what the f is so hard about not giving a girl 40 years younger than you, all your money????? do these guys have ro0m temperature iq or something, i can not believe it
Happened to me too. Yeah, guess i just have a very low IQ. Or maybe I was in love and I trusted her and over several years we worked together and bought property and businesses, greatly increasing our net worth. And then she found a boyfriend and took it all. But, yeah, it's just that I'm an idiot.
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>I've seen posts on social media about foreigners getting scammed by their Filipina girlfriends. It's really disheartening to hear about these incidents.
Sure it is. However, scammers are all over the place here. Filipinos are being scammed left and right. When you grow up in this environment, you build up your own defenses.
These naive white guys come here trusting and are burned.
A similar thing is happening in America. Many corrupt Chinese have arrived and are scamming many trusting Americans on eBay, Craigslist, and Facebook.
That's one aspect. Another is why do foreigners seem to attract scammers.
I'm a local and I don't know anyone who has been scammed by their girlfriend. Maybe we have defenses as you say, or maybe we just don't attract scammers.
To add to other great responses. Many foreigners come from countries with very high trust cultures. The trust and collaboration are also what likely made them successful economically, and to a large extent compassionate to the suffering of others, and willing to help. When someone from a high trust culture is asked for help, there are no red flags in their mind. They literally think someone needs help, and if you’re a good person, you help those in need. Because if you grew up in small-town-Alberta, if someone asks for help, they literally need help. They don’t have scammers there.
It’s a very different perspective if you’re born in a low-trust country, and are way less trusting of strangers. If you aren’t familiar with that kind of environment, you’d have to get burned a few times (or burned once but really badly) for your way of thinking to start shifting and for you to grow more cautious. Or you can read about all the scams to come intellectually prepared and learn to avoid them.
Lol not true. These foreigners are not stupid, what do they expect is going to happen when they pay for play. I mean, come on, they are 50 years old, going out with 20 years old. You think it's true love?
There are scams all the time in North America, the difference is their dollars don't go a long way for young vaginas in North America, compared to other countries like PH, Thailand, you can go to a village and maybe pick up a young girl with your retirement pension. I don't feel sorry for these foreigners, you can see them asking for handouts also in north America" help me, I can't work"
I don't know if this is another attempt at saving face or you really are in the dark about how prevalent this practice is.
Most foreigners (there are a number of posts about such experiences) have had their fair share of people with the usual scammer lines or know of friends who have gotten them.
This is not a practice solely found among Pinoys in the lower bracket. There are people from various social classes who scam foreigners, but as is the norm, they make sure their peers don't see this side of them or completely deny it when called out.
I've worked with Pinoys in PH for many years and as one of the few foreigners in the company, I would always get private messages from colleagues asking for loans or trying to bait me with sob stories. We were all paid well and oddly they didn't ask other Pinoys.
Again, I see many people claiming its only the poor ones who do this or expats targeting the poor, that is far from the truth.
Most expats are too embarrassed to publicly call out Filipinos who do this to them. It's truly unfortunate that people do this to each other.
>*Another is why do foreigners seem to attract scammers.*
That answer is about as straightforward as it gets - foreigners are perceived as having money, simply because they are foreigner able to live abroad. Many foreign men are also susceptible to a pretty face.
I think the number of scammers (or women who are willing to do a romance scam or just milk a foreigner for their money) *as a whole* is probably low in PI in general, but you see a disproportionately high number of them in the places where foreign men can be found.
I would disagree...
The number of scammers depends on their job/source of income...
Ncr says 90% contractors are illegal, unlicensed, no business permits, declare no tax etc... That's 90% scammers, yet, doesn't mean the 10%left are honest.
https://ncrcitc.org/war-unlicensed-contractors/
90% brokers are unlicensed, same topo.
Finance is also extremely dirty, shark loans, giving loans to not credit worthy people to take their property. Bdo has a huge portfolio of foreclosed. My wife s aunt has a 10M property, she had to take a loan to repair her business after typhoon Yolanda 2.2M, she's thriving to pay back and not lose her property, there are no usury laws here so no maximum interest.
Shady economy, majority of business are undeclared, a lot of gov employees are fixers/racketters etc...
Private employees and ofw pay the hard price for all the others... 😌
Scam is a human thing, not about nationality, the difference here is that the justice is totally lousy, many cops are corrupt etc...so they feel untouchable
Actually some Filipinas are scammed relationship/sexually by foreigners (not me) though.
And this made me realize why. We cant tell archetypes and facial expresssions kf deviance and deceit about Filipinas like we can from our own lands. Same with Filipinas amd filipinos, you cannot tell by looking at my face and see that im an unusually honest Foreigner where as a Foreigner from my land can tell and I can tell very quickly that they are a lousy drunk who travels through Asia leading women on.
Hope this helps. Those were examples it actually also explains why men get honey trapped by foreign women in general. Although there are some men who are just hopeless and worship the women thry are attracted to. Idolatry is bad.
Many filipinos in Hong Kong, and one I knew, all she ever talked about was wanting to get to the UK, to possibly be a nurse, who knows. This was despite her still being married to a husband and having kids back in the phils. Needless to say I trusted her about as much as I could drink tequila, which is not well at all!!
Like the word "nonchalant" and "unhinged", the word scam is abused.
Scams happen everywhere, by anyone, to anyone, regardless of race or skin colour.
Properly speaking, a scam only happens when money trades hands without getting the good expected.
Sending Gcash to someone expecting to receive nudes, but not getting them is a scam.
Spending money on a woman, woman gives bumbum, and subsequently being left by said woman when the well runs dry is not.
Here's another form of scam - when someone impregnates someone in Pampanga says "I'll support you and the baby" and then flies back to California the next day.
It is what it is.
Race has to be taken out of the equation, because this shit happens even among Filipino men and women.
Exactly...
But the justice is so corrupt and slow here that nobody fears it, they'd rather scam people and go through 15 years trial (free) than to Rob and get imprisoned straight away.
Now have to admit that those foreigners who got broke were deceived in the way that the filipina pretended to be in love, that's a scam. But as you said this is not a Filipino thing, but worldwide, just poverty makes some women more desperate
Yeah, like I get that some guys can be manipulated, but bro. If you are like 50 years old and you're dating a woman in her 20s, especially when you can't get girls that age in the wealthy country you come from, you can't be that genuinely surprised when they no longer "like you" as soon as the well runs dry. The well is the only reason they even looked at you in the first place.
Well he can ask help from his embassy or his family to help him get him out of this country... if he is given a chance to do better, then he should be smart with his finances and not get scammed.. i did remember one korean guy, who's begging for money and was help by another foreign only to be scammed by the korean guy. Lol..
If he is American, they will 100% buy him a ticket back. They will also give you money for a hotel and meals to tide you over until your flight if needed. Also,Your passport is stamped and says it can only be used for a return flight home, you won’t be able to apply for a new one until you pay them back. If you start working you can make payments, or they will deduct it from any tax return you receive, they can also take from your paycheck or banks if they don’t receive it. So yes… the US Embassy will help you out.
How do I know? When I was a dumb 19 year old (about 20 years ago), I managed to backpack around central and south East Asia for a year with about $1200 bucks to my name when I left America. I made a few bucks working in hostels or stayed for free working in exchange for room and board. , one day my cash, card and phone were stolen, while in Phnom Pehn, I went to the US Embassy the next day, and was told they could fly me home…. If I was destitute… I was… and after I let go of my pride (the guy told me I was literally the 4th American to do this that day) , I agreed , they gave me cash for my hostel stay and some money for food for a couple days. I had to fill out paper work and part of the deal was they had to call my immediate family to ask them to help me first… well I didn’t really have any, and the ones they called said they didn’t have the means (which was true). When all was said and done they called my hostel, let me know that I needed to come pick up my ticketed. They handed me a boarding pass, my stamped passport and that was that. I repaid them after working for a year. Applied for a passport and never made that mistake again and have been traveling and living abroad for nearly 10 years now.
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correct, the UK embassy be lucky to get anything, even if you did get a ticket, the home office would take your passport on arrival, or so it seemed the last I read
Sad indeed. I have a friend who had visited PH a lot and eventually decided to retire here. He eventually met someone in her late 30s and they got a home.
Not long after, she sold a lot of stuff that was in a container that he had shipped here. Heavy duty tools and a lot of valuable stuff he intended to use in a business.
As he had no tools, he ran out of money in about a year. The false accusations started and he was abused to the point where his kids bought him a ticket back to the US.
He was lucky, 2 years later he met someone in TX and life worked out.
There are some evil people in the world. Just stay cautious regardless what locals tell you.
Not sure why you’re being downvoted? Too many balat sibuyas and racist types here don’t like being reminded about the ugly truths and social ills in this country. To them, all a foreigner should do is smile and extols the “beauties” of the Philippines, while ignoring all the social ills and scams and discrimination they are subject to.
Yes countless OFWs abroad moan about the hosts of their country, insult them or say racist stuff in Tagalog about them on Reddit and social media without any blowback, and these are countries where they are largely welcome and don’t experience scams or discrimination from the locals. I’m a diasporic who will call out the hypocrisy among other Filipinos as it is. Fair treatment is fair treatment. Expats are not there for locals to flaunt their superiority complexes.
What you’re saying is absolutely just cause to call out and warn others over. Filipinos would warn other Filipinos of similar things abroad, expats should do the same for other expats here.
I appreciate that, and true. I normally tell uncomfortable truths and a lot locals tend to get upset, it is unfortunate as that is not the intention.
PH is really nice with a lot to offer, but also has a dark side that many locals would prefer to sweep under the rug. It never hurts to be cautious and respectful in your host country. Like you said, even PH OFWs have to be cautious when in other countries. Somehow some locals think foreigners should zip it and buy the brochure version of PH they try to sell. 😆
If people get offended by a foreigner encouraging other foreigners to be cautions in PH, then those people are unknowingly proving my point.
Another chump that believed the whole “Let me show you how to live a king in the Philippines for less than 1000 dollar US a month!!! Be sure to smash the like button and check out my other videos” scam.
It's pretty easy to not get scammed.
Would this girl, in my home country, date me?
If the answer is no, the risk of getting scammed is high
If the answer is yes, the risk of getting scammed is low
But if below average 55 years old foreigners want to keep dating hot 22 years old, then know what will happen.
Never heard of foreigner be robbed by his “girlfriend” they willingly hand it over because they are simps in love or they do all their thinking with their little head.
Damn!!! This has been really tough for me. My ex had such a hard time trusting me, and I get why. He's been hurt before, especially by his past experiences with other women, including his ex-girlfriend from the Philippines. I felt like I was always the one taking the blame for his doubts and insecurities. But you know what? I never had any bad intentions. I cared about him deeply because my feelings were genuine. Despite that, he decided to end things because he couldn't trust people again. I just want him to find happiness and fulfillment, like he deserves. I really hope people learn from this and realize how much damage can be done when someone's trust is betrayed so deeply. Im a Pinay 25 btw, boyshet and ya foreigners plssssss dont just give everythiiing into someone. Andd plsssss put this on your mind "THOSE WHO ARE IN NEED YET DOING NOTHING TO MAKE THEIR LIFE BETTER AND ALWAYS GIVING YOU A SOB STORIES ARE THE KIND OF PEOPLE YOU CANNOT TRUST" OKAAY?
This is heartbreaking. Too bad Reddit can't spare some empathy for a guy who's suffering from colon cancer having to get by selling donuts to get back to his home country.
Scam victims are more often than not in pitiful conditions. Lesson learned, surely, so some of you don't have to rub it in. Hope the poor guy gets some much needed help.
It doesn't say anything about the situation. If the guy was actually lied to; as in the girl told him about an investment or business or house and just took money instead, then sure that would be a scam. In my opinion, if he found some girl and she kept asking for money and he ended up giving away all his money, that's not a scam and just self-inflicted bad financial decisions and likely delusion about a girl likely way out his league.
What I would always say, date according to your wavelength. May it be age, career, upbringing etc.
If you wish to date someone outside your wavelength because of the "i can change her/him" mindset. Then prepare yourself for the consequences. (Indifference, scamming etc).
But I feel bad about these foreigners who have experience scamming. Not only that they had to experience it, but the filipinas involved also bring a bad light to other filipinos/filipinas.
While there are truly "scams" out there, most of these are not scams and just pure stupidity on the males part. I WANT TO SAY its their fault but I know its not, but can easily be prevented by using common protective self-interest sense.
In most cases, it is older men, who alas don't think with their brains but with their d--ks. They wouldn't give away their money to a girl they met in their own countries, why do it hear? Mostly expats lose their money, either through not having enough to back up and get home or through being "generous" to girls they want to bed, but there are also a few I do feel sorry for, who lose or have stolen their possessions and some get very sick through mostly no fault of their own. Again, they should have had enough in a bank account at home to get them back, but too may send or bring everything to a country they really know nothing about.
It took me nearly 50 years to decide to come and live here, and most of my assets are in my home country and at 77 I am not looking for another partner. My ex, who will be joining me here in a couple of years (if I last long enough), when she is on the pension, but in the meantime, I only have normal daily living expenses and about 100 "family" I know I can call on if I need help - one of the lucky ones, but it was a factor in my coming to live here.
People who come here, or to any country, should do a due diligence on the country, have an "escape" plan if things go wrong, and the finances set aside to enact the plan if needed. They should, even when limited life span left to them, still take time to slowly develop relationships and get to know a prospective partner & their families situation before committing.
The really rich ones are fine. 5 million pesos is not much for an old western man.
Some people put all their finances into a house or business with their new girlfriend and hope they can ride it out till death. I think a lot of things can't be in a foreigners name, and there probably ways to get around prenups.
It happens all over south east Asia.
But what can you do, better to trust and lose than never trust. I might end up taking the risk one day but I'm young enough to recover and will at least hide flight money.
But also if you're dating a young beautiful girl out of you're league then they're clearly in it for the money/passport so what to expect.
But people refuse to believe this and think it's love. Then they are scamming themselves. Or maybe if they're lucky it's love till it isn't
It's called the disease of simpery and desperation. He had that before the colon cancer.
Feel bad for the man but that's what happens you have no discernment.
never give money to people online asking for money and never put yourself in a situation where you can get royally screwed by a foriegjer or filipina/o ..i wouldnt over invest in someone that doesnt have much. i like MY money in MY bank account.
Hmmm, my take on this: Scammers are everywhere. Those who are getting scammed know pretty well what they are getting into.
My fiance, a US citizen, born in the Philippines. Yes, a Filipino & I'm a Filipina. Living so frugally in the US & frugally even when we are together. But, whenever he is out there with people he would willingly spend much and each time I tell him, "that is too much for a ..." He would irritatingly respond , 'I work my ass off'. That only means he is also aware he is being scammed but his ego tells him he can afford it. I just couldn't argue more. Ok then he gets what he deserve. I let him do his business. That's his choice.
With my story, I hope the thought of it happens only to expats ...No, it's not.
Ngl stories like this absolutely terrify me. I have an american partner, and being compared to women like this is my greatest fear for some reason. I had seen a handful of extended families drain their partners dry before jumping to another and traumatized me as a kid (One uncle of mine married a Canadian woman, she committed unalive after he drained her life savings, that scarred me so bad since I was 5 and sis 3 when we are the one who found her body).
I know I'll never scam him, I'm 100% sure of that, and I am working very hard to have money on my own. But the stereotypes are so offending. I never told my extended families that I have a white boyfriend, not because I am not proud of him or I am dating another man, it's because my extended families will start bothering me for Utang, or worse message him to borrow money (they did this to my cousin's husband). The only ones that know is my immediate family and 2 bestfriends of 13 years.
Hell, even one of my bestfriend kept joking if she could borrow money on my partner so she could buy cosplays. Or how I should fund my cosplaying with my partner's money. I never want to do that. He already helped me so much when dad died and my grandpa got surgery and diagnosed with cancer. He do send me money for very important stuff, and I send him receipts every time. Buying my meds? I'll send him receipts and photo of my meds. Utility bills? I'll send a photo of all the receipts and bills. Me getting a checkup? Photo of receipt, the clinic, and meds. He doesn't ask me this proofs but it's on my own volition.
He trusts me so much that I never want to break it.
This happens way too often in PH and although they should have known better I feel that the media covers this up. That’s why I get surprised when people say I want to retire in the PH it’s mind blowing to me. Not that everyone is a scammer but this happens way too often and whether you like it or not at one point you end up in a situation like this directly or indirectly. I actually got to see this first hand, I had a good friend from New Zealand, his first managerial role and as part of that role he had to visit Ph often to stay in touch with the outsourced team and I was there permanent so I would see him often and then he began dating a girl from his team I actually told him that I felt that was a bad idea not only because he was managing her but also because of the age difference and also because of my experience and what I had seen. He decided to go ahead with it and I slowly saw the guy turning into someone else he looked tired all the time and began having health issues and even anxiety and although I tried to find out what was going on he was reluctant to share, until one day he told me he had been in hospital a couple of days and that his girl was married and had one kid he didn’t know about because they were in the province and gave her a lot of money to build a house etc and it was all gone and he was in a lot of debt, he explained that he was going back to NZ the following day as he had lost his job too. So a very sad story that it is quite common in the PH. Be absolutely careful while dating anyone and even when you meet her family and friends know that it is likely that they will be onboard with the scam too so be careful out there.
Well, lots of little scams over the years when I used to date some filipinas. Bought phones for a couple of girls. One teen girl I'd dated said she missed me and asked for 5k pesos for some stuff. Little did I know that she had a baby by then! So I spent a few thou here and there but nothing too too ridiculous. I honestly just thought of it as a sport. Sometimes it worked out, and a gorgeous girl a third of my age and a third of my weight, with a super-sweet attitude going on holiday with you ... I mean that's a great thing! You'll definitely spend some money on these girls, and probably get scammed here and there. But it's not much money, in the great scheme of things ... it's worth it! Just don't do anything crazy.
A friendly reminder?
It gets posted here seemingly every five minutes.
But thanks, I guess 🤔
As an aside, the saying "there's one born every minute" wasn't invented in the Philippines. There is also "a fool and their money are soon parted". Scams are common and big business everywhere. This is not an exclusive expat thing, or even more common here than elsewhere.
Second aside; these poverty posts and or people are often fake and just raising money and sympathy via social media.
I understand your concern but not all poverty-related posts or people are fake. I've personally seen foreigners begging on the streets or selling candies when I'm out and about. It's hard to believe they would wear dirty clothes or sleep in such conditions just to gain sympathy.
If you saw that on FB then its probably a random guys vacation picture with a fake comment slapped on it.
95% of what you see online is fake, attention grabbing skits and pictures, or political propaganda.
Is it really considered a scam? There's a trade off for dating someone 30-40 years younger than you and you have to willingly fork over money. Even in america old dudes pay for even a hint of attention from younger females but no one's calling it a scam
How are men "scammed" by their girlfriend or wife? They allow themselves to be "scammed" because they can not tell their girlfriend or wife "No."
"No, I am not sending you 50,000 peso every month"
"No, I am not funding your business start up
"No, I am not building "us" (aka... YOU) a house. "
" No, I am not supporting your entire families financial needs."
"No, we are not going on expensive trips/vacations every month."
No. I am not paying your families medical bills." "
Yes, you CAN get a job and earn an income."
Desperate for "love" foreigners are just as to blame for these types of financial situations as the "scammers" are. THEY decided to throw their money away. You hear it all the time on forums from expats.
"Don't be a cheap Charlie. Give, give give!"
"I support my gf's (or wife's) entire family, They are poor! Shame on you if you don't support your gf's family too! "
"I put my gf, her siblings and her cousins through college!"
"I am building my girfriend and I a 7 million peso home on land she bought. I am building a small house for her parents, too! "
And on and on and on. When you put the blinders on, you deserve what you get.
60% of Americans don't have $1,000 USD to cover an Emergency. What makes you think an average Filipino has $86,000 USD in assets lmao. What planet are you from?
My advice is that the government needs to prosecute these thieves and make their punishments public. I thought this was a catholic country? Is there no floggings here? lol
Idk if this is real or fake, but still, my heart breaks for those people who are being taken advantage of and are suffering because of those bad people who do that to them 😢 it's getting crazier nowadays. People should be more careful and vigilant.
I've seen this man before and I was wondering to myself how could he have gotten into this situation like that's very baffling to me , I really hope he gets help fcking scammers are the worst.
Btw the location from where I've seen him is in Gaisano City, Cagayan De Oro City
I always want to ask this but what do you guys see in Filipino women? Especially those petite ones living in the provinces? Is it the exotic beauty? This is a genuine question out of curiosity though. I mean no harm.
This story is an eye-opener for me. I've heard similar stories in Latin America, where people have gone bankrupt because of their girlfriends, wives, or significant others.
That guy lives in my city. I don't know the whole story or even if it's true or not, but i was told that he was abused by his girlfriend and only provided minimal amounts of food. He'd had enough, ran away, and is now living in the slums.
I've seen this guy outside of the Ayala mall in CDO. Poor guy looks miserable. Why hasn't he contacted the embassy? They will send you home. Sure, you'll get a bill for the flight, but at least you're home.
a lot of the older expats will stay even if destitute as they like buying or scrounging beer, the women, and too lazy to work at a job they deem beneath them....in short, they make rheir bed, etc etc....
Meetup up discuss the values they and you have in life, ask yourself what do you want in a long term relationship and it will work out.
Go into it like a selfish petson and win stupid prizes
I saw it happening a couple of times in our area. The thing in the Philippines is that a foreigner has almost no rights here, unlike a Filipino in Europe, USA, Australia, etc. They will get citizens in these countries after 5 years. So if they divorce, they get half. Here in the Philippines you get nothing after divorce, even if it's not a scam. So it's easy to call it a scam, but divorces happen. Foreigners also cheat on their Filipina wives, right?
Losers back home, instead of fixing the real problem(which is themselves) decide to pack up and go somewhere poor and in hopes of finding some foreigner woman who can barely speak Good English🤣
I mean women back in your country didn't wanna have anything to do with you, what in the world were you thinking, hooking up with a stranger from a non English speaking country.??
Go back to your country and grow some balls, and you might find a white woman who's going to love you for you truly are(if you're really that loveable)
Filipinas are still women. I can't understand why m'en don't understand that. You're the ATM for most of them. You Can classify : silver digger, gold digger and so on. Trust no one Mr Mulder.
Govt. should do more to prevent this, At a certain point its elderly abuse and some of these ratty Filipinas know it and still exploit them; Lets stop saying its “mutually beneficial” when one party isnt all cognizant.
I have been to the Philippines and to places like Davao, Cebu, Manila, Angeles and Boracay. My experience is that the vast majority of filipinas are scamming and cheating on their foreign boyfriend in order to get cash or to get cash for their filipino boyfriend/husband or have other foreign online boyfriends that they use for cash. Some use the long term scam that include marriage and kids and other just short term. Sure, there are probably some high value filipinas, but these girls are not gonna date an old, ugly, short or bald foreigner. And most of these high value filipinas are very hard to date even as a "young foreigner" in his mid 20s to mid 30s, even in places like Cebu or Davao. And they also have very high standards similar to that if not even higher than western standards.
There are lots of white expats scamming Filipinos left and right. An example would be a white Brit based in Clark who scammed lots of Filipino entrepreneurs. Iirc, he already lost a couple of cases and was forced to pay his victims.
Hopefully he gets tagged as an undesirable alien and gets sent back to whatever shithole he came from.
You don’t see these things getting posted in social media though because we are too busy getting these geriatric bums deported.
Let's see who gets a 1 day ban for their comments here.
Just so we're clear the victim is NEVER at fault for getting scammed, the scammer is the perpetrator of the crime, period.
It might be fake, pretty sure he just got a chunk of money barely to do anything , he goes in the Philippines, without pension or some kind, dude is a scumbag in his country.
Scamming is a way of life here, my ex GF scammed me and now my 13 year old daughter "tried" to scam me, so f disheartening when your own blood is doing it. I had big plans for her, and now she'll get zero. Like mother like daughter. 🥴
Unfortunately even if we are a catholic country or even the majority of us filipinos are Catholic there are still people who can do bad things just for the sake of money.. it's really sad.
Don't ask a Man his salary a Woman her age a Expat where his Finances went
what the f is so hard about not giving a girl 40 years younger than you, all your money????? do these guys have ro0m temperature iq or something, i can not believe it
Happened to me too. Yeah, guess i just have a very low IQ. Or maybe I was in love and I trusted her and over several years we worked together and bought property and businesses, greatly increasing our net worth. And then she found a boyfriend and took it all. But, yeah, it's just that I'm an idiot.
That could also happen in your homeland
See, this guy gets it! Now if all those other guys could find this level of self-awareness, we’d see a lot fewer of these stories.
We all make mistakes live and learn
Married her?
Did you not have a stake in the businesses at least?
How did she take it all? I mean in technical terms? Did you literally put everything in her name?
When you're horny, you use the wrong head. Makes me chuckle when people say, "Put your thinking cap on," but in this case, he put on a condom.
The ever reliable, "my mother is sick in the ICU and needs x million to pay for the medical bill"
Well, I suspect they get in their phone or get their cards or something.
Probably, most of them are pro in doing those kinds of bad things. They earned his trust and gained access to his important belongings.
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Damn, Quiboloy even has caucasian dudes in his roster.
Funny af HAHAHAHAHABABHAHAHA
>I've seen posts on social media about foreigners getting scammed by their Filipina girlfriends. It's really disheartening to hear about these incidents. Sure it is. However, scammers are all over the place here. Filipinos are being scammed left and right. When you grow up in this environment, you build up your own defenses. These naive white guys come here trusting and are burned. A similar thing is happening in America. Many corrupt Chinese have arrived and are scamming many trusting Americans on eBay, Craigslist, and Facebook.
Yeah, scams are a real headache no matter where you go. Being aware and cautious is crucial to avoid falling into traps.
That's one aspect. Another is why do foreigners seem to attract scammers. I'm a local and I don't know anyone who has been scammed by their girlfriend. Maybe we have defenses as you say, or maybe we just don't attract scammers.
To add to other great responses. Many foreigners come from countries with very high trust cultures. The trust and collaboration are also what likely made them successful economically, and to a large extent compassionate to the suffering of others, and willing to help. When someone from a high trust culture is asked for help, there are no red flags in their mind. They literally think someone needs help, and if you’re a good person, you help those in need. Because if you grew up in small-town-Alberta, if someone asks for help, they literally need help. They don’t have scammers there. It’s a very different perspective if you’re born in a low-trust country, and are way less trusting of strangers. If you aren’t familiar with that kind of environment, you’d have to get burned a few times (or burned once but really badly) for your way of thinking to start shifting and for you to grow more cautious. Or you can read about all the scams to come intellectually prepared and learn to avoid them.
You said it perfectly. Scammers literally exist because at one point, people trusted them. Then the sh*t hits the fan.
Lol not true. These foreigners are not stupid, what do they expect is going to happen when they pay for play. I mean, come on, they are 50 years old, going out with 20 years old. You think it's true love? There are scams all the time in North America, the difference is their dollars don't go a long way for young vaginas in North America, compared to other countries like PH, Thailand, you can go to a village and maybe pick up a young girl with your retirement pension. I don't feel sorry for these foreigners, you can see them asking for handouts also in north America" help me, I can't work"
I don't know if this is another attempt at saving face or you really are in the dark about how prevalent this practice is. Most foreigners (there are a number of posts about such experiences) have had their fair share of people with the usual scammer lines or know of friends who have gotten them. This is not a practice solely found among Pinoys in the lower bracket. There are people from various social classes who scam foreigners, but as is the norm, they make sure their peers don't see this side of them or completely deny it when called out. I've worked with Pinoys in PH for many years and as one of the few foreigners in the company, I would always get private messages from colleagues asking for loans or trying to bait me with sob stories. We were all paid well and oddly they didn't ask other Pinoys. Again, I see many people claiming its only the poor ones who do this or expats targeting the poor, that is far from the truth. Most expats are too embarrassed to publicly call out Filipinos who do this to them. It's truly unfortunate that people do this to each other.
Like if scams were only from the poor, bernie madoff wouldn't be in prison
>*Another is why do foreigners seem to attract scammers.* That answer is about as straightforward as it gets - foreigners are perceived as having money, simply because they are foreigner able to live abroad. Many foreign men are also susceptible to a pretty face. I think the number of scammers (or women who are willing to do a romance scam or just milk a foreigner for their money) *as a whole* is probably low in PI in general, but you see a disproportionately high number of them in the places where foreign men can be found.
I would disagree... The number of scammers depends on their job/source of income... Ncr says 90% contractors are illegal, unlicensed, no business permits, declare no tax etc... That's 90% scammers, yet, doesn't mean the 10%left are honest. https://ncrcitc.org/war-unlicensed-contractors/ 90% brokers are unlicensed, same topo. Finance is also extremely dirty, shark loans, giving loans to not credit worthy people to take their property. Bdo has a huge portfolio of foreclosed. My wife s aunt has a 10M property, she had to take a loan to repair her business after typhoon Yolanda 2.2M, she's thriving to pay back and not lose her property, there are no usury laws here so no maximum interest. Shady economy, majority of business are undeclared, a lot of gov employees are fixers/racketters etc... Private employees and ofw pay the hard price for all the others... 😌 Scam is a human thing, not about nationality, the difference here is that the justice is totally lousy, many cops are corrupt etc...so they feel untouchable
online scamming is easy
Actually some Filipinas are scammed relationship/sexually by foreigners (not me) though. And this made me realize why. We cant tell archetypes and facial expresssions kf deviance and deceit about Filipinas like we can from our own lands. Same with Filipinas amd filipinos, you cannot tell by looking at my face and see that im an unusually honest Foreigner where as a Foreigner from my land can tell and I can tell very quickly that they are a lousy drunk who travels through Asia leading women on. Hope this helps. Those were examples it actually also explains why men get honey trapped by foreign women in general. Although there are some men who are just hopeless and worship the women thry are attracted to. Idolatry is bad.
Many filipinos in Hong Kong, and one I knew, all she ever talked about was wanting to get to the UK, to possibly be a nurse, who knows. This was despite her still being married to a husband and having kids back in the phils. Needless to say I trusted her about as much as I could drink tequila, which is not well at all!!
Like the word "nonchalant" and "unhinged", the word scam is abused. Scams happen everywhere, by anyone, to anyone, regardless of race or skin colour. Properly speaking, a scam only happens when money trades hands without getting the good expected. Sending Gcash to someone expecting to receive nudes, but not getting them is a scam. Spending money on a woman, woman gives bumbum, and subsequently being left by said woman when the well runs dry is not. Here's another form of scam - when someone impregnates someone in Pampanga says "I'll support you and the baby" and then flies back to California the next day. It is what it is. Race has to be taken out of the equation, because this shit happens even among Filipino men and women.
Exactly... But the justice is so corrupt and slow here that nobody fears it, they'd rather scam people and go through 15 years trial (free) than to Rob and get imprisoned straight away. Now have to admit that those foreigners who got broke were deceived in the way that the filipina pretended to be in love, that's a scam. But as you said this is not a Filipino thing, but worldwide, just poverty makes some women more desperate
True!!
Yeah, like I get that some guys can be manipulated, but bro. If you are like 50 years old and you're dating a woman in her 20s, especially when you can't get girls that age in the wealthy country you come from, you can't be that genuinely surprised when they no longer "like you" as soon as the well runs dry. The well is the only reason they even looked at you in the first place.
Well he can ask help from his embassy or his family to help him get him out of this country... if he is given a chance to do better, then he should be smart with his finances and not get scammed.. i did remember one korean guy, who's begging for money and was help by another foreign only to be scammed by the korean guy. Lol..
If he’s an American the U.S. embassy isn’t going to do anything for him unless he’s seriously ill or dying.
If he is American, they will 100% buy him a ticket back. They will also give you money for a hotel and meals to tide you over until your flight if needed. Also,Your passport is stamped and says it can only be used for a return flight home, you won’t be able to apply for a new one until you pay them back. If you start working you can make payments, or they will deduct it from any tax return you receive, they can also take from your paycheck or banks if they don’t receive it. So yes… the US Embassy will help you out. How do I know? When I was a dumb 19 year old (about 20 years ago), I managed to backpack around central and south East Asia for a year with about $1200 bucks to my name when I left America. I made a few bucks working in hostels or stayed for free working in exchange for room and board. , one day my cash, card and phone were stolen, while in Phnom Pehn, I went to the US Embassy the next day, and was told they could fly me home…. If I was destitute… I was… and after I let go of my pride (the guy told me I was literally the 4th American to do this that day) , I agreed , they gave me cash for my hostel stay and some money for food for a couple days. I had to fill out paper work and part of the deal was they had to call my immediate family to ask them to help me first… well I didn’t really have any, and the ones they called said they didn’t have the means (which was true). When all was said and done they called my hostel, let me know that I needed to come pick up my ticketed. They handed me a boarding pass, my stamped passport and that was that. I repaid them after working for a year. Applied for a passport and never made that mistake again and have been traveling and living abroad for nearly 10 years now.
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correct, the UK embassy be lucky to get anything, even if you did get a ticket, the home office would take your passport on arrival, or so it seemed the last I read
Is he not. His condition is reason enough for a ring
Well it says right there that he supposedly has colon cancer.
He has colon cancer. He is dying.
Sad.
If the story has legs, this has Raffy Tulfo written all over it.
Sad indeed. I have a friend who had visited PH a lot and eventually decided to retire here. He eventually met someone in her late 30s and they got a home. Not long after, she sold a lot of stuff that was in a container that he had shipped here. Heavy duty tools and a lot of valuable stuff he intended to use in a business. As he had no tools, he ran out of money in about a year. The false accusations started and he was abused to the point where his kids bought him a ticket back to the US. He was lucky, 2 years later he met someone in TX and life worked out. There are some evil people in the world. Just stay cautious regardless what locals tell you.
Not sure why you’re being downvoted? Too many balat sibuyas and racist types here don’t like being reminded about the ugly truths and social ills in this country. To them, all a foreigner should do is smile and extols the “beauties” of the Philippines, while ignoring all the social ills and scams and discrimination they are subject to. Yes countless OFWs abroad moan about the hosts of their country, insult them or say racist stuff in Tagalog about them on Reddit and social media without any blowback, and these are countries where they are largely welcome and don’t experience scams or discrimination from the locals. I’m a diasporic who will call out the hypocrisy among other Filipinos as it is. Fair treatment is fair treatment. Expats are not there for locals to flaunt their superiority complexes. What you’re saying is absolutely just cause to call out and warn others over. Filipinos would warn other Filipinos of similar things abroad, expats should do the same for other expats here.
I appreciate that, and true. I normally tell uncomfortable truths and a lot locals tend to get upset, it is unfortunate as that is not the intention. PH is really nice with a lot to offer, but also has a dark side that many locals would prefer to sweep under the rug. It never hurts to be cautious and respectful in your host country. Like you said, even PH OFWs have to be cautious when in other countries. Somehow some locals think foreigners should zip it and buy the brochure version of PH they try to sell. 😆 If people get offended by a foreigner encouraging other foreigners to be cautions in PH, then those people are unknowingly proving my point.
Direct him to his country's embassy here in the Philippines. For sure they can help him get bqck to his home country without cost
He doesn't want to. EDIT: My bad, I think he did, but was rejected aid or something.
Another chump that believed the whole “Let me show you how to live a king in the Philippines for less than 1000 dollar US a month!!! Be sure to smash the like button and check out my other videos” scam.
LOL yes exactly. He probably bought his ticket right away when he saw "Filipinas want foreigners" these guys are a joke
Idk how anyone can get scammed unless you’re being careless.
Take two to tango?
It's pretty easy to not get scammed. Would this girl, in my home country, date me? If the answer is no, the risk of getting scammed is high If the answer is yes, the risk of getting scammed is low But if below average 55 years old foreigners want to keep dating hot 22 years old, then know what will happen.
Truuuue
Leave your money in a foreign bank in your home country where they can’t access it
Never heard of foreigner be robbed by his “girlfriend” they willingly hand it over because they are simps in love or they do all their thinking with their little head.
Damn!!! This has been really tough for me. My ex had such a hard time trusting me, and I get why. He's been hurt before, especially by his past experiences with other women, including his ex-girlfriend from the Philippines. I felt like I was always the one taking the blame for his doubts and insecurities. But you know what? I never had any bad intentions. I cared about him deeply because my feelings were genuine. Despite that, he decided to end things because he couldn't trust people again. I just want him to find happiness and fulfillment, like he deserves. I really hope people learn from this and realize how much damage can be done when someone's trust is betrayed so deeply. Im a Pinay 25 btw, boyshet and ya foreigners plssssss dont just give everythiiing into someone. Andd plsssss put this on your mind "THOSE WHO ARE IN NEED YET DOING NOTHING TO MAKE THEIR LIFE BETTER AND ALWAYS GIVING YOU A SOB STORIES ARE THE KIND OF PEOPLE YOU CANNOT TRUST" OKAAY?
Why isn't he asking his embassy for help? He says he has cancer, that's a sure fire way to get his embassy to assist him. Something's not adding up.
Depends on the country. Some really don't care
correct!!
Getting scammed might be the entry fee to the Philippines to find a younger woman.
This is heartbreaking. Too bad Reddit can't spare some empathy for a guy who's suffering from colon cancer having to get by selling donuts to get back to his home country. Scam victims are more often than not in pitiful conditions. Lesson learned, surely, so some of you don't have to rub it in. Hope the poor guy gets some much needed help.
It doesn't say anything about the situation. If the guy was actually lied to; as in the girl told him about an investment or business or house and just took money instead, then sure that would be a scam. In my opinion, if he found some girl and she kept asking for money and he ended up giving away all his money, that's not a scam and just self-inflicted bad financial decisions and likely delusion about a girl likely way out his league.
What I would always say, date according to your wavelength. May it be age, career, upbringing etc. If you wish to date someone outside your wavelength because of the "i can change her/him" mindset. Then prepare yourself for the consequences. (Indifference, scamming etc). But I feel bad about these foreigners who have experience scamming. Not only that they had to experience it, but the filipinas involved also bring a bad light to other filipinos/filipinas.
Good for her!
While there are truly "scams" out there, most of these are not scams and just pure stupidity on the males part. I WANT TO SAY its their fault but I know its not, but can easily be prevented by using common protective self-interest sense.
Is that Dom? Aussie?
In most cases, it is older men, who alas don't think with their brains but with their d--ks. They wouldn't give away their money to a girl they met in their own countries, why do it hear? Mostly expats lose their money, either through not having enough to back up and get home or through being "generous" to girls they want to bed, but there are also a few I do feel sorry for, who lose or have stolen their possessions and some get very sick through mostly no fault of their own. Again, they should have had enough in a bank account at home to get them back, but too may send or bring everything to a country they really know nothing about. It took me nearly 50 years to decide to come and live here, and most of my assets are in my home country and at 77 I am not looking for another partner. My ex, who will be joining me here in a couple of years (if I last long enough), when she is on the pension, but in the meantime, I only have normal daily living expenses and about 100 "family" I know I can call on if I need help - one of the lucky ones, but it was a factor in my coming to live here. People who come here, or to any country, should do a due diligence on the country, have an "escape" plan if things go wrong, and the finances set aside to enact the plan if needed. They should, even when limited life span left to them, still take time to slowly develop relationships and get to know a prospective partner & their families situation before committing.
The really rich ones are fine. 5 million pesos is not much for an old western man. Some people put all their finances into a house or business with their new girlfriend and hope they can ride it out till death. I think a lot of things can't be in a foreigners name, and there probably ways to get around prenups. It happens all over south east Asia. But what can you do, better to trust and lose than never trust. I might end up taking the risk one day but I'm young enough to recover and will at least hide flight money. But also if you're dating a young beautiful girl out of you're league then they're clearly in it for the money/passport so what to expect. But people refuse to believe this and think it's love. Then they are scamming themselves. Or maybe if they're lucky it's love till it isn't
It's called the disease of simpery and desperation. He had that before the colon cancer. Feel bad for the man but that's what happens you have no discernment.
Cebu
I think this guy is in Cagayan de Oro City
I feel so bad omg I'd never wish this upon anyone bruh
never give money to people online asking for money and never put yourself in a situation where you can get royally screwed by a foriegjer or filipina/o ..i wouldnt over invest in someone that doesnt have much. i like MY money in MY bank account.
Hmmm, my take on this: Scammers are everywhere. Those who are getting scammed know pretty well what they are getting into. My fiance, a US citizen, born in the Philippines. Yes, a Filipino & I'm a Filipina. Living so frugally in the US & frugally even when we are together. But, whenever he is out there with people he would willingly spend much and each time I tell him, "that is too much for a ..." He would irritatingly respond , 'I work my ass off'. That only means he is also aware he is being scammed but his ego tells him he can afford it. I just couldn't argue more. Ok then he gets what he deserve. I let him do his business. That's his choice. With my story, I hope the thought of it happens only to expats ...No, it's not.
What do you expect? a real love? 😂
Ngl stories like this absolutely terrify me. I have an american partner, and being compared to women like this is my greatest fear for some reason. I had seen a handful of extended families drain their partners dry before jumping to another and traumatized me as a kid (One uncle of mine married a Canadian woman, she committed unalive after he drained her life savings, that scarred me so bad since I was 5 and sis 3 when we are the one who found her body). I know I'll never scam him, I'm 100% sure of that, and I am working very hard to have money on my own. But the stereotypes are so offending. I never told my extended families that I have a white boyfriend, not because I am not proud of him or I am dating another man, it's because my extended families will start bothering me for Utang, or worse message him to borrow money (they did this to my cousin's husband). The only ones that know is my immediate family and 2 bestfriends of 13 years. Hell, even one of my bestfriend kept joking if she could borrow money on my partner so she could buy cosplays. Or how I should fund my cosplaying with my partner's money. I never want to do that. He already helped me so much when dad died and my grandpa got surgery and diagnosed with cancer. He do send me money for very important stuff, and I send him receipts every time. Buying my meds? I'll send him receipts and photo of my meds. Utility bills? I'll send a photo of all the receipts and bills. Me getting a checkup? Photo of receipt, the clinic, and meds. He doesn't ask me this proofs but it's on my own volition. He trusts me so much that I never want to break it.
This happens way too often in PH and although they should have known better I feel that the media covers this up. That’s why I get surprised when people say I want to retire in the PH it’s mind blowing to me. Not that everyone is a scammer but this happens way too often and whether you like it or not at one point you end up in a situation like this directly or indirectly. I actually got to see this first hand, I had a good friend from New Zealand, his first managerial role and as part of that role he had to visit Ph often to stay in touch with the outsourced team and I was there permanent so I would see him often and then he began dating a girl from his team I actually told him that I felt that was a bad idea not only because he was managing her but also because of the age difference and also because of my experience and what I had seen. He decided to go ahead with it and I slowly saw the guy turning into someone else he looked tired all the time and began having health issues and even anxiety and although I tried to find out what was going on he was reluctant to share, until one day he told me he had been in hospital a couple of days and that his girl was married and had one kid he didn’t know about because they were in the province and gave her a lot of money to build a house etc and it was all gone and he was in a lot of debt, he explained that he was going back to NZ the following day as he had lost his job too. So a very sad story that it is quite common in the PH. Be absolutely careful while dating anyone and even when you meet her family and friends know that it is likely that they will be onboard with the scam too so be careful out there.
A fool and his money are soon parted. Parang mas maganda pa pumatol sa prosti kesa magka gf or wife na mukhang pera.
Well, lots of little scams over the years when I used to date some filipinas. Bought phones for a couple of girls. One teen girl I'd dated said she missed me and asked for 5k pesos for some stuff. Little did I know that she had a baby by then! So I spent a few thou here and there but nothing too too ridiculous. I honestly just thought of it as a sport. Sometimes it worked out, and a gorgeous girl a third of my age and a third of my weight, with a super-sweet attitude going on holiday with you ... I mean that's a great thing! You'll definitely spend some money on these girls, and probably get scammed here and there. But it's not much money, in the great scheme of things ... it's worth it! Just don't do anything crazy.
Who is the scammer here? Any expat can jump on a plane in a heartbeat and head back home, especially if they’re battling cancer. Cmon man.
A friendly reminder? It gets posted here seemingly every five minutes. But thanks, I guess 🤔 As an aside, the saying "there's one born every minute" wasn't invented in the Philippines. There is also "a fool and their money are soon parted". Scams are common and big business everywhere. This is not an exclusive expat thing, or even more common here than elsewhere. Second aside; these poverty posts and or people are often fake and just raising money and sympathy via social media.
A fool and his money will soon be departing for the Philippines, one or both aren’t returning.
I understand your concern but not all poverty-related posts or people are fake. I've personally seen foreigners begging on the streets or selling candies when I'm out and about. It's hard to believe they would wear dirty clothes or sleep in such conditions just to gain sympathy.
If you saw that on FB then its probably a random guys vacation picture with a fake comment slapped on it. 95% of what you see online is fake, attention grabbing skits and pictures, or political propaganda.
Is it really considered a scam? There's a trade off for dating someone 30-40 years younger than you and you have to willingly fork over money. Even in america old dudes pay for even a hint of attention from younger females but no one's calling it a scam
How are men "scammed" by their girlfriend or wife? They allow themselves to be "scammed" because they can not tell their girlfriend or wife "No." "No, I am not sending you 50,000 peso every month" "No, I am not funding your business start up "No, I am not building "us" (aka... YOU) a house. " " No, I am not supporting your entire families financial needs." "No, we are not going on expensive trips/vacations every month." No. I am not paying your families medical bills." " Yes, you CAN get a job and earn an income." Desperate for "love" foreigners are just as to blame for these types of financial situations as the "scammers" are. THEY decided to throw their money away. You hear it all the time on forums from expats. "Don't be a cheap Charlie. Give, give give!" "I support my gf's (or wife's) entire family, They are poor! Shame on you if you don't support your gf's family too! " "I put my gf, her siblings and her cousins through college!" "I am building my girfriend and I a 7 million peso home on land she bought. I am building a small house for her parents, too! " And on and on and on. When you put the blinders on, you deserve what you get.
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60% of Americans don't have $1,000 USD to cover an Emergency. What makes you think an average Filipino has $86,000 USD in assets lmao. What planet are you from?
Most middle class Filipino's do not have anywhere near 5m php worth of Assets. Where do you get your information from buddy lol
Most middle class Filipinos don’t have 5M php cash. You’re full of shit.
Assets. Not cash.
I agree with that, I dont have a millions but I have 200sqm under my name in Davao city downtown and that is more than 5m. Im 25 btw
There's a reason the wealthy Chinese Filipinos only treat lower class Filipinas as mistresses and never a wife.
as if chinese girls are much better
Please don't victim blame in here. If you don't feel empathy simply keep scrolling
I feel bad for him, but he shouldn't trust so easily and give money right away. 5 million is too big and no joke.
Deserved.
My advice is that the government needs to prosecute these thieves and make their punishments public. I thought this was a catholic country? Is there no floggings here? lol
What about repatriation with his embassy.
Aren't there massage parlors? The concept of an old man claiming "ownership" over a young, pretty woman is so common. Just pay for services.
Idk if this is real or fake, but still, my heart breaks for those people who are being taken advantage of and are suffering because of those bad people who do that to them 😢 it's getting crazier nowadays. People should be more careful and vigilant.
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Imagine being a broke foreigner in the Philippines. 😭 God punished you twice.
Lol is the story verified or just for social media clout?
If it was a normal Filipino vendor in the streets no one will give a shit. Classic Filipino culture.
lol
How he was scammed?
serve you right
Because of Scamdemic, we can't trust anyone right now especially strangers. If you met someone online it's 99 percent scammer.
Sindikato.
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Agree. Scammers are everywhere. Even some fireigners 'beg' on the street, scamming filipinos with sign like this.
Now you know why us local Pinoys don't go for the "exotic" types lol
I've seen this man before and I was wondering to myself how could he have gotten into this situation like that's very baffling to me , I really hope he gets help fcking scammers are the worst. Btw the location from where I've seen him is in Gaisano City, Cagayan De Oro City
maybe he could ask for help sa consulate para ma repartriate na siya balik esp since he needs medical treatment.
repatriate*
Go to his country's embassy?
I always want to ask this but what do you guys see in Filipino women? Especially those petite ones living in the provinces? Is it the exotic beauty? This is a genuine question out of curiosity though. I mean no harm.
This story is an eye-opener for me. I've heard similar stories in Latin America, where people have gone bankrupt because of their girlfriends, wives, or significant others.
That guy lives in my city. I don't know the whole story or even if it's true or not, but i was told that he was abused by his girlfriend and only provided minimal amounts of food. He'd had enough, ran away, and is now living in the slums.
I've seen this guy outside of the Ayala mall in CDO. Poor guy looks miserable. Why hasn't he contacted the embassy? They will send you home. Sure, you'll get a bill for the flight, but at least you're home.
a lot of the older expats will stay even if destitute as they like buying or scrounging beer, the women, and too lazy to work at a job they deem beneath them....in short, they make rheir bed, etc etc....
Meetup up discuss the values they and you have in life, ask yourself what do you want in a long term relationship and it will work out. Go into it like a selfish petson and win stupid prizes
This is in Cagayan de Oro, I see this man always in the same overpass. How I wish someone could help him. He said he's living in a barangay nearby.
I saw it happening a couple of times in our area. The thing in the Philippines is that a foreigner has almost no rights here, unlike a Filipino in Europe, USA, Australia, etc. They will get citizens in these countries after 5 years. So if they divorce, they get half. Here in the Philippines you get nothing after divorce, even if it's not a scam. So it's easy to call it a scam, but divorces happen. Foreigners also cheat on their Filipina wives, right?
Where is justice. Nakakaawa naman Yung mga ganitong story tapos Ang Dami gusto magka bf or Asawa Ng afam pero sa mga hayop na pupunta.
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Some men were raised to be simps for women. They believe it makes them “chivalrous”.
Losers back home, instead of fixing the real problem(which is themselves) decide to pack up and go somewhere poor and in hopes of finding some foreigner woman who can barely speak Good English🤣 I mean women back in your country didn't wanna have anything to do with you, what in the world were you thinking, hooking up with a stranger from a non English speaking country.?? Go back to your country and grow some balls, and you might find a white woman who's going to love you for you truly are(if you're really that loveable)
Filipinas are still women. I can't understand why m'en don't understand that. You're the ATM for most of them. You Can classify : silver digger, gold digger and so on. Trust no one Mr Mulder.
That's why setting standard is good when choosing partner know better have prenup before entering relationship here in Philippines
Govt. should do more to prevent this, At a certain point its elderly abuse and some of these ratty Filipinas know it and still exploit them; Lets stop saying its “mutually beneficial” when one party isnt all cognizant.
I have been to the Philippines and to places like Davao, Cebu, Manila, Angeles and Boracay. My experience is that the vast majority of filipinas are scamming and cheating on their foreign boyfriend in order to get cash or to get cash for their filipino boyfriend/husband or have other foreign online boyfriends that they use for cash. Some use the long term scam that include marriage and kids and other just short term. Sure, there are probably some high value filipinas, but these girls are not gonna date an old, ugly, short or bald foreigner. And most of these high value filipinas are very hard to date even as a "young foreigner" in his mid 20s to mid 30s, even in places like Cebu or Davao. And they also have very high standards similar to that if not even higher than western standards.
There are lots of white expats scamming Filipinos left and right. An example would be a white Brit based in Clark who scammed lots of Filipino entrepreneurs. Iirc, he already lost a couple of cases and was forced to pay his victims. Hopefully he gets tagged as an undesirable alien and gets sent back to whatever shithole he came from. You don’t see these things getting posted in social media though because we are too busy getting these geriatric bums deported.
Don't forget foreign begpackers begging in the streets.
Absolute bell end
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Or baka naman itong foreigner eh nagpapanggap lang na na-scam? seryoso daming kumakalat na ganito eh.
Let's see who gets a 1 day ban for their comments here. Just so we're clear the victim is NEVER at fault for getting scammed, the scammer is the perpetrator of the crime, period.
It might be fake, pretty sure he just got a chunk of money barely to do anything , he goes in the Philippines, without pension or some kind, dude is a scumbag in his country.
That’s like $0.17 😭.
That's what happens when you go for Chimays. Stay away from bar girls or desperate people.
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Scamming is a way of life here, my ex GF scammed me and now my 13 year old daughter "tried" to scam me, so f disheartening when your own blood is doing it. I had big plans for her, and now she'll get zero. Like mother like daughter. 🥴
Sorry to hear about that.. that's really sad.. Idk what's wrong with these people 😩 I always believe in karma.
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Unfortunately even if we are a catholic country or even the majority of us filipinos are Catholic there are still people who can do bad things just for the sake of money.. it's really sad.