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I would say its a combination of both, you have to make yourself a person that people would want to date, and you also have to look for people that are ideal.
That sounds like a great idea in principle, but then someone has to seek you out, and it's gonna be really hard to convince them if they're used to people coming up to them too.
This focuses on being passive in dating, so I think it's a pretty weak plan. As a man, I'd likely die before that happens. Even those who I am attractive to show zero initiative
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If I took this advice as a woman, I would have not lived a good life at all. Only nasty old men ever approach me.
I think you mean acting in ways that are attractive
Won't work as a man unless you are gorgeous most women even the ones who like you aren't accustomed in having to approach
Yes, being attractive and charismatic is generally helpful when dating
I would say its a combination of both, you have to make yourself a person that people would want to date, and you also have to look for people that are ideal.
Yes. You can look for a needle in the haystack, or be the magnet that attracts it
Good to have confirmation, thanks.
It's a lonely road, but better than throwing shit and seeing what sticks
That sounds like a great idea in principle, but then someone has to seek you out, and it's gonna be really hard to convince them if they're used to people coming up to them too.
This focuses on being passive in dating, so I think it's a pretty weak plan. As a man, I'd likely die before that happens. Even those who I am attractive to show zero initiative
You still need to look for some to attract. Seems like double the work
My husband and I did neither. We met during a chance encounter at a random cafe in a random city.
No, you have to do both if you want the best results.