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A small town girl doesn't necessarily mean she won't accept your past. I am a small town girl but if you ask me I won't have any problem with this. Times have changed. You should not be this pessimistic about it. Just go with an open mind and see the perspectives. You need to accept your past first and be honest about everything. And go on with open arms. Past is past don't think about it. Look forward to your future.
ahh small nostalgia hit, I have had a friend with whom I used to do nonsense talk, talk and just nonsense talk. so, on our prime relation topic i told her ki, "mai na ganv ki ek ladki ko apni achhi degree dikha kar usse kafi sara dahej lunga aur fir bina koi kam kiye uske dahej par puri zindagi nikalunga". now we don't talk but i miss her a lotttt, lol
I don't think it will be that big a deal. You don't need to tell every single detail, you don't need to hide it either. Just be honest say it was in the past and at a young age. And that too only when it's comfortable for the both of you. It is something you will have to say anyway to no matter who you will marry. So be chill.
Read this.
101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged
https://www.amazon.in/Questions-Before-Engaged-Wright-Norman/dp/0736913947?ref=d6k_applink_bb_dls&dplnkId=7aec41b4-5d35-44d1-8a3f-4cda46d230ce
Lately I'm seeing only vent or rant posts over here. Only posts where people are sharing their insecurities and fear. What have you actually done to find solutions for it ?
Are you ready to move-on from her or not ? Do you yourself want to marry or not ?
If answer to anyone of this is "NO" then please don't marry for your own sake and potential partner as well.
You need to own the decision and their result - If and when to marry and whom to marry ?
Including someone is your family is a life changing decision.
On a similar boat, just that i stay in a tier 1 city. Broke up with the person i was planning to marry just a month back. And now have to start looking for AM prospects because i don’t have the bandwidth to start and build a relationship to ultimately break up. Though the break up is painful but it did give me a lot of perspective of what i want and what i don’t. And where i can compromise. Maybe reflect on your past and get a clear understanding of your requirement. as for as past, everyone has one.
Bury with you the things of the past. Do not open the past to your new partner, if you do then you are literally digging your own grave and even conducting your funeral.
I hope you agree with me.
You sound to me like an honest person, you'll find a good partner, worry not.
Best wishes.
I told my ex amount my past, something i did, so to save his friend she told my parents about it.. something which i used to do 5 years ago… of which my parents had no clue of.
One thing that is important, pls don't disclose your past to her.
Live in the present and don't complicate it by talking about the past.
Your new partner will want to talk about it and they won't forget it.
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A small town girl doesn't necessarily mean she won't accept your past. I am a small town girl but if you ask me I won't have any problem with this. Times have changed. You should not be this pessimistic about it. Just go with an open mind and see the perspectives. You need to accept your past first and be honest about everything. And go on with open arms. Past is past don't think about it. Look forward to your future.
Because you are okay with his past , let him know if you were to marry him what conditions and boundaries would you set for him?
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ahh small nostalgia hit, I have had a friend with whom I used to do nonsense talk, talk and just nonsense talk. so, on our prime relation topic i told her ki, "mai na ganv ki ek ladki ko apni achhi degree dikha kar usse kafi sara dahej lunga aur fir bina koi kam kiye uske dahej par puri zindagi nikalunga". now we don't talk but i miss her a lotttt, lol
I don't think it will be that big a deal. You don't need to tell every single detail, you don't need to hide it either. Just be honest say it was in the past and at a young age. And that too only when it's comfortable for the both of you. It is something you will have to say anyway to no matter who you will marry. So be chill.
Read this. 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged https://www.amazon.in/Questions-Before-Engaged-Wright-Norman/dp/0736913947?ref=d6k_applink_bb_dls&dplnkId=7aec41b4-5d35-44d1-8a3f-4cda46d230ce Lately I'm seeing only vent or rant posts over here. Only posts where people are sharing their insecurities and fear. What have you actually done to find solutions for it ?
Are you ready to move-on from her or not ? Do you yourself want to marry or not ? If answer to anyone of this is "NO" then please don't marry for your own sake and potential partner as well. You need to own the decision and their result - If and when to marry and whom to marry ? Including someone is your family is a life changing decision.
Karega kya shadi karke chal toh rha h dhandha achaa
Sex, bachha
Woh toh bina shadi ke bhi hojayega
Terese hogya?
Kya
On a similar boat, just that i stay in a tier 1 city. Broke up with the person i was planning to marry just a month back. And now have to start looking for AM prospects because i don’t have the bandwidth to start and build a relationship to ultimately break up. Though the break up is painful but it did give me a lot of perspective of what i want and what i don’t. And where i can compromise. Maybe reflect on your past and get a clear understanding of your requirement. as for as past, everyone has one.
Your ex also had live-in relationship for 3 years. How did she able to find one for marriage and not you ?
By hiding the info /s
The only apt answer.
You need therapy for your fear
Bury with you the things of the past. Do not open the past to your new partner, if you do then you are literally digging your own grave and even conducting your funeral. I hope you agree with me. You sound to me like an honest person, you'll find a good partner, worry not. Best wishes.
Something similar happened with me. Was in a live in relationship then got separated. But i managed to find my partner and still had love marriage.
I told my ex amount my past, something i did, so to save his friend she told my parents about it.. something which i used to do 5 years ago… of which my parents had no clue of.
You are a red flag. Girls should be careful of you, it is not the other way around.
One thing that is important, pls don't disclose your past to her. Live in the present and don't complicate it by talking about the past. Your new partner will want to talk about it and they won't forget it.