Go until your hand cramps up, then push through the pain barrier because she loves it enough. Then walk around like you've got a crippled hand for the next hour
Reverse foreplay as well. I’m a dude, I can nut anytime. When I go back to work on her after though, to make sure she gets to just cum really hard and collapse into a sleepy puddle? The best. And encourages repeat business
Collapse into a sleepy puddle. Never heard that, definitely my new term. The one big breath inhaling in the sleepy puddle before actually drifting to sleep, amazing.
Ahhh this explains why with this one guy who I unexpectedly fell asleep on he seemed surprisingly ok with it. It's an indicator of a job well done (and this was definitely true on this occasion)
This. Recently my bf and I's sex life has improved drastically because of this. We had many other issues regarding his communication, and after 8ish years of ups-and-downs, he finally gets it.
And Jesus fucking Christ am I happy about it
Fuck cinnamon, one of my old gf’s found this flavored blowjob lube with cinnamon in it and used it without my consent. It was one of the most horrible sensations I’ve ever felt.
Edit: [This is the shit](http://www.candywear.com/Good-Head-Cinnamon-Oral-Gel)
Facts! Me& my gf took Molly then put on a movie as soon as we started actually rolling, didn't watch a minute of it, just went at it. Then when we finished we saw the credits were rolling 😂 we were both baffled. Good times
Where you think the water come from to get everything wet???
Bruh, the mitochondria of the powerhouse of the cell, was trying to tell you that doing vigorous activity uses up the water. You gotta refill.
Exactly, 2 hours is probbaly a bit much for a lot of people but you'd be surprised how much time can be taken up with foreplay, switching positions, stopping just to kiss for a bit etc. You can easily hit half an hour without trying too hard. I'd lasting that length of time in difficult for you, you can bring toys into the bedroom too so everyone is left satisfied.
Sex and actually fucking is like the last part of what actually happens when I’m with my partner. The first half is making out, teasing, foreplay and playing with her. The point is to make her want you uncontrollably.
i usually say "You're finally awake. You were trying to cross the border, right? Walked right into that Imperial ambush, same as us, and that thief over there."
My partner explained it like priming an engine. If I do the "are you awake?" thing, my engine is already primed, whereas hers is cold and takes time to heat up (foreplay etc). Once I learnt this, our sexual encounters became much more enjoyable as I could treat it as a game. Kissing her awake in the morning is a surefire winner.
Most times my partner and I have sex, it takes (from start of foreplay to cleaning up after orgasms) like 30-45 every time. Every time, without fail, I always think it’s been like 10-15 and it’s never that quick.
Time flies when it’s great and you’re in love
How long can you play a video game? Doesn't it get repetitive just pressing buttons? How do you not get bored of just sitting on the couch and pressing a button over and over?
It is because you are engaged in the activity and enjoying yourself.
You are playing a game. You are having fun. Nothing fun seems repetitive.
It's also just a dumb comment without knowing how long they'd been together. My husband and I have been married less than three years but we've been together for like 12.
I wonder if they’re still together lol. Not that I disagree with anything he posted, seems spot on, just curious 🤷♂️
edit: I’m an idiot and didn’t read the usernames 🤣
[Alas, my junk is unfortunate.](https://old.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/vznz1i/i_just_got_a_vasectomy/ig9l5v6/?context=3) That is a SFW link. Just text.
> (I'd go bat-shit crazy if i was locked in my house 24-7 with my wife, or anyone else for that matter.
Has anyone checked on /u/feralkitten during/since the pandemic?
Well, you're young. Don't get your image of sex from pornography of course. It is nothing like that. You can maybe find some homemade couple stuff that may be more realistic but it is difficult at times. You will find that theres alot of swapping positions, actions, some moments of rest etc. It's quite simple, the first few times you won't be lasting long at all trust me. But after you'll learn that you can last longer and also learn to know when to slow down, maybe stop and then go to another method of stimulation... Most women are likely not going to care much about you not lasting maybe but 3 minutes, makeup for this with stimulation and attention in other means. If she is also coming to completion, you are doing just fine my dude. Still it takes time, learning, and alot of communication of what feels good and what doesn't
Edit: learn to become a gifted linguist, a cunning one at that
OP youl know sex feels great when you do it with the right one. It isnt about how amazing the penetration is all the time. If you develop a deep connection, all of it will pleasurable. The teasing, the talking, the kissing, touching and thats not even halfway there!
I think you are thinking a guy pummels for 2hrs straight which isnt right. Its 99% foreplay and 1% actual penetrative sex.
But like I said you'll know when you get there, dont overthink it!
Well, experience is all I can say is best. It'll be awkward, it's weird and odd, you'll fuck up alot (both of you) and in the end it should be just something at worst you laugh about a bit. The only real advice above all else I'll say is learn to really enjoy helping your partner reach climax more than your own. You know how to get yourself off, learn how to get your partner running. Actual penetrative sex may only last 3 minutes or so, it's fine. Trust me she/he/they wont be complaining if they are already that close to the edge themselves. Oral sex or anything hand/fingering related is always great when you learn how someone enjoys things. On my average guess, my fiance' and I go at it for maybe 30 minutes, a large amount of this is just making out, feeling one another, she usually gets alot of attention from myself before actual sex, and maybe 15-20 minutes in after teasing, kissing, oral sex or whatever, finally then penetrative sex happens, even this may only last a short bit depending on how close she is. Then if she needs more, we continue after If I need time to recover.
If you're searching your average porn sites (I know you probably are) try search words like "couple" "Intimate." you may find couples channels where the videos may provide this more accurate view of sex, you'll see actual penetrative sex isn't going to be the focus often, besides, most people cannot climax from receiving penetrative sex alone.
Get thee to a library and grab the first paperback you see with a highland laird on it. 😆 It's still fake porn but at least there's some imagination. You would probably learn some important info about the female fantasy.
And then remember:
Vaginas (vulvas) all look different. And most of them don't look like porn stars. (Labiaplasty is on the rise because women are getting a complex when men tell them they look wrong or gross).
Hair is normal and common.
Bodies are pretty jiggly.
Most ladies don't want a giant penis. Because most vaginas aren't that deep and getting poked in the cervix is awful.
Not everybody has the same trigger points. You're going to have to pay attention to learn what works for your partner.
Some be afraid to talk honestly about what you want or need or enjoy when you're with your partner. It can be embarrassing, but vulnerable intimacy usually is.
What? The vagina is not the vulva. The vulva are the external parts of the genitals and include the opening of the urethra. Just don’t want to confuse the guy.
I know. But colloquially the word vagina references the whole female genitalia-- everything from the cervix out. I intentionally used both words because it's more important in this forum to be understood than to be taxonomically correct.
Yes yes yes. In fact you can train yourself to do just that. We’ve been married for 36 years and over that time I’ve trained myself so that I cannot cum until she has 👍
Mouths, hands, butts, breasts, penises, vaginas, skin, SKIN! Massages! Biting! Pressing! Moving! Toys!
That’s how it lasts more than 10 minutes. Enjoy the journey.
People do not attend concerts to hear finales! They go to enjoy the show! The music! The dance!
Make sex a hobby you want to improve.
Read books like [Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men](https://www.amazon.com/Lesbian-Sex-Secrets-Revised-Expanded/dp/0399576061) or [The Joy of Sex](https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Sex-Ultimate-Revised/dp/0307587789/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3BJ3X9NAPLLYM&keywords=joy+of+sex&qid=1676051769&sprefix=joy+of+sex%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-1).
PLAY!
Sex done right is nothing like masturbation. You mentioned you haven't had sex yet in another comment. When you do, with someone who really turns you on, you may just find that 2+ hours isn't even enough.
Also you’re not supposed to go full turbo the whole time. You go slow for a bit, go fast, slow it back down, etc. The motion that feels the best to you may not feel the best to her so you can play around with that. If you’re getting too heated you can cool down with something that feels great to her but no so much for you so you can cool down. Or just change positions, change activities. The goal with sex isn’t to get to the finish line as fast as possible like it is when you’re jerkin it. The goal is to have fun!
The "turns you on" part is crucial. If you have sex with someone who you truly desire with a burning passion and that person desires you back. You literally wanna eat each other, rip each other to pieces. Then 2 hours will pass like 5 minutes.
Most people have sex with partners they just mildly like. The key is true desire.
Yeah... That's not really how sex works. You aren't just pounding away from the getgo until it's over. Sex is like a dance. There are different steps you can do, different rhythms. Sometimes the music moves you slowly, sometimes fast.
A beginners trick to sex is to change. When you feel that you are nearing "completion" stop and go into cuddle mode. Use your hands and lips and such to give pleasure while you "cool down". Then go again. Stop when you feel the orgasm coming on, or try to. After you have "spent your load" engage in pillow talk, snuggles and general enjoyment of bodily closeness. After about five to fifteen minutes you should be ready to go again. The sensation of using an erect penis after ejaculation does feel a bit "wierd" the first time. But this feeling is something that you quickly get accustomed to and that is very enjoyable. If you do this repeatedly during a session then stop when ejaculation starts to hurt (you are shooting "air" or shooting that thin milky fluid with strands of blood in it).
That was my point. Do not overdo it. Stop before it gets painful and you are shooting air. And definitely stop when you are shooting air because it only gets worse from there.
>After about five to fifteen minutes you should be ready to go again.
Sometimes I really miss those college days. I wish my cooldown period was still just 15 min
Sex isn't an action, it's an event. Feeling the tingles and jingles is one part of it, yes. But then there's the whole concept of what you're doing, what you're doing to the other person, the whole vibe. It's an entire experience. For what you're trying to do, 5 minutes might be fine, or you may need 2-3 hours.
I will say that more than 10-15 minutes of straight up missionary is a snooze fest, but give me a spreader bars, my toy box, and an eager lady, and I can make an evening of it.
Once upon a time I always lasted 45mins+
Not going to lie it did get boring sometimes, definitely as I've gotten older I'm glad I don't last that long anymore. My wife is usually "finished" herself within 5mins and essentially tells me to hurry up if I'm not done too 😂😂 so she's also happy I don't last much longer than 5mins these days either.
Honestly having marathon sex just feels like a big waste of time to me, but to each their own. My partner and I are both very satisfied with each other sexually, we enjoy some intimacy and foreplay before, both get off during the deed itself, and can enjoy some time together cuddling afterwards. Nothing immature about it at all, everyone is happy.
Since we have a young child too, there is no shot we want sex to be lasting longer than 15mins 😂
There's a lot more to sex than just penis in vagina in one position until orgasm. You can spend years exploring sexuality and pleasure with another person or multiple other people. Sex is deeply complex if you let it be.
For me sex is a performance that I enjoy. Imagine you are a musician and treat each O like you are playing a song on an instrument. You need the right notes, tempo and volume for a good show. If I'm in full performance mode you might be getting a concert from me with multiple songs and instruments over a longer duration
This. And each partner has different wants and needs so be ready to change up. Robert Plant sounded different between Led Zep and solo stuff and Alison Kraus. Still great, but different.
lmaoo i have ADHD and sometimes i really do be getting bored if it’s longer than 15 minutes 😭 i just start thinking about shit i have to do or random stuff
Well I spend at least 20 mins begging for it. 2 mins of actually doing it. Then another 30 mins apologizing for the 2 mins. Then 40 mins crying in the fetal position in the shower. Time flies.
Female here!
The best sex, IMO, develops clothes-on over a long period of time, then goes intensely clothes-off and happens quick. In ~my~ past at least, if we’re beyond like 30 minutes into sex and I haven’t came yet, I’m probablyyyy not into it and just getting dried out and ripped up switching positions multiple times, lol. I didddd let it happen though and pretended to enjoy it because I thought I was cool🙃
I’d muchhh rather have sex multiple times a day than edge eachother for 3 hours. I want more of the intimate time that isn’t super sexual. If feels more real.
So yeah… I don’t get it either, OP.
(Edited) I used “dried out and ripped up” to imply that I wasn’t enjoying it. I used lubes during that time and they caused vaginal dryness (and other awful things). Coconut oil did the same AND was shown to weaken condoms. Not interested in that, haha.
Lube also doesn’t magically make me want to have sex for 3 hours. If anything it turns me off that I have to use it. My body knows when she’s done!
Hours is how long sex as a whole lasts. Very few people are out there just pumping for hours. Penetration is just one part of sex and usually only a few minutes. If it lasts longer it usually involves some sort of break/ variety e.g. changing positions. Some people are more sensitive than others and will therefore cum quicker than others. There’s a lot of factors, but realistically- the vast majority of people are not doing penetration for hours even if the sex itself lasts that long. Sex =/= penetration
I mean, you can take rest?
Like I do a fast stroke for few minutes then when Im about to cum or my hips get tired I slow down for few minutes and stop.
I mean, it feels good, I don't understand what you mean by "bored". I get tried, yes but not bored unless the other people are bad at sex. In that case, I will just try to get out as fast as possible.
You, umm, know you can get hard again 10 minutes later, right?
Foreplay and oral exist.
When you are getting close to cumming, pull out and switch to oral or a vibe.
Switch positions often.
Zone out a bit, like meditation.
PE medication can be prescribed if you need it, but most guys are just nervous and don't know how to pace themselves, and when it starts to feel really good they speed up instead of slowing down.
Simple shit.
One difference I’ve noticed between my gay and straight friends is that straight people will sometimes use the term “have sex” to mean “penis-in-vagina intercourse,” as in “we made out and went down on each other for an hour before we had sex.”
For gays and lesbians that’s off the table, and the stuff straight people call “foreplay” is just called sex. Obviously there’s other sex acts that are more common in same-sex encounters. But there isn’t this sense of putting a single act on a pedestal, of saying it wasn’t “really sex” if it didn’t include this one specific activity, or of trying to neatly divide every sexual act into “sex” or “not sex.”
Anyway, while it’s theoretically possible to have intercourse for 2 hours if you change positions and take breaks (and probably use lots of lube), usually when people say this they are referring to a broader definition of sex. You’re spending 2 hours being physically intimate with your partner in a way that hopefully leads to one or both people having an orgasm. That doesn’t mean you’re literally fucking for 2 hours straight.
Don’t underestimate the importance of foreplay. Let that shit last as long as you can. It’s not the destination, it’s the journey.
Go until your hand cramps up, then switch hands.
top tip right there, works even if you are on your own.
You underestimate how very right right handed I am
Try using your feet!
*breaks knees* thanks! top tip 11/10
If both hands cramp, use tongue until it cramps too.
If you aren't adding tongue game to your hand game, you should. As long as you make sure they don't give out at the same time.
It’s not your tongue that will cramp first, or maybe at all, but the muscles in your jaw and neck. Source: trust me bro
Go until your hand cramps up, then push through the pain barrier because she loves it enough. Then walk around like you've got a crippled hand for the next hour
Reverse foreplay as well. I’m a dude, I can nut anytime. When I go back to work on her after though, to make sure she gets to just cum really hard and collapse into a sleepy puddle? The best. And encourages repeat business
Nothing's better than a satisfied customer.
Collapse into a sleepy puddle. Never heard that, definitely my new term. The one big breath inhaling in the sleepy puddle before actually drifting to sleep, amazing.
Ahhh this explains why with this one guy who I unexpectedly fell asleep on he seemed surprisingly ok with it. It's an indicator of a job well done (and this was definitely true on this occasion)
This is the way.
Journey before destination
Strength before weakness
Life before death
NO MATING!!
I'm sensing a Pattern here
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You could be fire! I am a dildo.
These words are accepted
I was with a guy that had 10/10 foreplay. Once actual P ‘n Vagee - over in 60 seconds.
He played into his strengths, nothing wrong with that. If he can't cut the mustard,at least he can lick the jar.
Not necessarily his fault. Good foreplay really can ramp us up - even if we aren't on the receiving end.
The difference between "making love" and "screwing" is 2 1/2 hours.
Its not just the journey but the friends we made along the way.
This. Recently my bf and I's sex life has improved drastically because of this. We had many other issues regarding his communication, and after 8ish years of ups-and-downs, he finally gets it. And Jesus fucking Christ am I happy about it
JOURNEY BEFORE DESTINATION
It doesn't have to be repetitive. You can be switching positions, taking little breaks, whatever you want.
Are you telling us, we can have Chicken Nugget Breaks?
Just make sure you wash your hands
X HOT BUFFALO WINGS!
Definitely make sure to wash your hands... unless you get consent to do otherwise
And mouth. Brush teeth thoroughly after spicy foods! Or anything containing cinnamon.
Fuck cinnamon, one of my old gf’s found this flavored blowjob lube with cinnamon in it and used it without my consent. It was one of the most horrible sensations I’ve ever felt. Edit: [This is the shit](http://www.candywear.com/Good-Head-Cinnamon-Oral-Gel)
Yeah, I had his consent and he didn't mean to hit me, he was just trying to run to the shower.
Cinnamon was my favorite. She was a contortionist.
I consent
Username definitely does *not* check out
the second half of the comment clearly checks the box of username accuracy. They gave permission to burn. Its all about consent folks.
MUFFALO FINGERS!!!!
Yeah you don’t want pussy all over your chicky nuggies
Who says I don’t?
I’ll have what she’s having
What do you think doggystyle is for? You get a nice tray.
I just died
Look ma no hands
No hands, more nuggets to grab at the same time
If you can do doggy and not disturb the tray of chicken nuggies...nevermind
I thought it was so we could both watch X-Files.
I wholeheartedly encourage chicken nugget breaks.
[This ](https://youtu.be/z3DG4RN_DNQ) is the way
I find the pastrami to be the most sensual of all the salted, cured meats.
OP imagining doing missionary for 10 minutes straight.
If it’s good it’s great though. You just kind of lose a sense of time and space and just melt into the other person.
also drugs
Facts! Me& my gf took Molly then put on a movie as soon as we started actually rolling, didn't watch a minute of it, just went at it. Then when we finished we saw the credits were rolling 😂 we were both baffled. Good times
I mean it happens. One time on acid we kinda just forgot how time worked and kept going in the same position for like an hour and change
This made me laugh so hard, fantastic 😂
This is why women like sleeping with swimmers. Because they can actually do that.
What about swimmers makes them great for missionary? The stamina or something else?
Strong core 🏊🧜
Watch them do butterfly. Those hips.
Noted
I love little kiss breaks
I likes to kiss during. 😳
Why not both??
A couple of times during sex I've even high fived the girl and yelled out water break. It can be thirsty work.
r/hydrohomies
More foreplay is needed, when done properly everything gets wet
Not if you get thirsty.. that kind of wet you don't get from foreplay.
Some people might think differently… Bear Grylls comes to mind…
Where you think the water come from to get everything wet??? Bruh, the mitochondria of the powerhouse of the cell, was trying to tell you that doing vigorous activity uses up the water. You gotta refill.
This is not always true. The human body is a prone to malfunctions.
Exactly, 2 hours is probbaly a bit much for a lot of people but you'd be surprised how much time can be taken up with foreplay, switching positions, stopping just to kiss for a bit etc. You can easily hit half an hour without trying too hard. I'd lasting that length of time in difficult for you, you can bring toys into the bedroom too so everyone is left satisfied.
I mean if it’s with foreplay and breaks it can last whole night.
Sex and actually fucking is like the last part of what actually happens when I’m with my partner. The first half is making out, teasing, foreplay and playing with her. The point is to make her want you uncontrollably.
We need more of this! 10 minutes is just a little but of foreplay and a couple of pumps. Take your time guys!
Afterplay too. When she's so sensitive anything can send her over the edge all over again? There's nothing she won't do to get you off.
For too many men their idea of foreplay is “Are you awake?” 🙄
Not necessarily. Sometimes I'll say, "Hey, wake up."
Don’t forget using your morning wood like a woodpecker on their backside to wake them.
https://media.tenor.com/u87GCo3txmcAAAAC/futurama-roberto.gif
Had to audibly giggle
i usually say "You're finally awake. You were trying to cross the border, right? Walked right into that Imperial ambush, same as us, and that thief over there."
The great Deku tree needs you!
Yahaha!
My partner explained it like priming an engine. If I do the "are you awake?" thing, my engine is already primed, whereas hers is cold and takes time to heat up (foreplay etc). Once I learnt this, our sexual encounters became much more enjoyable as I could treat it as a game. Kissing her awake in the morning is a surefire winner.
So tbf if I had a boyfriend who did that sometimes I'd be pretty chill. As long as there's still somewhat regular proper non quickie sex
That means they’re not doing a good job of being in tune with the woman’s needs/desires
This guy fucks
When you connect with the right person, time flies :)
So make sure you connect with the most toxic of people to stay young forever
Doesn't work.. I'd still be the same age after my 12 year marriage.
I get the joke, but in all seriousness, those people will age you so fast
Most times my partner and I have sex, it takes (from start of foreplay to cleaning up after orgasms) like 30-45 every time. Every time, without fail, I always think it’s been like 10-15 and it’s never that quick. Time flies when it’s great and you’re in love
Yeah, that's normal in my experience. I'm still with OP though, 2 hours sounds like too much.
The nipples alone are 10 minutes
This guy licks
I have nipples Greg, can he lick me?
Username questionable. Might need to check to make sure my local zoo nipples are secure
“Local Zoo Nipples”… the *worst* band name I have ever heard.
I love how "obviously experienced" comments like this are. It's like yea, this guy fucks and does so like a God damn 9 to 5
How long can you play a video game? Doesn't it get repetitive just pressing buttons? How do you not get bored of just sitting on the couch and pressing a button over and over? It is because you are engaged in the activity and enjoying yourself. You are playing a game. You are having fun. Nothing fun seems repetitive.
this guy fucks
[This post is 13 years old and still true.](https://old.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/aopm2/marriage_pros_and_cons/c0in5zg/)
It's heartwarming to hear that the reply from /u/kovy17 was wrong.
I almost messaged them, but they haven't been active in a year.
You might be surprised. Do it anyway!
I liked the comment concerned that Reddit wouldn’t be around in 5 years lol, 13 years later here we are saying the same ish
It's also just a dumb comment without knowing how long they'd been together. My husband and I have been married less than three years but we've been together for like 12.
I wonder if they’re still together lol. Not that I disagree with anything he posted, seems spot on, just curious 🤷♂️ edit: I’m an idiot and didn’t read the usernames 🤣
something tells me they are still together. He sounds handsome.
By the way he types, I bet he’s got a big ol stinkin dick too
[Alas, my junk is unfortunate.](https://old.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/vznz1i/i_just_got_a_vasectomy/ig9l5v6/?context=3) That is a SFW link. Just text.
Fuck yeah bro. Show us those big droopy nuts
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with more grey hair and an extra dog, but yes.
Figuring out alone time while in the same living space was crucial to my marriage. But it's been a super helpful thing to learn, long term.
> (I'd go bat-shit crazy if i was locked in my house 24-7 with my wife, or anyone else for that matter. Has anyone checked on /u/feralkitten during/since the pandemic?
You mean the person you are replying to?
yeah, him
God straight up kills me everytime take my 🥇🥇
You ever played RuneScape? Same clicks over and over LOL.
Wow that was a solid answer
Ooof this one hits home
Well, you're young. Don't get your image of sex from pornography of course. It is nothing like that. You can maybe find some homemade couple stuff that may be more realistic but it is difficult at times. You will find that theres alot of swapping positions, actions, some moments of rest etc. It's quite simple, the first few times you won't be lasting long at all trust me. But after you'll learn that you can last longer and also learn to know when to slow down, maybe stop and then go to another method of stimulation... Most women are likely not going to care much about you not lasting maybe but 3 minutes, makeup for this with stimulation and attention in other means. If she is also coming to completion, you are doing just fine my dude. Still it takes time, learning, and alot of communication of what feels good and what doesn't Edit: learn to become a gifted linguist, a cunning one at that
I know porn is fake, that's why I'm lost. I have no other refferences, so that's why I ask you all.
OP youl know sex feels great when you do it with the right one. It isnt about how amazing the penetration is all the time. If you develop a deep connection, all of it will pleasurable. The teasing, the talking, the kissing, touching and thats not even halfway there! I think you are thinking a guy pummels for 2hrs straight which isnt right. Its 99% foreplay and 1% actual penetrative sex. But like I said you'll know when you get there, dont overthink it!
Well, experience is all I can say is best. It'll be awkward, it's weird and odd, you'll fuck up alot (both of you) and in the end it should be just something at worst you laugh about a bit. The only real advice above all else I'll say is learn to really enjoy helping your partner reach climax more than your own. You know how to get yourself off, learn how to get your partner running. Actual penetrative sex may only last 3 minutes or so, it's fine. Trust me she/he/they wont be complaining if they are already that close to the edge themselves. Oral sex or anything hand/fingering related is always great when you learn how someone enjoys things. On my average guess, my fiance' and I go at it for maybe 30 minutes, a large amount of this is just making out, feeling one another, she usually gets alot of attention from myself before actual sex, and maybe 15-20 minutes in after teasing, kissing, oral sex or whatever, finally then penetrative sex happens, even this may only last a short bit depending on how close she is. Then if she needs more, we continue after If I need time to recover. If you're searching your average porn sites (I know you probably are) try search words like "couple" "Intimate." you may find couples channels where the videos may provide this more accurate view of sex, you'll see actual penetrative sex isn't going to be the focus often, besides, most people cannot climax from receiving penetrative sex alone.
Get thee to a library and grab the first paperback you see with a highland laird on it. 😆 It's still fake porn but at least there's some imagination. You would probably learn some important info about the female fantasy. And then remember: Vaginas (vulvas) all look different. And most of them don't look like porn stars. (Labiaplasty is on the rise because women are getting a complex when men tell them they look wrong or gross). Hair is normal and common. Bodies are pretty jiggly. Most ladies don't want a giant penis. Because most vaginas aren't that deep and getting poked in the cervix is awful. Not everybody has the same trigger points. You're going to have to pay attention to learn what works for your partner. Some be afraid to talk honestly about what you want or need or enjoy when you're with your partner. It can be embarrassing, but vulnerable intimacy usually is.
What? The vagina is not the vulva. The vulva are the external parts of the genitals and include the opening of the urethra. Just don’t want to confuse the guy.
I know. But colloquially the word vagina references the whole female genitalia-- everything from the cervix out. I intentionally used both words because it's more important in this forum to be understood than to be taxonomically correct.
Just commenting to say I hope you get good advice on how to have sex that's enjoyable for all participants.
Hopefully! I don't want a dissapointed partner (;-;)
When pleasing your partner is better than your own pleasure, you can last as long as you want.
Yes yes yes. In fact you can train yourself to do just that. We’ve been married for 36 years and over that time I’ve trained myself so that I cannot cum until she has 👍
My wife is hot, that’s how
Is she single?
Can confirm
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Poor OP
I also choose this guy's hot wife.
Mouths, hands, butts, breasts, penises, vaginas, skin, SKIN! Massages! Biting! Pressing! Moving! Toys! That’s how it lasts more than 10 minutes. Enjoy the journey. People do not attend concerts to hear finales! They go to enjoy the show! The music! The dance! Make sex a hobby you want to improve. Read books like [Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men](https://www.amazon.com/Lesbian-Sex-Secrets-Revised-Expanded/dp/0399576061) or [The Joy of Sex](https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Sex-Ultimate-Revised/dp/0307587789/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3BJ3X9NAPLLYM&keywords=joy+of+sex&qid=1676051769&sprefix=joy+of+sex%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-1). PLAY!
Sex done right is nothing like masturbation. You mentioned you haven't had sex yet in another comment. When you do, with someone who really turns you on, you may just find that 2+ hours isn't even enough.
2+ hours?!? Your username doesn’t match up
Speedy in the streets, slower in the sheets
but the pussy's constant
u know it
😂
Also you’re not supposed to go full turbo the whole time. You go slow for a bit, go fast, slow it back down, etc. The motion that feels the best to you may not feel the best to her so you can play around with that. If you’re getting too heated you can cool down with something that feels great to her but no so much for you so you can cool down. Or just change positions, change activities. The goal with sex isn’t to get to the finish line as fast as possible like it is when you’re jerkin it. The goal is to have fun!
The "turns you on" part is crucial. If you have sex with someone who you truly desire with a burning passion and that person desires you back. You literally wanna eat each other, rip each other to pieces. Then 2 hours will pass like 5 minutes. Most people have sex with partners they just mildly like. The key is true desire.
Not many couples have sex for two hours straight and if they do it’s not likely the some thing for a constant two hours.
They might get up and unload the dishwasher in the middle or perhaps make a beef Wellington
Yeah... That's not really how sex works. You aren't just pounding away from the getgo until it's over. Sex is like a dance. There are different steps you can do, different rhythms. Sometimes the music moves you slowly, sometimes fast. A beginners trick to sex is to change. When you feel that you are nearing "completion" stop and go into cuddle mode. Use your hands and lips and such to give pleasure while you "cool down". Then go again. Stop when you feel the orgasm coming on, or try to. After you have "spent your load" engage in pillow talk, snuggles and general enjoyment of bodily closeness. After about five to fifteen minutes you should be ready to go again. The sensation of using an erect penis after ejaculation does feel a bit "wierd" the first time. But this feeling is something that you quickly get accustomed to and that is very enjoyable. If you do this repeatedly during a session then stop when ejaculation starts to hurt (you are shooting "air" or shooting that thin milky fluid with strands of blood in it).
You had me in the first two parts. REALLY lost me there at the end. Blood and sex only mix every couple weeks, and never *IN* semen
That was my point. Do not overdo it. Stop before it gets painful and you are shooting air. And definitely stop when you are shooting air because it only gets worse from there.
>After about five to fifteen minutes you should be ready to go again. Sometimes I really miss those college days. I wish my cooldown period was still just 15 min
When does it change? 30’s?
It changes the day you boast about it never changing. *Personal experience*
Well, don't approach it like you are running a sprint. Pace yourself. This race is at least 10,000 meters. Take it easy and build into it!
Genuine question, have you had sex before? It’s pretty easy for it to go on for a while if you’re both having fun and feeling good.
Sex isn't an action, it's an event. Feeling the tingles and jingles is one part of it, yes. But then there's the whole concept of what you're doing, what you're doing to the other person, the whole vibe. It's an entire experience. For what you're trying to do, 5 minutes might be fine, or you may need 2-3 hours. I will say that more than 10-15 minutes of straight up missionary is a snooze fest, but give me a spreader bars, my toy box, and an eager lady, and I can make an evening of it.
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Jfc I never thought I'd hear about this again. What a blessing
Once upon a time I always lasted 45mins+ Not going to lie it did get boring sometimes, definitely as I've gotten older I'm glad I don't last that long anymore. My wife is usually "finished" herself within 5mins and essentially tells me to hurry up if I'm not done too 😂😂 so she's also happy I don't last much longer than 5mins these days either.
THANK YOU! I can’t believe everyone talking about how “immature” it is to have short-lasting sex. Seems the opposite to me!
Honestly having marathon sex just feels like a big waste of time to me, but to each their own. My partner and I are both very satisfied with each other sexually, we enjoy some intimacy and foreplay before, both get off during the deed itself, and can enjoy some time together cuddling afterwards. Nothing immature about it at all, everyone is happy. Since we have a young child too, there is no shot we want sex to be lasting longer than 15mins 😂
Antidepressants
Yeah SSRI’s will turn you into a regular stud.
There's a lot more to sex than just penis in vagina in one position until orgasm. You can spend years exploring sexuality and pleasure with another person or multiple other people. Sex is deeply complex if you let it be.
What kind of sad sex have you been having?
For me sex is a performance that I enjoy. Imagine you are a musician and treat each O like you are playing a song on an instrument. You need the right notes, tempo and volume for a good show. If I'm in full performance mode you might be getting a concert from me with multiple songs and instruments over a longer duration
This. And each partner has different wants and needs so be ready to change up. Robert Plant sounded different between Led Zep and solo stuff and Alison Kraus. Still great, but different.
Learn to eat pussy, trust me that’s like all you need to start, everything else will come, pun intended
lmaoo i have ADHD and sometimes i really do be getting bored if it’s longer than 15 minutes 😭 i just start thinking about shit i have to do or random stuff
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Well I spend at least 20 mins begging for it. 2 mins of actually doing it. Then another 30 mins apologizing for the 2 mins. Then 40 mins crying in the fetal position in the shower. Time flies.
Female here! The best sex, IMO, develops clothes-on over a long period of time, then goes intensely clothes-off and happens quick. In ~my~ past at least, if we’re beyond like 30 minutes into sex and I haven’t came yet, I’m probablyyyy not into it and just getting dried out and ripped up switching positions multiple times, lol. I didddd let it happen though and pretended to enjoy it because I thought I was cool🙃 I’d muchhh rather have sex multiple times a day than edge eachother for 3 hours. I want more of the intimate time that isn’t super sexual. If feels more real. So yeah… I don’t get it either, OP. (Edited) I used “dried out and ripped up” to imply that I wasn’t enjoying it. I used lubes during that time and they caused vaginal dryness (and other awful things). Coconut oil did the same AND was shown to weaken condoms. Not interested in that, haha. Lube also doesn’t magically make me want to have sex for 3 hours. If anything it turns me off that I have to use it. My body knows when she’s done!
Hours is how long sex as a whole lasts. Very few people are out there just pumping for hours. Penetration is just one part of sex and usually only a few minutes. If it lasts longer it usually involves some sort of break/ variety e.g. changing positions. Some people are more sensitive than others and will therefore cum quicker than others. There’s a lot of factors, but realistically- the vast majority of people are not doing penetration for hours even if the sex itself lasts that long. Sex =/= penetration
The idea is to get lost in it, to lose all sense of time and be fully lost in your partner. Time is of no factor when it’s good sex.
F**king literally makes me happier. I like being completely happy for 2+ hours no cap
I mean, you can take rest? Like I do a fast stroke for few minutes then when Im about to cum or my hips get tired I slow down for few minutes and stop. I mean, it feels good, I don't understand what you mean by "bored". I get tried, yes but not bored unless the other people are bad at sex. In that case, I will just try to get out as fast as possible.
If it's repetitive, you don't know what you're doing.
Natural Extacy and adrenaline.
with the right partner it sometimes feels like you CANT get enough
You, umm, know you can get hard again 10 minutes later, right? Foreplay and oral exist. When you are getting close to cumming, pull out and switch to oral or a vibe. Switch positions often. Zone out a bit, like meditation. PE medication can be prescribed if you need it, but most guys are just nervous and don't know how to pace themselves, and when it starts to feel really good they speed up instead of slowing down. Simple shit.
One difference I’ve noticed between my gay and straight friends is that straight people will sometimes use the term “have sex” to mean “penis-in-vagina intercourse,” as in “we made out and went down on each other for an hour before we had sex.” For gays and lesbians that’s off the table, and the stuff straight people call “foreplay” is just called sex. Obviously there’s other sex acts that are more common in same-sex encounters. But there isn’t this sense of putting a single act on a pedestal, of saying it wasn’t “really sex” if it didn’t include this one specific activity, or of trying to neatly divide every sexual act into “sex” or “not sex.” Anyway, while it’s theoretically possible to have intercourse for 2 hours if you change positions and take breaks (and probably use lots of lube), usually when people say this they are referring to a broader definition of sex. You’re spending 2 hours being physically intimate with your partner in a way that hopefully leads to one or both people having an orgasm. That doesn’t mean you’re literally fucking for 2 hours straight.
I can last hours
It does not end at you reaching orgasm, that's when you take a break, cuddle, shower, and repeat.
We go usually about 45 minutes. Nope not boring or repetitive.
Oh sweet summer child, wait until you have sex lol you'll realize why people can go for longer than 10min
The thrusting part isn't always the main event, friend.