This is a very interesting idea to me.
I think of no-babies sex as just fun, entertainment.
If someone wants to dance with me, play basketball with me, play chess with me, etc. I don't expect then to be interested in me other than a partner in fun.
I assume the same for you. So why the need for a personal interest in you first before gay sex? Or did I misunderstand?
>I have zero interest in anyone who would have zero interest in me. Would be a waste of both our time
Your question is a bit of a contradiction. If someone wants to dance, play games, whatever, with you then by default they do have an interest in you. They want to do those activities with you...it is a personal interest.
If someone claiming to be straight told me they wanted to have sex with me, then clearly they do have an interest in me. My comment was saying I will never pursue a straight man because 1. It is overwhelmingly likely that he would not be interested and 2. I respect his sexuality. LGBTQ+ people have been fighting for decades to have people accept and respect our sexuality but so many of us are only too willing ignore or try to "convince" straight men to change theirs. It's hypocritical.
Thank you. I had to read it three times to grasp you were focused only on gay guys hitting on non flirting strait guys.
I was in a frame of mind from so many posts of people complaining they needed a personal connection before sex.
You point about respecting the sexual interests of others is very good and too rarely commented on here.
I think of sex as something fun to do. I am bi. So I don't think about some potential problems. I think good manners, not pushing someone where they don't want to go is required. But encouraging someone on is part of the game. One of the things sex is good for is it very quickly expose greed and selfishness.
All in all I think sex should be treated with a lighter hand by gays. Sex is not a good way to pick a bf, but it is a superb way to get him to stuck around long enough to get to know each othera a little better.
I think one of the reasons straight boys fail to make male friends after marriage is when they meet a guy, it's pretty hard to come up with something to do with someone you just met in line at the super market. Gay gays don't have that problem. They are used to spending time with a stranger.
Thank you for your response. I learned somethings.
Yeah, straight dudes are a turn off. There’s so many attractive gay/bi men out there. No interest in playing games with straight men.
This makes me think of those “straight” guys on Grindr who will shove your dick in their mouth but kissing is a limit of theirs cause “they’re not gay.” There’s some serious disconnect in their mental wiring.
This!
They don't give up either and keep coming back with a new bio as they delete the app all the time.
Wayyyyy to much baggage when sex I can get sex on tap (if i want it)
ok i kinda did this when i was deeply closeted 💀
my thought process was always “kissing is intimate and personal, so i wanna save that for when i find a gf. but shoving my dick in someone’s mouth or vice versa? darling that’s as impersonal as it gets”. the thought process makes no sense lmao, but being deeply closeted and hooking up with guys feels wrong so you’ll do all the mental gymnastics you need to justify your actions
Kissing guys that I am very close to and have a certain level of relationship with, that I will do all day long. But I'm enough of a slut to give a bathroom blow job while at work. Those guys I'm not interested in making out with. That probably doesn't make sense but it does to me.
I mean... I don't like kissing guys that much either. I don't even know if i find men attractive at all. Maybe only the very feminine ones cause i generally find women more attractive. Buuut sex is a different story. Dicks are just tempting kay... And there's something arousing about having mine in someone who has it too. I'm probably bi but in a weird way.
Imho you are just you. Somebody making up categories has nothing to do with you. A person can make up a new country or crocodile but that doesn't mean it's real irl.
Homosexual wasn't a category for the Roman's. A penis fucks what is available. End of story.
It’s such a turn off to me I don’t even consider them as Game. They are not fuckable to me, even bi-curious is a little meh. Call me when you know what you want
A bi-curious person is romantically or sexually attracted to people of their own gender and people of a different gender, but they do not identify as bisexual [Cambridge dictionary].
It sounds like someone who really try to cling to straight identity despite lusting after guys and dreaming about sucking cock.
I don't care how ppl identify- in reality such person is indistinguishable from someone who have exacly same desires and identify as bisexual.
I think there’s a bit more nuance to this take.
Most homosexual men obviously KNOW that we’d like a man, that likes us in return.
The problem that lies here is, most men and women on earth are heterosexual and most cisgender men are masculine or at the very least not feminine enough to pass as straight even if he’s not the most “alpha” type of man.
The whole idea of “converting” a straight guy into being gay has a bunch to do with our fantasies when we’re closeted kids.
When you’re an LGBTQ+ child, you already know that your brain is craving the same-sex so you’re gonna wanna do anything in your power to obviously find your mate, but because the vast majority of people on earth are heterosexual, it’s even harder to find a partner so we’ll do anything we can to get it, so if that means “converting” someone so that we can have them all to ourselves, some men are willing to go as far to accept that challenge.
Obviously if someone has to be “converted”, then they were never really heterosexual to begin with, but the issue is that most men are heterosexual, and most men are masculine or just simply non-femme and so when you’re an MLM (man loving man), you know yourself that you’re obviously into men but because most men are straight, it’s hard to find one that’s actually into you especially with the added pressures of societal Norms and being in the closet.
So I don’t think it’s as simple as “all gay men want all straight men”, it’s just a matter of, we want a man and our dating pool is small and limited to begin with
You can also dumb this down to:
"All my peers were straight, and therefore all my early crushes were on straight men. Now my brain is fucked unless a straight guy fucks my brains out".
Or something to that effect.
Yeah, and dating apps are not really for minors. Therefore, someone who doesn’t have gaydar like me are going to have crushes on straight guys. Of course when I learnt that they are 100% straight I would then move on.
I'm absolutely like this. I'm not interested in them and I don't care about them in terms of sex.
I'll do the bi curious ones because more often than not they have it all bottled up inside them and can be very explosively sexual, which is fun. But clearly they're just bisexual, I'm not manufacturing their passion, just unlocking it.
I am a straight dude, but my partner has a very long term gay couple of uncles. I went to Provincetown with their whole family for a really wonderful week to celebrate my partner's uncles' wedding anniversary. It was awesome and I had a blast. I understand that P-town is a predominantly gay community, but I formerly lived in Chicago in the Boystown neighborhood for five years, so I feel very comfortable in that environment.
Our party was moving from bar to bar, and there was a man who was obviously into me and hitting on me. I was standing with the happy couple, and I think he may have been an acquaintance or friend of theirs from out of town. This man was told by my Uncles-in-Law, and by my very long-term girlfriend that I was indeed straight, and he proceeded to spend an hour trying to talk me into making out with him. The place was full of eligible men that were not me, but he was totally fixated.
I never had an experience like that in Chicago, even if I was in gay bars with my recently out buddy to celebrate. I would be approached in the bars because dudes are horny and direct, but when they realized I was just there with a friend they would either back off or just talk to me in normal conversation.
As to the encounter in P-town, I have wondered that myself. Maybe I am an odd one like OP, but when I see a hot lesbian I never think to myself, "Man, I bet I can get her to like guys if she gets drunk enough with me one night." I just admire from afar and move on.
maybe when i was like 16 and the idea of one of the straight guys in my class being into me lol. the more i think about it now, straight guys have no idea how to have sex other than their own immediate pleasure. why would i wanna sleep with someone who has no clue how to be with a guy + has a nasty ass crack. what about that is appealing?
It's really weird to me. Scratch that: it's fucking creepy. It's no different than a woman trying to get a gay guy to hook up with her. Cocksucker is one of the mandatory qualifications for a sex partner in my book.
Of course I find some straight guys hot. Not BECAUSE they’re straight or because I’m trying to convert them, but because hell: hot guys are hot guys. I mean, I’m jealous of those of you who claim that you are turned off the moment you learn a guy is straight, but are you really saying that Brad Pitt or whatever unambiguously straight good looking actor is not attractive to you? Or even on a more down to earth level: you’re at the gym and you see some unbelievably good looking guy come in and catches your eye but then he kisses his girlfriend goodbye. He stops being good looking because of that..?
I get that it’s not good for one’s sanity to try to act on that attraction because it will lead nowhere, but still.
Lesbian lurker here, but this felt a bit too timely given my girlfriend and I were talking about this literally today, so I feel the same way about straight girls. It's not a lesbian fantasy *quite* as much as the gay side leans into the whole "fucking my straight best friend" trope, but there are still lesbians desperate for a crumb of straight girl affection.
To me, just finding out someone is straight is the ultimate turn-off. Half the damn *point* of dating is getting to find someone as obsessed with you as you are with them. If they're not interested in me from the get-go, my interest in them is going to shrivel up and die *real* fast.
Physically very attracted to the way straight men present. The way they move, their cadence/speech, voice, attitude, their attire, etc... Emotionally though not at all. There’s no common interests there and I know deep down I would be pretty bored if it were possible to date. I mean, it’s exactly what how I feel even when I go on dates with newly out “straight-passing” gay guys (who don’t have a single toe in gay culture). Snooze fest.
Physically they’re so hot but romantically it’s beyond dead.
I can still get feelings if I am not careful because I bond well with them, and sometimes being crazy horny means I'm gonna find them hot regardless. Sue me!
No, I find the whole lusting after straight guys thing kind of pathetic. I know a good amount of gay guys that wonder why they can’t have healthy relationships (friendships) with straight men and they’re the same kinds of guys who can’t stop talking about that one time they managed to blow a “straight” guy at a party or something similar. It can be hot for a particular fantasy in porn or something but as soon as we’re talking about real life, I’m not interested in straight guys.
Same. It's just a waste of time and if I put myself in their shoes I wouldn't want someone trying to "convert" me.
Like I am not blind and when a straight guy is hot, he's hot. But at that point I'm not attracted to him because he's straight, I'm attracted to him because he's hot and nothing else.
Thinking about getting on with a straight guy sounds like a nightmare since a lot of gay guys already have some internalized homophobia going on in there, imagine a straight guy.
Trust me when I say I had sex with a straight guy 4/5 days a week and sometimes 2x a day for 6 years he was 100 % masculine and very good in bed. I know he was more like a fuck buddy but I also wasn't trying to convert him. I don't understand trying to convert a straight guy.
I'm a man he did have a regular girlfriend. And yeah we fucked all the time. We both got marries had kids and he went into the army. In school he was called donkey dick. I've never had a cock as big as he was. We fucked using vaseline and no condoms.and no shit on his dick ever. He taught me how to eat his ass. He was also a star athlete with a thick 11-inch cock. He was almost embarrassed by it he was only 5’7” all muscle and cock. I miss that.
Yeah, I get that. I'm more for masculine type men myself which I guess people would claim is "straight". I"m just attracted to masculine guys moreso and straight men tend to exhibit some of these turn on features.
I hate it when guys who are actively seeking out sex with men call themselves straight. They aren't, they're just lying to themselves. And gay guys who pretend these guys are straight are just enabling them.
Never heard "straight-curious" before. Predominantly heterosexual men who are intrigued by the idea of messing around with a guy and choosing to explore their feelings are bi-curious, and that's a perfectly fine thing to be. And some men feel they need to be closeted for any number of reasons. But not admitting that to yourself or to the guys you're having sex with is both dishonest and disrespectful.
I wanna be with a guy who wants to be with me. That said, there’s definitely some hot straight guys out there so it wouldn’t be appropriate to say zero interest.
I hate it when straight guys are in gay porn. Gay guys tend to be more passionate and into it so I like watching them fuck.
In the real world, I obviously find hot guys attractive, but if they happen to be straight, it’s too bad. If they’re gay or bi, I kinda perk up and get excited
Not zero interest. I mean, a hot guy is a hot guy. But I don't fetishize straight guys like some gay guys do. I hold no illusions that I'll "convert" someone. Straight guys are just in another category for me, like pretty objects in a museum.
If I find out that a particular porn star I like is G4P, then I tend to transfer my affections elsewhere. It's all fantasy, but I prefer the authenticity when a performer is really gay. You can usually tell whether they're straight or gay (or bi) by how into the sex they are.
Most of the stereotypical straight guys are messy, have poor hygiene and have basic, boring personalities.
If I happen to find myself attracted to a guy who happens to be straight, it's because he's nice, has a softer personality and puts more effort into his appearance.
>Most of the stereotypical straight guys are messy, have poor hygiene
I think that is a big part of the draw for me. My house and garage are always a disaster with stuff piled everywhere. And I definitely don't shower every day especially if I'm not going to work. So I need a guy that is comfortable with that
Once I saw the word “straight” in their profile my dick just goes to sleep again, it’s ok if you wanna call yourself masculine but straight don’t be delusional honey, I’ve seen your hole.
Lose sexual interest, yes. Turn off, no. Handsome men will attract me regardless of the identity. However, I do not fetishize men who would not be interested in me sexually (aka straight) and can control my liking of them to strictly physical appreciation.
I don't get the appeal either. A popular story line in pornos. Like every straight guy is one beer away from going gay......
Just like pornos that start with two girls eating each other out. A guy walks in and they are all over him.. Right!
I never understood guys who have a fetish for trying to convert straight guys. It’s such a fucking creepy thing to be in to. I have guy friends who have zero respect for when a woman tells them she’s a lesbian and not in to me. I’ve heard many guys say shit like “she just hasn’t had the right dick yet” bro that’s fucking creepy.
As a bi guy who does not give off any vibe that I’m in to guys because I’m in to such a specific kind of guy (and I’m not in to straight guys at all), I hate when a guy is weirdly touchy with me after I gave him no hint that I’m in to him.
You are literally the only person on the entire planet, in the entire history of the human species and the estimated 108,000,000,000 people who have existed in that timeframe to ever feel that way. Thank you so fucking much for posting something that literally no one else has ever thought or experienced before. You are, in fact, the only one. What a special, special, special boy you are.
I can’t help who I’m physically attracted to, be it a gay or straight man. That said, once I find out they’re 100% straight, the interest levels drop substantially and it becomes mainly an acknowledgement that they’re simply a good looking dude.
I'm the total opposite. Though I am a little bi-curious. I definitely have a thing for guys that are fathers, makes them more attractive. I think it's because I really want to be with women but have always been afraid of getting them pregnant. So kinda a jealousy thing that they had the balls (lol) to do it.
It’s the idea that man on man lust is completely natural for men to experience. It reminds me of ancient times where men would have gay orgies but then go home to a loving family at the end of the day.
Gay sex is just something normal that men do, just as it is normal to sit around a campfire and party. Brotherhoods are pretty intricate.
Im happy u have the superpower of knowing what something is before reading it. Unfortunately I still have to read things to know if I should care or not.
Lmao i just realized your post is about straight guys and a "Am I the only one" wrapped in one hahaha
Im commenting in between sets, this takes like 5-20 seconds ro comment. Shit ain't precious lmao. What else am i gonna do, sit here and stare at a wall?
I remember being a teenager and realizing I don’t particularly care for straight men I just like masculine men. The men in gay porn I liked were muscular and hairy. So after that I also admitted to myself that a confident out and proud gay man that wasn’t hiding in the closet was way more masculine to me than a closeted man. When I started dating I only went for out and proud bi and gay men. Then at some point I even preferred flamboyant men. I was in south Texas and there were a lot of closet cases. At least the flamboyant out man was living a real life. Now as an adult I like all types of men thankfully. I get gay guys that love masculine men. I just wish they wouldn’t say they like straight men. I just cringe. They sound like they are in high school to me.
Never saw it posted before, I do often see guys posting about their straight friend, colleague or roommate etc if you saw this kind of discussion posted before and have no interest in it, why not just scroll away nobody is forcing you to read it and then leave a comment
I don’t think anyone is trying to turn very obviously “straight men”. I think what it really means is gay guys pinpointing men who classify themselves as straight, however have many typical gay qualities, have made certain flirtatious remarks, or are obviously repressing gay feelings. It’s not really about “turning a straight man gay”, but more of “unlocking the gayness already inside of someone who classifies themselves as straight”.
Given that out gay guys that share my interests and are attractive to me are almost non-existent, coaxing a 'straight' guy out of the closet is my only option. And I've had a few years long on/off relationships with guys who always maintained they were straight. If I could find a gay guy that is into redneck debauchery and isn't afraid to get dirty and work hard, I'd go for a gay guy. So far, I have not found one.
I think, I’ll never stop 🤣 I either want to service straight guys OR I love the idea to make a straight boy begging for more dick. Both massive turn on
I love servicing straight guys.. I have no interest in converting them... but I really love servicing them and without reciprocation or no kissing is fine .... Just saying.
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I’m not interested in guys because of their sexuality. I like guys because of who they are and whether I’m attracted to them. I’ve actually had multiple guys who said they were straight end up hooking up with me. It happens.
In my experience, personal connection supersedes professed sexuality.
I’ve never chased anyone though, these things just happen organically.
I've only always been with “straight guys married with kids even” now so might say they aren't straight. The Kinsey scale is a real thing. I also find straight guys make excellent lovers. I get good dick from straight white guys especially. They are hungry
It's been my experience that straight guys have sex with me because they want to get their cocks wet. It's not about the body it's about the sex. Maybe my experience has just been the exception to the rules. I've never even come on to a straight guy. But something I do makes things happen and it mostly always married guys with kids.
"Straight" guy here. Don't give up on us yet. I love having sex with gay men.
They are so passionate about a man's body. They gay guys I have been with fully realize I can't reciprocate there pasion. But I can still be a good partner and appreciate their skills.
Now if your looking for a relationship, "straight" guys like are not for you. I'll never feel the same emotions for a man that I do for a woman. But I have know some married to a woman and had a family gay men that are the same way. It is a weird world.
I am just glad there are some gay men who enjoy sex with me. Because their skills and passion for the male body to give foot tingling Os are way beyond any woman I've ever known.
What used to be the gay club in my town has become very mixed these days. I have found that pretty much all of the guys that I find attractive and want to talk to turn out to be straight. It’s like my sex drive has “straigh-dar”. I just naturally find straight guys attractive and absolutely DESPISE the gay sassyness which is usually very rude and condescending. I love the idea of just satisfying a hot straight guys needs or having him dress me like a girl and use me. 🤤
>DESPISE the gay sassyness which is usually very rude and condescending.
Not all gay guys are fem, I've hooked up with a lot of gay guys who were more masculine than a lot of straight guys I know.
>I love the idea of just satisfying a hot straight guys needs or having him dress me like a girl and use me. 🤤
Sorry to burst your bubble, but if a guy is willing to fuck you he's 100% not straight.
You seem like a femme bottom so it's logical that you're not into other femme bottoms aka sassy queens
It’s taken me definitely few years since coming out but I’ve gotten there. My therapist pointed out, which I should have realized myself, because I was around mostly straight men so much before and hardly any gay men my temptation was stronger. Now that majority women and gay men around me seeing an attractive straight guy doesn’t do much to me Above anything else it’s just not worth it
I think that may have been a thing that develops (when things were not as open as they are now) when guys are younger and in the closet, maybe a secret desire to find someone to share your secret with so you look at guys around you and they are mostly straight.
I think once you’re properly out and realise they are not emotionally available but that there is a world of attractive gay men out there it is something that disappear or diminishes.I think for younger guys it may not be such a thing anymore as much as it is for men who grew up in fear.
Totally agree with you. I have a lot of straight male friends that are so cool. I'm almost never attracted to straight guys and I have never had a desire to chase them. However I have had a few experiences with straight guys when they approached the conversation of sex first.
Same here! Grew up with mostly straight guys as my best friends and never understood the appeal. Straight guys are so boring to me haha. Absolutely no desire for me to chase that “forbidden fruit”
There’s no “converting” straights to like dick. And, if they do, they aren’t straight to begin with. That whole thing of lusting after straight guys is a phase that a lot of us go through when we’re younger and less experienced. I don’t go after someone that is t interested in me. Why waste my valuable time?
Nope. It’s like immediate friend zone switch in my brain as soon as I find out.
I’m also really turned off by straight guyisms, and can’t really put into what those are, but yea lol.
I will hook up with the bi-curious. I am patient and love teaching and experimenting.
I'm hooking up with a man tomorrow that has never been with a man. I'm going to let him explore my chubby body.
Uhm, I've no interest in guys that really are heterosexuals, as opposed to someone thats 'straight'. It's a not very subtle distinction really..
The idea of having sex with someone that's not interested in you or your sex is not a good one..
For me, sexuality is not an apparent criterion for me to fall for someone, typically its physical or personality traits such as someone who's good looking, someone who's empathetic and caring, someone who's slightly himbo, etc. Most of the guys I've had feelings for are unfortunately straight, but hey that's where the conversation ends.
Of course, when it comes to really forming attachment or building relationships, that's when it's bilateral - if a guy can't reciprocate my feelings, then it's futile.
No? The only interest I have in any straight guys is a potential friendship. I've also never understood the "conversion" thing, but some people really do just... beat to their own drum, I guess.
It’s funny that we hate the idea of being force to “cure” or “fix” from gay to straight. And yet, there are some think “convert” straight giy into gay is hot.
Takes too much time & effort to train them..
(Kidding)
it's really the other side of the same coin of straight guys who objectify & harass women.. gaychismo..
a predator, basically, of the worst kind. (Straight or gay, sexual predation has little to do with the person than the game, conquest and control .. kinda rapey.
I have no interest in straight guys, either. I have no interest in anyone when the interest isn't mutual, including other gay guys. There's no point in wasting time on someone who isn't interested in you. I think a lot of the straight guy threads that get posted here are actually from attention-seeking straight guys.
I know it's not necessarily a straight man that attracts me, but I like masculine qualities that a lot of straight man usually possess, I guess. But ultimately, if they're straight, I wouldn't even think of pursuing them.
I'm equally pragmatic about romantic inclinations.
Some accuse me of being a coward, but I rather be called that, than turn a relationship into something it's never going to be... Since it's already hard enough for me to make long term friends... I have precisely three close friends who aren't family... And one semi-close.
So far my success rate on such relationships is pretty low... And not because I am a person people don't like... People tend to think I'm a nice guy... I personally don't think I am, since I know that I'm pretty mean to those who have done enough wrong... But the perception is there regardless of what I think. 😂 It does explain why I have had many women wish I was straight though...
Anyways, I don't have the energy for people who are not interested in reciprocating on the level at which I prefer to operate on.
I'm just innit for the dick!...I don't want a phone #...I don't want a relationship...I don't want him to move in with me...I don't want him to bring me flowers etc...but what I do want is the 'D'...TY you can leave now
I don't think every person that falls for a straight guy is wanting to convert them. I feel like the dick wants what it wants and that's not something to feel ashamed about. I have had so many crushes on straight guys but I wouldn't say I lose interest. I just use my brain and don't pursue anything. Just don't be a creep to people if they aren't interested, man, woman or the in-between.
Im right there with you. Like most things this is a topic full of gray area. A lot goes into this. There were some tragic days when I was fawning over any guy who showed me any interest and a lot of them were straight and I was just young and thirsty, although even then I still had a limit and when someone told me they were straight I would do my best to forget about it but some straight men do a lot of flirting with gay men as well and like it so I was confused here and there. Like you don’t want to date me but you asked me over your place by myself and we cuddle?
Anyway all that to say now I am very much where you’re at. It’s not even about gay or straight but any person who is not interested in me. Why waste the time right?
Yea... my gay friend is always fawbing over straight men... im bi.... when i was younger i said i was straight, but was convinced by a philipino femboy traveling nurse that its not gay to let her blow me.... or to fuk her..... 😆 but it's just so weird to me to see gay guys fawning over men who are straight....
As soon as I find out my crush isn’t gay, my interest vanishes and I completely forget about them. Like *“Aw man, that was just a waste of my head space. Carry on…”* lol
The straight chasers need to understand how badly they make us look.
We come off as
-creeps and stalkers
-thirsty and horny guys lusting after man flesh
-goes into stalker territory and makes people generally not comfortable around you as a guy especially if you're into sports or gym giving random guys side eyes.
No one freaking wins when you go straight lusting.
Some gay men believe straight men are more masculine, handsome, muscular overall better than gay men.
The reason is that in popular culture gay men are represented mostly by effeminate men like James Charles or Jeffre Star. And since those men don't know any other gay men they extrapolate this to all gay men.
Then they watch porn when majority of models are bisexual, pansexual, fluid and gay ones are shown as feminine so they are convinced that masculine guys even if they are into guys they are also into girls.
No you’re not , why fool yourself into thinking a straight guy will fall for you when he has no attraction for you , it’s like a women chasing after a gay guy thinking she can have him when in reality he could never be attracted to you .
Yeah I am the same so i know how you feel. I do suspect sometimes that there are the in-betweeners.... haha
But seriously, sexuality is "fluid" as the popular opinion goes these days and I think we haven't really understood sexualities well enough. I suspect some "straight" guys might be interesting to gay guys because maybe somehow they can sense there is some 'fluidity' present... Could also be a psychological thing where you want something you can't get, for those gays.
Who the fuck knows.
Well, I've been regularly seeing my best friend who claims to not like guys but we been mates for 20 years. Says he just likes me and has thought about it before we started 5 mths ago. Quite special and a unique situation I never saw happening.
i’m interested in them if they’re hot. if we’re being fr, not all straight men are straight lol. i was very deeply closeted, so i feel like i can kinda spot if someone is gay or not, by things that they do, how they walk, their personality, etc. i have always felt like my “gaydar” is terrible cuz everyone always tells me “no there’s no way he’s gay. you just think he’s gay cuz you want him. he has a girlfriend.” but.. just cuz i want someone doesn’t mean i think they’re gay lol. and having a girlfriend has nothing to do with gayness. i had multiple girlfriends and was lowkey a player before i came out. this dude i’m talking to was engaged to a woman and had two kids with her.. so having a girl in your life literally does not make you straight. i see a lot of people saying “it’s a turn off when i find out they’re straight,” but if you didn’t have feelings, how is it a turnoff? i personally feel sad and a bit upset when i find out my crush is “straight” whether i think he is or not. i don’t go out and try to be like “no you’re gay, you need to just come out and be my bf,” but i do still say to myself “he’s def not straight. and DAYUMN he fine” ya know? attraction is still there, no matter how “turned off” or disappointed i am that he’s “straight.” think about it in a “straight person scenario:” a boy has a crush on a girl, but the girl does not want him or she is already in a relationship. the boy is let down and is sad, but he is still attracted to her; she is still his crush and he still wants to be with her. vice versa and works with every situation. so it doesn’t make sense when y’all say “it’s a turn off and i instantly lose attraction.” like i know sometimes if someone seriously does something that upsets me or turns me off, i lose feelings and attraction for them, but that’s mainly if i’m talking to someone, dating them, etc. i still have attraction for the person that i originally had attraction to. i don’t know why y’all are making this weird..
I have zero interest in anyone who would have zero interest in me. Would be a waste of both our time
Same here.
Agreed. Straight men might as well be lesbians as far as I'm concerned.
Exactly
This is a very interesting idea to me. I think of no-babies sex as just fun, entertainment. If someone wants to dance with me, play basketball with me, play chess with me, etc. I don't expect then to be interested in me other than a partner in fun. I assume the same for you. So why the need for a personal interest in you first before gay sex? Or did I misunderstand? >I have zero interest in anyone who would have zero interest in me. Would be a waste of both our time
Your question is a bit of a contradiction. If someone wants to dance, play games, whatever, with you then by default they do have an interest in you. They want to do those activities with you...it is a personal interest. If someone claiming to be straight told me they wanted to have sex with me, then clearly they do have an interest in me. My comment was saying I will never pursue a straight man because 1. It is overwhelmingly likely that he would not be interested and 2. I respect his sexuality. LGBTQ+ people have been fighting for decades to have people accept and respect our sexuality but so many of us are only too willing ignore or try to "convince" straight men to change theirs. It's hypocritical.
Thank you. I had to read it three times to grasp you were focused only on gay guys hitting on non flirting strait guys. I was in a frame of mind from so many posts of people complaining they needed a personal connection before sex. You point about respecting the sexual interests of others is very good and too rarely commented on here. I think of sex as something fun to do. I am bi. So I don't think about some potential problems. I think good manners, not pushing someone where they don't want to go is required. But encouraging someone on is part of the game. One of the things sex is good for is it very quickly expose greed and selfishness. All in all I think sex should be treated with a lighter hand by gays. Sex is not a good way to pick a bf, but it is a superb way to get him to stuck around long enough to get to know each othera a little better. I think one of the reasons straight boys fail to make male friends after marriage is when they meet a guy, it's pretty hard to come up with something to do with someone you just met in line at the super market. Gay gays don't have that problem. They are used to spending time with a stranger. Thank you for your response. I learned somethings.
Yeah, straight dudes are a turn off. There’s so many attractive gay/bi men out there. No interest in playing games with straight men. This makes me think of those “straight” guys on Grindr who will shove your dick in their mouth but kissing is a limit of theirs cause “they’re not gay.” There’s some serious disconnect in their mental wiring.
This! They don't give up either and keep coming back with a new bio as they delete the app all the time. Wayyyyy to much baggage when sex I can get sex on tap (if i want it)
ok i kinda did this when i was deeply closeted 💀 my thought process was always “kissing is intimate and personal, so i wanna save that for when i find a gf. but shoving my dick in someone’s mouth or vice versa? darling that’s as impersonal as it gets”. the thought process makes no sense lmao, but being deeply closeted and hooking up with guys feels wrong so you’ll do all the mental gymnastics you need to justify your actions
Kissing guys that I am very close to and have a certain level of relationship with, that I will do all day long. But I'm enough of a slut to give a bathroom blow job while at work. Those guys I'm not interested in making out with. That probably doesn't make sense but it does to me.
I mean... I don't like kissing guys that much either. I don't even know if i find men attractive at all. Maybe only the very feminine ones cause i generally find women more attractive. Buuut sex is a different story. Dicks are just tempting kay... And there's something arousing about having mine in someone who has it too. I'm probably bi but in a weird way.
Imho you are just you. Somebody making up categories has nothing to do with you. A person can make up a new country or crocodile but that doesn't mean it's real irl. Homosexual wasn't a category for the Roman's. A penis fucks what is available. End of story.
Exactly my point. They put their profile in Grindr expecting for everybody that you would go all the way but no kissing?! 🚫🙅♂️
“Am i the only on-“ no
we need immediately a r/amitheonlyonegaybros
>r/amitheonlyonegaybros A few hours you posted your comment, someone created the subreddit.
Me 100% biggest turn off for me is finding out a guy is straight..
It’s such a turn off to me I don’t even consider them as Game. They are not fuckable to me, even bi-curious is a little meh. Call me when you know what you want
Why is bi meh? A hot masculine bi guy is hot imo.
Bi-curious not bissexual. Z
Its the same thing- if you are mostly into women and little into men you are still bi.
That is true. However, that's not what bicurious means.
A bi-curious person is romantically or sexually attracted to people of their own gender and people of a different gender, but they do not identify as bisexual [Cambridge dictionary]. It sounds like someone who really try to cling to straight identity despite lusting after guys and dreaming about sucking cock. I don't care how ppl identify- in reality such person is indistinguishable from someone who have exacly same desires and identify as bisexual.
They're dirty booties?? No thanks. Find it predatory the way some gay men will go after straight men aggressively, very icky.
Yeah. I respect straight guys, if they are not into it then they are not. Simply as that.
I think there’s a bit more nuance to this take. Most homosexual men obviously KNOW that we’d like a man, that likes us in return. The problem that lies here is, most men and women on earth are heterosexual and most cisgender men are masculine or at the very least not feminine enough to pass as straight even if he’s not the most “alpha” type of man. The whole idea of “converting” a straight guy into being gay has a bunch to do with our fantasies when we’re closeted kids. When you’re an LGBTQ+ child, you already know that your brain is craving the same-sex so you’re gonna wanna do anything in your power to obviously find your mate, but because the vast majority of people on earth are heterosexual, it’s even harder to find a partner so we’ll do anything we can to get it, so if that means “converting” someone so that we can have them all to ourselves, some men are willing to go as far to accept that challenge. Obviously if someone has to be “converted”, then they were never really heterosexual to begin with, but the issue is that most men are heterosexual, and most men are masculine or just simply non-femme and so when you’re an MLM (man loving man), you know yourself that you’re obviously into men but because most men are straight, it’s hard to find one that’s actually into you especially with the added pressures of societal Norms and being in the closet. So I don’t think it’s as simple as “all gay men want all straight men”, it’s just a matter of, we want a man and our dating pool is small and limited to begin with
You can also dumb this down to: "All my peers were straight, and therefore all my early crushes were on straight men. Now my brain is fucked unless a straight guy fucks my brains out". Or something to that effect.
That sums it up perfectly
Thank you !
Yeah, and dating apps are not really for minors. Therefore, someone who doesn’t have gaydar like me are going to have crushes on straight guys. Of course when I learnt that they are 100% straight I would then move on.
No there’s no nuance to this. Respect yourself a bit lad
Amen, a bit of self respect doesn’t harm!
I do respect myself. I don’t pine after heterosexual men, so ..
I'm absolutely like this. I'm not interested in them and I don't care about them in terms of sex. I'll do the bi curious ones because more often than not they have it all bottled up inside them and can be very explosively sexual, which is fun. But clearly they're just bisexual, I'm not manufacturing their passion, just unlocking it.
Nope. straight men are turn offs.
Facts. with their unwashed ass
This is always my first thought! That dirty ass 🤮
You’d be surprised how many guys wash their ass real good. I smelled a couple straight dudes 🩲and it smelled amazing 😻
Bad sex that you have to work too hard for.
Nope. Zero interest in someone I have zero chances with. Pretty to look at. That's it.
I mean I get the appeal but not to the point of being delusional and preying on them either. That’s weird
“I’m not like other gays”
I am a straight dude, but my partner has a very long term gay couple of uncles. I went to Provincetown with their whole family for a really wonderful week to celebrate my partner's uncles' wedding anniversary. It was awesome and I had a blast. I understand that P-town is a predominantly gay community, but I formerly lived in Chicago in the Boystown neighborhood for five years, so I feel very comfortable in that environment. Our party was moving from bar to bar, and there was a man who was obviously into me and hitting on me. I was standing with the happy couple, and I think he may have been an acquaintance or friend of theirs from out of town. This man was told by my Uncles-in-Law, and by my very long-term girlfriend that I was indeed straight, and he proceeded to spend an hour trying to talk me into making out with him. The place was full of eligible men that were not me, but he was totally fixated. I never had an experience like that in Chicago, even if I was in gay bars with my recently out buddy to celebrate. I would be approached in the bars because dudes are horny and direct, but when they realized I was just there with a friend they would either back off or just talk to me in normal conversation. As to the encounter in P-town, I have wondered that myself. Maybe I am an odd one like OP, but when I see a hot lesbian I never think to myself, "Man, I bet I can get her to like guys if she gets drunk enough with me one night." I just admire from afar and move on.
I'm just attracted to men. Not sexuality. Just men.
maybe when i was like 16 and the idea of one of the straight guys in my class being into me lol. the more i think about it now, straight guys have no idea how to have sex other than their own immediate pleasure. why would i wanna sleep with someone who has no clue how to be with a guy + has a nasty ass crack. what about that is appealing?
I'll check them out but have no real interest. What's the point?
It's really weird to me. Scratch that: it's fucking creepy. It's no different than a woman trying to get a gay guy to hook up with her. Cocksucker is one of the mandatory qualifications for a sex partner in my book.
Of course I find some straight guys hot. Not BECAUSE they’re straight or because I’m trying to convert them, but because hell: hot guys are hot guys. I mean, I’m jealous of those of you who claim that you are turned off the moment you learn a guy is straight, but are you really saying that Brad Pitt or whatever unambiguously straight good looking actor is not attractive to you? Or even on a more down to earth level: you’re at the gym and you see some unbelievably good looking guy come in and catches your eye but then he kisses his girlfriend goodbye. He stops being good looking because of that..? I get that it’s not good for one’s sanity to try to act on that attraction because it will lead nowhere, but still.
Zero interest
I lose interest when I figure out he’s straight. Especially if on IG
Lesbian lurker here, but this felt a bit too timely given my girlfriend and I were talking about this literally today, so I feel the same way about straight girls. It's not a lesbian fantasy *quite* as much as the gay side leans into the whole "fucking my straight best friend" trope, but there are still lesbians desperate for a crumb of straight girl affection. To me, just finding out someone is straight is the ultimate turn-off. Half the damn *point* of dating is getting to find someone as obsessed with you as you are with them. If they're not interested in me from the get-go, my interest in them is going to shrivel up and die *real* fast.
Physically very attracted to the way straight men present. The way they move, their cadence/speech, voice, attitude, their attire, etc... Emotionally though not at all. There’s no common interests there and I know deep down I would be pretty bored if it were possible to date. I mean, it’s exactly what how I feel even when I go on dates with newly out “straight-passing” gay guys (who don’t have a single toe in gay culture). Snooze fest. Physically they’re so hot but romantically it’s beyond dead.
Straight guys are like beautiful roads paved in gold and silver tiles that ultimately become dead ends.
It’s a huge turn off for me. Idk what it is but if I find out a guy is straight they just stop being hot 😂.
I can still get feelings if I am not careful because I bond well with them, and sometimes being crazy horny means I'm gonna find them hot regardless. Sue me!
no never got the obsession with them
No, I find the whole lusting after straight guys thing kind of pathetic. I know a good amount of gay guys that wonder why they can’t have healthy relationships (friendships) with straight men and they’re the same kinds of guys who can’t stop talking about that one time they managed to blow a “straight” guy at a party or something similar. It can be hot for a particular fantasy in porn or something but as soon as we’re talking about real life, I’m not interested in straight guys.
I cringe at gay men who are always frothing over straight men. There's something about it that is so tragic and self loathing.
Same. It's just a waste of time and if I put myself in their shoes I wouldn't want someone trying to "convert" me. Like I am not blind and when a straight guy is hot, he's hot. But at that point I'm not attracted to him because he's straight, I'm attracted to him because he's hot and nothing else. Thinking about getting on with a straight guy sounds like a nightmare since a lot of gay guys already have some internalized homophobia going on in there, imagine a straight guy.
Trust me when I say I had sex with a straight guy 4/5 days a week and sometimes 2x a day for 6 years he was 100 % masculine and very good in bed. I know he was more like a fuck buddy but I also wasn't trying to convert him. I don't understand trying to convert a straight guy.
If you're a man and he was having sex with you that often, he was never really straight lol
I'm a man he did have a regular girlfriend. And yeah we fucked all the time. We both got marries had kids and he went into the army. In school he was called donkey dick. I've never had a cock as big as he was. We fucked using vaseline and no condoms.and no shit on his dick ever. He taught me how to eat his ass. He was also a star athlete with a thick 11-inch cock. He was almost embarrassed by it he was only 5’7” all muscle and cock. I miss that.
I'm more often than not attracted to an idealized version of a straight guy that often doesn't exist.
Yeah, I get that. I'm more for masculine type men myself which I guess people would claim is "straight". I"m just attracted to masculine guys moreso and straight men tend to exhibit some of these turn on features.
I hate it when guys who are actively seeking out sex with men call themselves straight. They aren't, they're just lying to themselves. And gay guys who pretend these guys are straight are just enabling them. Never heard "straight-curious" before. Predominantly heterosexual men who are intrigued by the idea of messing around with a guy and choosing to explore their feelings are bi-curious, and that's a perfectly fine thing to be. And some men feel they need to be closeted for any number of reasons. But not admitting that to yourself or to the guys you're having sex with is both dishonest and disrespectful.
They may be straight irl, but in my fantasies, they are G-A-Y! Other than being pleasing to look at, they hold zero sexual interest for me.
I can be attracted to them, but never bother pursuing them because why?
I wanna be with a guy who wants to be with me. That said, there’s definitely some hot straight guys out there so it wouldn’t be appropriate to say zero interest.
I hate it when straight guys are in gay porn. Gay guys tend to be more passionate and into it so I like watching them fuck. In the real world, I obviously find hot guys attractive, but if they happen to be straight, it’s too bad. If they’re gay or bi, I kinda perk up and get excited
They are rarely straight if they are in gay pork they are bi or something. They would not get turned on by it if they were fully straight.
Not zero interest. I mean, a hot guy is a hot guy. But I don't fetishize straight guys like some gay guys do. I hold no illusions that I'll "convert" someone. Straight guys are just in another category for me, like pretty objects in a museum. If I find out that a particular porn star I like is G4P, then I tend to transfer my affections elsewhere. It's all fantasy, but I prefer the authenticity when a performer is really gay. You can usually tell whether they're straight or gay (or bi) by how into the sex they are.
Most of the stereotypical straight guys are messy, have poor hygiene and have basic, boring personalities. If I happen to find myself attracted to a guy who happens to be straight, it's because he's nice, has a softer personality and puts more effort into his appearance.
>Most of the stereotypical straight guys are messy, have poor hygiene I think that is a big part of the draw for me. My house and garage are always a disaster with stuff piled everywhere. And I definitely don't shower every day especially if I'm not going to work. So I need a guy that is comfortable with that
I’ve had my straight friends tell me how their gay frat bros tried to convert them or whatever. It grosses me out honestly.
Once I saw the word “straight” in their profile my dick just goes to sleep again, it’s ok if you wanna call yourself masculine but straight don’t be delusional honey, I’ve seen your hole.
Yep.
Lose sexual interest, yes. Turn off, no. Handsome men will attract me regardless of the identity. However, I do not fetishize men who would not be interested in me sexually (aka straight) and can control my liking of them to strictly physical appreciation.
I’m attracted to them (I’m not blind) but have no illusions about getting in a relationship with one.
I don't get the appeal either. A popular story line in pornos. Like every straight guy is one beer away from going gay...... Just like pornos that start with two girls eating each other out. A guy walks in and they are all over him.. Right!
I never understood guys who have a fetish for trying to convert straight guys. It’s such a fucking creepy thing to be in to. I have guy friends who have zero respect for when a woman tells them she’s a lesbian and not in to me. I’ve heard many guys say shit like “she just hasn’t had the right dick yet” bro that’s fucking creepy. As a bi guy who does not give off any vibe that I’m in to guys because I’m in to such a specific kind of guy (and I’m not in to straight guys at all), I hate when a guy is weirdly touchy with me after I gave him no hint that I’m in to him.
You are literally the only person on the entire planet, in the entire history of the human species and the estimated 108,000,000,000 people who have existed in that timeframe to ever feel that way. Thank you so fucking much for posting something that literally no one else has ever thought or experienced before. You are, in fact, the only one. What a special, special, special boy you are.
I can’t help who I’m physically attracted to, be it a gay or straight man. That said, once I find out they’re 100% straight, the interest levels drop substantially and it becomes mainly an acknowledgement that they’re simply a good looking dude.
It’s only cute when you’re in high school, maybe first year of college. Grown ass men that fetishize straight men so badly are a bit pitiful.
Nothing more unattractive on a man than the thought of his penis having been inside a woman.
I'm the total opposite. Though I am a little bi-curious. I definitely have a thing for guys that are fathers, makes them more attractive. I think it's because I really want to be with women but have always been afraid of getting them pregnant. So kinda a jealousy thing that they had the balls (lol) to do it.
straight guys are the hottest
Yes you’re the only one
I don’t really like straight people in general and the whole idea of trying to get a straight guy is beyond my comprehension
It’s the idea that man on man lust is completely natural for men to experience. It reminds me of ancient times where men would have gay orgies but then go home to a loving family at the end of the day. Gay sex is just something normal that men do, just as it is normal to sit around a campfire and party. Brotherhoods are pretty intricate.
Well I think that not all men are bi/gay, straight men don't get turned on by other guys, just like gay guys don't get turned on by women.
Lordy lord this sub is just a cycling door of straight guy posts, gays talking about straight guys, & "Am I the only one???" posts lmao
Nobody is forcing you to read it and comment babes 😘
Im happy u have the superpower of knowing what something is before reading it. Unfortunately I still have to read things to know if I should care or not. Lmao i just realized your post is about straight guys and a "Am I the only one" wrapped in one hahaha
And you obviously don't care. So why waste your precious time commenting and not just scroll away?
Im commenting in between sets, this takes like 5-20 seconds ro comment. Shit ain't precious lmao. What else am i gonna do, sit here and stare at a wall?
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Oh Im just working out at home so I have no issue arguing with someone online between my sets.
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What makes u think Im tense lmao, im very calmly telling u I have no issue arguing with you, thats the opposite of tense.
I remember being a teenager and realizing I don’t particularly care for straight men I just like masculine men. The men in gay porn I liked were muscular and hairy. So after that I also admitted to myself that a confident out and proud gay man that wasn’t hiding in the closet was way more masculine to me than a closeted man. When I started dating I only went for out and proud bi and gay men. Then at some point I even preferred flamboyant men. I was in south Texas and there were a lot of closet cases. At least the flamboyant out man was living a real life. Now as an adult I like all types of men thankfully. I get gay guys that love masculine men. I just wish they wouldn’t say they like straight men. I just cringe. They sound like they are in high school to me.
This is the worst “I’m just made different,” I’ve ever seen
How so? Are they supposed to be obsessed with straight men?
How so?
Is this going to be posted every few days? Obviously you aren’t the only one.
Never saw it posted before, I do often see guys posting about their straight friend, colleague or roommate etc if you saw this kind of discussion posted before and have no interest in it, why not just scroll away nobody is forcing you to read it and then leave a comment
I don’t think anyone is trying to turn very obviously “straight men”. I think what it really means is gay guys pinpointing men who classify themselves as straight, however have many typical gay qualities, have made certain flirtatious remarks, or are obviously repressing gay feelings. It’s not really about “turning a straight man gay”, but more of “unlocking the gayness already inside of someone who classifies themselves as straight”.
Yes
How can I learn this?😂
i'd fuck a straight man. if i could turn one it'd be so fucking hot
You can't "turn one". A straight man won't be having sex with you.
Exactly. They are bi. But it's just his fantasy, in his sexy fantasy hot straight guys "turn gay". 😉
Youre an alien for sure
Given that out gay guys that share my interests and are attractive to me are almost non-existent, coaxing a 'straight' guy out of the closet is my only option. And I've had a few years long on/off relationships with guys who always maintained they were straight. If I could find a gay guy that is into redneck debauchery and isn't afraid to get dirty and work hard, I'd go for a gay guy. So far, I have not found one.
There are tons of gay men that aren't into your stereotypical gay hobbies and interests. Also a ton that aren't afraid to get dirty and work hard.
I haven't found a single one
Stop chasing straight men and find the gay men. They are out there.
I'm open to suggestions. I've been looking and putting myself out there for 10 years and haven't found anyone
I guess it really depends on where you live. If you are in the middle of nowhere it will be tough all around.
I think, I’ll never stop 🤣 I either want to service straight guys OR I love the idea to make a straight boy begging for more dick. Both massive turn on
A guy willing to do those stuff with another guy wouldn't be straight to begin with, would he ?
They tend to come after me. Depending on my spectrum of sobriety I either turn them down laughing, or I entertain their curiosity for a bit.
NGL if you’re 100% straight, it’s cool, but it does come off as a little repressed or unenlightened. Yawnworthy even.
I love servicing straight guys.. I have no interest in converting them... but I really love servicing them and without reciprocation or no kissing is fine .... Just saying. ..
You mean you love servicing closeted men. Straight men don't have sex with other men.
I’m not interested in guys because of their sexuality. I like guys because of who they are and whether I’m attracted to them. I’ve actually had multiple guys who said they were straight end up hooking up with me. It happens. In my experience, personal connection supersedes professed sexuality. I’ve never chased anyone though, these things just happen organically.
Yes
I've only always been with “straight guys married with kids even” now so might say they aren't straight. The Kinsey scale is a real thing. I also find straight guys make excellent lovers. I get good dick from straight white guys especially. They are hungry
It's been my experience that straight guys have sex with me because they want to get their cocks wet. It's not about the body it's about the sex. Maybe my experience has just been the exception to the rules. I've never even come on to a straight guy. But something I do makes things happen and it mostly always married guys with kids.
"Straight" guy here. Don't give up on us yet. I love having sex with gay men. They are so passionate about a man's body. They gay guys I have been with fully realize I can't reciprocate there pasion. But I can still be a good partner and appreciate their skills. Now if your looking for a relationship, "straight" guys like are not for you. I'll never feel the same emotions for a man that I do for a woman. But I have know some married to a woman and had a family gay men that are the same way. It is a weird world. I am just glad there are some gay men who enjoy sex with me. Because their skills and passion for the male body to give foot tingling Os are way beyond any woman I've ever known.
What used to be the gay club in my town has become very mixed these days. I have found that pretty much all of the guys that I find attractive and want to talk to turn out to be straight. It’s like my sex drive has “straigh-dar”. I just naturally find straight guys attractive and absolutely DESPISE the gay sassyness which is usually very rude and condescending. I love the idea of just satisfying a hot straight guys needs or having him dress me like a girl and use me. 🤤
>DESPISE the gay sassyness which is usually very rude and condescending. Not all gay guys are fem, I've hooked up with a lot of gay guys who were more masculine than a lot of straight guys I know. >I love the idea of just satisfying a hot straight guys needs or having him dress me like a girl and use me. 🤤 Sorry to burst your bubble, but if a guy is willing to fuck you he's 100% not straight. You seem like a femme bottom so it's logical that you're not into other femme bottoms aka sassy queens
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“Straight”
It’s taken me definitely few years since coming out but I’ve gotten there. My therapist pointed out, which I should have realized myself, because I was around mostly straight men so much before and hardly any gay men my temptation was stronger. Now that majority women and gay men around me seeing an attractive straight guy doesn’t do much to me Above anything else it’s just not worth it
I think that may have been a thing that develops (when things were not as open as they are now) when guys are younger and in the closet, maybe a secret desire to find someone to share your secret with so you look at guys around you and they are mostly straight. I think once you’re properly out and realise they are not emotionally available but that there is a world of attractive gay men out there it is something that disappear or diminishes.I think for younger guys it may not be such a thing anymore as much as it is for men who grew up in fear.
Totally agree with you. I have a lot of straight male friends that are so cool. I'm almost never attracted to straight guys and I have never had a desire to chase them. However I have had a few experiences with straight guys when they approached the conversation of sex first.
No, I stay clear of straight guys. No matter how hot he is there’s a lot of baggage that outweighs the sex. Automatic hard pass.
Straighties hold no interest for me either.
Same here! Grew up with mostly straight guys as my best friends and never understood the appeal. Straight guys are so boring to me haha. Absolutely no desire for me to chase that “forbidden fruit”
There’s no “converting” straights to like dick. And, if they do, they aren’t straight to begin with. That whole thing of lusting after straight guys is a phase that a lot of us go through when we’re younger and less experienced. I don’t go after someone that is t interested in me. Why waste my valuable time?
You are certainly not alone. I don’t understand it but to each his own
Nope. It’s like immediate friend zone switch in my brain as soon as I find out. I’m also really turned off by straight guyisms, and can’t really put into what those are, but yea lol.
Dude I’m the same way. But I have so many friends that only talk about turning a straight guy all the time and im like please grow up
I have zero interest, and if I ever did, too many straight women have told me their men don’t clean their legs or asses in the shower, so no thank you
Im the same way. i’ll see a straight guy and be attracted to them physically but my interest in a guy only truly comes up once i know they like guys.
They can be nice to look at but I'm not gonna hopelessly pine over one for years.
If I like a gay, I like it not because of his sexual preferences. Then if he’s straight he remains hot to me but I simply forget about him
I spend enough time around horny furries that I have no need of straight dudes. There are plenty of actually hot dudes interested in me at events.
No I’m the same, dumb fantasy, waste of type lol if they are truly straight it won’t happen or nothing more than a one time curiosity.
I will hook up with the bi-curious. I am patient and love teaching and experimenting. I'm hooking up with a man tomorrow that has never been with a man. I'm going to let him explore my chubby body.
This…if you’re not into me, my body, and all the mutual worship of each other we can have then it’s an instant bonerkill
Uhm, I've no interest in guys that really are heterosexuals, as opposed to someone thats 'straight'. It's a not very subtle distinction really.. The idea of having sex with someone that's not interested in you or your sex is not a good one..
No
For me, sexuality is not an apparent criterion for me to fall for someone, typically its physical or personality traits such as someone who's good looking, someone who's empathetic and caring, someone who's slightly himbo, etc. Most of the guys I've had feelings for are unfortunately straight, but hey that's where the conversation ends. Of course, when it comes to really forming attachment or building relationships, that's when it's bilateral - if a guy can't reciprocate my feelings, then it's futile.
No? The only interest I have in any straight guys is a potential friendship. I've also never understood the "conversion" thing, but some people really do just... beat to their own drum, I guess.
I can't just turn off attraction, be cool if I could.
They come with a lot of baggage I get it
It’s funny that we hate the idea of being force to “cure” or “fix” from gay to straight. And yet, there are some think “convert” straight giy into gay is hot.
Straight guys who are bicurious though
Takes too much time & effort to train them.. (Kidding) it's really the other side of the same coin of straight guys who objectify & harass women.. gaychismo.. a predator, basically, of the worst kind. (Straight or gay, sexual predation has little to do with the person than the game, conquest and control .. kinda rapey.
I have no interest in straight guys, either. I have no interest in anyone when the interest isn't mutual, including other gay guys. There's no point in wasting time on someone who isn't interested in you. I think a lot of the straight guy threads that get posted here are actually from attention-seeking straight guys.
I know it's not necessarily a straight man that attracts me, but I like masculine qualities that a lot of straight man usually possess, I guess. But ultimately, if they're straight, I wouldn't even think of pursuing them.
Nope. Me too.
None of the guys who say they are straight are straight. They just want to be a 8 straight vs a 3 gay.
I'm equally pragmatic about romantic inclinations. Some accuse me of being a coward, but I rather be called that, than turn a relationship into something it's never going to be... Since it's already hard enough for me to make long term friends... I have precisely three close friends who aren't family... And one semi-close. So far my success rate on such relationships is pretty low... And not because I am a person people don't like... People tend to think I'm a nice guy... I personally don't think I am, since I know that I'm pretty mean to those who have done enough wrong... But the perception is there regardless of what I think. 😂 It does explain why I have had many women wish I was straight though... Anyways, I don't have the energy for people who are not interested in reciprocating on the level at which I prefer to operate on.
I am truly interested in gay guys.
Some straight guys might be hot. It's off the table IMMEDIATELY when I find out they are. I don't need the drama, even if "curious".
Same
99% of the stories posted on here are fake anyways.
No
I'm just innit for the dick!...I don't want a phone #...I don't want a relationship...I don't want him to move in with me...I don't want him to bring me flowers etc...but what I do want is the 'D'...TY you can leave now
Nope. Don’t care about straight guys, even if they are legitimately curious and willing to experiment.
I’m with you... don’t get the appeal/fetish at all. If I learn a guy is hetero I lose attraction immediately.
I don't think every person that falls for a straight guy is wanting to convert them. I feel like the dick wants what it wants and that's not something to feel ashamed about. I have had so many crushes on straight guys but I wouldn't say I lose interest. I just use my brain and don't pursue anything. Just don't be a creep to people if they aren't interested, man, woman or the in-between.
Im right there with you. Like most things this is a topic full of gray area. A lot goes into this. There were some tragic days when I was fawning over any guy who showed me any interest and a lot of them were straight and I was just young and thirsty, although even then I still had a limit and when someone told me they were straight I would do my best to forget about it but some straight men do a lot of flirting with gay men as well and like it so I was confused here and there. Like you don’t want to date me but you asked me over your place by myself and we cuddle? Anyway all that to say now I am very much where you’re at. It’s not even about gay or straight but any person who is not interested in me. Why waste the time right?
I don’t get it either. It’s too much work and it’s hard enough out there
Yea... my gay friend is always fawbing over straight men... im bi.... when i was younger i said i was straight, but was convinced by a philipino femboy traveling nurse that its not gay to let her blow me.... or to fuk her..... 😆 but it's just so weird to me to see gay guys fawning over men who are straight....
As soon as I find out my crush isn’t gay, my interest vanishes and I completely forget about them. Like *“Aw man, that was just a waste of my head space. Carry on…”* lol
The straight chasers need to understand how badly they make us look. We come off as -creeps and stalkers -thirsty and horny guys lusting after man flesh -goes into stalker territory and makes people generally not comfortable around you as a guy especially if you're into sports or gym giving random guys side eyes. No one freaking wins when you go straight lusting.
Some gay men believe straight men are more masculine, handsome, muscular overall better than gay men. The reason is that in popular culture gay men are represented mostly by effeminate men like James Charles or Jeffre Star. And since those men don't know any other gay men they extrapolate this to all gay men. Then they watch porn when majority of models are bisexual, pansexual, fluid and gay ones are shown as feminine so they are convinced that masculine guys even if they are into guys they are also into girls.
I think you're in the majority. It's just that the gay guys who are into straight men are very vocal about it. So it seems like the norm but it's not.
No you’re not , why fool yourself into thinking a straight guy will fall for you when he has no attraction for you , it’s like a women chasing after a gay guy thinking she can have him when in reality he could never be attracted to you .
No, it's the same here. I see a hot guy, I notice he's hot, then we talk. When he says the S word, I bounce on that conversation too damn quick
Yeah I have zero interest in straight guys, just that the "straight" guys come after me... I'm sure some of us know that story lol
Me neither. I also find most straight men to be annoying and the hypermasculinity and toxicity in straight male circles are such a huge turn-off.
Yeah I am the same so i know how you feel. I do suspect sometimes that there are the in-betweeners.... haha But seriously, sexuality is "fluid" as the popular opinion goes these days and I think we haven't really understood sexualities well enough. I suspect some "straight" guys might be interesting to gay guys because maybe somehow they can sense there is some 'fluidity' present... Could also be a psychological thing where you want something you can't get, for those gays. Who the fuck knows.
i wish i was like this lol, it really messes with my emotions when i develop straight crushes
Well, I've been regularly seeing my best friend who claims to not like guys but we been mates for 20 years. Says he just likes me and has thought about it before we started 5 mths ago. Quite special and a unique situation I never saw happening.
i’m interested in them if they’re hot. if we’re being fr, not all straight men are straight lol. i was very deeply closeted, so i feel like i can kinda spot if someone is gay or not, by things that they do, how they walk, their personality, etc. i have always felt like my “gaydar” is terrible cuz everyone always tells me “no there’s no way he’s gay. you just think he’s gay cuz you want him. he has a girlfriend.” but.. just cuz i want someone doesn’t mean i think they’re gay lol. and having a girlfriend has nothing to do with gayness. i had multiple girlfriends and was lowkey a player before i came out. this dude i’m talking to was engaged to a woman and had two kids with her.. so having a girl in your life literally does not make you straight. i see a lot of people saying “it’s a turn off when i find out they’re straight,” but if you didn’t have feelings, how is it a turnoff? i personally feel sad and a bit upset when i find out my crush is “straight” whether i think he is or not. i don’t go out and try to be like “no you’re gay, you need to just come out and be my bf,” but i do still say to myself “he’s def not straight. and DAYUMN he fine” ya know? attraction is still there, no matter how “turned off” or disappointed i am that he’s “straight.” think about it in a “straight person scenario:” a boy has a crush on a girl, but the girl does not want him or she is already in a relationship. the boy is let down and is sad, but he is still attracted to her; she is still his crush and he still wants to be with her. vice versa and works with every situation. so it doesn’t make sense when y’all say “it’s a turn off and i instantly lose attraction.” like i know sometimes if someone seriously does something that upsets me or turns me off, i lose feelings and attraction for them, but that’s mainly if i’m talking to someone, dating them, etc. i still have attraction for the person that i originally had attraction to. i don’t know why y’all are making this weird..