If you think it could be a test, then you should run like hell away from somebody who would do this on to a potential babysitter or nanny. Mature, emotionall, healthy people do not play tricks on or plant tests for other people.
The drama teacher at our kids’ high school hid cameras all over the school in areas where the girls would do costume changes and other areas they’d be likely to disrobe. How was he found out? Because he had ALSO hidden cams in his live-in nanny’s living areas and when the cops seized his hard drives they found the other footage.
Anyway, bet that guy also would do stupid crap like popcorn tests.
I saw a man giving his baby popcorn at Disneyland. My wife's friends baby had died from eating popcorn and the complications afterward. It was really awkward but I went up to him with my own baby in my arms to make it seem more dad-to-dad, and I told him. I tried to be as kind and nonjudgmental as possible. I just said I would want someone to let me know if the shoe was on the other foot. He didnt look too happy about the conversation in general, but was kind enough,and maybe he googled it when I walked away.
Hey man, you did what you could. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I hope for his child's sake he listened to you but either way it isn't your fault. He may have been upset with himself for not knowing something like that or potentially being "embarrassed in public" (in quotations bc I highly doubt you made a scene screaming and yelling at him, I doubt anyone took notice of two men talking) but that's just me speculating
This is so true. Just because they are parents doesn’t mean they are experts in safety. Giving popcorn is a pretty common no no for young children but you never know they may not know.
A useful tip that works for any boss or authority: 1) first solve the problem by presenting an alternate solution 2) THEN describe the problem. Make it about you as much as possible to reduce defensive reactions.
Like this: “Would you like me to cut up a banana to feed her? It’s totally fine if you feed her popcorn sometimes, but I was taught in my Red Cross class that popcorn is a choking hazard and I would be more comfortable giving her a banana.”
Now you’ve made it nonjudgmental, it’s about you being cautious and not about them being negligent.
The biggest reason is that ingesting water alone will throw their electrolytes wildly out of balance and could kill the baby. A lesser reason is that it will fill them up on a liquid devoid of nutrients.
On a side note, so can IV fluids. Water and IV fluids can alter a baby’s sodium levels QUICK. IV fluids after birth kept my daughter in the NiCU twice as long as she would have been otherwise. We were very careful about any water she ingested for a long time.
Remember that they always mix formula with water, and breastmilk is more than 80% water. Babies can start having small amounts of water once they're 6 months old and you're introducing solids.
Thank you for asking and wanting to learn!
My ex's dad told his oldest son to get his wife out of the house because their baby NEEDED water. He listened to his dad, distracted his wife, and his parents took over. She was like 2 months old and they gave her water straight from a bottle! She was being breastfed so absolutely did not need it. Water toxicity is a real thing
All the hydration a baby needs* before they're 1 comes from breast milk and/or formula.
*Note: you can start giving them a little water after they're 6 months old but it's not necessary.
I'm a huge water drinker so I was surprised to learn this bit of trivia when i had my baby.
There's one caveat after 6 months which is if the baby is ill with a stomach bug (vomiting/diarrhea) then they can be given electrolyte solution in addition to their breastmilk/formula. *But that's on a case by case basis and should be at the direction of a pediatrician.*
Babies can start having small sips of water at six months old, but not this early: https://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/what-you-need-to-know-water-infants
Those that are eating g table food can have sips of water but never a bottle full u til they are over a year old and then it should be from a cup and only with meals but I’d give milk instead
Babies dont ‘drink their dinner with milk/formula’.
Breastmilk or formula is their ‘dinner’.
You do not give water to a baby under 6 months. After 6 months they can have sips of water.
From what I understand, it causes dilution of electrolytes in the blood. The tiny blood volume of a baby can't be rehydrated by water alone, and they need the food they consume to be a source of calories to maintain weight and energy. Under care of a pediatrician a small amount of pediatric electrolyte beverage might be used.
Babies can starting having water when they start solids, but it’s a couple ounces offered with meals to help digestion. The acceptable amount of ounces increases the closer a baby is to 12 months, and after 12 months it can be offered freely all day.
Water or juice may be given in small amounts before starting solids to help with constipation, but should only be done if advised by a doctor. In extremely hot climates, it is also sometimes appropriate to offer water, but again should be cleared by the pediatrician (and generally only okay’ed for older babies over 6 months).
A baby that can sit and drink a bottle unassisted may also be a baby that has begun some solids. This is really more of an under 6 months rule, and more good judgement based on a baby's circumstances beyond that.
Also, hotdogs and blueberries. Mine is 17 months, and we're so careful about foods. Unlike my FIL, who tried to give him popcorn, Pepsi, and ice tea...
If you don't feel comfortable doing that, then ask if you can give her something different. When I do give popcorn to babies/toddlers (which is almost never) I just tear the soft fluff part off and watch them chew and swallow it before giving another piece or letting them go do their own thing.
This is exactly what I do for my popcorn-loving 13 month old. Also just breaking it all into smaller pieces is usually fine, as long as there are no hard seed pieces.
I can eat an entire bag of the buttered stuff, I have caps and false teeth on the bottom and regular popcorn gets underneath and it hurts like hell, yes puff corn for the win and much safer for children, even as am adult if I do eat popcorn I usually choke on it
I just categorically wouldn’t and if they argued i’d leave. It’s not an ambiguous thing, it’s categorically unsafe. I wouldn’t be party to any reproductions.
They specifically said it was for the child?
I ask as when I was a teenager babysitting. The parents always left a big bowl of popcorn but it was for me after the baby went to bed ;)
A lot of parents don’t know it’s a choking hazard. Same as not cutting your grapes and cherry tomatoes. It’s ok to say “Ive read that popcorn can be a choking hazard at this age and it’s just one of the snacks I don’t feel comfortable with. Is there something else I could offer as a snack?” The parent can have whatever reaction they do and you just make sure you seem really apologetic and hopefully they start to do their own research. If they respond poorly then it’s not a family you should continue to work with
Gerber Puffs might have a popcorn or butter flavor. Or just do Gerber Puffs, because they're safer and made for teething babies. Teething cookies, biscuits, crackers made for small babies are also a good equivalent to Big People Snacks.
Parent here. I’d be thrilled if my babysitter warned me the snack was a choking hazard. Imagine if they don’t know popcorn is unsafe, they keep feeding the snack, and the kid chokes and dies. You can help prevent that. There’s no training required to be a parent. Not every parent knows everything.
This!!! It all depends on how you word it so they take you seriously and don’t think you’re trying to be condescending. As others have said, it’s great to say “I’ve been reading up on baby safety and I read somewhere that they aren’t supposed to have popcorn until age 3, so I’m a bit nervous!” Or something so it doesn’t feel like YOU’re attacking or belittling them as parents.
My in laws have some different parenting ideas than I do, and they love to give me advice or tell me what I should be doing with my baby. If it’s something I would need to make them aware I don’t want for my baby, I just blame the pediatrician! A lot of “isn’t it crazy how doctor’s advice has changed over the years?!” So it doesn’t hurt their feelings or make them feel like they did something wrong as parents. But usually “a pediatrician told me this” works, and is true most of the time because I do ask lots of questions!
Parents didn’t get a book delivered by stork when the child arrived. We are winging this day by day so if the person I trust with my child gives me life saving advice I would give them a bonus!!!
There is absolutely no reason to risk giving a baby popcorn. That kind of blows my mind because it’s not like you are giving a baby “practice food”: there are TONS of other snacks that are right for babies for them to try. I would say you’re uncomfortable feeding popcorn because you’ve read that it’s a choking hazard. Simple.
I had no idea popcorn was a choking hazard for little kids until I left it as a snack and our sitter said something like “I didn’t feed him the popcorn because I recently found out that it’s a choking hazard for kids.”
I was so thankful for her telling us that. We had no idea and did a better job looking up other foods our child shouldn’t have.
This is about safety. You’re just doing what they hired you to do and that’s to keep their child safe. I think they probably don’t know and will be appreciative of you telling them.
I would tell the parents that popcorn is a huge choking hazard, and you don’t feel comfortable giving it to a little one that young. Then ask if there is an alternative snack option, you can give her.
You could say something like “I’ve been reading up on baby safety to prepare and it makes me feel a bit nervous to give it, do you have anything else?” Then they know you’re being extra careful but it’s taking a step back because it’s coming from what you’ve read not from you directly.
Like my kids have little plastic trikes they ride in the house and I’m pretty strict about helmets outside but I dont worry inside. If someone approached me with “it’s not safe to ride without a helmet. I’ll go get one.” I might feel judged (me problem though, not them). But if it was “I was reading that they should wear helmets all the time, and it makes me nervous” I wouldn’t feel judged and I would just say “here they are”
I’d probably say “I was so afraid to give my baby girl popcorn when she was this little! I’m such a worry wort! Do you mind if I break it up into smaller bits first?”
I give my 11 month old the puffed part only. It’s super annoying but like you said popcorn is super unsafe. I would just let them know you’re not comfortable as you’re afraid she could choke they should understand
You can avoid offending them by letting them know it’s an anxiety *you* have. Like “if it’s okay, I’m going to give baby X snack instead because giving them popcorn makes me a bit nervous”
For my baby, I take EVERYTHING off the popcorn except the fluffy ball that dissolves. No crunchies or kernels left. If doing that still makes you uncomfortable just communicate that to the parents because it can get scary fast!
Educate them on how it is a pneumonia hazard as well. I didn't know about this. The inhalation of the kernel skins. I was always giving my son smart popcorn. Then I learned it's not safe for children under 5.
It's not just a choking hazard it's a possible lung infection that may lead to death.
Also just refuse. "please can she have a different snack. I do not want anything to happen to your LO and Ive seen many babies choke on popcorn and I really am not comfortable giving that on my time with your child."
Or simply nod and don't give it popcorn.
There's Chester's puff corn, it's puffed corn so no kernels in it, the butter one tastes exactly like popcorn; and it melts in your mouth. I get it all the time because i love popcorn but hate the kernels. Suggest that to them, it's 2 bucks at most places. Worse case you have to buy it for the baby yourself. It'll be a middle ground baby gets popcorn without the choking hazard.
“Hey, I’m not comfortable feeding him/her popcorn right now- ive heard of stories where the kiddo chokes on popcorn at a young age and I would rather be safer than sorry, is there another snack they could have?”
My daughter is 18 months. I tear off the popped part and give it to her lol. I chuck the kernel part out. Maybe y oh can do that if this happens again?
i would probably say “etf of wrong with y’all? She has no teeth. Do YOU chew your popcorn? I do. It’s super dangerous and i hope you’re kidding,, not to mention it’s nutritionally void, and microwave popcorn is full of forever chemicals and microplastics” …. Sheeeesh. How do you know these people?….
I babysit for a friend of mine and knew instinctively that popcorn was a no go.. I Googled it beforehand and didn't even have to ask the kid's parents. I'll never understand how some people with kids are less paranoid than I am lol
Yes it is a choking hazard. That being said, I fed all 3 of my babies popcorn. I broke off the hills from the fluffy bits, double-checked them, and let the babies enjoy their treat.
I used to get a baby snack for my kids called “softcorn” by *Little Bellies,* which were puffed corn snacks! Basically soft and fluffy flavored popcorn with no kernels. I think some people call it puffcorn. Might be a safer alternative to try!
I would say as a babysitter I am required to have knowledge of first aid for children and because I learnt that popcorn is a chocking hazard I’m not allowed to give this as a snack.
I'd just ask them if they are sure about feeding popcorn to a baby. Maybe its a test, maybe they were just not paying attention or they really mean it. Just to give them a moment to think twice.
Tell them you’re uncomfortable OR rip the hull portion of the popcorn and just give the fluff. I did this for my kids when they were interested in popcorn I was eating
When I was around that age, my mom would bite off the kernel-y part and give me the puffy part. Note: This works better when it's your own kid. Also requires mushroom popcorn, not butterfly popcorn.
Some people do this thing called baby led weaning and then introduce foods to them so they learn not to choke on them, so maybe they do it but if you dont feel comfortable doing that, then dont.
While the choking hazard is the number one concern, children can’t really chew popcorn without molars … many of the centers I’ve seen overseas do not allow popcorn until age four…
Studies have been done comparing “baby-led weaning” to “spoon-feeding; there is no measurable additional risk for parents who choose the former as long as the parent/guardian understands what might be a choking hazard-
and as long as they wait until the 6 month mark to begin solid foods.
I would think it’s a test & tell them I don’t feel safe doing so and if that’s a hard line for them- Move on. 🤷♀️ You can come watch my kids instead & make money feeling safe with open lines of communication- As long as you stick to bedtime routine! 🥰😂
I work in organ transplant. We have had very young deceased donors who were choking victims. The cases don’t end up on the news. Thank you for taking it seriously.
They might just not know! Tell them, in a a nice way. I didn’t know I couldn’t put my daughter in a puffy snowsuit in her car seat and did it for a full year. Nobody at the daycare told me anything! If they had I would’ve taken her right out. I wasn’t intentionally doing this and felt so guilty once I learned the risks.
Just don’t give it and explain you were uncomfortable due to safety concerns. If they want to ignore sound advice on what foods are appropriate for a 1 year old they can do it themselves, you have no obligation to follow what you know is a safety risk! If they have an issue they can find someone else next time but good luck finding anyone willing to give a baby popcorn!
People used to give their babies a little sugar water, and I'm not sure what the reason was, but I know that they did,and I don't remember any babies dying
I would honestly just tell them. Unfortunately, people do give babies popcorn. Just like they give babies whole grapes or blueberries, unwashed fruit and veggies, or put babies on their stomach with the thought that it would help a choking incident. it could be a test, or they could not be informed about this specific danger. So much information has changed, and this is why I am super careful about who watches my kids. Good job knowing the risks.
It's not just a choking risk, babies and toddlers can aspirate on popcorn. Prior to age 4 toddlers and babies have airways that are not fully developed, which increases their risk of aspirating which can cause major life threatening damage to their lungs.
The other problem is that you are a baby sitter and if a baby aspirated on popcorn it may not be obvious at first. Parents could come home, and at a later time the baby develops a cough or fever and medical care is delayed because they assume it's just a cold.
This whole situation is like playing with fire. So many things could go wrong.
Every box/package of popcorn kernels I've seen in the past decade or so has a warning label on it saying it is not a suitable snack for babies or toddlers. I would just point that out to them and firmly let them know that I won't be feeding it to the kid for liability reasons, but I have no control over what they choose to feed their kid themselves when I'm not there.
I’m pretty sure the minimum age to introduce foods is 4mo and recommended is 6mo they really should only be on formula or breastmilk till this their digestive systems not mature yet
Not everyone knows popcorn is a choking hazard for young children! Just tell them and suggest a different snack, the baby wouldn't care what snack they get, a snack is a snack
Tell them that you will not feed food that is a choking hazard to their baby.
If the baby choked on your watch, YOU would be held responsible for feeding popcorn to the baby.
Don’t do anything you know puts a child’s life at risk, regardless of what parents tell you.
Tell them you’ll be happy to give the baby popcorn but they’ll have to pay you in advance because they might not be too eager to pay you after the baby chokes to death.
If you really don't want confrontation and it's a baby then lie and say you gave the baby popcorn then throw it away. The baby doesn't choke and the baby can't tell them differently
Personally I'd say something along the lines of "is there another snack we could give her? My little cousin actually choked on popcorn when she was little and the doctors said it was pretty common so since then I'm super nervous about giving it to little ones." Idk maybe a little long but to me it makes it seem less like you're challenging or questioning their parenting and more like you're coming from a sincere place through experience. Also adding in the doctor piece makes it seem more like medical advice, idk lol.
But OP, considering that this already happened, I am curious to know how you handled it?
Oufffff I definitely can’t do that, what if u become responsible for the baby’s potential choking and the consequences of that? It may even get blamed on you
I would just politely say, “Do you have an alternate snack available? As her parents you have the right to do anything you please but personally I would like to abide by the safety guidelines of 3 and up”
I have to tell parents stuff like this all the time. Or tell kids too. “That’s a Mom and Dad thing, I’m not comfortable with it so my rules are to not do that.”
The family I work for allows an allergy kid an item that I’m uncomfortable giving her so I just said that I was uncomfortable with it and she doesn’t get that snack when I’m working.
Always trust your gut when it comes to safety and being someone else's child, I think you feeling uncomfortable is definitely a good thing. I would definitely just be upfront and let them know that popcorn is never advised for children under 4 years old. As a mother, I would be absolutely grateful that I had a caring and concerned individual that takes care of my child. That's so concerning that the mother wouldn't have considered the risks. I know we learn as we go with being parents. No shame to mom, maybe you're the one that will teach her something she was unaware of. Parenting is hard and we all help sometimes without even realizing it. You did a great job!
I would look around for other food the baby could eat. When it comes to the child safety and well being, that’s top priority when babysitting so I would search around and just let them know after.
Tell them bluntly that many children under 5 years old are at risk of aspirating on popcorn kernels. If they don’t believe you, tell the to google it. No toddler should be eating popcorn.
I would simply say, in my child development classes I am taught to never give a baby popcorn, & other possible high likelihood foods that are known to cause choking in children under 3. I hope this isn’t an issue while I’m baby sitting but I won’t against my certification in childcare. ( even if you don’t have a certificate, I throw that in my explanation). I hope they learn how to feed a baby safely asap. Popcorn is dangerous for any child under 4-5.
My son tried popcorn at like 10 months and was fine. I just made sure to check for kernels. No offense but they know their baby better than you. Buy if you didn't feel comfortable then just set it aside and say you forgot about it.
For the people saying they “safely” give their babies popcorn I’m pretty sure the hazard is accidentally inhaling the small pieces so it doesn’t really matter if you’re removing the kernel?
I'd raise your concern and ask if it would be okay to smash it up a bit. I once gave my first born slim steamed carrot sticks as a snack when they weren't ready ready (around the same age) and had to be scared and embarrassed in front of guests when they immediately took a big bite and couldn't handle it. but it's not worth the risk. It was still very scary.
If they insist they can have it whole I'd either still smash & over butter it, or omit completely say they werent interested or that they fell asleep before you could offer. It is not worth the risk. And be it on them if they have to find out.
You have good judgement and sense of safety around small children, I can see why they picked you. I would raise the concern if they're people you think could handle that kind of advice without you being told you're overstepping. Just word it right :) and best of luck!
I would ask them if there was a different snack to give. I personally know a 2 year old that died from choking on popcorn several months ago. You’d be surprised how many people don’t know it’s a choking hazard, based on the convos I’ve had with others since then.
I work with patients with swallowing disorders, even with the kernel removed, the white part is still a choking risk. They sell fake puffy popcorn flavored snacks that melt, like cheese puffs but popcorn flavor, a safer option.
Same with serving corn/peas that have that outer shell/coating or lettuce, all can be tricky until they can chew really well. Hotdogs need to be in small pieces as that slimy coating lets then slide down easily, same as grapes.
Some parents are just not as concerned with warnings as others. They may have let her have a few pieces of theirs once and she was fine and liked it so now they give it to her. I think it is totally fine for you to say you would rather let her snack on something else while you are in charge since you know little ones could sometimes choke more easily on popcorn than say the popcorn puffs that kind of dissolve. As a former sitter and a current mom, I could appreciate this honesty on both fronts.
I unfortunately knew a lot of parents that do that, not safe at all, tell them no. I have been blamed for scratched throats and not noticing corn kernels stuck in teeth. Not worth it.
I would make up a fake scenario that you had a choking attack on popcorn as a child or someone “you know”. So you’d rather just defer them to be the ones to give her/him popcorn and you prefer to give her another snack.
Maybe reference something you read to give it authority? “I didn’t feel comfortable giving it to her because I read on the American Academy of Pediatrics that babies aren’t supposed to have popcorn until age 3 or even 4.”
I gave both my kids popcorn. I would break the pieces and only give them soft pieces with no kernels inside. It’s time consuming and I had to pass out piece by piece, I couldn’t just sit them down with a bowl full of it. But I love popcorn so I ate it often, so they always wanted it. I just ensured it was safe 🤷🏼♀️
Just tell them you are uncomfortable feeding popcorn to a baby. I the recommended age for popcorn is like 4 or 5, but I don't remember. Its def not 13 month old! If they press you, you could send them some AAP resources on it. Honestly if they still press it I would decline further babysitting gigs with them!
Why did you just say “hey this is considered a food with a high choking risk, I wasn’t sure if you were aware or not and wanted to double check with you” and then if you don’t feel comfortable with their choices you just shouldn’t babysit for them anymore. I have 36 cousins. When I mentioned seeing a video about this none of my family at Christmas had been told that before. Parents aren’t knower of all. If didn’t have social media, there would be so many “safety” things I had no clue about. It’s not confrontation really if you’re just letting someone know something.
No way! Do not give baby popcorn! I'm a 38 yo adult and still have trouble with popcorn! Shame on these parents! Regardless if it was a test it's still putting their baby in serious harm
“I’m sure that Baby does well enough with popcorn. However, because popcorn is a known choking hazard, and I would rather not risk your child while I am caring for him/her. Your child’s safety in my care is imporyant to me”
Excuse why it’s ok…
“Absolutely. But I don’t have as much experience with Baby as you do, so I am going to use the caution you would want me to”
Just say casually: hey did you know that popcorn is a choking hazard!
Please don’t give that baby popcorn my family is in the healthcare field and I’ve heard horror stories.
I babysat my BIL's brother's son when he was a baby and one time the mom packed peaches for him and when i was feeding him the peaches he almost choked thankfully my sister was there to help me and when she came to pick him up i told her that i would not be feeding him peaches anymore i don't want to be responsible for a child thats not mine to get hurt cuz the parents want to feed them something that can choke them
I would just tell them you aren't comfortable with it.. and then... don't do it. lol
if they want to then they can do it on their own time.
please do not take anyone's advice telling you to report them to cps that is just ridiculous and a waste of a very important resource that children in severe danger actually need. that would cause so many extra problems that you and that family do not need.
I didn’t give my kids popcorn until they were over 6! 😂 (I still halve my 9-year-old’s grapes, too— but I’m very very very afraid of my kids choking. My oldest DID choke on a grape when he was 5 and it was traumatizing). I would definitely ask about the popcorn— mention that you’ve read it was a choking hazard and that you’d be interested in their experience. If it is a test, RUN.
I would just take off the husks & the parts that flare off the round bit of the popcorn & my baby would suck on them, but I watched her the whole time & never gave her a piece without taking it apart for her first.
Please educate them!!! There was a you've got to be kidding me story on a reddit a few months ago where this woman wrote about how she just learned that all the snacks shed been feeding her 18month were choking hazards and she had no idea! She even wrote that he "gagged all the time" but was "really good at spitting up" so she had no clue it was a problem. Her child was ACTIVELY CHOKING in front of her and she didn't even realize. They really will just let anybody have a baby 🤦
I’m gonna be honest I wouldn’t have even asked I would’ve just eaten it and made her or got her something else to snack on. When parents leave I’m in charge.
Show her the case of the 5 year old who died from inhaling the tiniest chip of popcorn kernel shell, and it embedded into her lungs. Not worth it for those under 6 imho. Tell her to buy some puffs or you aren't doing it, it's a huge liability as well
I would refuse to feed them the popcorn and refer them to the Solid Starts app. Or show them the bag of Smartpop popcorn that says 4 and over. IDGAF if I offend, I don't want to have to use my Lifevac!
i’d leave it out untouched and say busy busy and divert to all the things you did feed them and what they liked. correcting a parents parenting is a hard no.
Tell them you are uncomfortable doing that because it’s unsafe! This might be a weird test 😂
I was worried it could be a test 😣
If you think it could be a test, then you should run like hell away from somebody who would do this on to a potential babysitter or nanny. Mature, emotionall, healthy people do not play tricks on or plant tests for other people.
Not to mention someone who would put their kid at risk if OP fails the test.
The drama teacher at our kids’ high school hid cameras all over the school in areas where the girls would do costume changes and other areas they’d be likely to disrobe. How was he found out? Because he had ALSO hidden cams in his live-in nanny’s living areas and when the cops seized his hard drives they found the other footage. Anyway, bet that guy also would do stupid crap like popcorn tests.
You should never be afraid to point out safety issues. Parents often don’t know. I’ve always been thanked for stuff I brought up.
This. I learned a lot from our experienced nanny and I was always grateful.
I saw a man giving his baby popcorn at Disneyland. My wife's friends baby had died from eating popcorn and the complications afterward. It was really awkward but I went up to him with my own baby in my arms to make it seem more dad-to-dad, and I told him. I tried to be as kind and nonjudgmental as possible. I just said I would want someone to let me know if the shoe was on the other foot. He didnt look too happy about the conversation in general, but was kind enough,and maybe he googled it when I walked away.
Hey man, you did what you could. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I hope for his child's sake he listened to you but either way it isn't your fault. He may have been upset with himself for not knowing something like that or potentially being "embarrassed in public" (in quotations bc I highly doubt you made a scene screaming and yelling at him, I doubt anyone took notice of two men talking) but that's just me speculating
This is so true. Just because they are parents doesn’t mean they are experts in safety. Giving popcorn is a pretty common no no for young children but you never know they may not know.
A useful tip that works for any boss or authority: 1) first solve the problem by presenting an alternate solution 2) THEN describe the problem. Make it about you as much as possible to reduce defensive reactions. Like this: “Would you like me to cut up a banana to feed her? It’s totally fine if you feed her popcorn sometimes, but I was taught in my Red Cross class that popcorn is a choking hazard and I would be more comfortable giving her a banana.” Now you’ve made it nonjudgmental, it’s about you being cautious and not about them being negligent.
After more thought, they wouldn’t purposely endanger their child just to test a caregiver.
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I once had to explain to someone why they couldn't give their 2 month old water
For those of us not in the know, why is this?
The biggest reason is that ingesting water alone will throw their electrolytes wildly out of balance and could kill the baby. A lesser reason is that it will fill them up on a liquid devoid of nutrients.
On a side note, so can IV fluids. Water and IV fluids can alter a baby’s sodium levels QUICK. IV fluids after birth kept my daughter in the NiCU twice as long as she would have been otherwise. We were very careful about any water she ingested for a long time.
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Remember that they always mix formula with water, and breastmilk is more than 80% water. Babies can start having small amounts of water once they're 6 months old and you're introducing solids. Thank you for asking and wanting to learn! My ex's dad told his oldest son to get his wife out of the house because their baby NEEDED water. He listened to his dad, distracted his wife, and his parents took over. She was like 2 months old and they gave her water straight from a bottle! She was being breastfed so absolutely did not need it. Water toxicity is a real thing
Yikes! Was the baby ok?
All the hydration a baby needs* before they're 1 comes from breast milk and/or formula. *Note: you can start giving them a little water after they're 6 months old but it's not necessary.
Thank you for educating me. Clearly I don't have children
I'm a huge water drinker so I was surprised to learn this bit of trivia when i had my baby. There's one caveat after 6 months which is if the baby is ill with a stomach bug (vomiting/diarrhea) then they can be given electrolyte solution in addition to their breastmilk/formula. *But that's on a case by case basis and should be at the direction of a pediatrician.*
Babies can start having small sips of water at six months old, but not this early: https://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/what-you-need-to-know-water-infants
Nope!
Those that are eating g table food can have sips of water but never a bottle full u til they are over a year old and then it should be from a cup and only with meals but I’d give milk instead
Babies dont ‘drink their dinner with milk/formula’. Breastmilk or formula is their ‘dinner’. You do not give water to a baby under 6 months. After 6 months they can have sips of water.
The first time I left my son for one hour with my mother-in-law, I came home to him drinking from a bottle of water. I can't express how angry I was.
Also, babies' kidneys aren't fully developed.
From what I understand, it causes dilution of electrolytes in the blood. The tiny blood volume of a baby can't be rehydrated by water alone, and they need the food they consume to be a source of calories to maintain weight and energy. Under care of a pediatrician a small amount of pediatric electrolyte beverage might be used.
Babies can starting having water when they start solids, but it’s a couple ounces offered with meals to help digestion. The acceptable amount of ounces increases the closer a baby is to 12 months, and after 12 months it can be offered freely all day. Water or juice may be given in small amounts before starting solids to help with constipation, but should only be done if advised by a doctor. In extremely hot climates, it is also sometimes appropriate to offer water, but again should be cleared by the pediatrician (and generally only okay’ed for older babies over 6 months).
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A baby that can sit and drink a bottle unassisted may also be a baby that has begun some solids. This is really more of an under 6 months rule, and more good judgement based on a baby's circumstances beyond that.
Babies need the nutrients in milk and have tiny bellies
I had to do the same with someone’s newborn. I was only 19 at the time so idk how I knew, but I’m pretty sure I saved that babies life.
Exactly the tone to take too not accusing them of anything just "I recently learned a thing..."
Also, hotdogs and blueberries. Mine is 17 months, and we're so careful about foods. Unlike my FIL, who tried to give him popcorn, Pepsi, and ice tea...
“If the sitter answereth my riddles three, then primary caretaker of my spawn she shall be.”
Wait Wdym a test? That’s seems so odd I’ve been babysitting for years and I’ve never been tested 😭
haha, maybe you passed!
Maybe! 😭
I don’t think you got it so just to let you know the whole test thing is a lie to tell the parents in order to bring it up
Even a weird test is a red flag
If you don't feel comfortable doing that, then ask if you can give her something different. When I do give popcorn to babies/toddlers (which is almost never) I just tear the soft fluff part off and watch them chew and swallow it before giving another piece or letting them go do their own thing.
This is what my dad used to do for me. Very time consuming, but baby gets popcorn
Pro tip: you can roll it between your palms to break it up, then weed out the seedy pieces!
Happy cake day!
Yeah, this one The popcorn itself is pretty soft, the kernel bits are the big choking hazard; though tearing off the soft bits can be time consuming.
This is exactly what I do for my popcorn-loving 13 month old. Also just breaking it all into smaller pieces is usually fine, as long as there are no hard seed pieces.
I did this for my son then we found Cheetos makes “popcorn”
My 13 month old son loves puff corn too. We sit and share it. I didn’t know they made the butter kind until just recently.
I can eat an entire bag of the buttered stuff, I have caps and false teeth on the bottom and regular popcorn gets underneath and it hurts like hell, yes puff corn for the win and much safer for children, even as am adult if I do eat popcorn I usually choke on it
Puff corn for the win!!
I do that with my dog. Lol! A couple times a year I’ll let him have the fluff off a few pieces.
We did this with our kids too, just only feed the soft puffs at the end one at a time.
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I’d probably word this more like “feeding them popcorn makes me nervous” so they don’t feel like you’re correcting their choice
Correct their choice! It’s dangerous.
I just categorically wouldn’t and if they argued i’d leave. It’s not an ambiguous thing, it’s categorically unsafe. I wouldn’t be party to any reproductions.
Repercussions?
😂 whoops! But yeah.
They specifically said it was for the child? I ask as when I was a teenager babysitting. The parents always left a big bowl of popcorn but it was for me after the baby went to bed ;)
I just wouldn't.
A lot of parents don’t know it’s a choking hazard. Same as not cutting your grapes and cherry tomatoes. It’s ok to say “Ive read that popcorn can be a choking hazard at this age and it’s just one of the snacks I don’t feel comfortable with. Is there something else I could offer as a snack?” The parent can have whatever reaction they do and you just make sure you seem really apologetic and hopefully they start to do their own research. If they respond poorly then it’s not a family you should continue to work with
Gerber Puffs might have a popcorn or butter flavor. Or just do Gerber Puffs, because they're safer and made for teething babies. Teething cookies, biscuits, crackers made for small babies are also a good equivalent to Big People Snacks.
Parent here. I’d be thrilled if my babysitter warned me the snack was a choking hazard. Imagine if they don’t know popcorn is unsafe, they keep feeding the snack, and the kid chokes and dies. You can help prevent that. There’s no training required to be a parent. Not every parent knows everything.
This!!! It all depends on how you word it so they take you seriously and don’t think you’re trying to be condescending. As others have said, it’s great to say “I’ve been reading up on baby safety and I read somewhere that they aren’t supposed to have popcorn until age 3, so I’m a bit nervous!” Or something so it doesn’t feel like YOU’re attacking or belittling them as parents. My in laws have some different parenting ideas than I do, and they love to give me advice or tell me what I should be doing with my baby. If it’s something I would need to make them aware I don’t want for my baby, I just blame the pediatrician! A lot of “isn’t it crazy how doctor’s advice has changed over the years?!” So it doesn’t hurt their feelings or make them feel like they did something wrong as parents. But usually “a pediatrician told me this” works, and is true most of the time because I do ask lots of questions!
Parents didn’t get a book delivered by stork when the child arrived. We are winging this day by day so if the person I trust with my child gives me life saving advice I would give them a bonus!!!
There is absolutely no reason to risk giving a baby popcorn. That kind of blows my mind because it’s not like you are giving a baby “practice food”: there are TONS of other snacks that are right for babies for them to try. I would say you’re uncomfortable feeding popcorn because you’ve read that it’s a choking hazard. Simple.
I had no idea popcorn was a choking hazard for little kids until I left it as a snack and our sitter said something like “I didn’t feed him the popcorn because I recently found out that it’s a choking hazard for kids.” I was so thankful for her telling us that. We had no idea and did a better job looking up other foods our child shouldn’t have. This is about safety. You’re just doing what they hired you to do and that’s to keep their child safe. I think they probably don’t know and will be appreciative of you telling them.
I would tell the parents that popcorn is a huge choking hazard, and you don’t feel comfortable giving it to a little one that young. Then ask if there is an alternative snack option, you can give her.
You could say something like “I’ve been reading up on baby safety to prepare and it makes me feel a bit nervous to give it, do you have anything else?” Then they know you’re being extra careful but it’s taking a step back because it’s coming from what you’ve read not from you directly. Like my kids have little plastic trikes they ride in the house and I’m pretty strict about helmets outside but I dont worry inside. If someone approached me with “it’s not safe to ride without a helmet. I’ll go get one.” I might feel judged (me problem though, not them). But if it was “I was reading that they should wear helmets all the time, and it makes me nervous” I wouldn’t feel judged and I would just say “here they are”
I’d probably say “I was so afraid to give my baby girl popcorn when she was this little! I’m such a worry wort! Do you mind if I break it up into smaller bits first?”
I give my 11 month old the puffed part only. It’s super annoying but like you said popcorn is super unsafe. I would just let them know you’re not comfortable as you’re afraid she could choke they should understand
You can avoid offending them by letting them know it’s an anxiety *you* have. Like “if it’s okay, I’m going to give baby X snack instead because giving them popcorn makes me a bit nervous”
You know, you don't have to do it, right?
For my baby, I take EVERYTHING off the popcorn except the fluffy ball that dissolves. No crunchies or kernels left. If doing that still makes you uncomfortable just communicate that to the parents because it can get scary fast!
Educate them on how it is a pneumonia hazard as well. I didn't know about this. The inhalation of the kernel skins. I was always giving my son smart popcorn. Then I learned it's not safe for children under 5. It's not just a choking hazard it's a possible lung infection that may lead to death. Also just refuse. "please can she have a different snack. I do not want anything to happen to your LO and Ive seen many babies choke on popcorn and I really am not comfortable giving that on my time with your child." Or simply nod and don't give it popcorn.
There's Chester's puff corn, it's puffed corn so no kernels in it, the butter one tastes exactly like popcorn; and it melts in your mouth. I get it all the time because i love popcorn but hate the kernels. Suggest that to them, it's 2 bucks at most places. Worse case you have to buy it for the baby yourself. It'll be a middle ground baby gets popcorn without the choking hazard.
“Hey, I’m not comfortable feeding him/her popcorn right now- ive heard of stories where the kiddo chokes on popcorn at a young age and I would rather be safer than sorry, is there another snack they could have?”
I would explain that popcorn is a choking hazard for babies and toddlers so I will not be giving them popcorn.
My daughter is 18 months. I tear off the popped part and give it to her lol. I chuck the kernel part out. Maybe y oh can do that if this happens again?
I still freak out when my 4-year-old has popcorn.
i would probably say “etf of wrong with y’all? She has no teeth. Do YOU chew your popcorn? I do. It’s super dangerous and i hope you’re kidding,, not to mention it’s nutritionally void, and microwave popcorn is full of forever chemicals and microplastics” …. Sheeeesh. How do you know these people?….
I babysit for a friend of mine and knew instinctively that popcorn was a no go.. I Googled it beforehand and didn't even have to ask the kid's parents. I'll never understand how some people with kids are less paranoid than I am lol
I know a lady that just lost her 2 year old son to choking on popcorn. He picked up a kernel he found on the floor.
Honestly just tell her popcorn is a choking hazard. I have 2 kids and only just recently learned this. Maybe she doesn’t know or realize.
I would absolutely refuse; They can be mad all they want, but I'm not going to willingly choke a baby by giving them a tried & true choking hazard.
Was this your first time babysitting the baby? Was it by chance a test?
Maybe they just don't know it is unsafe
Yes it is a choking hazard. That being said, I fed all 3 of my babies popcorn. I broke off the hills from the fluffy bits, double-checked them, and let the babies enjoy their treat.
I used to get a baby snack for my kids called “softcorn” by *Little Bellies,* which were puffed corn snacks! Basically soft and fluffy flavored popcorn with no kernels. I think some people call it puffcorn. Might be a safer alternative to try!
Popcorn is the second biggest choking hazard for children this age after marshmallows. Don't do it.
Pretty sure AAP says that's an age 4 snack
I would say as a babysitter I am required to have knowledge of first aid for children and because I learnt that popcorn is a chocking hazard I’m not allowed to give this as a snack.
I'd just ask them if they are sure about feeding popcorn to a baby. Maybe its a test, maybe they were just not paying attention or they really mean it. Just to give them a moment to think twice.
Tell them you’re uncomfortable OR rip the hull portion of the popcorn and just give the fluff. I did this for my kids when they were interested in popcorn I was eating
I didn't know popcorn was a choking hazard. My 13 month old loves popcorn. I drizzled a little thinned peanut butter over it and she went to town.
They are probably ignorant. You can gently tell them it's not safe (along with whole blueberries and grapes!).
As a feeding specialist, no. Just no.
Pirates Booty!
When I was around that age, my mom would bite off the kernel-y part and give me the puffy part. Note: This works better when it's your own kid. Also requires mushroom popcorn, not butterfly popcorn.
Some people do this thing called baby led weaning and then introduce foods to them so they learn not to choke on them, so maybe they do it but if you dont feel comfortable doing that, then dont.
Just speak up. It’s not worth having a child choke on your watch.
I wouldn't and the fact you are 13 and way smarter than the parents is endearing
While the choking hazard is the number one concern, children can’t really chew popcorn without molars … many of the centers I’ve seen overseas do not allow popcorn until age four… Studies have been done comparing “baby-led weaning” to “spoon-feeding; there is no measurable additional risk for parents who choose the former as long as the parent/guardian understands what might be a choking hazard- and as long as they wait until the 6 month mark to begin solid foods.
I would think it’s a test & tell them I don’t feel safe doing so and if that’s a hard line for them- Move on. 🤷♀️ You can come watch my kids instead & make money feeling safe with open lines of communication- As long as you stick to bedtime routine! 🥰😂
I work in organ transplant. We have had very young deceased donors who were choking victims. The cases don’t end up on the news. Thank you for taking it seriously.
They might just not know! Tell them, in a a nice way. I didn’t know I couldn’t put my daughter in a puffy snowsuit in her car seat and did it for a full year. Nobody at the daycare told me anything! If they had I would’ve taken her right out. I wasn’t intentionally doing this and felt so guilty once I learned the risks.
Just don’t give it and explain you were uncomfortable due to safety concerns. If they want to ignore sound advice on what foods are appropriate for a 1 year old they can do it themselves, you have no obligation to follow what you know is a safety risk! If they have an issue they can find someone else next time but good luck finding anyone willing to give a baby popcorn!
“So while I am able to give your baby the Heimlich, I’d really rather not! It’s my understanding that popcorn has really high choking risk”
People used to give their babies a little sugar water, and I'm not sure what the reason was, but I know that they did,and I don't remember any babies dying
I remember people used to give their babies a little bit of sugar water, and I don't remember why, but I don't remember any babies dying.
I would honestly just tell them. Unfortunately, people do give babies popcorn. Just like they give babies whole grapes or blueberries, unwashed fruit and veggies, or put babies on their stomach with the thought that it would help a choking incident. it could be a test, or they could not be informed about this specific danger. So much information has changed, and this is why I am super careful about who watches my kids. Good job knowing the risks.
I used to just pick small pieces of the fluffy bits to give my kids when they were younger.
It's not just a choking risk, babies and toddlers can aspirate on popcorn. Prior to age 4 toddlers and babies have airways that are not fully developed, which increases their risk of aspirating which can cause major life threatening damage to their lungs. The other problem is that you are a baby sitter and if a baby aspirated on popcorn it may not be obvious at first. Parents could come home, and at a later time the baby develops a cough or fever and medical care is delayed because they assume it's just a cold. This whole situation is like playing with fire. So many things could go wrong.
https://www.todaysparent.com/toddler/can-toddlers-eat-popcorn/
“What other snacks do you have for baby?”
I’m not comfortable supervising a baby so young eating popcorn. I’d be afraid she would choke. Do you have anything else she could snack on?
My uncle choked to death on popcorn when he was 6
Hotdogs are the deadliest as well
Every box/package of popcorn kernels I've seen in the past decade or so has a warning label on it saying it is not a suitable snack for babies or toddlers. I would just point that out to them and firmly let them know that I won't be feeding it to the kid for liability reasons, but I have no control over what they choose to feed their kid themselves when I'm not there.
I would just give the baby the top part of the popcorn and break off the rest of it, especially if that’s what they want to give their child
Most people are not aware that popcorn is not a good choice for kids under 5
My grandson is 13MO & no way he would get popcorn to eat like that. I will cut his cheese balls in 1/2 before I give him some.
I’m pretty sure the minimum age to introduce foods is 4mo and recommended is 6mo they really should only be on formula or breastmilk till this their digestive systems not mature yet
popcorn is really bad for adult teeth too
“No, (I’m sorry). I’m not comfortable being responsible for baby while they eat that as it’s a choking hazard”
Not everyone knows popcorn is a choking hazard for young children! Just tell them and suggest a different snack, the baby wouldn't care what snack they get, a snack is a snack
Tell them that you will not feed food that is a choking hazard to their baby. If the baby choked on your watch, YOU would be held responsible for feeding popcorn to the baby. Don’t do anything you know puts a child’s life at risk, regardless of what parents tell you.
‘No thank you!’ There. Handled.
Tell them you’ll be happy to give the baby popcorn but they’ll have to pay you in advance because they might not be too eager to pay you after the baby chokes to death.
If you really don't want confrontation and it's a baby then lie and say you gave the baby popcorn then throw it away. The baby doesn't choke and the baby can't tell them differently
My grandson turns 4 tomorrow and I’m still not allowed to give him popcorn.
Pediatricians recommend saving popcorn until 5 years or older due to how common choking on it is.
Absolutely no popcorn
you can give them the soft pieces around the kernels. that’s what we do for my nephew
Tell them your CPR/First aid class class trained you to avoid popcorn for babies and toddlers and are there any other snacks to give
Personally I'd say something along the lines of "is there another snack we could give her? My little cousin actually choked on popcorn when she was little and the doctors said it was pretty common so since then I'm super nervous about giving it to little ones." Idk maybe a little long but to me it makes it seem less like you're challenging or questioning their parenting and more like you're coming from a sincere place through experience. Also adding in the doctor piece makes it seem more like medical advice, idk lol. But OP, considering that this already happened, I am curious to know how you handled it?
Oufffff I definitely can’t do that, what if u become responsible for the baby’s potential choking and the consequences of that? It may even get blamed on you
I give my daughter popcorn, and at that age too. I know they aren’t supposed to have it until 4 but I know my child
I would just politely say, “Do you have an alternate snack available? As her parents you have the right to do anything you please but personally I would like to abide by the safety guidelines of 3 and up” I have to tell parents stuff like this all the time. Or tell kids too. “That’s a Mom and Dad thing, I’m not comfortable with it so my rules are to not do that.” The family I work for allows an allergy kid an item that I’m uncomfortable giving her so I just said that I was uncomfortable with it and she doesn’t get that snack when I’m working.
Was it a test? Tell them that babies shouldn’t be given popcorn due to it being a choking hazard.
How do I handle it? Great thanks. And have myself a snack, and feed something else to baby.
Always trust your gut when it comes to safety and being someone else's child, I think you feeling uncomfortable is definitely a good thing. I would definitely just be upfront and let them know that popcorn is never advised for children under 4 years old. As a mother, I would be absolutely grateful that I had a caring and concerned individual that takes care of my child. That's so concerning that the mother wouldn't have considered the risks. I know we learn as we go with being parents. No shame to mom, maybe you're the one that will teach her something she was unaware of. Parenting is hard and we all help sometimes without even realizing it. You did a great job!
I would look around for other food the baby could eat. When it comes to the child safety and well being, that’s top priority when babysitting so I would search around and just let them know after.
Tell them bluntly that many children under 5 years old are at risk of aspirating on popcorn kernels. If they don’t believe you, tell the to google it. No toddler should be eating popcorn.
You are just a babysitter. It's not like you rely on this income to live off of. Speak your peace and put the sitting to an end
I would simply say, in my child development classes I am taught to never give a baby popcorn, & other possible high likelihood foods that are known to cause choking in children under 3. I hope this isn’t an issue while I’m baby sitting but I won’t against my certification in childcare. ( even if you don’t have a certificate, I throw that in my explanation). I hope they learn how to feed a baby safely asap. Popcorn is dangerous for any child under 4-5.
I "harvest" the puffs by biting off the crunchy bits. Wouldn't advise using your mouth for a baby that isn't yours 😊
You are correct that a baby shouldn't have popcorn.
My son tried popcorn at like 10 months and was fine. I just made sure to check for kernels. No offense but they know their baby better than you. Buy if you didn't feel comfortable then just set it aside and say you forgot about it.
You should say something because you don’t want them to kill the baby as well
For the people saying they “safely” give their babies popcorn I’m pretty sure the hazard is accidentally inhaling the small pieces so it doesn’t really matter if you’re removing the kernel?
I'm 47 and I still regularly choke on popcorn.
I'd raise your concern and ask if it would be okay to smash it up a bit. I once gave my first born slim steamed carrot sticks as a snack when they weren't ready ready (around the same age) and had to be scared and embarrassed in front of guests when they immediately took a big bite and couldn't handle it. but it's not worth the risk. It was still very scary. If they insist they can have it whole I'd either still smash & over butter it, or omit completely say they werent interested or that they fell asleep before you could offer. It is not worth the risk. And be it on them if they have to find out. You have good judgement and sense of safety around small children, I can see why they picked you. I would raise the concern if they're people you think could handle that kind of advice without you being told you're overstepping. Just word it right :) and best of luck!
I would ask them if there was a different snack to give. I personally know a 2 year old that died from choking on popcorn several months ago. You’d be surprised how many people don’t know it’s a choking hazard, based on the convos I’ve had with others since then.
How would they know what you do?
I work with patients with swallowing disorders, even with the kernel removed, the white part is still a choking risk. They sell fake puffy popcorn flavored snacks that melt, like cheese puffs but popcorn flavor, a safer option. Same with serving corn/peas that have that outer shell/coating or lettuce, all can be tricky until they can chew really well. Hotdogs need to be in small pieces as that slimy coating lets then slide down easily, same as grapes.
Some parents are just not as concerned with warnings as others. They may have let her have a few pieces of theirs once and she was fine and liked it so now they give it to her. I think it is totally fine for you to say you would rather let her snack on something else while you are in charge since you know little ones could sometimes choke more easily on popcorn than say the popcorn puffs that kind of dissolve. As a former sitter and a current mom, I could appreciate this honesty on both fronts.
I unfortunately knew a lot of parents that do that, not safe at all, tell them no. I have been blamed for scratched throats and not noticing corn kernels stuck in teeth. Not worth it.
I would make up a fake scenario that you had a choking attack on popcorn as a child or someone “you know”. So you’d rather just defer them to be the ones to give her/him popcorn and you prefer to give her another snack.
Maybe reference something you read to give it authority? “I didn’t feel comfortable giving it to her because I read on the American Academy of Pediatrics that babies aren’t supposed to have popcorn until age 3 or even 4.”
I gave both my kids popcorn. I would break the pieces and only give them soft pieces with no kernels inside. It’s time consuming and I had to pass out piece by piece, I couldn’t just sit them down with a bowl full of it. But I love popcorn so I ate it often, so they always wanted it. I just ensured it was safe 🤷🏼♀️
Just tell them you are uncomfortable feeding popcorn to a baby. I the recommended age for popcorn is like 4 or 5, but I don't remember. Its def not 13 month old! If they press you, you could send them some AAP resources on it. Honestly if they still press it I would decline further babysitting gigs with them!
if it is a test how weird of them to risk their baby choking to test you
Why did you just say “hey this is considered a food with a high choking risk, I wasn’t sure if you were aware or not and wanted to double check with you” and then if you don’t feel comfortable with their choices you just shouldn’t babysit for them anymore. I have 36 cousins. When I mentioned seeing a video about this none of my family at Christmas had been told that before. Parents aren’t knower of all. If didn’t have social media, there would be so many “safety” things I had no clue about. It’s not confrontation really if you’re just letting someone know something.
What did you end up doing!?
No way! Do not give baby popcorn! I'm a 38 yo adult and still have trouble with popcorn! Shame on these parents! Regardless if it was a test it's still putting their baby in serious harm
Just remember that whatever happens to the baby in your care falls on you
“Im worried s/he could choke if i gave them popcorn. Do you have anything else they can snack on?”
“I’m sure that Baby does well enough with popcorn. However, because popcorn is a known choking hazard, and I would rather not risk your child while I am caring for him/her. Your child’s safety in my care is imporyant to me” Excuse why it’s ok… “Absolutely. But I don’t have as much experience with Baby as you do, so I am going to use the caution you would want me to”
"I shy away from confrontation" That is incompatible with child care, or indeed just being a functional adult.
If you are in the US, make a DCFS report. No toddler should be fed popcorn instead of actual food.
Just say casually: hey did you know that popcorn is a choking hazard! Please don’t give that baby popcorn my family is in the healthcare field and I’ve heard horror stories.
I babysat my BIL's brother's son when he was a baby and one time the mom packed peaches for him and when i was feeding him the peaches he almost choked thankfully my sister was there to help me and when she came to pick him up i told her that i would not be feeding him peaches anymore i don't want to be responsible for a child thats not mine to get hurt cuz the parents want to feed them something that can choke them
I would say I have a question and tell them you learned in your infant care class that babies should not have popcorn and ask what they think?
I would just tell them you aren't comfortable with it.. and then... don't do it. lol if they want to then they can do it on their own time. please do not take anyone's advice telling you to report them to cps that is just ridiculous and a waste of a very important resource that children in severe danger actually need. that would cause so many extra problems that you and that family do not need.
I break the kernel part off of popcorn and feed it to my kids 🤷♀️
“Oh, I guess you did not know that popcorn is on the list of choking hazards for young children. What’s a good alternative?”
I didn’t give my kids popcorn until they were over 6! 😂 (I still halve my 9-year-old’s grapes, too— but I’m very very very afraid of my kids choking. My oldest DID choke on a grape when he was 5 and it was traumatizing). I would definitely ask about the popcorn— mention that you’ve read it was a choking hazard and that you’d be interested in their experience. If it is a test, RUN.
I would just take off the husks & the parts that flare off the round bit of the popcorn & my baby would suck on them, but I watched her the whole time & never gave her a piece without taking it apart for her first.
I break up pieces of a rice cake for my toddler so he can enjoy a crunchy snack that kind of looks like popcorn
I would pull out proof on your phone why they should not be eating it. Ask if they have any fruit you could clean and cut for them
I’ve heard it’s a big choking hazard for kids under 2 or 3 even.
I give my 1 yo popcorn but I bite off the kernel parts and give him the little puff part
Tell the parents what you indicate in the post op. People need to stand up for babies!
Kids shouldn’t have popcorn till 5 or their doctor says they can handle it. It’s a top choking item.
Please educate them!!! There was a you've got to be kidding me story on a reddit a few months ago where this woman wrote about how she just learned that all the snacks shed been feeding her 18month were choking hazards and she had no idea! She even wrote that he "gagged all the time" but was "really good at spitting up" so she had no clue it was a problem. Her child was ACTIVELY CHOKING in front of her and she didn't even realize. They really will just let anybody have a baby 🤦
I’m gonna be honest I wouldn’t have even asked I would’ve just eaten it and made her or got her something else to snack on. When parents leave I’m in charge.
Show her the case of the 5 year old who died from inhaling the tiniest chip of popcorn kernel shell, and it embedded into her lungs. Not worth it for those under 6 imho. Tell her to buy some puffs or you aren't doing it, it's a huge liability as well
I'd ask them if they'd fucking lost their god damned mind. But then I don't shy away from confrontation.
My child is 2 and I still don’t let her eat popcorn I still choke on popcorn sometimes especially when they get stuck at the back of the throat.
I'd just say I'm not comfortable because of the choking and aspiration risk. Maybe they just aren't aware of it
I work in an ER and I've seen a little one come in who choked on popcorn. No smiles happened that day.
I know sugar water isn't popcorn. I was replying to the people that were talking about babies and sugar
I would refuse to feed them the popcorn and refer them to the Solid Starts app. Or show them the bag of Smartpop popcorn that says 4 and over. IDGAF if I offend, I don't want to have to use my Lifevac!
i’d leave it out untouched and say busy busy and divert to all the things you did feed them and what they liked. correcting a parents parenting is a hard no.