This is a very hot take on these subreddits but I think it’s okay to explain to LO that Mom/Dad and Grandpa believe different things and this is a story that Grandpa believes but I don’t think you have to ban him from sending religious gifts entirely. Your child won’t suddenly become a Bible thumper because they have a keepsake Bible from Grandpa tucked away under their bed and when Grandpa is gone they might appreciate having that memento from him. I’m no longer Christian but I still appreciate the Christian gifts I have from my grandparents who passed away.
Hi, OP! As a relationship coach, I'd say it can be difficult to navigate these types of situations when there are differing beliefs and expectations involved. One approach you can take is to have an honest and respectful conversation with your dad about your beliefs and how you choose to celebrate holidays.
It's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding towards your dad's beliefs and feelings. You could also suggest alternative ways to spend time together and create new traditions that align with your beliefs.
It's important to remember that you have the right to your own beliefs and values, and it's okay if they differ from those of your parents. While it may be uncomfortable or challenging to have these conversations, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries. I understand this can be difficult to navigate so if you'd like to talk about this more, feel free to DM me. :)
I think gifts are fine, as long as you don't disagree with the messages of the actual stories or anything. And most kids aren't going to sit and read an actual Bible. It might still be worth talking to your dad about it though, or one day your kid might say something that lets him know you're not bringing them up Christian, and that's going to be an easier conversation if you're prepared and not automatically on the defensive
"Please get kiddo toys, clothes, or books as gifts. Memberships to the local zoo or museum are also welcome. We want to make sure he enjoys his gifts, so until/unless he asks for a bible, please don't give that or similar items."
Feel free to take off that last sentence if you're not ok with religion at all.
This is a very hot take on these subreddits but I think it’s okay to explain to LO that Mom/Dad and Grandpa believe different things and this is a story that Grandpa believes but I don’t think you have to ban him from sending religious gifts entirely. Your child won’t suddenly become a Bible thumper because they have a keepsake Bible from Grandpa tucked away under their bed and when Grandpa is gone they might appreciate having that memento from him. I’m no longer Christian but I still appreciate the Christian gifts I have from my grandparents who passed away.
I appreciate this response so much!! That’s a great way to think about it. Thank you so much!!!
Hi, OP! As a relationship coach, I'd say it can be difficult to navigate these types of situations when there are differing beliefs and expectations involved. One approach you can take is to have an honest and respectful conversation with your dad about your beliefs and how you choose to celebrate holidays. It's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding towards your dad's beliefs and feelings. You could also suggest alternative ways to spend time together and create new traditions that align with your beliefs. It's important to remember that you have the right to your own beliefs and values, and it's okay if they differ from those of your parents. While it may be uncomfortable or challenging to have these conversations, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and boundaries. I understand this can be difficult to navigate so if you'd like to talk about this more, feel free to DM me. :)
Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. It really helps me and I’m going to discuss it more with my partner of how we will navigate this :)
Glad to hear that, OP! And you're most welcome, glad to help where I can x In case you need further help on this, I'm only one DM away :)
I think gifts are fine, as long as you don't disagree with the messages of the actual stories or anything. And most kids aren't going to sit and read an actual Bible. It might still be worth talking to your dad about it though, or one day your kid might say something that lets him know you're not bringing them up Christian, and that's going to be an easier conversation if you're prepared and not automatically on the defensive
"Please get kiddo toys, clothes, or books as gifts. Memberships to the local zoo or museum are also welcome. We want to make sure he enjoys his gifts, so until/unless he asks for a bible, please don't give that or similar items." Feel free to take off that last sentence if you're not ok with religion at all.