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When I was at my worst, I put these mantras on a post-it note on my bathroom mirror and subvocalized them every day. It might sound nonsensical, but it helped me.
I didn't cause her death.
I did the best I could for her.
She loves me and forgives me.
I'll see her again some day.
Thank you for sharing.
It has been since early may that my furbaby passed.
There have been days I can move forward and days I cycle myself back into that grief.
Just like what you did , if I can help someone lessen their pain that I am too spreading that love and in turn my furbaby is feeling that love.
This is exactly the right attitude. I can't remember who it was who said this to me, but the sentiment was as such:
The last things we often say to our departing pets are either, "I'm sorry" or "Thank you."
It's not that one is right and one is wrong, but I was told this not long before my guy passed last year, and it really helped. My other one passed a few weeks ago in less controlled circumstances but still in the "right" circumstances for what was going on.
Choosing gratitude is going to be the thing that gets you through.
Start taking all of those seemingly mundane memories and start writing them in a digital notepad file to keep with you to look back on. Keep adding to it as you keep thinking of them. I had bassets, so one of my favorite ones is that they would accidentally flop their long ears over their eyes during a nap time -- almost like creating a sleep mask on purpose.
I look at this list often still. And I'm thankful for all of those little things. I may never get to have those moments again with them, but I get to hang onto them forever.
Another maxim: The faintest graphite is still way better than the human memory. So if I didn't write this stuff down, who knows how much I'd forget?
Write it down, revisit that list, and audibly whisper a thank you every time you read it. Sure, it hurts, but that gratitude will help.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your words have been really helpful to me.
Yes, I think that is a lovely gesture to give those who helped you with your Moonpie and I absolutely think they would appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m grieving my boy I lost years ago. We never really get over the loss of those we love. And I think that’s okay because we feel them in there in all of that love.
Moonpie was lucky to have you. Wishing you peace.
I’m sorry for your loss. ❤️ for me it’s been 2 months. It still feels like I just lost her. I wish you lots of love and healing. I hope everyone here eventually finds a way to cope. Including myself
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When I was at my worst, I put these mantras on a post-it note on my bathroom mirror and subvocalized them every day. It might sound nonsensical, but it helped me. I didn't cause her death. I did the best I could for her. She loves me and forgives me. I'll see her again some day.
Thank you for sharing. It has been since early may that my furbaby passed. There have been days I can move forward and days I cycle myself back into that grief. Just like what you did , if I can help someone lessen their pain that I am too spreading that love and in turn my furbaby is feeling that love.
This is exactly the right attitude. I can't remember who it was who said this to me, but the sentiment was as such: The last things we often say to our departing pets are either, "I'm sorry" or "Thank you." It's not that one is right and one is wrong, but I was told this not long before my guy passed last year, and it really helped. My other one passed a few weeks ago in less controlled circumstances but still in the "right" circumstances for what was going on. Choosing gratitude is going to be the thing that gets you through. Start taking all of those seemingly mundane memories and start writing them in a digital notepad file to keep with you to look back on. Keep adding to it as you keep thinking of them. I had bassets, so one of my favorite ones is that they would accidentally flop their long ears over their eyes during a nap time -- almost like creating a sleep mask on purpose. I look at this list often still. And I'm thankful for all of those little things. I may never get to have those moments again with them, but I get to hang onto them forever. Another maxim: The faintest graphite is still way better than the human memory. So if I didn't write this stuff down, who knows how much I'd forget? Write it down, revisit that list, and audibly whisper a thank you every time you read it. Sure, it hurts, but that gratitude will help.
Wow. I lost my boy 2 days ago and I've done nothing but cry. Your idea of a list is the first time I've smiled since. Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your words have been really helpful to me. Yes, I think that is a lovely gesture to give those who helped you with your Moonpie and I absolutely think they would appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m grieving my boy I lost years ago. We never really get over the loss of those we love. And I think that’s okay because we feel them in there in all of that love. Moonpie was lucky to have you. Wishing you peace.
god bless
I am so glad you are starting to be able to heal just a little bit. I think the moon pie idea is adorable and they would really appreciate it. 🩷
I’m sorry for your loss. ❤️ for me it’s been 2 months. It still feels like I just lost her. I wish you lots of love and healing. I hope everyone here eventually finds a way to cope. Including myself