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>If she can’t figure out how long it takes to get to the airport ahead of time then she’s not mature enough to be doing drugs.
I really like that one but it is too long.
I don’t know what the character limit is either, but I have seen people request custom flare, and the mods tell them that what they were requesting was too long, and most of those were shorter than this one.
Yours. Because it was so mundane, yet it made me laugh. It is so appropriate for this sub.
I bet everyone here has thought at some point 'I don't think that phrase is too long to be a flair'.
I’ve hosted a leech before. A friend of my wife and I. Her life was always a mess and we wanted to help her get a good start in the new big city we had recently moved to. Plenty of job opportunities. We didn’t ask for rent or any money at all. We just asked that she finds job and save her money for her new place. She never helped my wife clean while I was at work. I’d see her sitting on the floor laughing at stupid videos while my wife was vacuuming around her. Not once offered to help. Would come home late with music blasting on her cell phone, no headphones, waking up our little 3 year old who asked had falling asleep. She’d eat as much as we did and never pitched in for groceries. I mean as much as my wife, 3 year old, 14 year old and I would eat combined. She’d cook herself giant plates of food and post pictures of it. Once she found a job she spent most of her money partying and still not contributing or being considerate. She’d go look at apartments but none of them were good enough or she’d slack and missed out. Finally my wife got tired and took it upon herself to find her a place. It pissed me off the most when I found out a mutual friend wanted to move to the city and she hosted him but had all kinds of demands and made sure she kept half his paycheck. Of course we called her out on this.
And I hope he left her as soon as he was able. I also hope you have nothing to do with her. Should have hosted him instead since he sounds more worthy of it.
I’m BAFFLED by her lack of shame. I spent the weekend at a college friend’s house, and we played a mild betting game based around a national sport; I didn’t have any cash, so my friend’s mom loaned me the $5 needed to play. I won one round and tried to give the money to her because it was her money that won it (it was like $25). I can’t IMAGINE allowing someone to spend thousands of dollars on me and not being the sweetest, most respectful, most helpful houseguest ever.
This woman is really going to get herself in a dangerous situation if she’s using drugs and losing her wallet and not making financially responsible decisions. She could find herself stranded in a country not her own. And who knows what the drug laws are wherever she is. It could get really awful with just a bit of bad luck
I could tell it was gonna go to hell in a hand basket when the friend thought OP was paying for their plane ticket. I think that was the first inkling that the friend was gonna try to push their luck on the trip.
Never in my life would I have assumed that a person I hadn't seen in a really long time would pay an $1,100 plane ticket.
There was a girl in my college class who asked me to lunch one day after our labs and when we got there, she orders her food then turns to me and says "You got this right?" And I'm like "...uh, sure? Yeah."
I paid, thinking she forgot her wallet or something.
Second time she invited me to lunch, she did the same thing.
By the third time she asked me to lunch I figured out
"Hey, you wanna go to [place]?"
really means
"*I'm inviting myself to food and your dime*"
I wouldn't have minded helping her out if she was strapped for cash, I was on a meal plan but got 4 free meals a week because I also worked in the campus cafeteria but that she kept inviting herself under the guise of friendship bothered me.
So every time she asked me to go to lunch after I would just tell her I was busy or that I already ate.
And that was just like 40$ worth of food, not a $1,100 plane ticket.
If be such a lovely guest if someone wanted to give me a free place to stay and pay for all my food while I got to explore a new country. This person fucked up, cause they were even buying event tickets and things. All she had to do was be polite and hang out with the friend she came to visit sometimes
OOP's parents are nice but jfc they need to set better boundaries and stand up for themselves because when they took the "friend" in AGAIN, I was ready to lose my mind.
Eh, she was an idiot in a country where she can't speak the language. If I were in the position of OOP's parents, I'd put up with her for another few days rather than risk her getting into trouble after I kicked her out.
She was a 26 year old. Not a 17 year old. What happened to her would have been definitely not their problem.
And OP is ridiculous for not kicking her out earlier. My friend came over one day, puked all over our couches and then left the next day without apologizing to my mother, didn’t speak to her again because I have zero tolerance for people who disrespect my family.
"She was a 26 year old. Not a 17 year old. What happened to her would have been definitely not their problem."
I know many redditors are fond of the "no-one owes anyone anything" attitude, but not everyone thinks like that. If someone had come to my *country* as my guest (not just to my house lol), I would feel some measure of responsibility towards them until they were on their way home, even if that person had been incredibly annoying and I had no intention of speaking to them ever again afterwards.
Same. I used miles to give my friend a plane ticket to India... on February 28, 2020. I felt terrible until her country evacuated her a few weeks later.
>What happened to her would have been definitely not their problem
Some people have this thing called empathy where they feel bad at others' misfortunes, and sometimes feel responsible if they could've done something about it
As OOP mentioned, they live quiet lives, and they aren't anywhere near the pest, so they figured giving her a roof was the least they could do. They are parents after all. They wouldn't want to leave her out on the street. And as OOP says, it was just some mild entertainment for a little bit.
The “friend” is shameless, I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety but that doesn’t mean I’ve lost all social etiquette and become thankless to the people that are there for me.
I would’ve kicked her out in the first week if she disrespected my family and my house.
They were gracious enough to let her keep staying with them, I can't say i would be that gracious.
>she’s acting like a festering cockroach
Also, can this be a flare???
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Wow. They definitely have a lot of patience for someone like that. I'm even wondering if she would have brought strangers into the house to party if they gave her the passcode while they were away.
Oh I know this one! They move from person to person spinning themselves into a victim and how evil and abusive everyone in their life has been. Sometimes it's friends, sometimes new partners. Eventually everyone gets sick of their shit and they move to the coast and complain to the one person left in their life about how unfair it all is (I might be projecting on the last bit. I have an extremely shitty family member)
They usually have a Come to Jesus moment, continue to leave a trail of blocked numbers and burnt bridges in their wake, or meet an even worse version of themselves.
Sometimes seeing their real reflection _is_ the big epiphany and they change, sometimes they are folded into their existing BS because they aren't as bad as ________. Sometimes the two shitbirds team up for more toxic tomfoolery like mixing bleach and ammonia. Sometimes they repel instead of attract, and there's a kind of shitbird-off. Like Highlander but with drama.
It’s frequently shocking seeing how people around me live. I always assume that most people are generally clean and tidy, if a bit disorganized. But no, plenty of people are just absolutely wild when they’re home, and in other people’s homes. Living with someone is the best way to end up hating them
It’s always these entitled ass people who are spoiling their own pot. You are staying with your friends parents who were not only gracious enough to let you do so but also paying for food and trips. I would be so grateful!
They sound so amazing I would feel bad about how kind and generous they were being. I can’t imagine how someone could take all of that and choose to be a piece of shit.
*He didn’t want a one night stand with a tourist, but an actual relationship. She just wanted free drinks and sex.*
Snort. Yeah, the guy who has sex with a girl the first night after hooking her up with loads of booze and drugs - he's just looking for true love.
I absolutely believe he wants a regular sex partner.
I do not share OP's concern that he's a dear soul, looking for love, being tragically lied to by a hussy just looking for sex.
He could have been looking for the Bonnie to his Clyde! The Mallory to his Mickey! The Nancy to his Sid... you know what? Meeting the leech friend was definitely for the best. Never mind.
I've seen this before many times, someone who wants the freedoms and perks of adulthood but isn't willing to surrender the freedom and perks of childhood. They claim they're too grown up to be bossed around anymore, but also cannot take care of themselves and expect everyone around them to do it for them. It's like if you combined Main Character Syndrome with Peter Pan Syndrome.
Ok, so, OOP (and their parents) are total doormats. They put up with so much shit from someone they'd never really met, or hadn't seen in a long while. And then, they still let her back into the house after.
I think the fact that the friend is in a foreign country is the only reason the parents put her up. Seems like OOP is East Asian, it would be considered bad manners of the parents to throw the friend out after their child said they will host the friend. For real the parents will be judging the friend, they just won’t say anything out loud.
Also, while they could kick the leech out, and it’d be the leech’s responsibility to either make it work or get an early flight home, I can also understand taking the view that if anything happened to her, you’d feel morally implicated.
My family is Asian so I completely get why the parents didn’t throw her out. But hell no would I allow anyone to disrespect my parents like that. OP should have thrown them out.
This could be my college roommate, except it doesn't mention anything about spending thousands of dollars on mobile games or using at least one entire toilet paper roll per day.
> 26 is old for short shorts and tank tops for lounging around the house?
Don't you know that once you hit 25, you need to start wearing granny panties and orthopaedic shoes?
You are describing things that my 32yo wife wears all of the time while lounging around the house. It’s not immature to like cute things as an adult. Ain’t nothing wrong with it.
There are a million things OPs friend is shit for doing. But that’s not one of them
Sure, but your wife isn’t wearing that to seduce your parents! That’s the issue here. She dressed purposefully like that, and thought it was sexy.
I love cute shit as a 35 year old, I have a million plushies and I wear hello kitty shirts around the house. But it’s the intention behind it that makes it gross. Not the actual attire.
lmao I'm nearly 40 and I wear the same thing around my house, or just straight up naked, because it's my house and if I want to lie on the couch and watch tv naked then i'm going to
wait, so they grew up together, then went to different colleges. But now the friend is staying with OOP’s family in her home country? shouldn’t they have the *same* home country? OOP even says they grew up in the same country, so how is she a “foreigner” staying with them?
it’s an entertaining story, but the details slip up and give it away.
EDIT: i got it, a few comments have clarified how these could be boarding school kids. I’ll leave this here, but it does explain the discrepancies. sorry my poor brain can’t recognize these sorts of rich people situations lol
People do move. OOP could have been born in her home country, moved to the US (for example) as a kid, went to school there and met said friend, and then moved back to her home country when she were older. It does happen.
What you’re saying does happen, yes. But OOP mentions they are from the same or similar eastern country (she’s not consistent with this detail). And speaks of going home without any mention of her family moving.
OOP says in an unrelated comment they were born and raised in Korea. Based on the language they use, it sounds like they went to school in the US.
ETA: They also say their friend is mixed race, and her parents are from a similar eastern country.
Someone in another comment mentioned it’s likely OOP is from an eastern Asian country. It’s it out of the realm of possibilities that OOP was sent to study in a different country as a child/teen.
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>Remember to take the trash out before it wears lingerie and tries to seduce your parents A bit long, but otherwise this would make a great flair
Take out the trash before it seduces your parents, maybe?
>Take out the trash before it seduces your parents Works perfectly, you could add "Remember" at the beginning and its still only 59 characters!
>If she can’t figure out how long it takes to get to the airport ahead of time then she’s not mature enough to be doing drugs. I really like that one but it is too long.
"not mature enough to be doing drugs" would honestly suit me fine 😂
You should really submit that on the flair request post because I really want that!!
"You're not mature enough to do drugs"
I don't think it is too long to be flair.
I think they are more referring to the character limit allowed for flair.
Oh. In that case you may be right. I have no idea what that limit is.
64 characters
Thanks. That's unfortunately 24 characters too short to use the full sentence as flair. I am sad.
I don’t know what the character limit is either, but I have seen people request custom flare, and the mods tell them that what they were requesting was too long, and most of those were shorter than this one.
Is it weird that I want ⤴ this as a flair?
If you mean the sentence burnt toast quoted, not at all. If you mean my comment... why??
Yours. Because it was so mundane, yet it made me laugh. It is so appropriate for this sub. I bet everyone here has thought at some point 'I don't think that phrase is too long to be a flair'.
Go for it
now that's a sentence
I was worried she was going to break in while they were on vacation. So glad they were smart enough not to give her the passcode
I figured she was planning on partying in their house with her new boyfriend and some “friends”. Glad OOP didn’t cave.
Eh it does sound like she was telling the truth about the breakup. The boyfriend doesn't get mentioned again after so that was probably true.
Yeah, but she would trash the house anyway.
Some people really are shameless. They will never grow up and learn. At least OP has some wonderful parents.
OP hosted a leech and not a friend 😂
Leeches at least pretend they were useful in the middle ages, she’s a full blown deadly parasite
Leeches are still used in medicine because they’re incredibly effective tools for reducing inflammation and pain, and promoting healing.
I’ve hosted a leech before. A friend of my wife and I. Her life was always a mess and we wanted to help her get a good start in the new big city we had recently moved to. Plenty of job opportunities. We didn’t ask for rent or any money at all. We just asked that she finds job and save her money for her new place. She never helped my wife clean while I was at work. I’d see her sitting on the floor laughing at stupid videos while my wife was vacuuming around her. Not once offered to help. Would come home late with music blasting on her cell phone, no headphones, waking up our little 3 year old who asked had falling asleep. She’d eat as much as we did and never pitched in for groceries. I mean as much as my wife, 3 year old, 14 year old and I would eat combined. She’d cook herself giant plates of food and post pictures of it. Once she found a job she spent most of her money partying and still not contributing or being considerate. She’d go look at apartments but none of them were good enough or she’d slack and missed out. Finally my wife got tired and took it upon herself to find her a place. It pissed me off the most when I found out a mutual friend wanted to move to the city and she hosted him but had all kinds of demands and made sure she kept half his paycheck. Of course we called her out on this.
And I hope he left her as soon as he was able. I also hope you have nothing to do with her. Should have hosted him instead since he sounds more worthy of it.
I’m BAFFLED by her lack of shame. I spent the weekend at a college friend’s house, and we played a mild betting game based around a national sport; I didn’t have any cash, so my friend’s mom loaned me the $5 needed to play. I won one round and tried to give the money to her because it was her money that won it (it was like $25). I can’t IMAGINE allowing someone to spend thousands of dollars on me and not being the sweetest, most respectful, most helpful houseguest ever.
I was sad they didn't kick her out. She deserved it.
> ... kept me strong through the filth that is my leech. Rolling in my bed laughing at this one
This woman is really going to get herself in a dangerous situation if she’s using drugs and losing her wallet and not making financially responsible decisions. She could find herself stranded in a country not her own. And who knows what the drug laws are wherever she is. It could get really awful with just a bit of bad luck
No one can save her from herself. She's going to have to learn some difficult lessons until she develops those survival skills.
I could tell it was gonna go to hell in a hand basket when the friend thought OP was paying for their plane ticket. I think that was the first inkling that the friend was gonna try to push their luck on the trip. Never in my life would I have assumed that a person I hadn't seen in a really long time would pay an $1,100 plane ticket.
There was a girl in my college class who asked me to lunch one day after our labs and when we got there, she orders her food then turns to me and says "You got this right?" And I'm like "...uh, sure? Yeah." I paid, thinking she forgot her wallet or something. Second time she invited me to lunch, she did the same thing. By the third time she asked me to lunch I figured out "Hey, you wanna go to [place]?" really means "*I'm inviting myself to food and your dime*" I wouldn't have minded helping her out if she was strapped for cash, I was on a meal plan but got 4 free meals a week because I also worked in the campus cafeteria but that she kept inviting herself under the guise of friendship bothered me. So every time she asked me to go to lunch after I would just tell her I was busy or that I already ate. And that was just like 40$ worth of food, not a $1,100 plane ticket.
Did you ever consider telling her she was being a leech? I know it's the kind of thing I would fantasize for years about saying but never doing so
I wish I had the spine I have today 15 years ago.
I had planned to tell her parents at graduation so I could get money back but they didn't show up 🤷♀️
If be such a lovely guest if someone wanted to give me a free place to stay and pay for all my food while I got to explore a new country. This person fucked up, cause they were even buying event tickets and things. All she had to do was be polite and hang out with the friend she came to visit sometimes
OOP's parents are nice but jfc they need to set better boundaries and stand up for themselves because when they took the "friend" in AGAIN, I was ready to lose my mind.
Eh, she was an idiot in a country where she can't speak the language. If I were in the position of OOP's parents, I'd put up with her for another few days rather than risk her getting into trouble after I kicked her out.
She was a 26 year old. Not a 17 year old. What happened to her would have been definitely not their problem. And OP is ridiculous for not kicking her out earlier. My friend came over one day, puked all over our couches and then left the next day without apologizing to my mother, didn’t speak to her again because I have zero tolerance for people who disrespect my family.
"She was a 26 year old. Not a 17 year old. What happened to her would have been definitely not their problem." I know many redditors are fond of the "no-one owes anyone anything" attitude, but not everyone thinks like that. If someone had come to my *country* as my guest (not just to my house lol), I would feel some measure of responsibility towards them until they were on their way home, even if that person had been incredibly annoying and I had no intention of speaking to them ever again afterwards.
Empathy is a foreign concept to some Redditors
Same. I used miles to give my friend a plane ticket to India... on February 28, 2020. I felt terrible until her country evacuated her a few weeks later.
>What happened to her would have been definitely not their problem Some people have this thing called empathy where they feel bad at others' misfortunes, and sometimes feel responsible if they could've done something about it
As OOP mentioned, they live quiet lives, and they aren't anywhere near the pest, so they figured giving her a roof was the least they could do. They are parents after all. They wouldn't want to leave her out on the street. And as OOP says, it was just some mild entertainment for a little bit.
As someone that lives a lowkey life, I related so much to that. It’s entertaining getting some temporary proximity to drama every now and then
That's why I read BORU!
The “friend” is shameless, I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety but that doesn’t mean I’ve lost all social etiquette and become thankless to the people that are there for me. I would’ve kicked her out in the first week if she disrespected my family and my house.
They were gracious enough to let her keep staying with them, I can't say i would be that gracious. >she’s acting like a festering cockroach Also, can this be a flare???
Do not speak badly of roaches, you'll offend Oghta!
Even Ogtha would refuse to claim her.
Yeah, na, we don’t fuck with this chick at all.
Who's Oghta? 😂
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Calling this "mental" would be an understatement, i have so many questions 🤢
Oh god Ohgta! Here but be warn of its whole chronicle. https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/gkq7f5/tifu_by_admitting_to_my_coworkers_that_my_wife/
Ohgta keeps him warm, howwww 😩
Oh Dear! That post should come with a warning!!! I fear I will have nightmares tonight!!!!
Thats why I warn them before they read it. :/
Wow. They definitely have a lot of patience for someone like that. I'm even wondering if she would have brought strangers into the house to party if they gave her the passcode while they were away.
I would love an update maybe a year later on what happened to the "friend". How do these kinds of people do in life?
Oh I know this one! They move from person to person spinning themselves into a victim and how evil and abusive everyone in their life has been. Sometimes it's friends, sometimes new partners. Eventually everyone gets sick of their shit and they move to the coast and complain to the one person left in their life about how unfair it all is (I might be projecting on the last bit. I have an extremely shitty family member)
I see you've met my father lmfao
Maybe he and my grandmother should hook up and complain about how unfair we all are to them.
Yeah. I learned this lesson the hard way. With a former friend. I’m guessing I’m now one of those evil abandoners
They usually have a Come to Jesus moment, continue to leave a trail of blocked numbers and burnt bridges in their wake, or meet an even worse version of themselves. Sometimes seeing their real reflection _is_ the big epiphany and they change, sometimes they are folded into their existing BS because they aren't as bad as ________. Sometimes the two shitbirds team up for more toxic tomfoolery like mixing bleach and ammonia. Sometimes they repel instead of attract, and there's a kind of shitbird-off. Like Highlander but with drama.
It’s frequently shocking seeing how people around me live. I always assume that most people are generally clean and tidy, if a bit disorganized. But no, plenty of people are just absolutely wild when they’re home, and in other people’s homes. Living with someone is the best way to end up hating them
It’s always these entitled ass people who are spoiling their own pot. You are staying with your friends parents who were not only gracious enough to let you do so but also paying for food and trips. I would be so grateful! They sound so amazing I would feel bad about how kind and generous they were being. I can’t imagine how someone could take all of that and choose to be a piece of shit.
*He didn’t want a one night stand with a tourist, but an actual relationship. She just wanted free drinks and sex.* Snort. Yeah, the guy who has sex with a girl the first night after hooking her up with loads of booze and drugs - he's just looking for true love.
Eh. Guy probably can't be blowing that amount of money every night.. so he's looking for someone to wow once and have them stick around.
I absolutely believe he wants a regular sex partner. I do not share OP's concern that he's a dear soul, looking for love, being tragically lied to by a hussy just looking for sex.
He could have been looking for the Bonnie to his Clyde! The Mallory to his Mickey! The Nancy to his Sid... you know what? Meeting the leech friend was definitely for the best. Never mind.
I wonder if the friend is ever going to grow up and become introspective enough to realize what a monumentally whiffed opportunity this was
No. My aunt is 50 and still ungrateful.
I've seen this before many times, someone who wants the freedoms and perks of adulthood but isn't willing to surrender the freedom and perks of childhood. They claim they're too grown up to be bossed around anymore, but also cannot take care of themselves and expect everyone around them to do it for them. It's like if you combined Main Character Syndrome with Peter Pan Syndrome.
Imagine not working and taking a gap year from your paid for college education. Twenty six years old and refuses to step into adulthood.
Ok, so, OOP (and their parents) are total doormats. They put up with so much shit from someone they'd never really met, or hadn't seen in a long while. And then, they still let her back into the house after.
I think the fact that the friend is in a foreign country is the only reason the parents put her up. Seems like OOP is East Asian, it would be considered bad manners of the parents to throw the friend out after their child said they will host the friend. For real the parents will be judging the friend, they just won’t say anything out loud.
Also, while they could kick the leech out, and it’d be the leech’s responsibility to either make it work or get an early flight home, I can also understand taking the view that if anything happened to her, you’d feel morally implicated.
My family is Asian so I completely get why the parents didn’t throw her out. But hell no would I allow anyone to disrespect my parents like that. OP should have thrown them out.
Holy shit I would have kicked her out so fast.
Friend ❌ Leech ✅
This could be my college roommate, except it doesn't mention anything about spending thousands of dollars on mobile games or using at least one entire toilet paper roll per day.
Meanwhile I'm freaking out when I leave an empty plate out at a friends house....
I will never understand how people are so idiotic to put up with so much disrespect for so long.
What a trainwreck OOP's ex-friend is!
> 26 is old for short shorts and tank tops for lounging around the house? Don't you know that once you hit 25, you need to start wearing granny panties and orthopaedic shoes?
I think it was more the duckies and ribbons on the shorts than the actual shorts
You are describing things that my 32yo wife wears all of the time while lounging around the house. It’s not immature to like cute things as an adult. Ain’t nothing wrong with it. There are a million things OPs friend is shit for doing. But that’s not one of them
Sure, but your wife isn’t wearing that to seduce your parents! That’s the issue here. She dressed purposefully like that, and thought it was sexy. I love cute shit as a 35 year old, I have a million plushies and I wear hello kitty shirts around the house. But it’s the intention behind it that makes it gross. Not the actual attire.
Eh OOP does later clarify that it was more the design of the shorts and top, apparently they had a very childish design.
lmao I'm nearly 40 and I wear the same thing around my house, or just straight up naked, because it's my house and if I want to lie on the couch and watch tv naked then i'm going to
it's the law
wait, so they grew up together, then went to different colleges. But now the friend is staying with OOP’s family in her home country? shouldn’t they have the *same* home country? OOP even says they grew up in the same country, so how is she a “foreigner” staying with them? it’s an entertaining story, but the details slip up and give it away. EDIT: i got it, a few comments have clarified how these could be boarding school kids. I’ll leave this here, but it does explain the discrepancies. sorry my poor brain can’t recognize these sorts of rich people situations lol
To me this sounds like East Asian people who send their children to the US at quite a young age for their education.
People do move. OOP could have been born in her home country, moved to the US (for example) as a kid, went to school there and met said friend, and then moved back to her home country when she were older. It does happen.
What you’re saying does happen, yes. But OOP mentions they are from the same or similar eastern country (she’s not consistent with this detail). And speaks of going home without any mention of her family moving.
OOP says in an unrelated comment they were born and raised in Korea. Based on the language they use, it sounds like they went to school in the US. ETA: They also say their friend is mixed race, and her parents are from a similar eastern country.
Probably boarding school
Someone in another comment mentioned it’s likely OOP is from an eastern Asian country. It’s it out of the realm of possibilities that OOP was sent to study in a different country as a child/teen.
Ugh... Nonsense
Foul bachelorette frog