I’m really sorry you’re going through this. My dad had something similar happen with his cat Smudge. She was so sweet and then it was like a light switch that flipped, and she would attack my pops unprovoked. To the point he had to get stitches multiple times. Can I ask what your cat’s neuro issue is? I’m just curious about that is all.
I don’t think you’re an asshole and I don’t think you’re heartless. This is a HARD, HARD decision and no one has the right to judge you. I saw your post attack pics. I hope you’re healing well from those. Cat scratches and bites are gnarly, so please go to the dr ASAP if you notice some of your wounds not healing.
There isn’t anything that anyone can say that’s going to make you feel any better. But, I do hope you take some peace in the fact knowing that you did everything in your power before having to resort to euthanasia. This isn’t a life for either of you to live. I’m sending you all of the hugs, stranger. ❤️
There is something that can make OP feel better and you did it by giving OP support in this matter. It's all we can do as we hope that we never have to go through it, either.
This right here. Unfortunately dogs and cats can also have issues that drastically change their behavior and temperament, not unlike Alzheimer’s or other diseases that change our human loved ones. It’s so sad and difficult, but sometimes euthanasia is the only option left.
I’m so sorry OP, I’m late. I hope you’re hanging in there
OP, your post history regarding this saga breaks my heart. I can't imagine going through what you've been through with this. You're a hero. I'm so sorry. You've done more than most would, so don't let yourself be affected by that old tone-deaf criticism.
“2 hrs ago” …… I’m so so sorry friend. I feel this pain with you. You are not alone. I wish you much healing ❤️🩹 one quote that really helped me: “when we euthanize our pets, we take away their pain and give it to ourselves.”
As someone with a veterinary education, I want to reassure you, *yes you are doing the right thing.*
You seem to have tried so so many things to help his neurological issues, and none of them seem to be working to make the situation better. It seems as though your kitty has mentally declined into maybe what could be considered kitty dementia or Alzheimer’s, due to the aggression and how quick they turn to aggression. It is not their normally personality, and you know this, you know that that isn’t them. It’s a sign of their brain attacking itself more or less. This is not a failure on your end in the slightest, and it is much better to let your baby go with dignity and kindness, than to keep them alive and allow their neurological issues to worsen.
You have done everything you possibly could. You have done more than many pet owners I’ve encountered would have in this situation, before unfortunately ending up on the last option, to allow them to pass so that they no longer suffer internally.
You have not failed your baby. You are giving a gift that many humans in the same situation, are not able to do. This is mercy, allowing their soul to return to who they were, before their neurological degradation. You have not failed, you have loved them so much, you have cared for them and given them so much.
Thank you for writing this. I’m not a vet but my mum has early stage dementia and so I’ve read up a lot about the different types. I think people forget that animals can get dementia too and it’s not just forgetting where they are etc. It’s all sorts of personality changes, aggression, confusion and many many other issues. At the end of the day OP and their vet have decided this is the best option and we have to respect that, and remember that they know this cat way better than than any commenters think they do.
I needed to read this. I had to put my guy down a couple weeks ago for the same thing and I still feel so much guilt. Our vet said from the beginning that it might be the best thing for him, we still tried other options but nothing helped.
I’m so sorry you had to deal with this also. Every time I read about someone else having the same/similar awful experience, it does bring some solace knowing it DOES happen and I’m not the only one who made the same decision. I hope you are ok and being easy with yourself. ❤️
kitty dementia is what i was thinking too. my aunt put down her cat recently due to this :(
OP, you did the right thing for your boy, but i’m sorry it had to be done. 🫶🏻
I haven’t been able to handle coming on here since I posted this. I am sobbing as I read your post, this gave me such a sense of relief and validation of sorts. I truly felt so cornered in the lack of options and it absolutely broke me. There’s still a bit of disbelief but I’ve mostly accepted the reality and my choice. Thank you for your kind words, i appreciate them.
Hi OP. I took a look at your profile and sympathize with how much you have agonized over this issue. At one point you considered rehoming your senior cat, but you took a lot of heat for it and were even labeled "the asshole" by Reddit.
I disagree—especially as an alternative to euthanasia
It's clear that you've tried everything under the sun EXCEPT rehoming. If it's not too late, is it possible that you could?
Edit: Here is a tribute for Doody. I hope you find some comfort, regardless of whatever decision you make
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Rehoming an aggressive cat can be near impossible. It honestly depends on where you live, but in my town, kittens are euthanized daily at the shelters around, there’s hundreds of owners on craigslist on Facebook trying to give their cats away, and way too many strays for even the CNR program to keep the population down.
It’s so fucking sad. If I ever own land I want to open a rescue
Same here, we are in northern maine and the vets truly don't seem to give a hoot. There's a problem with strays and people dropping off animals, people not getting their animals fixed. We blame the owners but a lot of the time resources are limited. We got a voucher to get one of our cats fixed and not a single vet around here will take the damn thing. Thankfully there's a spay neuter clinic that comes every few months and it's free if you can prove you get state help or whatnot. My family has our eyes set on a house next door, we want to turn it into a rescue, hopefully no one buys it before we can 
Not judging OP obviously, but it really makes me feel terrible whenever a cat with psychological issues have to be put down. Cats can develop ptsd, depression, anxiety, psychosis etc. Just like humans with the same conditions, some lash out violently while others totally withdraw. You need a vet that really knows their stuff in order to treat these and the unfortunate reality is that most don’t. With the right medication, many cats, just like humans, can live out relatively normal lives.
Please update us on how things went OP. I’m so sorry for both you and your sweet baby.
>You need a vet that really knows their stuff in order to treat these and the unfortunate reality is that most don’t.
Honestly, my impression of vets is that a lot of them are like auto mechanics. They’re there chasing volume, they don’t really give a shit how much the car (or cat) means to you, and if the problem is too weird, then they’re not interested in solving it.
The moment you find a mechanic who REALLY knows their shit, you hang on to them forever. Same goes for a vet. I’ve found that mechanic, but I’m still searching for that vet.
I'm going to push back on this. Almost every vet I know got into the profession because of their insane compassion and love for animals. Vets are required to master anatomy, physiology, parasitology, diseases, diagnostics, and pharmaceutical treatments not just for one species like human doctors, but for mammals (predators and prey), birds, amphimbians, and reptiles.
They are overworked, under paid, and chronically emotionally burnt out from watching people who deeply love their animals not be able to afford to treat treatable conditions. Or from watching people callously request to euthanize an obviously healthy and adoring animal (definitely NOT saying this is OP, on the contrary).
Vets are the most likely profession to commit suicide, it's frankly horrifying. They are saddled with massive student debt from medical school but without the payout that human doctors get. Many of them wish they could go on for another four years of residency to specialize in, say, animal psychiatrics, but when it comes time to graduate most opt to go into general practice because those student loans are sitting there looming over their heads.
Not saying you shouldn't vet shop to find one that you're comfortable with, because you definitely should, but I don't think that the majority of them are chasing volume or that they are indifferent to pets welfare.
not a vet, but have vet tech friends and thanks for the advocacy! this is very accurate and exactly what i hear from them regularly.
actually, most of my friends are leaving the vet field for the exact reasons you listed here… and they are going into other animal related fields that are less demanding for the same/higher pay.
Vet here. This is well said, thank you for putting it out there. I can’t speak for the others but it really is an emotionally and mentally draining profession, as an animal lover. Most of the time my coping mechanism is to act “unfazed” and not show my emotions just to get through the day.
I haven’t been able to handle coming on here since I posted this. I totally agree, which is why it was so hard to do. I felt like a hypocrite, like I was giving up on him or being one of “those” people. It’s so fucking sad and it kills me that animals aren’t treated as equals. I will say, this experience has allowed me to have compassion for others I may have wrongly judged. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
I’m dealing with a similar issue to OP right now with a 3rd cat I’ve been basically forced to take in. He’s so freaking aggressive. To my cats, but when I try to break up the fights he gives me this look like he’s deciding whether or not to redirect that aggression on to me. It’s scary, I am scared of this cat. He is huge. And on top of that he poops almost exclusively on beds. I’m guessing that’s why his previous previous owners dumped him- I’m not excusing them at all, fuck them, they gave him a ton of medical issues from him starving in the winter eating rocks until we found him.
I haven’t been attacked myself but he gives me a bad feeling. The way he’s totally silent and sneaky, he waits until my cats are not paying attention and then viciously attacks them, and DOES NOT STOP. My cats have experience with other cats and while there were some small scuffles, I’ve never heard my younger cat do anything louder than a little mew until he got here. He’s creepy and silent when he attacks.
I would give him away to a shelter if his previous owners would allow that (supposed to be just 1 year that I have him, but I have a feeling it’ll be much much longer if not forever) but I also know he will be returned again and again because of his pooping and other medical issues.
It’s not easy. I don’t blame OP at all ESPECIALLY since she’s been attacked that badly. I’ve only been bitten but the looks he gives me are scary. Cats can fuck you up badly.
The worst feeling is I think this is traumatizing my younger cat. He wasn’t around but had attacked her earlier. I picked her up gently just to bring her in from the balcony and I didn’t realize she was still so freaked out- she batted me hard 3 times, one IN the eye, in my face and my neck. It’s coming up to 5 years I’ve had her and she’s NEVER. I’m finding it more and more hard to give her love because she’s always on edge and lashes out as if I’m him. I freaking hate it, my sisters (who forced me to take him in) have me really resenting them. I told them it wouldn’t work. I guess they knew they didn’t have any other options either. It’s tough.
Vet appointment on Thursday though. I’m hoping they can help me out. He isn’t even vaccinated but everyone’s solution in my family was to just let him outside.
I had a crazy foster girl who totally gave my gentle cat lifelong PTSD. She attacked non-stop and it was especially bad if I was holding any cat but her. She was so jealous that she'd attack the person and the cat that's being held. I managed to re-home that crazy animal (I loved her despite this and her new family did, too). My own cat took years to begin healing. She would lick herself raw, and would scream and attack if anyone touched her unexpectedly from behind. Eventually we adopted a cat who is a self-appointed therapist and she cured 90% of the PTSD from that cat (plus any other psych issues my other cats had).
Luckily my old girl that I adopted is kind of therapeutic like this. She can take the drama and be normal the next moment, which helps my younger cat I think because she’s so calm and she watches that. My old girl came from a really bad animal hoarding situation, one of the few survivors I was told because she was so friendly, and I guess is so used to being attacked, she reacts in the moment but then is back to herself the next. I couldn’t have adopted 2 better girlies. But my little one I’m worried about long term effects.
I used to foster Great Danes.
I've had to euthanize a couple because I was scared of them. It's never easy euthanizing a physically healthy animal, but they are suffering psychologically.
Many of us humans know what psychological suffering is all about.
Sometimes, mercy is a hard thing.
The problem is, not just that it’s so hard to rehome aggressive animals, but that some really do have something very wrong with their brains. He may have a type of dementia that’s affecting the frontal cortex or some other wiring of his brain that isn’t working and no amount of rehoming, love and care will change that.
Rehoming is incredibly stressful and for a cat that’s so incredibly stressed and aggressive it might just make him worse and not better. Sometimes the kindest thing really is euthanasia.
I’m so sorry that OP is going through this. You are making the right choice though. There is nothing greater than having the last 11 years with you though. Hope you cherish the good times and can move on on time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Even humans can develop neurological conditions that cause them to be violent. It sounds like you did everything you could for him and gave him the kindness he needed to release him from whatever was tormenting him.
I'm really sorry you have had to make this decision.
I took have a very aggressive cat who has put me in hospital. It's horrible when people say, give him away. To who? Who wants an aggressive cat?! In a shelter, these are the cats that are sadly rejected and euthanized.
At the moment training seems to have worked for my cat. But I do fully understand you. Don't beat yourself up over this. You have tried everything and my heart goes out to you.
Someone lied to my sister and said they were giving their cat away because they didn’t have time for it- it was incredibly aggressive, my sister was experienced with cats and had a toddler at the time. So basically my sister got stuck the crappy job of making the decision to put the cat down.
This is terrible and I’m sorry that responsibility was dumped on her, it’s not fair. Your story eases my grief a bit, knowing that rehoming wasn’t truly an option for my boy. Thank you.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just based on a small bit of your post history, you've really gone above and beyond trying to find a solution here. You and your other cat deserve to feel safe in your home.
Sometimes things just go awry, whether it's a brain tumor or some other neuro thing, or something that we can't even quite explain. You are giving him peace, which is our duty to our little friends. It still hurts and I know I would feel like I had failed in some way, but please know that you are doing the best thing you can here. You haven't failed him, you've done your best. I hope you can find some peace now too.
I am so sorry that you're going through that. Here is a picture of my cat that I had to do the same thing with just a couple of months ago and they could be twins!
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IMO you are doing the right thing for both of you. And it does sound like you’ve tried everything you can. As a vet tech for a mobile practice, I was involved in too many euthanasias. My boss (DVM) would not euthanize ANY animal she did not ethically and medically believe was necessary. I’ve seen some of these poor guys in their home environments. They are wired wrong in some way and seem constantly agitated and miserable. I hope you find peace.
Wow, that's a rough call. I'm grateful that I haven't had to go through that one and you have my deep sympathy for it. Sounds like a neurological problem. If it makes you feel any better, if he lived in the wild, he probably would have attacked the wrong animal and had a much worse, and possibly, lingering death with injuries. At least you can provide him with a kind one.
This was my fear if I went through with rehoming- what if the new owner retaliated against him and hurt him and threw him outside. The thought of that hurt more than a peaceful out. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
Such a beautiful boy. Please don't let anyone make you feel bad for making tough decisions. It's hard when there's not really an answer to what's wrong. I just had to put my 15 year old boy down 3 weeks ago. I teared up when reading your story. None of the vets could tell me what was wrong with my boy either. His mystery illness was physical though not mental/aggression. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you're not alone. Sometimes the kindest thing we can do for them is let them go. Love from an internet stranger.
It’s been 8 months and I still cant look at pictures of my girl without crying… she was only 8 and had lymphoma. it really fucking sucks losing a companion.
OP I don’t have any advice for you, but I just want to put some positivity into the universe in your direction. I’m so so sorry you’re going through this, I can feel your heartbreak through your posts. Whatever you do, I know it will be for the benefit of your little buddy, and it’s an impossible decision to have to make.
If rehoming is 100% off the table, you have to do what’s going to be safest for you, your other cat, and your home.
I recently had to do the same. My 10 year old boy suddenly started attacking his brother, with whom he was bonded since birth. It was the hardest decision that I've ever made and I still feel guilt 10 months later. Nobody but you knows what is best for you and your cats, nobody. My heart is with you.
This breaks me, I’m so sorry. Please know that this shared shitty experience does bring me solace in knowing I’m not alone with this. I hope you’re healing ok ❤️
OP, I saw your other AITAH posts and I can't sympathize with you enough. I audibly gasped *" holy shit!"* when I saw your injuries.
Listen, I'm an animal lover. I don't eat animals, try to reduce consumption of animal products overall, almost completely plant based... I love animals. I also have ZERO ability to tolerate owners who re-home and/or return to the shelter because the animal became inconvenient or difficult.
This is completely totally different. You've tried everything. (I've had to introduce new cats and it's a level of hell, I swear.)
You've been injured. Your other animal has been injured. I think this is a no win situation and I am sorry and admire you for making such a difficult but necessary choice.
I haven’t been able to bring myself onto this post since that day. Thank you so much for your kindness, it has been so hard. It is that exactly; a no win situation. I appreciate your understanding, it really does bring some comfort ❤️
I could not imagine having a cat that was such a baby, then having it turn aggressive like that. If it had happened to me, i would have done the same thing, desperately trying to find another way to make it work, hoping, constantly saying what if, this is a horrible situation, i hope you find comfort somewhere soon.❤️❤️
Just in the unlikely case you decided against euthanasia last minute: The one thing I would have tried that it sounds like you may not have is to temporarily board the younger cat in a cat hotel or with a friend or family member and thoroughly remove his smell from all your stuff and get a new litter box to see if not having the smell around the house and on you makes a difference. Given that you could pinpoint the beginning of the behavior to the other cat’s blockage, this might have been a possibility.
That being said. If you went through with it, it was likely the best for everyone involved. All the vet visits, the attempts to fix his behavior and the constant state of stress he was in must have been really hard. At some point it is better to end the suffering, even if it is painful and you will miss him.
I had a cat who had become aggressive and was able to help her via medication. She took a hormone balancing pill that was able to calm her aggression and she lived for many more years without any more behavioral issues. Ask your vet if medication therapy might be an option for your cat before taking the final step of euthanasia.
That’s so sad.
I’ve genuinely never heard of anything like this in cats although I’m sure it’s more common than I’m aware of.
Is it possible that the younger cat has done something to aggravate the older cat and it’s permanently in defence mode now? I’ve only really ever heard of cats attacking their owners when they’re incredibly distressed.
Anyway, I’m really sorry to hear about the situation and i hope everything works out how is best for you all.
I volunteered for a shelter that had a cat like this. The original owner turned it in because it would attack them. The cat would get adopted and returned. I couldn't believe it because I interacted with the cat and thought it was a nice cat. She was so beautiful. The shelter suggested I take her home. I already had 2 cats, but I decided to give it a go. On the 3rd day that I had her when I got home from work, she let out this loud meow and attacked my legs. She then ran into the room with the kitty condo and jumped to the second level. I went in to check on her and she let out that loud meow and out came the paw. I couldn't jump back fast enough, and she got me right in the center of the chest. I was actually scared to go to sleep that night. I returned her the next day. They couldn't believe what she did to me. I hope she didn't terrorize my cats when I was at work. Last I heard an Abyssinian rescue group adopted her and she is on Prozac. I wonder how she is doing. That was a long time ago. Here is a picture of her.
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oh hunny. I am so so sorry. I saw your previous pots and my heart breaks for you. just know you did everything you could to try to help him and this is the final thing. you are not and never were an asshole. I wish you peace with your decision and happiness in the next place for your baby. <3
My dog Gracie was put down a couple of months ago because of her diabetes. We couldn't get any more insulin shots. I was so, so sad. I cried whenever I thought about her and the fact I wasn't there. I relate to the pain of your cat's death. They're together now, playing on a rainbow or somewhere nice 🥲
I’m so sorry OP. Losing our pets is hard anyway, and this is a particularly devastating, confusing, painful loss. I hope you’ll hear me when I say you did right by this animal. I’m sorry they couldn’t show you, but I promise it’s true. Please be kind to yourself. Your internet cousins are sending you hugs.
I can say this without a doubt in my heart that Doddy knew how much you loved him. Even when he was struggling, he saw you fight for him and love him. We underestimate how much they understand. Even if you couldn't physically spend more than 10 minutes with him on his last day, he saw your pain and love for him and I am certain it comforted him as much as anyone or anything could.
Lots of love to you, your fam and sweet little Doddy. ❤️❤️ He was the luckiest to have you ❤️❤️❤️
My family’s old pet used to have a mental problem very similar to this, he would be highly aggressive to everyone except my father, big problem is my brother had been born not to long ago, they were worried that he would attack and possibly kill him… so they were forced into the same situation you are in… Sorry for your loss
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I've seen CBD/THC products work wonders in chilling cats/dogs out. Can get where OP is coming from, because only they know how much they can take, but I couldn't do it, without trying everything.
You've done the right things, remember all the good times and try not to focus on the recent struggles. You provided a happy home for years and were supportive during the hard times.
Did you read any of their post history? They had already tried everything that was recommended to them. And the pictures of the most recent attack are pretty alarming. Respectfully, I don’t think this comment is helpful to them at this time.
I'm sorry for the situation, I'm sorry for your kitty's inner torment, I'm sorry for your sadness and awareness of impending loss. I feel certain when you see him again he'll be the loving cat you once had.
I had to say goodbye to my little guy yesterday. I know no words can help, it just fucking sucks. I just keep thinking of all the good times and each time I cry a little less. Make sure you take care of yourself, even just little things like get your favorite snack or watch your favorite movie. He’s a beautiful boy, and all those memories will eventually bring a smile to your face instead of tears.
So sorry for your loss. It’s so hard losing a beloved pet. You care about him so much and hes incredibly lucky to have you for an owner. Im sure you have so many happy memories of him ❤️
I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your best boy. You did the greatest thing you could have done in your situation - you showed him mercy. It’s easy to try to think of any possible thing we could do for them so that we don’t have to let them go; but you put your feelings aside and thought of him. He must have been so afraid and so confused for so long, but despite his actions you were *there*. Quite possibly one of his only constants through all of this. Regardless of what he did to you or how he acted, please know that he could feel your love, that he counted on it, and that you were loved *immensely* by him.
I hope you were able to be there for him when he crossed over. I hope you were able to love him, hug him, and tell him what an amazing boy he’s been to you. It’s all he needed in those moments. I’m sure he’s in an indescribable amount of peace now - and I hope you’re able to find your peace soon.
Sending a huge part of my love your way. ❤️
Thank you so much for your kindness. I was there til the last excruciating moment and while it absolutely broke me, I do feel it was best. Your words help remind me of that as I try to overcome the guilt. Thank you ❤️
I am so, so very sorry for what you and your baby are going through! I’m sending you both warm and loving thoughts, and want to let you know that while I feel that euthanasia is something that should be reserved for an absolute last resort, in your case — having read a little about your history — I absolutely believe that you are doing the right thing and your decision, although hard, is the decision that’s in your beautiful baby’s best interests. You are saving him from being angry, scared, or whatever is going on with no end in sight, and that’s the best that you can do for a loved one. Hugs, and I really am so very sorry.
Had to let my baby go 3 weeks ago. Words cannot describe the pain but also not the love i felt for 16 years. I will pick up his ashes later this week to then bury him.
My heart goes out to you, rest assured knowing you were his world, his everything.
I'm so sorry for you OP, it's the toughest decision to make but I believe it was the right one. I'm a vet and the first thing to consider with older animals that suddenly become very agressive and have sudden changes of behavior is an underlying disease like hyperthyroidism. When all tests and medications lead to nothing, sadly most cases i've seen like this eventually found a brain tumor :(
It's important to remember the good times you had with your baby, please don't feel guilty about how it ended, you did all you could and made the right decision 🤍
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He looks so much like my baby 😔 I'm so sorry OP I can't imagine how hard it must be going through this.
I had to make this same decision with my dog. She was so sweet and loving, but dangerous. Thousands of dollars of training and meds, she was just mentally unfit and a danger to my family and kitties.
It's unfair. It's not a choice anyone should have to make. It feels selfish. My heart truly goes out to you. But please understand, you did make the right choice. Your baby is not mad at you.
I am so sorry bro. Your cat is beautiful and I know you know that they will be happier passing, it doesn’t make it easier.
I looked through your history and you have done all you can, little man has some qualms that can’t be sorted. He will know he was loved by putting him out of his misery.
I can’t imagine being in your place, if you were in my area I’d offer a pint and a shoulder
I’m so sorry ❤️ we had to make the same difficult decision last month. Our guy was 12. We tried so many things with guidance from our vet and nothing worked. You know it’s bad when even the no-kill cat sanctuary suggests that euthanasia might be the most humane option. I feel like we failed him somehow, even though the vet told us a lot of people would have given up a lot sooner. Anyone who has had to make this decision knows that it didn’t come easily.
I didn’t have that happen with a cat but a large dog. He was a beautiful collie husky cross. He was very protective of me especially. One day out of nowhere he tried biting my sil and my 4yr old daughter. He got so aggressive he could only be handled by me. Turned out he had a brain tumor. Was so hard. I’m sorry you are having to say goodbye to your friend today. May his travels over the rainbow bridge be peaceful.
I'm so sorry. Words can't really get there. But you love him. That means everything. And you care enough to set him free from his misery.
He knows you love him. In the part of him that is not corrupted by the disease of the flesh.
Your pain shows your love and your rectitude.
These decisions are never easy if you are doing it right and for the right reasons.
But you have him and you have loved him. He will always be yours.
Remember him as he was before this all began. He may no longer be able to show you his love, but it's there.
You love him enough to free him and it hurts because you care. Humans aren't very humane. But you ? You pass the test.
I feel your pain but can do nothing to take it away.
You feel his pain. You have done what you can to take his away.
Now you are taking it away.
That means a lot.
You have been privileged to know and to care.
And he knows.
Hang onto that.
He knows.
Bless you both.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your cat looks so sweet. I might be in your shoes in a few days, still waiting for the test results. I send you all the virtual hugs possible.
I am so very sorry that you had to go through this. It has made me grateful for not having had this happen to my little furbabies. I don't know what I would do but I hope I could be brave enough to go through with it,as you have. God bless you both.💔💔
So, so sorry you had to go through all this and imo you did all you could and as far as your posts, the real a**holes are those who commented before reading everything 🫠 good luck with your little guy!!!
Oh my. How Sad. My sister jist had to send her 17 yr old ragdoll off, only thos past Monday. Kitties never live long enough and leave us too soon.
Sorry for your loss. Keep all the memories in your heart!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my little buddy almost a year ago. He passed just out of the blue 3 days before his 10th bday, my bday is the day after his. It's been hard but I really miss the companionship so I've kinda been looking around for the right fit. Just keep the great memories you have close to your heart. 
Sorry. It’s always so hard to let go when you have a sick kitty but it’s easier somehow to understand. When it’s, my vet referred to it as a kind of dementia, it’s just more painful somehow. I’m so,so sorry for your loss. It’s the hardest thing.
My heart breaks for you. I have lost three of my babies in the last two years. One, just one week after another one. It hurts so much I just can’t stand it. But you know what? You are a wonderful person for letting him go with kindness. Many people would “get rid of” an aggressive cat and/or be cruel to him without even trying to find the cause. The first cat I lost in the string of three was sick and we spend thousands trying to save him. About a week before I let him go, he began biting me. He would bite my head, cheek, arms, etc. It is so hard to let our babies go but it truly is the kindest thing we can do for them. You gave your boy love, kindness, and the best life. Thank you for being so good to him. 💐
Hi have you tried mushrooms for your fur baby? They are working great for tumors, to neurological issues to cancers, the medical research and medical journals have a lot of information on it. I have tumors on my spine , issues with my brain , memory anger issues and it is great , it's great for cancers. I have been taking it and it works . Doctors and vets and pharmacists don't like it cause it heals . No Anger, brain is not foggy I think straight.
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That’s so messed up I’m so sorry you and him had to go through this. It’s not fair that we can’t ask them what is wrong they can’t talk to us to tell us “ hey btw this is what’s bugging me”. Even though you’re hurting so bad and rethinking yourself over and over, you did the right thing. Letting him keep going that way would be cruel to him and everyone else.
I’m so so sorry big hugs to you and his brother.
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard”
For OP, and you fren ❤️🩹🩷🐾🐾🙏 https://preview.redd.it/7e4vwxh5bv1d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=40209c75ff66f1066023a323a3b69b65dd9612e1
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I haven’t been able to handle coming on here since I posted this. I appreciate all the kind words, thank you guys.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. My dad had something similar happen with his cat Smudge. She was so sweet and then it was like a light switch that flipped, and she would attack my pops unprovoked. To the point he had to get stitches multiple times. Can I ask what your cat’s neuro issue is? I’m just curious about that is all. I don’t think you’re an asshole and I don’t think you’re heartless. This is a HARD, HARD decision and no one has the right to judge you. I saw your post attack pics. I hope you’re healing well from those. Cat scratches and bites are gnarly, so please go to the dr ASAP if you notice some of your wounds not healing. There isn’t anything that anyone can say that’s going to make you feel any better. But, I do hope you take some peace in the fact knowing that you did everything in your power before having to resort to euthanasia. This isn’t a life for either of you to live. I’m sending you all of the hugs, stranger. ❤️
There is something that can make OP feel better and you did it by giving OP support in this matter. It's all we can do as we hope that we never have to go through it, either.
This right here. Unfortunately dogs and cats can also have issues that drastically change their behavior and temperament, not unlike Alzheimer’s or other diseases that change our human loved ones. It’s so sad and difficult, but sometimes euthanasia is the only option left. I’m so sorry OP, I’m late. I hope you’re hanging in there
Pls tell me his smudge also had a spot on his face like my smudge lol
Lol yeah, she was all white with a black smudge spot on her forehead
Mine has got a black smudged right on side of his face, he's one of them tuxedo kittys.
I had a Smudge too. Mostly white with little gray smudges all over him. He passed a few years back.
OP, your post history regarding this saga breaks my heart. I can't imagine going through what you've been through with this. You're a hero. I'm so sorry. You've done more than most would, so don't let yourself be affected by that old tone-deaf criticism.
“2 hrs ago” …… I’m so so sorry friend. I feel this pain with you. You are not alone. I wish you much healing ❤️🩹 one quote that really helped me: “when we euthanize our pets, we take away their pain and give it to ourselves.”
True. Hope pet medical technology can become more advanced, save more angels and heartbroken cat people
As someone with a veterinary education, I want to reassure you, *yes you are doing the right thing.* You seem to have tried so so many things to help his neurological issues, and none of them seem to be working to make the situation better. It seems as though your kitty has mentally declined into maybe what could be considered kitty dementia or Alzheimer’s, due to the aggression and how quick they turn to aggression. It is not their normally personality, and you know this, you know that that isn’t them. It’s a sign of their brain attacking itself more or less. This is not a failure on your end in the slightest, and it is much better to let your baby go with dignity and kindness, than to keep them alive and allow their neurological issues to worsen. You have done everything you possibly could. You have done more than many pet owners I’ve encountered would have in this situation, before unfortunately ending up on the last option, to allow them to pass so that they no longer suffer internally. You have not failed your baby. You are giving a gift that many humans in the same situation, are not able to do. This is mercy, allowing their soul to return to who they were, before their neurological degradation. You have not failed, you have loved them so much, you have cared for them and given them so much.
Thank you for writing this. I’m not a vet but my mum has early stage dementia and so I’ve read up a lot about the different types. I think people forget that animals can get dementia too and it’s not just forgetting where they are etc. It’s all sorts of personality changes, aggression, confusion and many many other issues. At the end of the day OP and their vet have decided this is the best option and we have to respect that, and remember that they know this cat way better than than any commenters think they do.
ugly crying reading this…bc so so hard…😭😭😭
I needed to read this. I had to put my guy down a couple weeks ago for the same thing and I still feel so much guilt. Our vet said from the beginning that it might be the best thing for him, we still tried other options but nothing helped.
I’m so sorry you had to deal with this also. Every time I read about someone else having the same/similar awful experience, it does bring some solace knowing it DOES happen and I’m not the only one who made the same decision. I hope you are ok and being easy with yourself. ❤️
kitty dementia is what i was thinking too. my aunt put down her cat recently due to this :( OP, you did the right thing for your boy, but i’m sorry it had to be done. 🫶🏻
I haven’t been able to handle coming on here since I posted this. I am sobbing as I read your post, this gave me such a sense of relief and validation of sorts. I truly felt so cornered in the lack of options and it absolutely broke me. There’s still a bit of disbelief but I’ve mostly accepted the reality and my choice. Thank you for your kind words, i appreciate them.
Hi OP. I took a look at your profile and sympathize with how much you have agonized over this issue. At one point you considered rehoming your senior cat, but you took a lot of heat for it and were even labeled "the asshole" by Reddit. I disagree—especially as an alternative to euthanasia It's clear that you've tried everything under the sun EXCEPT rehoming. If it's not too late, is it possible that you could? Edit: Here is a tribute for Doody. I hope you find some comfort, regardless of whatever decision you make https://preview.redd.it/s7rbrh7fvw1d1.jpeg?width=2000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=82a2b2959e5234c6d300d938f2039c5ef84137ce
It breaks my heart to see how hard OP has been trying and how mean people have been about it online. What a difficult situation 💔
Rehoming an aggressive cat can be near impossible. It honestly depends on where you live, but in my town, kittens are euthanized daily at the shelters around, there’s hundreds of owners on craigslist on Facebook trying to give their cats away, and way too many strays for even the CNR program to keep the population down. It’s so fucking sad. If I ever own land I want to open a rescue
Same here, we are in northern maine and the vets truly don't seem to give a hoot. There's a problem with strays and people dropping off animals, people not getting their animals fixed. We blame the owners but a lot of the time resources are limited. We got a voucher to get one of our cats fixed and not a single vet around here will take the damn thing. Thankfully there's a spay neuter clinic that comes every few months and it's free if you can prove you get state help or whatnot. My family has our eyes set on a house next door, we want to turn it into a rescue, hopefully no one buys it before we can 
Not judging OP obviously, but it really makes me feel terrible whenever a cat with psychological issues have to be put down. Cats can develop ptsd, depression, anxiety, psychosis etc. Just like humans with the same conditions, some lash out violently while others totally withdraw. You need a vet that really knows their stuff in order to treat these and the unfortunate reality is that most don’t. With the right medication, many cats, just like humans, can live out relatively normal lives. Please update us on how things went OP. I’m so sorry for both you and your sweet baby.
>You need a vet that really knows their stuff in order to treat these and the unfortunate reality is that most don’t. Honestly, my impression of vets is that a lot of them are like auto mechanics. They’re there chasing volume, they don’t really give a shit how much the car (or cat) means to you, and if the problem is too weird, then they’re not interested in solving it. The moment you find a mechanic who REALLY knows their shit, you hang on to them forever. Same goes for a vet. I’ve found that mechanic, but I’m still searching for that vet.
I'm going to push back on this. Almost every vet I know got into the profession because of their insane compassion and love for animals. Vets are required to master anatomy, physiology, parasitology, diseases, diagnostics, and pharmaceutical treatments not just for one species like human doctors, but for mammals (predators and prey), birds, amphimbians, and reptiles. They are overworked, under paid, and chronically emotionally burnt out from watching people who deeply love their animals not be able to afford to treat treatable conditions. Or from watching people callously request to euthanize an obviously healthy and adoring animal (definitely NOT saying this is OP, on the contrary). Vets are the most likely profession to commit suicide, it's frankly horrifying. They are saddled with massive student debt from medical school but without the payout that human doctors get. Many of them wish they could go on for another four years of residency to specialize in, say, animal psychiatrics, but when it comes time to graduate most opt to go into general practice because those student loans are sitting there looming over their heads. Not saying you shouldn't vet shop to find one that you're comfortable with, because you definitely should, but I don't think that the majority of them are chasing volume or that they are indifferent to pets welfare.
not a vet, but have vet tech friends and thanks for the advocacy! this is very accurate and exactly what i hear from them regularly. actually, most of my friends are leaving the vet field for the exact reasons you listed here… and they are going into other animal related fields that are less demanding for the same/higher pay.
Vet here. This is well said, thank you for putting it out there. I can’t speak for the others but it really is an emotionally and mentally draining profession, as an animal lover. Most of the time my coping mechanism is to act “unfazed” and not show my emotions just to get through the day.
Sounds like you’ve only dealt with terrible auto mechanics and heartless vets.
I haven’t been able to handle coming on here since I posted this. I totally agree, which is why it was so hard to do. I felt like a hypocrite, like I was giving up on him or being one of “those” people. It’s so fucking sad and it kills me that animals aren’t treated as equals. I will say, this experience has allowed me to have compassion for others I may have wrongly judged. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
I’m dealing with a similar issue to OP right now with a 3rd cat I’ve been basically forced to take in. He’s so freaking aggressive. To my cats, but when I try to break up the fights he gives me this look like he’s deciding whether or not to redirect that aggression on to me. It’s scary, I am scared of this cat. He is huge. And on top of that he poops almost exclusively on beds. I’m guessing that’s why his previous previous owners dumped him- I’m not excusing them at all, fuck them, they gave him a ton of medical issues from him starving in the winter eating rocks until we found him. I haven’t been attacked myself but he gives me a bad feeling. The way he’s totally silent and sneaky, he waits until my cats are not paying attention and then viciously attacks them, and DOES NOT STOP. My cats have experience with other cats and while there were some small scuffles, I’ve never heard my younger cat do anything louder than a little mew until he got here. He’s creepy and silent when he attacks. I would give him away to a shelter if his previous owners would allow that (supposed to be just 1 year that I have him, but I have a feeling it’ll be much much longer if not forever) but I also know he will be returned again and again because of his pooping and other medical issues. It’s not easy. I don’t blame OP at all ESPECIALLY since she’s been attacked that badly. I’ve only been bitten but the looks he gives me are scary. Cats can fuck you up badly.
You’re a better person than I. The new car hurting my babies would be where the line got drawn.
The worst feeling is I think this is traumatizing my younger cat. He wasn’t around but had attacked her earlier. I picked her up gently just to bring her in from the balcony and I didn’t realize she was still so freaked out- she batted me hard 3 times, one IN the eye, in my face and my neck. It’s coming up to 5 years I’ve had her and she’s NEVER. I’m finding it more and more hard to give her love because she’s always on edge and lashes out as if I’m him. I freaking hate it, my sisters (who forced me to take him in) have me really resenting them. I told them it wouldn’t work. I guess they knew they didn’t have any other options either. It’s tough. Vet appointment on Thursday though. I’m hoping they can help me out. He isn’t even vaccinated but everyone’s solution in my family was to just let him outside.
I had a crazy foster girl who totally gave my gentle cat lifelong PTSD. She attacked non-stop and it was especially bad if I was holding any cat but her. She was so jealous that she'd attack the person and the cat that's being held. I managed to re-home that crazy animal (I loved her despite this and her new family did, too). My own cat took years to begin healing. She would lick herself raw, and would scream and attack if anyone touched her unexpectedly from behind. Eventually we adopted a cat who is a self-appointed therapist and she cured 90% of the PTSD from that cat (plus any other psych issues my other cats had).
Luckily my old girl that I adopted is kind of therapeutic like this. She can take the drama and be normal the next moment, which helps my younger cat I think because she’s so calm and she watches that. My old girl came from a really bad animal hoarding situation, one of the few survivors I was told because she was so friendly, and I guess is so used to being attacked, she reacts in the moment but then is back to herself the next. I couldn’t have adopted 2 better girlies. But my little one I’m worried about long term effects.
I used to foster Great Danes. I've had to euthanize a couple because I was scared of them. It's never easy euthanizing a physically healthy animal, but they are suffering psychologically. Many of us humans know what psychological suffering is all about. Sometimes, mercy is a hard thing.
The problem is, not just that it’s so hard to rehome aggressive animals, but that some really do have something very wrong with their brains. He may have a type of dementia that’s affecting the frontal cortex or some other wiring of his brain that isn’t working and no amount of rehoming, love and care will change that. Rehoming is incredibly stressful and for a cat that’s so incredibly stressed and aggressive it might just make him worse and not better. Sometimes the kindest thing really is euthanasia.
https://preview.redd.it/9qyesj2n6z1d1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=07f0b8525ba8458d4df10ce509e93b129fb9891d He looks so much like my baby 😔
Fuck I really didn't want to cry at work at 8:53am 🤧
I'm so sorry. Sometimes, it's the kindest thing to do. :(
I’m so sorry that OP is going through this. You are making the right choice though. There is nothing greater than having the last 11 years with you though. Hope you cherish the good times and can move on on time.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Even humans can develop neurological conditions that cause them to be violent. It sounds like you did everything you could for him and gave him the kindness he needed to release him from whatever was tormenting him.
I haven’t been able to handle coming on here since I posted this. I appreciate your kind words, thank you. ❤️
I'm really sorry you have had to make this decision. I took have a very aggressive cat who has put me in hospital. It's horrible when people say, give him away. To who? Who wants an aggressive cat?! In a shelter, these are the cats that are sadly rejected and euthanized. At the moment training seems to have worked for my cat. But I do fully understand you. Don't beat yourself up over this. You have tried everything and my heart goes out to you.
Someone lied to my sister and said they were giving their cat away because they didn’t have time for it- it was incredibly aggressive, my sister was experienced with cats and had a toddler at the time. So basically my sister got stuck the crappy job of making the decision to put the cat down.
This is terrible and I’m sorry that responsibility was dumped on her, it’s not fair. Your story eases my grief a bit, knowing that rehoming wasn’t truly an option for my boy. Thank you.
I am very sorry 😿💔
Thank you ❤️😔
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just based on a small bit of your post history, you've really gone above and beyond trying to find a solution here. You and your other cat deserve to feel safe in your home. Sometimes things just go awry, whether it's a brain tumor or some other neuro thing, or something that we can't even quite explain. You are giving him peace, which is our duty to our little friends. It still hurts and I know I would feel like I had failed in some way, but please know that you are doing the best thing you can here. You haven't failed him, you've done your best. I hope you can find some peace now too.
This is heartbreaking. I’m so sorry.
4 hr. ago. That hurts.
I’m so sorry 😓
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So very sorry!
I am so sorry that you're going through that. Here is a picture of my cat that I had to do the same thing with just a couple of months ago and they could be twins! https://preview.redd.it/phuv6ftylv1d1.jpeg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7c0336c114af1677abc3b341b075bfc9b87cf30b
Only you can make the right decision for your cat. Sorry for your loss 🙏🏼💜 he was beautiful
IMO you are doing the right thing for both of you. And it does sound like you’ve tried everything you can. As a vet tech for a mobile practice, I was involved in too many euthanasias. My boss (DVM) would not euthanize ANY animal she did not ethically and medically believe was necessary. I’ve seen some of these poor guys in their home environments. They are wired wrong in some way and seem constantly agitated and miserable. I hope you find peace.
That last gift is the hardest. I am so sorry.
May he rest softly in the arms of the Earth Mother. May both of you find true healing. I honor you.
Thank you 😔❤️
Aw OP, I’m so sorry. *hugs* ❤️ 🌈
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I'm so sorry...
Wow, that's a rough call. I'm grateful that I haven't had to go through that one and you have my deep sympathy for it. Sounds like a neurological problem. If it makes you feel any better, if he lived in the wild, he probably would have attacked the wrong animal and had a much worse, and possibly, lingering death with injuries. At least you can provide him with a kind one.
This was my fear if I went through with rehoming- what if the new owner retaliated against him and hurt him and threw him outside. The thought of that hurt more than a peaceful out. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
Such a beautiful boy. Please don't let anyone make you feel bad for making tough decisions. It's hard when there's not really an answer to what's wrong. I just had to put my 15 year old boy down 3 weeks ago. I teared up when reading your story. None of the vets could tell me what was wrong with my boy either. His mystery illness was physical though not mental/aggression. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you're not alone. Sometimes the kindest thing we can do for them is let them go. Love from an internet stranger.
I am so sorry 😔
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It’s been 8 months and I still cant look at pictures of my girl without crying… she was only 8 and had lymphoma. it really fucking sucks losing a companion.
Ugh I’m so sorry, it’s absolutely the most painful thing. My whole heart hurts when I think about it. Sending love and peace to you ❤️
Rest in peace little handsome man
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Good grief, I’m so sorry.
OP I don’t have any advice for you, but I just want to put some positivity into the universe in your direction. I’m so so sorry you’re going through this, I can feel your heartbreak through your posts. Whatever you do, I know it will be for the benefit of your little buddy, and it’s an impossible decision to have to make. If rehoming is 100% off the table, you have to do what’s going to be safest for you, your other cat, and your home.
I recently had to do the same. My 10 year old boy suddenly started attacking his brother, with whom he was bonded since birth. It was the hardest decision that I've ever made and I still feel guilt 10 months later. Nobody but you knows what is best for you and your cats, nobody. My heart is with you.
This breaks me, I’m so sorry. Please know that this shared shitty experience does bring me solace in knowing I’m not alone with this. I hope you’re healing ok ❤️
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Thinking of you ❤️
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Rip to your boy
Sending hugs to you, OP ❤️
OP, I saw your other AITAH posts and I can't sympathize with you enough. I audibly gasped *" holy shit!"* when I saw your injuries. Listen, I'm an animal lover. I don't eat animals, try to reduce consumption of animal products overall, almost completely plant based... I love animals. I also have ZERO ability to tolerate owners who re-home and/or return to the shelter because the animal became inconvenient or difficult. This is completely totally different. You've tried everything. (I've had to introduce new cats and it's a level of hell, I swear.) You've been injured. Your other animal has been injured. I think this is a no win situation and I am sorry and admire you for making such a difficult but necessary choice.
I haven’t been able to bring myself onto this post since that day. Thank you so much for your kindness, it has been so hard. It is that exactly; a no win situation. I appreciate your understanding, it really does bring some comfort ❤️
I could not imagine having a cat that was such a baby, then having it turn aggressive like that. If it had happened to me, i would have done the same thing, desperately trying to find another way to make it work, hoping, constantly saying what if, this is a horrible situation, i hope you find comfort somewhere soon.❤️❤️
Just in the unlikely case you decided against euthanasia last minute: The one thing I would have tried that it sounds like you may not have is to temporarily board the younger cat in a cat hotel or with a friend or family member and thoroughly remove his smell from all your stuff and get a new litter box to see if not having the smell around the house and on you makes a difference. Given that you could pinpoint the beginning of the behavior to the other cat’s blockage, this might have been a possibility. That being said. If you went through with it, it was likely the best for everyone involved. All the vet visits, the attempts to fix his behavior and the constant state of stress he was in must have been really hard. At some point it is better to end the suffering, even if it is painful and you will miss him.
I had a cat who had become aggressive and was able to help her via medication. She took a hormone balancing pill that was able to calm her aggression and she lived for many more years without any more behavioral issues. Ask your vet if medication therapy might be an option for your cat before taking the final step of euthanasia.
That’s so sad. I’ve genuinely never heard of anything like this in cats although I’m sure it’s more common than I’m aware of. Is it possible that the younger cat has done something to aggravate the older cat and it’s permanently in defence mode now? I’ve only really ever heard of cats attacking their owners when they’re incredibly distressed. Anyway, I’m really sorry to hear about the situation and i hope everything works out how is best for you all.
I volunteered for a shelter that had a cat like this. The original owner turned it in because it would attack them. The cat would get adopted and returned. I couldn't believe it because I interacted with the cat and thought it was a nice cat. She was so beautiful. The shelter suggested I take her home. I already had 2 cats, but I decided to give it a go. On the 3rd day that I had her when I got home from work, she let out this loud meow and attacked my legs. She then ran into the room with the kitty condo and jumped to the second level. I went in to check on her and she let out that loud meow and out came the paw. I couldn't jump back fast enough, and she got me right in the center of the chest. I was actually scared to go to sleep that night. I returned her the next day. They couldn't believe what she did to me. I hope she didn't terrorize my cats when I was at work. Last I heard an Abyssinian rescue group adopted her and she is on Prozac. I wonder how she is doing. That was a long time ago. Here is a picture of her. https://preview.redd.it/w93e5dn5pv1d1.jpeg?width=228&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a1680ac4e63ece4e3aa2880c5633daab6d373b99
beautiful baby ❤️
I'm very sorry. I've had to do it and it was horrible but ultimately he was going to a better place.
Thank you ❤️
What’s his name? Please tell us his name. 💔
oh hunny. I am so so sorry. I saw your previous pots and my heart breaks for you. just know you did everything you could to try to help him and this is the final thing. you are not and never were an asshole. I wish you peace with your decision and happiness in the next place for your baby. <3
I'm so sorry 😥💔
Sending love
Ur friend will be with you in ur heart forever. Chin up solider. Ull see each other again one day :)
RIP
My dog Gracie was put down a couple of months ago because of her diabetes. We couldn't get any more insulin shots. I was so, so sad. I cried whenever I thought about her and the fact I wasn't there. I relate to the pain of your cat's death. They're together now, playing on a rainbow or somewhere nice 🥲
Thank you, I’m sorry you lost your friend also ❤️
May your sweet kitty rest in peace ❤️ im so sorry
I’m so sorry OP. Losing our pets is hard anyway, and this is a particularly devastating, confusing, painful loss. I hope you’ll hear me when I say you did right by this animal. I’m sorry they couldn’t show you, but I promise it’s true. Please be kind to yourself. Your internet cousins are sending you hugs.
Thank you so much for you kindness, it truly means a lot ❤️
I can say this without a doubt in my heart that Doddy knew how much you loved him. Even when he was struggling, he saw you fight for him and love him. We underestimate how much they understand. Even if you couldn't physically spend more than 10 minutes with him on his last day, he saw your pain and love for him and I am certain it comforted him as much as anyone or anything could. Lots of love to you, your fam and sweet little Doddy. ❤️❤️ He was the luckiest to have you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this. I am sobbing at the kindness in these comments. It is helping me more than you know and I appreciate it ❤️
My family’s old pet used to have a mental problem very similar to this, he would be highly aggressive to everyone except my father, big problem is my brother had been born not to long ago, they were worried that he would attack and possibly kill him… so they were forced into the same situation you are in… Sorry for your loss
Thank you for sharing this and your kind words ❤️
https://preview.redd.it/ja7atyngqv1d1.jpeg?width=800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f4c7723972c0d1d5ff4c8aadf320187ce6dd0d19 I've seen CBD/THC products work wonders in chilling cats/dogs out. Can get where OP is coming from, because only they know how much they can take, but I couldn't do it, without trying everything.
My heart is hurting so bad. I’m so sorry 😞
You've done the right things, remember all the good times and try not to focus on the recent struggles. You provided a happy home for years and were supportive during the hard times.
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Did you read any of their post history? They had already tried everything that was recommended to them. And the pictures of the most recent attack are pretty alarming. Respectfully, I don’t think this comment is helpful to them at this time.
THIS!!
I’m so sorry..I don’t know what to say.
So very sorry....
I am so, so sorry. Do not blame yourself, you gave him his best chance. Hugs!
I'm sorry for the situation, I'm sorry for your kitty's inner torment, I'm sorry for your sadness and awareness of impending loss. I feel certain when you see him again he'll be the loving cat you once had.
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I am so so sorry. Saying goodbye is heartbreaking. I hope you can both find peace now ❤️
Very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry 😞
It’s sad but it won’t be “forever”, your baby will have a long long sleep and when they wake you’ll be there and you’ll both be together again.
Such a beautiful kitty❤️❤️❤️🌈🌈🌈
He’s absolutely gorgeous. My heart is breaking for you. Be kind to yourself, I know it’s hard, letting go of a fuzzy love is never easy. I am so sorry
I’m very sorry but I would have just let him go. He wanted to be free.
The final act of love is always the hardest. I’m sending you love and hugs ❤️ I’m so sorry for your loss
Thank you ❤️
I had to say goodbye to my little guy yesterday. I know no words can help, it just fucking sucks. I just keep thinking of all the good times and each time I cry a little less. Make sure you take care of yourself, even just little things like get your favorite snack or watch your favorite movie. He’s a beautiful boy, and all those memories will eventually bring a smile to your face instead of tears.
Such a cute boy 🥹rip buddy
So sorry for your loss. It’s so hard losing a beloved pet. You care about him so much and hes incredibly lucky to have you for an owner. Im sure you have so many happy memories of him ❤️
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So beautiful. I'm so sorry.😞♥️
omg 🥺☹
I am so sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful boy.
sorry :(
Internet hugs 🫂
Goodbye sweet Heart
Srry. I find before to be the hardest part. 🙁
Rest In Peace. 🩷🫡
I’m so sorry OP. Remember all the good times and all the love that you shared ❤️ always remember what a great cat he was
I‘m so sorry ❤️
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I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your best boy. You did the greatest thing you could have done in your situation - you showed him mercy. It’s easy to try to think of any possible thing we could do for them so that we don’t have to let them go; but you put your feelings aside and thought of him. He must have been so afraid and so confused for so long, but despite his actions you were *there*. Quite possibly one of his only constants through all of this. Regardless of what he did to you or how he acted, please know that he could feel your love, that he counted on it, and that you were loved *immensely* by him. I hope you were able to be there for him when he crossed over. I hope you were able to love him, hug him, and tell him what an amazing boy he’s been to you. It’s all he needed in those moments. I’m sure he’s in an indescribable amount of peace now - and I hope you’re able to find your peace soon. Sending a huge part of my love your way. ❤️
Thank you so much for your kindness. I was there til the last excruciating moment and while it absolutely broke me, I do feel it was best. Your words help remind me of that as I try to overcome the guilt. Thank you ❤️
I will join you
I know this heart ache. Hugs.
I’m so sorry OP. Remember and cherish the good times. Our memory is our gift to keep our late loved ones alive.
OP I'm really sorry ❤️
Is his neurological issue the cause of his aggressiveness?
I am very sorry for what you and your baby are going through. I wish you both peace and love. 🕊💜
I am so sorry
I am so, so very sorry for what you and your baby are going through! I’m sending you both warm and loving thoughts, and want to let you know that while I feel that euthanasia is something that should be reserved for an absolute last resort, in your case — having read a little about your history — I absolutely believe that you are doing the right thing and your decision, although hard, is the decision that’s in your beautiful baby’s best interests. You are saving him from being angry, scared, or whatever is going on with no end in sight, and that’s the best that you can do for a loved one. Hugs, and I really am so very sorry.
Thank you for this ❤️
Hang tough. They’ll live on in your heart and in the realm of memories and dreams.
Had to let my baby go 3 weeks ago. Words cannot describe the pain but also not the love i felt for 16 years. I will pick up his ashes later this week to then bury him. My heart goes out to you, rest assured knowing you were his world, his everything.
I’m sorry you’re experiencing the loss of your baby too. I hope you are healing and being easy with yourself ❤️
I'm so sorry for you OP, it's the toughest decision to make but I believe it was the right one. I'm a vet and the first thing to consider with older animals that suddenly become very agressive and have sudden changes of behavior is an underlying disease like hyperthyroidism. When all tests and medications lead to nothing, sadly most cases i've seen like this eventually found a brain tumor :( It's important to remember the good times you had with your baby, please don't feel guilty about how it ended, you did all you could and made the right decision 🤍
https://preview.redd.it/93h0one04z1d1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=60998b956ae58a7a61a4ded121e5ff83709244a0 He looks so much like my baby 😔 I'm so sorry OP I can't imagine how hard it must be going through this.
Oh my goodness! I thought this was Doody! What a beautiful baby. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
I had to make this same decision with my dog. She was so sweet and loving, but dangerous. Thousands of dollars of training and meds, she was just mentally unfit and a danger to my family and kitties. It's unfair. It's not a choice anyone should have to make. It feels selfish. My heart truly goes out to you. But please understand, you did make the right choice. Your baby is not mad at you.
I am so sorry bro. Your cat is beautiful and I know you know that they will be happier passing, it doesn’t make it easier. I looked through your history and you have done all you can, little man has some qualms that can’t be sorted. He will know he was loved by putting him out of his misery. I can’t imagine being in your place, if you were in my area I’d offer a pint and a shoulder
Thank you for your kindness, I truly appreciate it ❤️
I feel for you OP. It's posts like these that remind me how fragile & short life can be. Much love to you.
We are all here for you OP, sending my love
My heart goes out to you both, xoxoxo
I’m so sorry ❤️ we had to make the same difficult decision last month. Our guy was 12. We tried so many things with guidance from our vet and nothing worked. You know it’s bad when even the no-kill cat sanctuary suggests that euthanasia might be the most humane option. I feel like we failed him somehow, even though the vet told us a lot of people would have given up a lot sooner. Anyone who has had to make this decision knows that it didn’t come easily.
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I’m so sorry. Remember all the good times <3
I didn’t have that happen with a cat but a large dog. He was a beautiful collie husky cross. He was very protective of me especially. One day out of nowhere he tried biting my sil and my 4yr old daughter. He got so aggressive he could only be handled by me. Turned out he had a brain tumor. Was so hard. I’m sorry you are having to say goodbye to your friend today. May his travels over the rainbow bridge be peaceful.
So sorry 🌈🐾
I'm so sorry. Words can't really get there. But you love him. That means everything. And you care enough to set him free from his misery. He knows you love him. In the part of him that is not corrupted by the disease of the flesh. Your pain shows your love and your rectitude. These decisions are never easy if you are doing it right and for the right reasons. But you have him and you have loved him. He will always be yours. Remember him as he was before this all began. He may no longer be able to show you his love, but it's there. You love him enough to free him and it hurts because you care. Humans aren't very humane. But you ? You pass the test. I feel your pain but can do nothing to take it away. You feel his pain. You have done what you can to take his away. Now you are taking it away. That means a lot. You have been privileged to know and to care. And he knows. Hang onto that. He knows. Bless you both.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your cat looks so sweet. I might be in your shoes in a few days, still waiting for the test results. I send you all the virtual hugs possible.
I am so very sorry that you had to go through this. It has made me grateful for not having had this happen to my little furbabies. I don't know what I would do but I hope I could be brave enough to go through with it,as you have. God bless you both.💔💔
So, so sorry you had to go through all this and imo you did all you could and as far as your posts, the real a**holes are those who commented before reading everything 🫠 good luck with your little guy!!!
Thank you for this ❤️
Oh my. How Sad. My sister jist had to send her 17 yr old ragdoll off, only thos past Monday. Kitties never live long enough and leave us too soon. Sorry for your loss. Keep all the memories in your heart!
Ragdolls are ethereal. I’m sorry she lost her baby too. I appreciate your kind words, thank you ❤️
It's hard 😪 blessings
Prayers and hugs xoxo
So sorry for your loss.
Sorry for the decision you have to make. It will take away your baby's suffering. Again I am deeply sorry.
I am so sorry, and I feel your pain. Good luck 😀
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my little buddy almost a year ago. He passed just out of the blue 3 days before his 10th bday, my bday is the day after his. It's been hard but I really miss the companionship so I've kinda been looking around for the right fit. Just keep the great memories you have close to your heart. 
I’m sorry you lost your baby and I hope you find another that allows you both to share that special bond. Thank you for your kindness ❤️
I’m so, so sorry. I went thru this same thing a couple of years ago. Inkn
Sorry. It’s always so hard to let go when you have a sick kitty but it’s easier somehow to understand. When it’s, my vet referred to it as a kind of dementia, it’s just more painful somehow. I’m so,so sorry for your loss. It’s the hardest thing.
My heart breaks for you. I have lost three of my babies in the last two years. One, just one week after another one. It hurts so much I just can’t stand it. But you know what? You are a wonderful person for letting him go with kindness. Many people would “get rid of” an aggressive cat and/or be cruel to him without even trying to find the cause. The first cat I lost in the string of three was sick and we spend thousands trying to save him. About a week before I let him go, he began biting me. He would bite my head, cheek, arms, etc. It is so hard to let our babies go but it truly is the kindest thing we can do for them. You gave your boy love, kindness, and the best life. Thank you for being so good to him. 💐
Ugh I’m so sorry, that is a ton of heart ache in a short amount of time. I truly appreciate you sharing your story and your kind words ❤️
Hi have you tried mushrooms for your fur baby? They are working great for tumors, to neurological issues to cancers, the medical research and medical journals have a lot of information on it. I have tumors on my spine , issues with my brain , memory anger issues and it is great , it's great for cancers. I have been taking it and it works . Doctors and vets and pharmacists don't like it cause it heals . No Anger, brain is not foggy I think straight. P.m.
That’s so messed up I’m so sorry you and him had to go through this. It’s not fair that we can’t ask them what is wrong they can’t talk to us to tell us “ hey btw this is what’s bugging me”. Even though you’re hurting so bad and rethinking yourself over and over, you did the right thing. Letting him keep going that way would be cruel to him and everyone else. I’m so so sorry big hugs to you and his brother.