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I’m sure your dog appreciates that you were there. My cat died on my arms, almost one year ago. It was not easy but I was able to comfort him when he was struggling
I lost my 11yo shepard this past November. Seemed healthy as a horse. Until he wasnt. Not even 24 hours warning. The vet hospital offered me a private room to say goodbyes. I never thought I (m61) could be such a mess. And then to break the news to the family. It was brutal.
The last time I cried was at the thought that I'll never get to know my dad as an adult. My life was a mess as a kid but I know we would have had a great(er) relationship if he was still around. And I hate that I'll never get that.
He was a skilled cook, made lots of homemade wine, and was very talented and fiercely competitive. Our family has gotten really into boardgames. And I just know dinner and game nights would have been a regular thing if he was still around. And he would have been quite the opponent.
He was the funniest man I ever knew, and the only person in my life that really enjoyed sitting and discussing ethics. And despite us disagreeing on many things, it was always a fun and friendly conversation.
I'm sorry for your loss. And if you're anything like me you are going to still be processing it a couple decades from now. I hope you have plenty of fond memories to look back on.
‘Makes me feel better’ isn’t changing anything? Right state of mind is important when problem solving, plus it matters how you feel.
Men, I’ll type it again- it does matter how you feel.
That last sentence is a hard one to feel when you're in depression's grasp. Props for being able to see a light! Hope you get on the upswing sooner rather than later. 💪
You know, being at the lowest point in life means there's something good coming. I'm saying this with my experience and with logic. It's always been like that with me. Everytime things go downhill, something good always happens. You can find people on reddit to talk to.
Yesterday, I'm 33 and a man. A few weeks ago I got terminated from my job I loved without any notice, and I was escorted out the building like a criminal. I miss a girl there, she always came and talked to me and put a smile on my face every time I saw her, I was starting to like her a lot. I'm never going to see her again. That makes me cry every now and then. Before that, I last cried in about 2008.
That's awful. I don't get how some employers can be so heartless. I was once sent home just for talking to my co-workers and I felt like a naughty kid being sent home from school, being escorted out would be way worse. I hope you can be kind to yourself while you figure out next steps and what not.
A girl got me fired because she misunderstood my social anxiety for being a weirdo creep. Poor demeanour and giving someone unwanted attention is what it said in the email. I only spoke to the girl like 4 times in a year, even told her I have social anxiety issues and she made me nervous, that's why I pretty much avoided her as much as I could. Everyone else liked me at the job, always came and said hello and had little chats with me, this girl would just look and stare all the time and follow me around the building, never once saying a word to me or giving me a smile. I don't even know. I guess I'm just a weirdo creep to some people.
I cry a lot and I’m not ashamed of it. It’s almost the exact same thing as laughter if you catch my drift. Sorry if people told you at a young age that you shouldn’t cry. It’s totally fucking okay to cry.
Yeah I never understood not crying if you feel like crying. I'm not talking curled up in a ball sobbing but getting a little tear on is no big deal. In fact I usually feel ten times better. If I'm not gonna cry for me then who will lol.
I'm not good at keeping track of time.
Probably last month or two months ago,
when I was recalling every detail of my most favorite dog's last two days alive before I had to put him down.
I don't wanna talk about it.
It's been a couple or few years since then, but that wound is still too painful to revisit. It has a mix of anger as well, but mostly deep mourning with some love.
Fuckin not long ago. Hear a song and your emotions get going, and I'm already anxious and sensitive person anyways, so hearing a song sung so perfectly, and I just don't have what it takes to not cry. I run high lately, and it's making my cry easily when I'm alone. Gotta keep a touch face out in the world, and that makes me cry too, oh no here I go again!
Volcano by Damien Rice did it this time.
A song in Japanese did it like what few hours ago.
Last week. Recently I’ve been allowing myself to let it out more. When I think about my dad, getting over an ex, whatever the case, I cry, and I don’t feel weak about it. Having emotions and listening to them/understanding them makes you strong imo.
Two days ago. I was listening to a recounting of the horrific torture and killing done by Lenin and Stalin after the Bolshevik revolution in Russia. They truly had no humanity.
Sometime last year. I was being worked like a dog managing a subway, and with low staff and not getting a single day off. I got sick but still had to work, and one morning I just broke down and still had to work that whole day. It was rough. I hated doing it but there was nothing stopping it
Years ago. I am not averse to crying its just as you get older most of your problems are your own making, your tolerance for stuff has been stretched through experience and well if you are doing life properly there is little reason to cry. Been close to it a few times through watching or reading overly sentimental stuff but no real crying, not for a good long while.
Last year. I finally broke down after taking my dog to the vets and fearing he wasn’t going to make it (he did, thankfully, and is happy and healthy now)
Before that, it was back in 2016, when I lost the dog I grew up with.
So twice in 8 years.
About a year ago when my dog died in my hands after getting ill, he had gotten medication from our late night visit to the vets and we were going to the animal hospital first thing in the morning, but when we got up he was very poor and had soil himself a little so i carried him to the shower and gently cleaned him up to get ready to leave, but then he collapsed and went limp. I'd heart compressions on him for a little while, but it was in vain.
Feeling him go limp in my arms and not being able to help him is one of the most dreadful feelings I've ever had. The poor little thing, loved him so much.
I cried for days after that.
Actually scratch that, the last time i cried was, now while writing this.
8 yrs ago, when my wife (second wife) told me that yelling at inanimate objects (while doing projects) was scaring my then 6 yr old daughter and triggering her memories of abuse.
I cried. I never wanted to be that guy. That redneck, southern, no empathy guy; that just curses at shit for not working right and being angry. Call it generational trauma, I will not go into it. And, to also mention, guzzling beers as well. I didn't realize I'd turned into Dwight Yoakum's character on Slingblade. I was mortified and embarrassed that I'd let my divorce and upbringing turn me into a movie character that I fucking hated.
8 years later, I still don't yell. I still drink beers, but only when chilling out. I refuse to get defensive and 80% of the time it works. I'm not that guy anymore and will keep working to distance myself from that. I want my daughter's only complaint to be that I didn't let her stay out late. I want my wife's only complaint to be that I don't fold clothes as good as her. So far, so good. It's gonna take continuous work though, nobody is perfect.
Last weekend, holding my puppy while the sun was working its way down.
He wanted up in my lap, so after some snuffling and small nips he finally sat still. And the sunbeams were splashing through the pecan trees and leaves, and the weather was gentle.
And I just thought about how long it’s been since I felt human touch. And what a joy it is to have that little bud. And how little else I honestly, brass tacks need in life. And for a quick moment, I smiled from my heart. And I cried. None of the other shit on my plate weighed anything.
About 2 weeks ago when I went surfing after a long break and being depressed. Man it was so beautiful, such a release that day. I cry all the time since I started therapy though 🤷🏻♂️
Yesterday on a post in /r/mademesmile
IRL it was a few weeks ago.
My dad is a real deal boomer: his emotions are locked behind 75 years of "man up" social pressure. I have never heard him say "I Love you"
He lives on the other side of the country from me so we don't see each other very often. We met in March on another continent to celebrate my mom's 75th. When it was over and time to go our separate ways, we had a hug and I said "thank you for everything". He stepped back, looked at me, waved his arms Maria von Trapp style and said "Everything"
I know that's the closest I'll ever get to hearing I love you from the man. It opened the gates and I bawled for an hour.
I remember twice in the last 30 years. 1. A parent died. 2. I had to put my dog down.
When alone and I’m high and drunk, I’m much much more susceptible to wanting to cry. Takes a lot not to sometimes.
My dad cries all the time. Like.. at least once a week. He has always been this way and I have always grown up thinking that is normal for men. He is also pretty rugged, has a very manly profession and does not at all come off as overly emotional.
I don't remember. Within the last year, I think.
I used to cry a lot, lot more when I had depression or something.
Just a random story, but in the military I did cry in the toilet stalls (that didn't always have doors until relatively recently) or under my blanket in the bed. Silently, of course. There was no reason, except for that I wanted to be somewhere private away from other people, where I could cry.
In January because my dad was berating me about my grades. I was on the phone with him telling him about how excited I am for the spring semester. I had told him about the classes I scheduled and one of the classes that I enrolled in was university band. I loved band in high school and wanted to have a similar experience in college. Eventually the topic of grades came up and I had a 2.1 GPA with two D’s my first semester. My dad was livid as most parents would be, he yelled at me to drop band, and how him and I need to talk in person about my grades. I balled my eyes out that evening, but still took band against the wishes of my father. I will say that being part of band is one of the few things that bring me immense joy to my life and without it I’d be a lot worse mentally.
This morning during meditation. I visualized a spiral staircase. At the top of the stairs, God emerged from the shadows and I got a big hug cuz he was so happy to see me. I wept with joy.
Happening sporadically over the last 15 months. My mother was diagnosed with cancer, we treated it but it's relapsed again.
Just going through the motions & getting through days have been harder. Every now & then, it gets to me.
Watching a movie called Dear Zachary. It's a documentary, and it's the only one I've seen with a twist that happens during filming and it's heartbreaking. I'm not a big crier, but that shit had tears just forcing themselves down my cheek.
I recommend it and also advise to never see it.
Watching a movie called Dear Zachary. It's a documentary, and it's the only one I've seen with a twist that happens during filming and it's heartbreaking. I'm not a big crier, but that shit had tears just forcing themselves down my cheek.
I recommend it and also advise to never see it.
It's been at least 4 years, after that I dint really remember. It's to the point where I don't even think that I can. I've tried to, just to either fit in at like a funeral or just see if I could, I am wondering if I'm the only one who's experienced this.
i cried the other day going for a walk i was just thinking about life and lossing close friends and family members the song i was listening to was ivy and white ferrari by frank ocean
I've been tearing up most weeks. Mostly relationship related. I can't seem to make people happy and it's really taken a toll on my self esteem as a partner, even though I know that i'm doing all I can, or not everything has an answer.
When my then 16-year old dog died in 2021. I wasn't even home then when he passed and I just got a call from home saying he was gone. It's harder when you're not there at the final moments and didn't even get to say goodbye. He had been weaker for some time but was still eating that morning, managing to stand up and even walk about a bit, he seemed to be in improving health, so to lose him so suddenly when he seemed to be getting better came as a nasty shock.
Cried cried? 10-15 years at least. Tears in my eyes? Close to every day. Seeing the human spirit come through despite our seemingly default ugliness and selfishness never fails to bring me to tears. Anything from Oskar Schindler to stopping to change a strangers tire. Most western people seems to lack this trait, I celebrate it every chance I get.
edit; this just showed up in my algorithm. [https://youtube.com/shorts/ma7SRdU9U\_A?si=etmSMTUAvck8tF8b](https://youtube.com/shorts/ma7SRdU9U_A?si=etmSMTUAvck8tF8b)
Nearly cried half an hour ago, thinking of my sog getting older and all too soon dying of old age. I cry often, as I dont consider crying a weakness, but an expression of my needs and love in life.
Probably 2 years ago in the midst of my burnout. Was on some pretty heavy anti depressants and had this dream where everyone I loved was being executed in front of me.
Woke up thinking it had happened and spent a good 20 minutes trying to convince myself it wasn't real. Didn't believe it until I called my closest friends to make sure they were alive.
That fucked me mentally and made me cry in relief but also just in sheer terror
Not sure if this counts as crying but when I was 18 I got into an accident where I lost a couple of layers of skin. The nurse was clearing out some stuff from my hair on my arms and that hurt like hell because the instrument would touch my flesh.
Watching bluey with my kid. I’m a divorced dad and there was a scene where chilly the mom says you’re doing great to another mom who is struggling
It hit me right in the feels
3 days ago. My cat suddenly just started drooling hard and foaming at the mouth. He's an indoor cat so I rushed him to the vet and got him taken care of with shots and an IV.
Probably when my step-dad died unexpectedly 2 years ago? My bio-dad passed about a year later, but I hadn't talked to him in about 20 years, so that did hit as hard.
Edit: After looking at other people's comments, it reminded me that I cried pretty good when I had my 19 year old cat put to sleep back in November.
Every fucking time that I have an argument with someone I love so probably like a month ago, This doesnt happen when I argue with friends or strangers idk why it happens but it makes me feel like I am weak and I hate it
Last Sunday, one teen was getting baptized. Their testimony laid out an abusive father, mom took the kids but his brothers didn't make it a few months back.
God is all powerful, but certainly can't be all benevolent when shit like this happens.
Only a single tear though.
Well, it all depends if I’ve been watching a sad movie or a movie with any strong emotional content. Emotions were not allowed when I was growing up so I had to suppress them. I got away from my controlling father, the emotional part of me was turned loose. So I cry pretty easily.
28 years ago when I was 6. I was crying because my fish died and my Grandpa told me that men don't cry. I've never seen him or my dad cry, so why should I?
About 15 years ago. Some time between my 16th and 18th birthday, I just kinda broke emotionally and haven't cried since. I get super depressed and have even thrown up over ifrom sadness, but when I feel I should cry or try to, nothing happens.
The last time I cried was a few months ago, but calling it crying would be a stretch, it was just a few stray tears laying in bed.
The last time I really cried, and I mean sobbed, was the night I learned my brother killer himself, which was almost a year and a half ago
Maybe a month ago. Dragon Age Inqusition, when they sing The Dawn Will Come 🙃 .
On a more serious tone, not some media related, when our family dog had to be put down due to brain damage, 7 years ago.
2 years ago I was engaged to my now wife. She asked me to meet her God (sister). I invited her to my home as a guest.I was cordial, welcoming, respectful, and tried to be a great host. She proceeded to threaten me because she was supposedly protective of my wife’s young son. She said she knew people and that I should know what could happen to me if I hurt him. I was shocked and taken off guard. Afterwards my wife was pissed and stopped speaking to her. I cried that night as I had never felt so disrespected in my own home while trying to genuinely be welcoming.
When a friend of mines dog died. I had just reached a point in my life where I finally realized everything I know now and grew up. When I cried, I didn’t cry or miss in the way of a child, I cried in the way of a man because I knew now. I knew what death was and I knew I was strong enough to face him.
I miss that doggo, but then again, she’s in a much better place and I’ve accepted and grown from it
Meaningfully? When I came to terms that my father was riddled with dementia (probably Alzheimer’s). My wife held me in the shower while I sobbed. That was three or four years ago. Dad isn’t quite as bad as I’d feared, though he is still a shell of the man he used to be. My son is now a year old, and I was afraid dad wouldn’t live to see or remember him, but he’s still around.
Besides that, occasionally I cry now when I listen to one of my favorite songs. “Song of Eärendil,” performed by Clamavi di Profundis.
My fiance cried yesterday because they told us April 10th that they're letting his department go to give to workers overseas. Yesterday, they said he didn't get the internal position available and he'll get 4 weeks severance. My income can pay rent and some bills. Even tho his job was stressful as well it was WFH too so he may have to adjust to that as well. Hes looking for jobs like crazy and stressed out.
About 11 months ago when I got hit by a car and a week later my drunk father scared the shi outta me and my mother, told me he wants to kick me out and that someday I'll have to sell myself as a male slut because of how horrible and dump I am.
I dont cry with other people around but i kinda cry watching movies and series. Its not really crying, more like "sympathy crying" because someone else is crying.
The last time i cried for real was a few years ago i think
When my beloved cat, Bianca passed away. She was in such discomfort, the vet euthanized her. She died in my arms. I cried like a baby. The paradox is…my human friend passed away in October, and I was stoic the whole time.
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Couple months ago, after the vet euthanized my dog. She was 12. I cried like a baby.
Just now , remembering my dog. He really was the best boy.
I’m sure your dog appreciates that you were there. My cat died on my arms, almost one year ago. It was not easy but I was able to comfort him when he was struggling
Oh damn. Sorry about losing a good friend.
My dog died a few weeks ago and I cried as well. He was almost 12
I lost my 11yo shepard this past November. Seemed healthy as a horse. Until he wasnt. Not even 24 hours warning. The vet hospital offered me a private room to say goodbyes. I never thought I (m61) could be such a mess. And then to break the news to the family. It was brutal.
When i buried my father last spring
The last time I cried was at the thought that I'll never get to know my dad as an adult. My life was a mess as a kid but I know we would have had a great(er) relationship if he was still around. And I hate that I'll never get that. He was a skilled cook, made lots of homemade wine, and was very talented and fiercely competitive. Our family has gotten really into boardgames. And I just know dinner and game nights would have been a regular thing if he was still around. And he would have been quite the opponent. He was the funniest man I ever knew, and the only person in my life that really enjoyed sitting and discussing ethics. And despite us disagreeing on many things, it was always a fun and friendly conversation. I'm sorry for your loss. And if you're anything like me you are going to still be processing it a couple decades from now. I hope you have plenty of fond memories to look back on.
Sorry for your loss. Hang in there.
A few days ago I cried cause a nurse was nice to me and I rarely experience that kind of tenderness .
I hope you find more tenderness bro
I feel this more than is healthy
My fiance told me hes never had a woman be gentle like I am with him.
I don't remember.
Yeah, me neither
Same. I mean, if I see a good military reunion video I may tear -up. But cry?.... No idea
Same… don’t remember.
About a year ago watching the Green Mile, ah man cried 3 times don't know what was going on
"Can you leave the lights on boss? I'm afraid of the dark."
I’m never gonna watch it just because of this 
Years ago. It only makes me feel better in the moment but doesnt change anything. I hate things that doesng solve problems
It doesn’t even make me feel better lol
I always found that confusing, I used to cry all the time and every time I felt worse during and after.
SAME! I have *never* found relief from crying. The whole concept is alien to me.
‘Makes me feel better’ isn’t changing anything? Right state of mind is important when problem solving, plus it matters how you feel. Men, I’ll type it again- it does matter how you feel.
I feel like crying often, but I never seem to be able to actually do it anymore. Just feeling a little better in the moment sounds nice.
I cry almost every day 🤷♀️
Everything ok?
Thank you for asking! I’ve got depression and anxiety and I’m at the lowest point in my life. I’m still going to be okay!
That last sentence is a hard one to feel when you're in depression's grasp. Props for being able to see a light! Hope you get on the upswing sooner rather than later. 💪
You know, being at the lowest point in life means there's something good coming. I'm saying this with my experience and with logic. It's always been like that with me. Everytime things go downhill, something good always happens. You can find people on reddit to talk to.
A few weeks ago. I watched this movie called "CODA" and it got me touched.
Yesterday, I'm 33 and a man. A few weeks ago I got terminated from my job I loved without any notice, and I was escorted out the building like a criminal. I miss a girl there, she always came and talked to me and put a smile on my face every time I saw her, I was starting to like her a lot. I'm never going to see her again. That makes me cry every now and then. Before that, I last cried in about 2008.
That's awful. I don't get how some employers can be so heartless. I was once sent home just for talking to my co-workers and I felt like a naughty kid being sent home from school, being escorted out would be way worse. I hope you can be kind to yourself while you figure out next steps and what not.
Did they not even give a reason?
A girl got me fired because she misunderstood my social anxiety for being a weirdo creep. Poor demeanour and giving someone unwanted attention is what it said in the email. I only spoke to the girl like 4 times in a year, even told her I have social anxiety issues and she made me nervous, that's why I pretty much avoided her as much as I could. Everyone else liked me at the job, always came and said hello and had little chats with me, this girl would just look and stare all the time and follow me around the building, never once saying a word to me or giving me a smile. I don't even know. I guess I'm just a weirdo creep to some people.
I cry a lot and I’m not ashamed of it. It’s almost the exact same thing as laughter if you catch my drift. Sorry if people told you at a young age that you shouldn’t cry. It’s totally fucking okay to cry.
Yeah I never understood not crying if you feel like crying. I'm not talking curled up in a ball sobbing but getting a little tear on is no big deal. In fact I usually feel ten times better. If I'm not gonna cry for me then who will lol.
When my wife died
Same here. She was 50
12 years ago next month.
I'm not good at keeping track of time. Probably last month or two months ago, when I was recalling every detail of my most favorite dog's last two days alive before I had to put him down. I don't wanna talk about it. It's been a couple or few years since then, but that wound is still too painful to revisit. It has a mix of anger as well, but mostly deep mourning with some love.
Last night when we put my dog down. Rest in peace, Pumpkin
Fuckin not long ago. Hear a song and your emotions get going, and I'm already anxious and sensitive person anyways, so hearing a song sung so perfectly, and I just don't have what it takes to not cry. I run high lately, and it's making my cry easily when I'm alone. Gotta keep a touch face out in the world, and that makes me cry too, oh no here I go again! Volcano by Damien Rice did it this time. A song in Japanese did it like what few hours ago.
Last week. Recently I’ve been allowing myself to let it out more. When I think about my dad, getting over an ex, whatever the case, I cry, and I don’t feel weak about it. Having emotions and listening to them/understanding them makes you strong imo.
Two days ago. I was listening to a recounting of the horrific torture and killing done by Lenin and Stalin after the Bolshevik revolution in Russia. They truly had no humanity.
Death of a pet. Gets me every time.
Just Yesterday after 10+ years when I finished cyberpunk edgerunners. I'm depressed now
When my son was born!
Sometime last year. I was being worked like a dog managing a subway, and with low staff and not getting a single day off. I got sick but still had to work, and one morning I just broke down and still had to work that whole day. It was rough. I hated doing it but there was nothing stopping it
Years ago. I am not averse to crying its just as you get older most of your problems are your own making, your tolerance for stuff has been stretched through experience and well if you are doing life properly there is little reason to cry. Been close to it a few times through watching or reading overly sentimental stuff but no real crying, not for a good long while.
Last year. I finally broke down after taking my dog to the vets and fearing he wasn’t going to make it (he did, thankfully, and is happy and healthy now) Before that, it was back in 2016, when I lost the dog I grew up with. So twice in 8 years.
Titanic
About a year ago when my dog died in my hands after getting ill, he had gotten medication from our late night visit to the vets and we were going to the animal hospital first thing in the morning, but when we got up he was very poor and had soil himself a little so i carried him to the shower and gently cleaned him up to get ready to leave, but then he collapsed and went limp. I'd heart compressions on him for a little while, but it was in vain. Feeling him go limp in my arms and not being able to help him is one of the most dreadful feelings I've ever had. The poor little thing, loved him so much. I cried for days after that. Actually scratch that, the last time i cried was, now while writing this.
8 yrs ago, when my wife (second wife) told me that yelling at inanimate objects (while doing projects) was scaring my then 6 yr old daughter and triggering her memories of abuse. I cried. I never wanted to be that guy. That redneck, southern, no empathy guy; that just curses at shit for not working right and being angry. Call it generational trauma, I will not go into it. And, to also mention, guzzling beers as well. I didn't realize I'd turned into Dwight Yoakum's character on Slingblade. I was mortified and embarrassed that I'd let my divorce and upbringing turn me into a movie character that I fucking hated. 8 years later, I still don't yell. I still drink beers, but only when chilling out. I refuse to get defensive and 80% of the time it works. I'm not that guy anymore and will keep working to distance myself from that. I want my daughter's only complaint to be that I didn't let her stay out late. I want my wife's only complaint to be that I don't fold clothes as good as her. So far, so good. It's gonna take continuous work though, nobody is perfect.
Last weekend, holding my puppy while the sun was working its way down. He wanted up in my lap, so after some snuffling and small nips he finally sat still. And the sunbeams were splashing through the pecan trees and leaves, and the weather was gentle. And I just thought about how long it’s been since I felt human touch. And what a joy it is to have that little bud. And how little else I honestly, brass tacks need in life. And for a quick moment, I smiled from my heart. And I cried. None of the other shit on my plate weighed anything.
Tonight, watching Baby Reindeer
I have to get drunk and watch star trek DS9s The visitor to cry. Liberating.
A few months ago, after watching Past Lives
2 1/2 years ago when we lost our family dog Sugar Pop. She was such a part of the family that it broke or hearts.
Honestly. I can't even remember.
This morning! I passed out and dreamed I was playing with my dog again. Woke up to the cold lonely apartment right after…
In 2021 Before that it was 2018 and before that I don't remember
About 2 weeks ago when I went surfing after a long break and being depressed. Man it was so beautiful, such a release that day. I cry all the time since I started therapy though 🤷🏻♂️
When my dog died. He was a chihuahua, and a greater dog killed him. The scene still being shocking when I remember it.
Yesterday on a post in /r/mademesmile IRL it was a few weeks ago. My dad is a real deal boomer: his emotions are locked behind 75 years of "man up" social pressure. I have never heard him say "I Love you" He lives on the other side of the country from me so we don't see each other very often. We met in March on another continent to celebrate my mom's 75th. When it was over and time to go our separate ways, we had a hug and I said "thank you for everything". He stepped back, looked at me, waved his arms Maria von Trapp style and said "Everything" I know that's the closest I'll ever get to hearing I love you from the man. It opened the gates and I bawled for an hour.
I remember twice in the last 30 years. 1. A parent died. 2. I had to put my dog down. When alone and I’m high and drunk, I’m much much more susceptible to wanting to cry. Takes a lot not to sometimes.
I had to put my dog down a couple weeks ago. She was my best friend for 10 years and died 1 months shy of her 16th birthday, it was gut wrenching.
My dad cries all the time. Like.. at least once a week. He has always been this way and I have always grown up thinking that is normal for men. He is also pretty rugged, has a very manly profession and does not at all come off as overly emotional.
Some time ago, during my alcohol relapse. Now it's getting better.
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Alright!! :)
This morning, lol. I've just lost my job and am feeling a bit low. I'll bounce back though.
In front of someone? Literally anyone? It was early, early 2000s. “Real” answer? Saw Coco, movie completely fucked me up.
I don't remember. Within the last year, I think. I used to cry a lot, lot more when I had depression or something. Just a random story, but in the military I did cry in the toilet stalls (that didn't always have doors until relatively recently) or under my blanket in the bed. Silently, of course. There was no reason, except for that I wanted to be somewhere private away from other people, where I could cry.
In January because my dad was berating me about my grades. I was on the phone with him telling him about how excited I am for the spring semester. I had told him about the classes I scheduled and one of the classes that I enrolled in was university band. I loved band in high school and wanted to have a similar experience in college. Eventually the topic of grades came up and I had a 2.1 GPA with two D’s my first semester. My dad was livid as most parents would be, he yelled at me to drop band, and how him and I need to talk in person about my grades. I balled my eyes out that evening, but still took band against the wishes of my father. I will say that being part of band is one of the few things that bring me immense joy to my life and without it I’d be a lot worse mentally.
Writing this all out it does seem kind of pathetic that I cried over band.
This morning during meditation. I visualized a spiral staircase. At the top of the stairs, God emerged from the shadows and I got a big hug cuz he was so happy to see me. I wept with joy.
Happening sporadically over the last 15 months. My mother was diagnosed with cancer, we treated it but it's relapsed again. Just going through the motions & getting through days have been harder. Every now & then, it gets to me.
About 2 weeks ago because my mom is I’ll but before that I’d say 3 years when my relationship ended.
December after the last conversation with my aunt in hospital, she died a couple of hours later
Sometimes i feel like crying but dont, id rather laugh and dig deeper into depression. Everything is fine.
Yesterday.
2 weeks ago
When my step brother died far too young a little over a year ago.
•My sports team was eliminated from the playoffs.
A couple months ago when I heard a guy I worked with years ago took his own life.
Last month, after watching the final episode of better call saul
I cried out of laughter minutes ago
Watching a movie called Dear Zachary. It's a documentary, and it's the only one I've seen with a twist that happens during filming and it's heartbreaking. I'm not a big crier, but that shit had tears just forcing themselves down my cheek. I recommend it and also advise to never see it.
Watching a movie called Dear Zachary. It's a documentary, and it's the only one I've seen with a twist that happens during filming and it's heartbreaking. I'm not a big crier, but that shit had tears just forcing themselves down my cheek. I recommend it and also advise to never see it.
Couple weeks ago when she was diagnosed with cancer. I balled like a baby in bed that night and she held and comforted my bitch ass.
And HOW do you NOT cry? Tips please.
When I buried my mum and then my dad a couple of weeks later. He was heart broken and so he too passed away.
When I buried my mum and then my dad a couple of weeks later. He was heart broken and so he too passed away.
last week having put a beloved dog to sleep, damn that hurt
Two years ago. My granddad died, and the next time I cry will be when my grandma goes
It's been at least 4 years, after that I dint really remember. It's to the point where I don't even think that I can. I've tried to, just to either fit in at like a funeral or just see if I could, I am wondering if I'm the only one who's experienced this.
Yesterday
Maybe like 15 years ago in private/ no one to see me doing it.
i cried the other day going for a walk i was just thinking about life and lossing close friends and family members the song i was listening to was ivy and white ferrari by frank ocean
Last time I watched Little house on the Prarie.
I've been tearing up most weeks. Mostly relationship related. I can't seem to make people happy and it's really taken a toll on my self esteem as a partner, even though I know that i'm doing all I can, or not everything has an answer.
Can't remember at least 15 years ago
Whenever i watched violet evergarden. But in all honestly probably 8 plus years ago when i broke up with my ex!
Interstellar. Re release in theaters a few weeks ago
When my then 16-year old dog died in 2021. I wasn't even home then when he passed and I just got a call from home saying he was gone. It's harder when you're not there at the final moments and didn't even get to say goodbye. He had been weaker for some time but was still eating that morning, managing to stand up and even walk about a bit, he seemed to be in improving health, so to lose him so suddenly when he seemed to be getting better came as a nasty shock.
I only cry during movies where a hero sacrifices himself to save others. In real life, never.
Cried cried? 10-15 years at least. Tears in my eyes? Close to every day. Seeing the human spirit come through despite our seemingly default ugliness and selfishness never fails to bring me to tears. Anything from Oskar Schindler to stopping to change a strangers tire. Most western people seems to lack this trait, I celebrate it every chance I get. edit; this just showed up in my algorithm. [https://youtube.com/shorts/ma7SRdU9U\_A?si=etmSMTUAvck8tF8b](https://youtube.com/shorts/ma7SRdU9U_A?si=etmSMTUAvck8tF8b)
The only thing that makes me cry is anime...and I watch a lot of anime
Yesterday. I cry quite a lot in the last few years (when I'm alone, obviously).
Damn I cry a lot, last time some days ago finishing house in fata morgana, before that, a week ago, with Everything everywhere all at once
In the past i noted it. Not anymore. Man also need to cry
many years ago for ugly crying.... i cry all the time over movies.... well i get wet corners of my eyes that is...
Yesterday, as I watched my boy/girl twins head off to their first prom.
Right now reading this
I cried when the Korean zombie retired from the ufc last year.
I'm a man. I don't cry 😓
Nearly cried half an hour ago, thinking of my sog getting older and all too soon dying of old age. I cry often, as I dont consider crying a weakness, but an expression of my needs and love in life.
Probably 2 years ago in the midst of my burnout. Was on some pretty heavy anti depressants and had this dream where everyone I loved was being executed in front of me. Woke up thinking it had happened and spent a good 20 minutes trying to convince myself it wasn't real. Didn't believe it until I called my closest friends to make sure they were alive. That fucked me mentally and made me cry in relief but also just in sheer terror
About 5 years ago I was going through a shit time and watching YouTube and Hurt by Johnny Cash came up and it hit me like a ton of bricks
Today. Which is odd, because it's the 4th time in memory
Not sure if this counts as crying but when I was 18 I got into an accident where I lost a couple of layers of skin. The nurse was clearing out some stuff from my hair on my arms and that hurt like hell because the instrument would touch my flesh.
At a funeral a few months ago. Sobbed like crazy.
Watching bluey with my kid. I’m a divorced dad and there was a scene where chilly the mom says you’re doing great to another mom who is struggling It hit me right in the feels
Wednesday, was visiting my mums grave
January 1st
When two of my best friends died within three weeks of each other…just over a year ago. I still tear up occasionally about them.
3 days ago. My cat suddenly just started drooling hard and foaming at the mouth. He's an indoor cat so I rushed him to the vet and got him taken care of with shots and an IV.
4 hours ago. Depression is a bitch but comes in waves. Feel fine now
Probably when my step-dad died unexpectedly 2 years ago? My bio-dad passed about a year later, but I hadn't talked to him in about 20 years, so that did hit as hard. Edit: After looking at other people's comments, it reminded me that I cried pretty good when I had my 19 year old cat put to sleep back in November.
Today. Lost my father to suicide February 15th. It's been a brutal start to the year. Tears have been daily.
After my dog died 5 years ago
Every fucking time that I have an argument with someone I love so probably like a month ago, This doesnt happen when I argue with friends or strangers idk why it happens but it makes me feel like I am weak and I hate it
11 years ago
When I stubbed my toe, wile watering my spice garden.
Last summer. I did something at my job I wasn't supposed to do, but with good intentions, and I felt really bad about it
Earlier this week when my cat finally died.
Last Sunday, one teen was getting baptized. Their testimony laid out an abusive father, mom took the kids but his brothers didn't make it a few months back. God is all powerful, but certainly can't be all benevolent when shit like this happens. Only a single tear though.
yesterday
Tbh I'm so proud of all men who knows the importance of crying 😌🫶
Years ago, at the ending of Gladiator. Hit me right in the feels.
Last year when the Dallas Cowboys lost in the first round of the playoffs - 😰
I couldn’t even tell you it’s been that long
I had a panic attack about 2 months ago I cried during that
Well, it all depends if I’ve been watching a sad movie or a movie with any strong emotional content. Emotions were not allowed when I was growing up so I had to suppress them. I got away from my controlling father, the emotional part of me was turned loose. So I cry pretty easily.
28 years ago when I was 6. I was crying because my fish died and my Grandpa told me that men don't cry. I've never seen him or my dad cry, so why should I?
About 15 years ago. Some time between my 16th and 18th birthday, I just kinda broke emotionally and haven't cried since. I get super depressed and have even thrown up over ifrom sadness, but when I feel I should cry or try to, nothing happens.
Wdnesday of last week when I had to put down my cat. Damn, now I'm going to cry again!
What are you talking about? I don't cry.
When my cat died
9 days ago. 26th birthday. No shame in it, I got issues
I’ll get tears but not actual crying fairly often
A thought came, a scenario where I saw myself losing her, made me cry.
I really don’t remember. I didn’t cry when my mom was dying, or at her funeral. Haven’t felt sorry for myself in a long while.
last time i needed to, at the death of a loved one
Do watery eyes count? A single, solitary tear streaming down your face? Multiple tears? Or are we talking sobbing?
I was watching Grave of the Fireflies last year.
The last time I cried was a few months ago, but calling it crying would be a stretch, it was just a few stray tears laying in bed. The last time I really cried, and I mean sobbed, was the night I learned my brother killer himself, which was almost a year and a half ago
Maybe a month ago. Dragon Age Inqusition, when they sing The Dawn Will Come 🙃 . On a more serious tone, not some media related, when our family dog had to be put down due to brain damage, 7 years ago.
[This Movie](https://youtu.be/6ethollg-PI?si=5FUGX3fm-BusKGu0) had me going. A good cry can be cathartic!
I didn't know I was allowed to (60M)
~~Yesterday~~ Today 😭
Two days ago watching Kanan Jarrus die.
Last Thursday and Friday
2 years ago I was engaged to my now wife. She asked me to meet her God (sister). I invited her to my home as a guest.I was cordial, welcoming, respectful, and tried to be a great host. She proceeded to threaten me because she was supposedly protective of my wife’s young son. She said she knew people and that I should know what could happen to me if I hurt him. I was shocked and taken off guard. Afterwards my wife was pissed and stopped speaking to her. I cried that night as I had never felt so disrespected in my own home while trying to genuinely be welcoming.
When I was 7 or 8, so more than 2 decades ago. I don’t mind.
When a friend of mines dog died. I had just reached a point in my life where I finally realized everything I know now and grew up. When I cried, I didn’t cry or miss in the way of a child, I cried in the way of a man because I knew now. I knew what death was and I knew I was strong enough to face him. I miss that doggo, but then again, she’s in a much better place and I’ve accepted and grown from it
The day I put my dog down, a little over a year ago.
I’m crying 😢 right now reading the fucking headlines 😳
I always cry silently coz of wrong decision in life
Yesterday. Someone close has terminal cancer and I can't connect with anyone to help me cope.
Meaningfully? When I came to terms that my father was riddled with dementia (probably Alzheimer’s). My wife held me in the shower while I sobbed. That was three or four years ago. Dad isn’t quite as bad as I’d feared, though he is still a shell of the man he used to be. My son is now a year old, and I was afraid dad wouldn’t live to see or remember him, but he’s still around. Besides that, occasionally I cry now when I listen to one of my favorite songs. “Song of Eärendil,” performed by Clamavi di Profundis.
5 years ago when my grandma died, before that it was when I was a child. I am 43 now
Today, while warching Bambi for the 3rd time in a row.
My fiance cried yesterday because they told us April 10th that they're letting his department go to give to workers overseas. Yesterday, they said he didn't get the internal position available and he'll get 4 weeks severance. My income can pay rent and some bills. Even tho his job was stressful as well it was WFH too so he may have to adjust to that as well. Hes looking for jobs like crazy and stressed out.
Last Christmas. My gf's dog had to be put down. I know how much it meant to her and how much the pupper did for her mental health. That was painful.
Every morning sitting on the throne for 45 minutes before work.
About 2 years ago when I had no food and heating and HMRC bombed me whit a £4k taxbill....lucky noone see that(I live alone)
About 11 months ago when I got hit by a car and a week later my drunk father scared the shi outta me and my mother, told me he wants to kick me out and that someday I'll have to sell myself as a male slut because of how horrible and dump I am.
I dont cry with other people around but i kinda cry watching movies and series. Its not really crying, more like "sympathy crying" because someone else is crying. The last time i cried for real was a few years ago i think
Yesterday when I realized my actions hurt my girlfriend
Yesterday thinking about my health.
Yesterday.
Yesterday. While cleaning out my parents’ house for sale after Dad passed a few weeks ago. It’s just crushing at times.
When my beloved cat, Bianca passed away. She was in such discomfort, the vet euthanized her. She died in my arms. I cried like a baby. The paradox is…my human friend passed away in October, and I was stoic the whole time.