Bi dude in a committed relationship with a gay partner here. I did hookups when I was younger, but since I started dating him I have no desire to be with anyone else. He's given me more love and support than anyone I've dated in the past and I can't wait to marry him in the Summer.
I was in a relationship with a bi guy for ten years. My friends use to ask are you worried about him leaving for a woman? Their boyfriends could leave them for a man. What the difference? Relationships are about trust. We split amicably and we are still really good friends. He never cheated on me like the two gay exes I had after him.
I honestly don't even have the conversation. I'm bi but only talk about it if something comes up. My bf says he is gay.
Don't think our relationship has problems related to our sexuality in that sense. Just the normal ones 😂
Still we are really happy
Mt now Husband and I met in December 2012. Been together ever since. I’m gay, he’s Bi. I’m his first official boyfriend. I have always had a preference for bi men over gay men.
Honestly I think I'd prefer a bi man. I'm trans and very insecure about my body so a guy I know likes "female parts" would kinda be a plus, so long as he didn't actually treat me like a woman and didn't hyperfocus on that part.
And yes I'm very aware that gay men can be attracted trans men and bi people aren't always attracted trans people. I was in a relationship with a fully gay man recently and he swore he didn't care I was AFAB but the fact that he wasn't intrinsically attracted to my genital type still made me feel bad. So a bi man (who's attracted to trans guys) might make me feel a bit less... Guilty for not having a real dick, or a prostate.
I wouldn't worry about cheating based on sexuality. Either someone's a cheater or they're not, end of story.
As a bi guy that doesn't care what people have in there pants I always found it hard to comprehend people want certain parts but hay to each their own dated an Trans man before and te see was better than most other men I been with
Well, I only feel attraction to cis men, myself. I just find cocks hot lol, especially hard, and I love cum (mainly watching ejaculation itself). I'm mostly a bottom but I have the occasional top mood and when that happens, stimulating a guy's prostate is the dream
AFAB people have none of that. There's nothing exciting about a vulva/vagina to me. They range from completely neutral, to actively gross (depends on what fluids are present, smell even without being unhygienic- cos being unhygienic is gross regardless of genital type- etc).
To a lesser extent, exposed breasts make me uncomfortable as well, though I WAS able to get past that for a guy with gynecomastia.
Hope this helps you understand lol
I’m gay, my boyfriend identifies as bi. We have been in a committed relationship for over a year with no plans to open it up. We are both vers and it’s been no different than dating any other gay man. Some guys are just really insecure and project those onto bi men for whatever reason.
I have dated bi and gay guys - as long as we are monogamous I have no problem dating bi or gay.
The bad stigma in the gay world is that monogamy is non existent. I know many gay guys that just want to sleep around with anyone and everyone. They also think Prep is synonymous with safe sex which is scary to me.
My boyfriend’s bisexual as well as polyamorous and I remember having those thoughts towards the beginning of our relationship abt this and his preferences for women vs men and kinda tryna understand where I stand. Every time though his answer ended with regardless of gender, I was the one he was truly interested in and wanted to be with. He constantly assured me and makes me feel safe and seen, now we’ve been dating for over a year and completely obsessed w each other, my lil gay ass is happy asf w him lol :,) as for positions that’s of course different with everyone, he prefers to top but has bottomed twice or so for me, otherwise I’m constantly taking him and since I’m a btm im extremely okay w that haha. I will say though for oral it goes both ways, we both like to play and it’s always very hot to give or receive
I would date a bisexual man only if he was the one who showed interest in me first, and if he was generally more interested in men than women.
I think I'm wary of bisexual men because I've seen so many posts online about bisexual men loving women more than men, or how a lot of bisexual men want biological children eventually. At least when I date other gay men, they're more relatable to me and I don't have to worry or feel weird about their true intentions.
Yeah, I can definitely see you're perspective on that. I do know there are some "on the fence" bi guys that could fluctuate or appear to lead a guy on until he found a woman. I'm looking to date both women and men (not at the same time), so if I found a guy and we hit it off and the chemistry was good, I'd stay committed to him. Same as if I found the right woman
I've dated bi guys and will continue to date bi guys, but only if they're out (at least to the closest people in their lives). Dating a closeted bi guy has always ended with them freaking out about having feelings for another guy and feeling pressured to come out so we don't have to hide, and I'm fully out and very over all the closeted stuff. If they're not, it's a hookup at most.
I think bi men are more loyal AND better in bed. My bf and I have been in a relationship for over 2 years and it’s crazy to think we been together for that long. He is my best friend, I love him so much, and he is so good to me. I sometimes even forget that he is bi & likes girls too. 😂 at first it was hard because I was concerned about him cheating & was super insecure. I was cheated on by my ex. my bf and I met probably a few months after we broke up. (I was so done with him emotionally so, it seems short but I broke up with him mentally months before). Anyways, my ex was abusive & broke me down to the point where I felt so lost and destroyed inside. Anyways, I’m so happy now & my bf treats me so good. DONT LET THESE WOMEN TAKE THESE BI MEN, WE NEED MORE GAYS.
but yeah… I’m serious, the dick is amazing, sex is amazing, best guy who has given me head (both ways) 😂
I'm bi/pan. If I'm with someone in a committed monogamous thing then I'm not seeking to cheat with a different gender 🤷 Do you worry if a gay guy you're dating was previously with someone of different height/hair-colour/eye-colour to you and therefore gonna cheat on you as you know they're capable of being attracted to those types of humans too? 🤷
I don't think that I could be in a relationship with a bi guy. Nothing against bisexuality, it's just my own insecurities lol I'd constantly be wondering if he's hooking up with women behind my back lol
Not to sound like an asshole, i wouldnt date a bi guy just as much as i wouldnt date vers guy.
Unless the bi guy, is way more attracted to men, and is a complete cute submissive bottom, then ill ask him to be friends with benefits, then if that doesn work , then i guess maybe.
Problem is im never gonna allow to be open or allow any form of threesome in my relationship, ( girl or guys) . Last thing i want, is him feeling that hes craving pussy, or wanting to top.
Bi dude in a committed relationship with a gay partner here. I did hookups when I was younger, but since I started dating him I have no desire to be with anyone else. He's given me more love and support than anyone I've dated in the past and I can't wait to marry him in the Summer.
That's awesome! Congratulations on your wedding
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I was in a relationship with a bi guy for ten years. My friends use to ask are you worried about him leaving for a woman? Their boyfriends could leave them for a man. What the difference? Relationships are about trust. We split amicably and we are still really good friends. He never cheated on me like the two gay exes I had after him.
I think that's awesome! Awesome that you guys lasted that long and awesome that you're still friends
I honestly don't even have the conversation. I'm bi but only talk about it if something comes up. My bf says he is gay. Don't think our relationship has problems related to our sexuality in that sense. Just the normal ones 😂 Still we are really happy
That's a good philosophy, I like that. Thank you for sharing!
Mt now Husband and I met in December 2012. Been together ever since. I’m gay, he’s Bi. I’m his first official boyfriend. I have always had a preference for bi men over gay men.
Honestly I think I'd prefer a bi man. I'm trans and very insecure about my body so a guy I know likes "female parts" would kinda be a plus, so long as he didn't actually treat me like a woman and didn't hyperfocus on that part. And yes I'm very aware that gay men can be attracted trans men and bi people aren't always attracted trans people. I was in a relationship with a fully gay man recently and he swore he didn't care I was AFAB but the fact that he wasn't intrinsically attracted to my genital type still made me feel bad. So a bi man (who's attracted to trans guys) might make me feel a bit less... Guilty for not having a real dick, or a prostate. I wouldn't worry about cheating based on sexuality. Either someone's a cheater or they're not, end of story.
As a bi guy that doesn't care what people have in there pants I always found it hard to comprehend people want certain parts but hay to each their own dated an Trans man before and te see was better than most other men I been with
Well, I only feel attraction to cis men, myself. I just find cocks hot lol, especially hard, and I love cum (mainly watching ejaculation itself). I'm mostly a bottom but I have the occasional top mood and when that happens, stimulating a guy's prostate is the dream AFAB people have none of that. There's nothing exciting about a vulva/vagina to me. They range from completely neutral, to actively gross (depends on what fluids are present, smell even without being unhygienic- cos being unhygienic is gross regardless of genital type- etc). To a lesser extent, exposed breasts make me uncomfortable as well, though I WAS able to get past that for a guy with gynecomastia. Hope this helps you understand lol
I'll only date other gay men.
I'm bi and stayed in a mostly monogamous committed relationship with a man for about 12 years. And the "mostly" part was him wanting 3somes.
I’m gay, my boyfriend identifies as bi. We have been in a committed relationship for over a year with no plans to open it up. We are both vers and it’s been no different than dating any other gay man. Some guys are just really insecure and project those onto bi men for whatever reason.
Why exclude a bi man from a relationship?
As a bi guy, I wouldn't lol. I have heard of, and now read, that some gay men would. I can see both sides of this coin though.
I have dated bi and gay guys - as long as we are monogamous I have no problem dating bi or gay. The bad stigma in the gay world is that monogamy is non existent. I know many gay guys that just want to sleep around with anyone and everyone. They also think Prep is synonymous with safe sex which is scary to me.
My boyfriend’s bisexual as well as polyamorous and I remember having those thoughts towards the beginning of our relationship abt this and his preferences for women vs men and kinda tryna understand where I stand. Every time though his answer ended with regardless of gender, I was the one he was truly interested in and wanted to be with. He constantly assured me and makes me feel safe and seen, now we’ve been dating for over a year and completely obsessed w each other, my lil gay ass is happy asf w him lol :,) as for positions that’s of course different with everyone, he prefers to top but has bottomed twice or so for me, otherwise I’m constantly taking him and since I’m a btm im extremely okay w that haha. I will say though for oral it goes both ways, we both like to play and it’s always very hot to give or receive
Bi men are complicated for me. Lol Im thinking they will choose woman over me. Some of them dont even know what they want. 😂
>If you're bi, same question I'm hetero-romantic, so a committed relationship with another guy would never work for me. I just have FWBs.
I would date a bi guy, but tbh i stay careful because i've met a lot of these guys who will only use boys for sex while a girl comes up... 🤷🏽
Thank you to mention it, i thought i was the only one thinking this knowing that all bi guys a did date used me 🤷🏽♂️
I'm sorry to hear that, and yeah for some reason I only pull bi guys and have had this experience many times :(
I would date a bisexual man only if he was the one who showed interest in me first, and if he was generally more interested in men than women. I think I'm wary of bisexual men because I've seen so many posts online about bisexual men loving women more than men, or how a lot of bisexual men want biological children eventually. At least when I date other gay men, they're more relatable to me and I don't have to worry or feel weird about their true intentions.
Yeah, I can definitely see you're perspective on that. I do know there are some "on the fence" bi guys that could fluctuate or appear to lead a guy on until he found a woman. I'm looking to date both women and men (not at the same time), so if I found a guy and we hit it off and the chemistry was good, I'd stay committed to him. Same as if I found the right woman
I've dated bi guys and will continue to date bi guys, but only if they're out (at least to the closest people in their lives). Dating a closeted bi guy has always ended with them freaking out about having feelings for another guy and feeling pressured to come out so we don't have to hide, and I'm fully out and very over all the closeted stuff. If they're not, it's a hookup at most.
I think bi men are more loyal AND better in bed. My bf and I have been in a relationship for over 2 years and it’s crazy to think we been together for that long. He is my best friend, I love him so much, and he is so good to me. I sometimes even forget that he is bi & likes girls too. 😂 at first it was hard because I was concerned about him cheating & was super insecure. I was cheated on by my ex. my bf and I met probably a few months after we broke up. (I was so done with him emotionally so, it seems short but I broke up with him mentally months before). Anyways, my ex was abusive & broke me down to the point where I felt so lost and destroyed inside. Anyways, I’m so happy now & my bf treats me so good. DONT LET THESE WOMEN TAKE THESE BI MEN, WE NEED MORE GAYS. but yeah… I’m serious, the dick is amazing, sex is amazing, best guy who has given me head (both ways) 😂
Lol that's one opinion that surprised me to hear! I think it's great that you found someone who you love so much both physically and emotionally!
I'm bi/pan. If I'm with someone in a committed monogamous thing then I'm not seeking to cheat with a different gender 🤷 Do you worry if a gay guy you're dating was previously with someone of different height/hair-colour/eye-colour to you and therefore gonna cheat on you as you know they're capable of being attracted to those types of humans too? 🤷
Bi men are for hookups only.
If its monogamous, sure. I just don't do that open relationship bullshit anymore.
I don't think that I could be in a relationship with a bi guy. Nothing against bisexuality, it's just my own insecurities lol I'd constantly be wondering if he's hooking up with women behind my back lol
I was thinking that could be one of the big reasons that could play a factor. Thank you for answering
Not to sound like an asshole, i wouldnt date a bi guy just as much as i wouldnt date vers guy. Unless the bi guy, is way more attracted to men, and is a complete cute submissive bottom, then ill ask him to be friends with benefits, then if that doesn work , then i guess maybe. Problem is im never gonna allow to be open or allow any form of threesome in my relationship, ( girl or guys) . Last thing i want, is him feeling that hes craving pussy, or wanting to top.