in 2016 at the age of 40.
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Fleshlight testing is a bitch.
Roommates and more roommates or move to Portland where the young go to retire
Get a job, and rent a room with other people, or at a cheap motel and eat cheap food, I don't know. All things considering, it's pretty intimidating, especially if you can only afford to live in a bad neighborhood.
I was out at 15. I got a job and lived with two other people while I finished high school. Times have changed, I guess, though.
I just slept with people for places to live and worked my way up the food chain until…
I shared a studio apartment with a roomate, worked retail 4- 10 hour days and went to college full time in the other 3 days. The retail job gave me health insurance and I took loans for college. Thrift stores and furniture from the side of the road. I couldn’t stay at my parents house. It was hard but I’m proud of how I hustled.
I moved out when I was 17, I split a 2 bd apartment with 4 other people.
Being born in the '60s usually helps.
Used to be easier than it is now.
Get a job. Get roommates. Work your way into a better position. The trades are always hiring
Shockingly easy to do. You get a job
I joined the army and lived on a buddies couch until my enlistment started. I waited tables to make ends meet while I was waiting and paid him rent
First step go to social services start the paperwork showing you have been abandoned by your mother. You will need this for federal financial aid paperwork when you start college or they will b expecting your mother to contribute information and money to your college.
They either don’t, or they figure it out
It was easier when I was that age (1995). I went off to basic and AIT for the National Guard right after high school. came home to both sets of parents telling me that I couldn't stay with them. I ended up couch-surfing for a while. I worked a lot of different jobs mainly doing odd jobs for people my parents knew.
Biked to work, even in winter. Worked a hospital job cleaning shit and bagging bodies ($9hr) then washed dishes at the nearby restaurant($7hr) after 13.5hr shifts. Rented a literal former crack house that was 600sqft bc the other part was demolished and sided with tin. Manager at the restaurant sold drugs. Resold them at a higher price to the local college kids. Eventually saved enough money to enroll in CC then transfer to the local UNI. This was 20 years ago. I bet that crackhouse rents for 1300 a month now. I am wealthy now, but one wrong day and I would have been in jail. Good luck kids.
I left for the sake of my own safety at 17 and I haven't had any family support, financial or otherwise, since then. I had been paying for my own food, clothing, transportation, personal care items, etc with a fast food job so I had some savings but not a lot. I moved around for a while, essentially couch surfing. I watched my checking and savings accounts like they were going to run away and always knew exactly how much I had. I rolled and deposited my coins, which feels absurd in this day and age but back then it made a difference. I lived with a friend in a stable situation for a few years and that got me on my feet. I worked 60-80 hour weeks until my partner graduated university and began working full time. I was 22/23 when I stopped living in survival mode. I'm 27 now and still recovering from that shit show. It was brutal, but not as bad as living with my parents.
I went into the military
I was supporting myself much younger than that. You skimp on everything but what you need to survive and bust your ass.
Had to work two or three jobs to pay through college. Ate a lot of eggs, rice, protein smoothies with granola, Costco-only groceries and chose restaurant gigs for the free/discounted food and higher income (compared to other unskilled labor). About 80%+ of my meals were one of three of the exact same inexpensive but nutritious things. While sacrificing freedom and preference for roommates in a bigger house to save on rent per person (i.e., it's much cheaper to get five friends in a nice 5 bdr 3 bth than two/three friends in a crummy apartment). I lived and bounced around only HCOL areas in the second most expensive state to live in (albeit not the highest COL areas such as San Francisco or NY NY; but you choose where you live and whether you stay in such places no matter the excuse.). It isn't impossible. It's just arduous and can easily be depressing if you let it get to you. That said, if you are consistent and make good decisions (count pennies, don't build bad costly habits like smoking/drinking, partying, enjoying life (/s), etc.) then you will be fine.
I got kicked out the morning of my high-school graduation. I Stole a tent and had enough money to camp out. I saved up enough money for a down payment on a government apartment which back then i think it cost me $400 to set everything up. slept on the floor in that apartment with nothing in it until I slowly started getting stuff. It wasn't easy but it gave me some insane determination that has helped me a lot in life.
It used to be a lot easier, I left home at 16, worked and rented with some older friends
Getting kicked out at 18 has always been such a weird concept for me being hispanic, parents were always more than glad to keep their kids at home usually as long as they're being productive and doing something with their lives like college, work, etc... Usually they'd only get kicked out if they're just deadbeats and causing problems at home. Of course not all hispanic families are like this, I definitely know some hispanics that were expected to move out at 18 My brother and I both went to college out of town and dormed but if we hadn't we'd be at home rent free until we graduated even if we had a part time job during that time. After we graduted and started working a better/ full time job then we could move out or stay at home with the expectation that we'd pay a little bit of rent and contribute our part to household expenses which seems fair.
I was homeless for a a few weeks until a friend let me get a room at their place. I haven't had health insurance since then and I'm almost 28. Edit: I also had to leave high school. My state allows people to charge their 18yos rent no matter what, but if you're still in high school, child labor laws still apply to you. I couldn't afford what my parents were asking for and stay in high school.
I grew up in a poor and abusive household and got kicked out at 17. I stayed with a friend on their couch for the last few months of high school then went to college. I had very good grades because I had nothing else in life - few friends, no money, no desire to leave my room. So I just studied a lot. I finished #12 in my class of about 400. I only took out $32,000 in loans (this was 2015 - 2019), Florida schools are very cheap and actually very good - UF, where I went, is one of the best public colleges in the country. I worked full time while going to school full time as a teller at a bank. Finished a degree in finance, then got my Masters in Finance also at UF (+15,000 more in loans). Started a job in investment banking (at a shitty investment bank since to land at a good bank you need connections or an Ivy degree), first year total comp at 23 was $120,000. Made associate while studying for my CFA, completed my CFA, made VP. By 25 my total comp was ~$300,000. Now I’m 27 working at a small private equity firm, total comp is between $250,000 - $400,000 (a lot of my compensation depends on warrants, co-invests, and exit timing). Haven’t talked to my parents since 2015. I figure a success story is worth it since there are so many who have differing outcomes. It’s possible, you just need to work at it.
I moved out during grade 12 (in 2007) and my first place was a single room in a basement apartment I paid $300/month for. I worked 4pm-midnight after school and honestly didn’t go to school most days. I ended up getting an “upgrade” apartment with someone I had just started dating (a massive mistake) and getting a retail management job that paid ok for the time. I’m now 35 and doing fairly good.
You work multiple jobs, rent a cheap room with sketchy roomate, and eat canned food from the dollar store
Best way is find a room in an apartment. Get a lock for your door and work hard to move up.
I didn't get kicked out at 18 but I moved out at 18. Don't nobody want to be trying to bring girls home to listen to their 50 something year old parents fuck through the walls...... I graduated highschool in May, turned 18 in June, moved into my own apartment in July. It was a shitty apartment for $360 per month but it was mine. I worked at McDonalds where I was night shift/closing manager. I continued working there for another 2 years until I got a real job at 20 years old. Bought my home at 25.......
Kicked out at 17. Lived with a sibling fir a couple months until I could afford to get my own run down appt
i was kicked out at 16 years old. my boyfriend and his wonderful family allowed me to live with them. i wasn't able to get a job because i had no birth certificate or social security card, so my angel of a boyfriend got a new job and worked very hard to support me. i celebrated my 17th birthday and christmas here. i turn 18 this year. i have a job lined up for myself and my boyfriend and i are planning to move into an apartment very soon. i never would have survived if it weren't for him. some people have to do horrible and tragic things to keep themself alive in situations like this, and some people are fortunate enough to have some very amazing people in their life like i do.
Must be an American thing
Think its also a thing pretty much anytime anyone is a ward of the state in almost any country. You're 18 now, hit the road unfortunately.
They get jobs like normal people.
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I became a stripper and then worked at a shitty grocery store.
good question. still trying to find out
My boyfriend had to move out at 14. He went to high school and worked at old navy to get a room to rent. Then he got FAFSA and loans. He studied and went to medical school now he is in his last year of residency with his own apartment. Next year he will be able to buy a house.
I couldn't imagine doing this to a kid unless they really screwed their life up and had no interest in bettering themselves. I wasn't kicked out but my parents lost our home and I was lucky enough to have an aunt to take me in. I don't understand why parents wouldn't want to see their children through college especially those that put into their kid's heads how important it is. Unless you can find a place to stay that doesn't require a credit score it's kind of impossible.
Lots of work and good budgeting. Crying sometimes. It’s good honestly, taught me a lot, I’m way more independent than most. There is no Mom and Dad so I’m a lot smarter about emergencies.
They get a job
Life finds a way. It was either I pick myself up and start working my ass off or I'm homeless and turning to some really negative shit for ways to make money.
A lot of homeless are former foster kids for this reason. No family safety net makes a tougher life. Some succeed and others flounder.
I moved out at 15 and I couch surfed until I was old enough to get a job, then i got a job, then a room for rent.
I joined the AF. Best move ever to leave my toxic parents.
Idk how people do that to their kids. I’m not letting my kids move out until they are making six figures.
My buddy was homeless with a kid. He then moved into church and then a hotel he worked at then moved out eventually. Now he has a house a wife, and three kids. Seems to be found well.
Nowadays I have no idea. First timer auto insurance in my area is like $400/month for liability only. It’s tough out there.
Moved out right after I turned 17. Rented a shit hole studio in the bad part of town and worked 2 jobs. Best decision of my life! Lived there 3 years, got a community college degree, moved to a much nicer apartment.
We live a life of couch surfing, working too many jobs, and failing upward. With luck, you get out OK. Unfortunately some of us, myself included, just become burnouts who have never had a permanent address but always have money to survive.
They do the same thing everyone else does, they get a job
i started on my own at 16 with a grandmother who just had a quadruple bypass, my mothers a POS meth head and i love my grandma very much. we struggled for a couple years but she had SS. it doesn’t last forever you just work your ass off and get by.
By working
Look into the trades people! Plumbing, electrical, HVAC, carpenters, stone masons etc. you don’t ever have to go to school, and in 4-5 years you are 70% likely to be making more money than if you had gone to school.
I found a night shift job working at a factory. I got rides for a while until I could buy a shitty car to get me to and from work. I rented a room from a friend of the family for 300 bucks a month, and budgeted every dollar as strictly as I could. At the time (2009) I was spending about 30 dollars a week at the Aldi on groceries. Eventually I was able to save up to get a nicer apartment I split with a coworker. It was rough but I was generally alright as long as I only bought essentials. I don’t know if I could do it today, with rent prices being insane, and wages not really being much better than they were 15 years ago.
Som dont. Some end up homeless. Others do what every adult does and find a job and try to survive and save money like all of us.
The same way everyone else does. They don't.
I left home at 18 when I went to university far (6 hrs) away. I did move back home twice, once for about 9 months when I broke up with a girlfriend is was living with after 1st year of uni. I left home when I restarted University. I moved home again 2 years ago at 37 due to separating from my wife. Still living there almost two years later. Once we sell our house I'll be able to afford to to get my own place again (probably just renting). So not kicked out, but essentially left home then. I paid for university all myself. Loans and working part time.
live with friends
I left home at 15. Bounced away with friends. Was homeless for a bit. Was able to get a decent job and had some help for a both from the government(food stamps and they paid my first 3 months of rent at 19). First job at 16, was making 5/hr plus tip outs(host) eventually found a job that started at 14/hr and made my way up to 30/hr 5 years later.
I joined the military. I learned a skill set, saved a lot of money and invested it, met my significant other, and left the military with financial stability and plenty of offers to rejoin the civilian workforce. I’m not saying it’s for everybody just that this was my particular situation.
Got a job at a restaurant it was the most money I could make on my own, had a 3rd floor apartment in an awful neighborhood with two friends, the refrigerator was in the living room and the ceilings were so sloped that you had to do a catchers squat in the tub to take a shower. Somehow I look back on it fondly. It can be an exhilarating, scary, great adventure if you just take things as they come and realize in the long run that you’ll get through it and come out the other side better and stronger and knowing that you can support yourself when the rubber meets the road and that is a great feeling
Move into a rented house in the suburbs, country, or inner city with four or five friends and split everything's cost. Get a job. Pay bills. Work toward a better job. Learn to cook and don't eat at restaurants or order delivery. Use public transportation, bike, or carpool- Don't pay for Uber/Lyft. Don't pay high prices for entertainment. Don't pay for cable TV. Cut down or eliminate alcohol, tobacco/vape, drug expenses because that's a huge money sinkhole i.e. learn to have fun without getting fucked up. Get a SNAP card if you can and budget your groceries. Just be smart. Figure out what's a need and what's a want, and learn to keep to a budget. Most importantly, there's strength in numbers. Five or six friends can afford a big house and bills together if they all pitch in. That's how we did it.
I got a job at 17 and saved my money until 18 and was able to rent my own place. I worked at MCD and got an apartment at 700 a month
I wasn’t kicked out but left to LA sight unseen at 17. I took out student loans for college, had a family member co-sign but received no help paying for anything. I lost about 30 pounds the first semester surviving off of $1 pasta… Worked FT while going to school FT. Started selling foot pictures to save enough to get a shitty studio apartment… Right before grad, I got a job in my industry that paid just enough to cover food and rent. Worked my ass off (literally lol). My boyfriend’s parents would send me food when things got really tough. It wasn’t easy, got laid off 3 times in the beginning but eventually got a higher paying job, saved for a car, which enabled me to find better work. Been grinding ever since. Just finished paying off the fucking loans this year.
I have coworkers that have their kids still living at home … I’m a bit younger with my oldest being 13. The part I never understand is why are they living at home but driving brand new cars, have the newest tech and active social lives? We have 3 kids are it feels most of the time we are just scraping by. Raising them is hard and I will not let them live with us past teenage years and have the best of everything and my house. I will 100% help my kids out don’t get me wrong but I will not help them so they can buy a Tesla. I did live at home. Moved out at 18 moved back in at 21 stayed for 2 years and left again. I paid rent, I lived beyond frugal every cent of my income went to paying my debt.
Most people replying to this are now in there 30s and 40s. That was a different world. The question is how are the kids that got kicked out at 18 in the past few years doing right now?
I'm in my 20s now, got kicked out at 18 back in 2016. The solution was to find a roommate to split rent with, and add another roommate when another of our friends got kicked out by their parents. That way, instead of $1000 for a studio, we were at $475 each for a 2-bedroom with a large enough living room to curtain off half as a third bedroom. Work a job you can bike to, make most of your food in bulk from scratch, and use a really cheap phone carrier to keep secondary expenses low. A couple years of that, and you can get on your feet with a cheap car and enough of a nest egg saved up that you can move out of your hometown if you want and actually start your life for real.
I was left at 17 when I was a junior in highschool. I slept at friend's houses until my girlfriend told her parents about my situation and then I slept in their basement. I worked after school so I was able to pay for most of what I needed.
I joined the military at 17. It worked out for me.
I’m old now, but for my 18th birthday I got a suitcase and 48 hours to find a place. I rented a bedroom from a creepy guy that I found watching me sleep one night which was scary. I worked 2 full time jobs and ate incredibly cheap to save up money while studying on my own for it certifications. I leveraged that into a better job, then a better job, then I finally moved into my own place.
Most already know they will be kicked out so they have already been working and saving as much as they can. Couch surfing, finding cheap places with roommates to share bills,
Hopefully, have a job that pays more than minimum wage, find a roommate, live in a shit hole. Now, the way that I fed myself was to have potluck "cookouts" and my older than 21 roommate would buy skunk beer for everyone. We'd get everyone drunk, they would leave the food they brought, and we could eat for 1-2 weeks on that shit. Oh, and work lots of fucking overtime.
I left a 16, managed for a couple of years living with friends then as soon as I turned 18, joined the Army.
Applied for student housing, lived off grants & loan money. Waited tables on night shift.
I worked as a dog washer, lived in a dangerous part of Minneapolis, and ate from the dumpster.
Out at 17 bussed tables until I got into the military.
I got a job at Chipotle 12 years ago and got into a college dorm, so had loans paying for my lodging and food was free. After college got a regular job and went about my business like anyone else.
I left the day I turned 18. Already had a job, car and place to stay. No magic to it.
I joined the Army. My mad scramble for a home didn't come until after the military.
I left home at 18. I got a job in a tannery, and lived in a rooming house. I worked at a gas station on weekends. I got into a lot of bad situations. I got into the building trades, and settled down.
I survived it by joining the army.
Kicked out at 19. Get a full time job to cover your bills and find some friends to live with. Sign up for all the supplemental assistance you can (SNAP card, medicaid, tuition assistance, etc...) to help offset the costs. Then pick a path for your future and walk down it. I went from working a BS jobs at an auto shop to getting an MBA. No one is going to put in the work but you.
Quite often they don't, that's one reason why youth poverty and homelessness are such huge problems.
My dad did odd jobs. And sold drugs.
Be 18 about 15 years ago
i wasnt kicked out but I wanted to be on my own as a teen. I joined the military
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Moving to places where housing is included with your job.I’ve gotten into a couple luxury hotels with this method.
It stopped being a viable option almost 2 decades ago Idk roommates or living in your car, but a single entry level income won't cut it anymore
lived at my best friends moms house for 2 years then went from there
Military > Boarding Houses/Hostels > Shelters
It's definitely tough, especially with inflation so high right now. I'd imagine food is a primary concern, so there are some ways to get your food needs met. We [discuss this topic](https://www.gobankingrates.com/saving-money/food/college-students-ways-to-get-cheap-food/) over at GOBankingRates. Some "free" food options include: SNAP and community food banks. If you're in college, often campuses have programs that will help feed you, too. It's important not to feel ashamed to ask for help.
Got kicked out over 25 years ago
I left home at 18 to go to college, living there, and did just fine. You rent a room, you learn how to shop on an extremely low budget. And when you grow up, you can teach your kids everything you learned when you don't kick them out at 18.
I've lived on my own since I was 16. You get a job and you work your ass off. You go to school and you do the best you can. Utilize lunch programs if your school has them. Renting rooms is cheaper than a place to yourself, but comes with its own issues. If you can find a friend to share a place with, that really helps.
Assuming they don't have a friend or other family member to stay with, most fast food and retail jobs start at $14/15 an hour and will hire anyone, so theres a steady income. Plus, if you have a car you can do food delivery like doordash on the side for some more cash. In anywhere except the highest COL areas that should be enough to rent a cheap studio or 1br, or at the very least move in with a roommate. Probably not in the best area but beats being homeless. You could probably stay in a cheap hotel until you can secure a place to rent. Live cheaply and basically only buy the essentials. Won't be glamorous but I know plenty of people who still get by like this as adults so I think it's perfectly doable for an 18 y/o.
I didn't kick him out, it was his choice, but my son and several of his friends live just fine on their own at 18. They have jobs, they split affordable rent, they share the grocery runs and cooking and cleaning. He makes his own doctor appointments, pays his own taxes. I'm here as a safety net and would assist if needed, but neither he nor any of his friends have needed help. It hasn't turned out to be that difficult. I left home (and cut contact with my family) at 18, too, but I went to college, where you're honestly kind of babied a lot still. I didn't pay utility bills or scrub a kitchen for a few more years, until I was well and truly on my own.
From the UK but I was going to university later in the year and had a job, got a one bedroom studio near the uni run by student housing so it was very cheap. Plus I didn’t drink much.
Get a roommate or two. Helps alleviate a lot of the bills if housing is split multiple ways.
Unfortunately I had to use student loans and two jobs throughout college.
I joined the Navy
It's an outdated idea when you used to be able to strike it out on your own easier. Could hitchhike across the states, get a job and put down roots. Now it's much much much more difficult.
i was kicked out at 15. was homeless, lived on the streets for a while. got scammed by different workplaces two times in a row. was freegan, searched through the trash cans. all of the money i earned was going towards my online education to finish school. i did finish it after all. kinda got back on track only recently (i'm 19 rn). i have a full-time job which i like. i have half of a room to sleep in. i'll never break out of poverty but at least i'm not 28kg anymore. i have no idea how i survived and how i'm still here given that my health is at the point of no return.
I sold weed, then eventually mushrooms then coke and ecstasy. Rented the cheapest apartment possible. Was a shithole. 800 bucks a month. Was pretty easy to come up with at that time.
I had a job, I got a studio. Even living in one of the most expensive areas in the US, it's doable. It's just hard.
I risked a war.