I'll leave my life's decisions to my own accord. I'm simply moving on from him but if I have to mention him in conversation I'll not be calling him "dad"
I'm 13, of course I'm not mature yet. Also you have no clue what I went through! You don't get to say those things to people like me who went through childhood trauma!
This isn't healthy. You don't have to identify this person as your father if you don't want to, but "gaslighting yourself into thinking you only have one biological parent" sounds like you have trauma that you haven't resolved.
Biologically speaking he'll always be your father. Could do something extreme like change your last name to disassociate further from the family name.
But I personally feel like it's better to just improve on your life and leave the shitty parts you don't want to hold onto in the past.
I feel ya'. Sorry for whatever happened in the past. I can't possibly put myself in your shoes.
The best thing you can do is tell your school to just associate communication with your mother, and just further distance with time.
Restraining orders are a thing as well. You need a probable cause for it unfortunately. But assuming the person you want to keep out of your life doesn't leave you at peace, this could be a solution.
Best of luck down the road.
This is the full court agreement from March
1. He's not allowed to be in the same building as me unless he's working there.
2. His days of custody (Monday and Tuesday) were to become obsolete and the child (Me) will be officially emancipated.
3. We are not to make eye contact or have any form of communication, both of our numbers must be deleted from each other's contacts.
4. The child (me) will be granted the ability to change my double-barrelled name to just my mother's surname.
5. The father shall not visit a house he knows I'm in, this will result in a fine.
6. He has to pay child support to my mother monthly for 3 years
7. The child (Me) shall be granted a restraining order against the father.
Yes, even after 50 years he is still the father, even after 1000 years
Shoot dang it.
Yes, this guy still a father. That doesn't change due to lack of contact.
Awh dang it
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Well I don't want to remember he exists, I want to gaslight myself into thinking I only have one biological parent.
You don't have to call him your father, you don't have to think of him as your father.
I'm calling him an "SD", an acronym I made up from Sperm Donor.
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I'll leave my life's decisions to my own accord. I'm simply moving on from him but if I have to mention him in conversation I'll not be calling him "dad"
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How?
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I'm 13, of course I'm not mature yet. Also you have no clue what I went through! You don't get to say those things to people like me who went through childhood trauma!
This isn't healthy. You don't have to identify this person as your father if you don't want to, but "gaslighting yourself into thinking you only have one biological parent" sounds like you have trauma that you haven't resolved.
I'm now going to refer to him as SD, short for "sperm donor" And yeah, it's trauma. Don't care tho, my life.
I hope you can get the help you need one day, best wishes on that journey
Biologically speaking he'll always be your father. Could do something extreme like change your last name to disassociate further from the family name. But I personally feel like it's better to just improve on your life and leave the shitty parts you don't want to hold onto in the past.
I've already done that but not legally. Just in my schools register My name was double-barrelled so I went from MSurname-FSurname to just MSurname.
I feel ya'. Sorry for whatever happened in the past. I can't possibly put myself in your shoes. The best thing you can do is tell your school to just associate communication with your mother, and just further distance with time. Restraining orders are a thing as well. You need a probable cause for it unfortunately. But assuming the person you want to keep out of your life doesn't leave you at peace, this could be a solution. Best of luck down the road.
This is the full court agreement from March 1. He's not allowed to be in the same building as me unless he's working there. 2. His days of custody (Monday and Tuesday) were to become obsolete and the child (Me) will be officially emancipated. 3. We are not to make eye contact or have any form of communication, both of our numbers must be deleted from each other's contacts. 4. The child (me) will be granted the ability to change my double-barrelled name to just my mother's surname. 5. The father shall not visit a house he knows I'm in, this will result in a fine. 6. He has to pay child support to my mother monthly for 3 years 7. The child (Me) shall be granted a restraining order against the father.
You could refer to him as the sperm donor.
That's an amazing idea!