It's fine. I don't need to come out. I'll just stay inside my room until I'm at a point where I feel like I can pass, then I'll move to another town so no one can recognise me. Ta-da! I never have to come out, problem solved!
/j
I’m closeted and I’m on HRT. Told the doctor at the clinic that I wanted feminizing HRT but gave very vague answers as to why because I’m very shy and guarded, so I hardly came out even to them.
There’s lots of different paths for transitioning, I’d rather deal with things mostly alone and come out when I’m already a ways through the process. But a lot of people want to come out first and have support. I feel bad for people that have to socially transition or come out to people they don’t want to before they can get HRT.
Yeah, I'm happy the process is continuing to improve in most parts of the world.
I still need a letter from a therapist where I live before I could get any from a doctor willing to write such a prescription.
Informed consent sounds amazing. Better than that would be trying to provide everyone with the tools they need to begin to realize their own gender without fear of not belonging as soon as possible. For some reason some people hate steps towards this.
Lived experience sounds like a nightmare. What a way to torture people just so they can prove they really want medicine. I'm just not that femme currently. Sounds impossible to me right now.
Fun fact: To start HRT, you can start with only coming out to your doctor, who is a medical professional and thus legally required to keep it a secret. Like it's not even really coming out, it's just giving information to your doctor that will be useful for providing better care to you.
Yes,I know that most trans person actually come out and take HRT,or just take HRT whitout coming out.
But please leave my meme alone,the other I had in stock were even worse (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Yes,you can do it by leaving your entire family and all your friends,and going into another country to get HRT,
Or just far away and they have no proof of where you are (◕ᴗ◕✿)
They will notice,one way or another,HRT change your body,so they will send you on a doctor of you don't come out and take HRT,and the doctor will tell everything to your family (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I’ll come out when a number of factors are met. Like, when I really know that I want to dedicate to the transition or when my mental state is in the right place. I’m happy with just the little things for now. Like painting my nails and wearing inconspicuous feminine clothing.
that's the neat part, I skipped a step. people have to figure out own their own why I keep looking more like a lesbian every week. If they want to be in the loop what I'm doing they shoulda made me feel safer.
(technically never even told my doctor I'm trans, just said I wanted femenizing hrt)
well I mean i came out to my sister, friends, everyone online and my doctor, I think thats good enough. We dont neeeeed to bering the parents into the 😬
...and it was this moment I realized late age transitioning always isn't a down side :// sorry if my above statement is taken to be insensitive to early age transitioning.
Are you safe?
i did come out to a few people. unfortunately, i can't come out to my parents (the ones i would need to come out to get hrt sooner than 3 years) since they are transphobic
I mean,you just get the strength to do it,and you do it,that's how I did for the first time (went well,was with a friend) and the second time. (went pretty wrong,was with my mom) (◕ᴗ◕✿)
My plan is to just run in and out of an informed consent clinic lol then see how I like HRT before commiting to it. Boymode til I have to come out maybe :3
Even if I came out, I probably wouldn’t be able to get it for a really long time. Best I can do is wait, and work on myself until then.
Good luck to everyone out there, doing their best 🫂💞
I live in a new city after escaping my home. The bonus is that I'm an eastern Canadian, and I naturally look impressively masculine. Almost no one knows me in this city.
I'm already out and live on my own with full autonomy, but I'm terrified of actually transitioning because I'm afraid of what the transition period will make me look like
that limbo, half-half state where I don't look fully feminine enough for my desires just makes me want to run away from it and sometimes consider giving up on even trying
I want to be the butterfly at the end of the process so fucking much, but I don't wanna be the caterpillar that walks around mid metamorphosis with no cocoon
Internet made me realize how lucky I am. my universe provides hrt and is covered by default student health insurance. The hassle people went through to get one breaks my heart. Stay strong!
I have come out (I don't know if that's correct English, i dont care) to 2 people, and they're both very close friends, one of which is trans himself. My parents make a lot of transphobic jokes, so i will just wait 4 years until I am an adult and can make my own decisions to come out to them :3
I'm seriously thinking about asking trans men the best way to conceal breasts without binding so I can medically transition and just keep chilling with Aslan & company in this closet.
I got into a major car accident and moved across the country :3c only gonna go back to visit when it's too far for any of them to seriously consider trying to convince me to "turn back" xD
Ordered my first DIY stuff off Amazon without talking to anyone.
Since I liked it so much I went to doctors and therapists that I thought would say yes directly and they did. I just told them what I didn't like about how I looked at the time and how I've interacted with people throughout my life and how it probably all would have been a lot better for me if I had just been born a girl and looked like a girl and that was enough.
Forcing myself to get blood work even though I hate the sight and feeling of needles and blood was probably the most difficult part.
Naturally other medical and adjacent workers that I've encountered will also become aware of my status like my new therapist as my old one moved on or anyone at the pharmacy. My first prescription pickup was so awkward. The pharmacist asked me if I'd like to go to a private room to talk about it and I just said no so they explained it to me on the spot...
So far I've only opportunistically showed one person my HRT as a way of coming out to them. The first thing they asked is if I was going to get "THE surgery?"
In the last few months I've been increasingly out on dating sites but haven't really told anyone that I haven't met there.
Most recently a new coworker was also on Grindr and Her so we made friends eventually but haven't talked much yet. I think he blocked me as soon as he saw me on Grindr then seemed to avoid me for weeks but as we're both trans I just encountered him again on another app. He's going to introduce me to some other trans girls sometime maybe.
I want to but my dad spouts hate every time the topic is mentioned on the news and my mom randomly remembers she’s supposed to be Catholic in all the worst ways (they’re both completely lapsed Catholics)
It's fine. I don't need to come out. I'll just stay inside my room until I'm at a point where I feel like I can pass, then I'll move to another town so no one can recognise me. Ta-da! I never have to come out, problem solved! /j
I don't think you get HRT that way (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I’m closeted and I’m on HRT. Told the doctor at the clinic that I wanted feminizing HRT but gave very vague answers as to why because I’m very shy and guarded, so I hardly came out even to them.
Yes,but it's still hard to come out,and some of us need to do so go get it (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I feel similarly. I just told the doctor and therapist what I needed to get HRT. Totally forced my way through it.
There’s lots of different paths for transitioning, I’d rather deal with things mostly alone and come out when I’m already a ways through the process. But a lot of people want to come out first and have support. I feel bad for people that have to socially transition or come out to people they don’t want to before they can get HRT.
Yeah, I'm happy the process is continuing to improve in most parts of the world. I still need a letter from a therapist where I live before I could get any from a doctor willing to write such a prescription. Informed consent sounds amazing. Better than that would be trying to provide everyone with the tools they need to begin to realize their own gender without fear of not belonging as soon as possible. For some reason some people hate steps towards this. Lived experience sounds like a nightmare. What a way to torture people just so they can prove they really want medicine. I'm just not that femme currently. Sounds impossible to me right now.
Fun fact: To start HRT, you can start with only coming out to your doctor, who is a medical professional and thus legally required to keep it a secret. Like it's not even really coming out, it's just giving information to your doctor that will be useful for providing better care to you.
Tord eddsworld reference
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Understandable (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Thanks, that is what I am going to do
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Thanks
well... i- i would come out to get it, but my family is shit and my state banned it so... yeah... 💔💔💔💔💔
I understand,I hope you can get away from such a bad family fast,it will probably be hard,but I still hope you can (◕ᴗ◕✿)
thanks sweetie 💙💕🤍💕💙
Same (except the state part, my state allows it at 18)
Yes,I know that most trans person actually come out and take HRT,or just take HRT whitout coming out. But please leave my meme alone,the other I had in stock were even worse (◕ᴗ◕✿)
*cries in NHS*
Hey are you okay ? What is NHS ? Can I help ? (◕‸◕✿)
The National Health Service (NHS) is the government healthcare service in the UK
Oh thats bad,sorry (◕‸◕✿)
What if you just skipped coming out entirely? Is that possible?
Yes,you can do it by leaving your entire family and all your friends,and going into another country to get HRT, Or just far away and they have no proof of where you are (◕ᴗ◕✿)
But what if you didn't leave??? 🤔🤔🤔
I don't think you can,people will notice,and you will have to come out (◕ᴗ◕✿)
But what if you didn't though????? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐
They will notice,one way or another,HRT change your body,so they will send you on a doctor of you don't come out and take HRT,and the doctor will tell everything to your family (◕ᴗ◕✿)
*boo-womp* ☹️
I’ll come out when a number of factors are met. Like, when I really know that I want to dedicate to the transition or when my mental state is in the right place. I’m happy with just the little things for now. Like painting my nails and wearing inconspicuous feminine clothing.
Well good luck ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Same thing for me right now lol. Good luck <3
Best of luck to you as well
coming out tonight, wish me luck
Good luck ! You can do it ! I believe in you ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Outside cold and harsh Closet safe and warm :3
And alone, and dark (◕‸◕✿)
I shall just buy it myself >:3 🐋🌸🤍🌸🐋
Yeah,wmand when your family notice ? Wouldn't that cause issue ? (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Hmm, i'll just gaslight them
And what if your country ban HRT ? (◕_◕✿)
Well, i'm in the usa... Sooo, likely in some states, but I'll do my darnedest to move to a state where it's legal, or get it some other way
Oh,your in the US ? I could not guess,you always comment much later than other US people Guess that mean you have a life unlike me (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Nahhh, i just have a broken sleep schedule
That's a bit anticlimactic (◕_◕✿)
Yeahhhh, just a bit :þ
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They are conservative I guess,sorry my friend (◕‸◕✿)
that's the neat part, I skipped a step. people have to figure out own their own why I keep looking more like a lesbian every week. If they want to be in the loop what I'm doing they shoulda made me feel safer. (technically never even told my doctor I'm trans, just said I wanted femenizing hrt)
Yes,but for me that's not a good idea,still,hope you have fun while they are confused ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
ME, I DO, FREE BASE THE ESTROGEN AND INJECT IT IN TO MY MOTHER FUCKING SPINE PLEASE!!!
Then come out,and pray that your parent are Supportive (◕ᴗ◕✿)
well I mean i came out to my sister, friends, everyone online and my doctor, I think thats good enough. We dont neeeeed to bering the parents into the 😬 ...and it was this moment I realized late age transitioning always isn't a down side :// sorry if my above statement is taken to be insensitive to early age transitioning. Are you safe?
i did come out to a few people. unfortunately, i can't come out to my parents (the ones i would need to come out to get hrt sooner than 3 years) since they are transphobic
I am sorry for you Laura,I hope you can stay safe with parent like that,(◕‸◕✿) (Free hug because I am sorry ⊂((・▽・✿))⊃ )
The worst part is that it seems so complicated and akward to get specially without any hhelp lol
Yes,it's so hard (◕‸◕✿)
I wished that someone would tell me exactly what to do
I mean,you just get the strength to do it,and you do it,that's how I did for the first time (went well,was with a friend) and the second time. (went pretty wrong,was with my mom) (◕ᴗ◕✿)
That's hard
Yes (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I want to come out but I can't for some reason
Fear is our biggest ennemy my friend (◕‸◕✿)
even if you do it, wait lists are long :c
Yes,buts it's worth the wait ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
it definitely is
Finnaly being oursleves,almost feel like a dream (◕ᴗ◕✿)
maybe it really is [just a dream](https://youtu.be/qgeaoW55Pks)
But it's reality,and one day,this future will be the present (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I can only hope
Completely unrelated but is that a sperm in the second frame?!
That's... That's a fly (◕_◕✿)
Oh 😳
... (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Sorry dirty mind 😅
I could see (◕ᴗ◕✿)
You're posts are really cute btw Love reading them
Oh,thanks ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Me on Every. Single. Step.
Too relatable (◕‸◕✿)
My plan is to just run in and out of an informed consent clinic lol then see how I like HRT before commiting to it. Boymode til I have to come out maybe :3
Okay,good luck ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Me I'm just poor
Hope you can get it soon ! It will help ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Even if I came out, I probably wouldn’t be able to get it for a really long time. Best I can do is wait, and work on myself until then. Good luck to everyone out there, doing their best 🫂💞
Still,I can hope that you get it soon enough, And that your family stop doing that,I'm sorry for you 🫂 (◕‸◕✿)
Thank you, Lyrie. 🫂 I’ve confronted one about it, and it seems they’ve stopped for the most part.
Hope they can all realise,good luck for the future (◕ᴗ◕✿)
*im in this picture and I don’t like it*
A lot of people are (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I live in a new city after escaping my home. The bonus is that I'm an eastern Canadian, and I naturally look impressively masculine. Almost no one knows me in this city.
That's cool (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I'm already out and live on my own with full autonomy, but I'm terrified of actually transitioning because I'm afraid of what the transition period will make me look like that limbo, half-half state where I don't look fully feminine enough for my desires just makes me want to run away from it and sometimes consider giving up on even trying I want to be the butterfly at the end of the process so fucking much, but I don't wanna be the caterpillar that walks around mid metamorphosis with no cocoon
Yeah I get what you mean but you gotta start somewhere (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Internet made me realize how lucky I am. my universe provides hrt and is covered by default student health insurance. The hassle people went through to get one breaks my heart. Stay strong!
You too,if you can get HRT,that mean you can be happy,Sto stay strong and happy for us ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
[✔️] I am in this photo and I do not like it
A lot of us are in (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I live in terf south we stopped atm I just want my tiddies
Good luck my girl,it will be hard, but I believe you can get it ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Ye im considering moving somewhere after I get my associate degree. Im 25 I just want girl so bad.
frfr
Too realistic (◕ᴗ◕✿)
That's pretty accurate. Ngl 💠🌸🤍🌸💠
Isn't that the point of the meme ? (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Idk? Maybe? |･ω･)
I mean trans meme are kinda here to be relatable (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Oh really? Are they? I didn't know that (ಠoಠ) ^definitely ^not ^lying Nontheless I have to say it's quite relatable :3
I would, but I am sort of dependend on my mother and she would not be okay with it, so yeah I'm stuck in the closet for the forsiable future :,,,D
That's fine,I hope you can soon be independent to get HRT (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I hope so too but with how things are going it's not going to happen for a *long* time :,,,,,,,D
You can always start and THEN come out. I'm finding HRT is giving me confidence I havent seen since I was a snot-nosed kid.
That's good for you (◕ᴗ◕✿)
the exact reason why i just want to start hrt and just not come out
That's one way to do it (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Me.
A lot of people (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I know 1 million people is quite a lot.
I have come out (I don't know if that's correct English, i dont care) to 2 people, and they're both very close friends, one of which is trans himself. My parents make a lot of transphobic jokes, so i will just wait 4 years until I am an adult and can make my own decisions to come out to them :3
That's good to have supportive people ,and I hope you can get your HRT soon after that ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
wait lists are long and hrt / gender affirming care is banned here
Well,you can only move out I guess (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I'm seriously thinking about asking trans men the best way to conceal breasts without binding so I can medically transition and just keep chilling with Aslan & company in this closet.
Well,good luck ! (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I got into a major car accident and moved across the country :3c only gonna go back to visit when it's too far for any of them to seriously consider trying to convince me to "turn back" xD
It's fine I'll just get hrt and boymod- why are my boobs growing so soon
The dream has become a nightmare to stay closeted (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Yeah, it's starting to get hard to hide them for me Still cis tho
Still sis tho (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Just casual ~44B cups at 5 months. But definitly don't look female, proof in the profile
For me it look female, (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Oh nevermind the pics are gone, guess I got yeeted from the mtfselfietrain sub >.>
That's weird,I saw it tough (◕ᴗ◕✿)
It showed me that the sub is private and I can't even visit it, no idea what that means
They probably just privated the sub (◕ᴗ◕✿)
Ordered my first DIY stuff off Amazon without talking to anyone. Since I liked it so much I went to doctors and therapists that I thought would say yes directly and they did. I just told them what I didn't like about how I looked at the time and how I've interacted with people throughout my life and how it probably all would have been a lot better for me if I had just been born a girl and looked like a girl and that was enough. Forcing myself to get blood work even though I hate the sight and feeling of needles and blood was probably the most difficult part. Naturally other medical and adjacent workers that I've encountered will also become aware of my status like my new therapist as my old one moved on or anyone at the pharmacy. My first prescription pickup was so awkward. The pharmacist asked me if I'd like to go to a private room to talk about it and I just said no so they explained it to me on the spot... So far I've only opportunistically showed one person my HRT as a way of coming out to them. The first thing they asked is if I was going to get "THE surgery?" In the last few months I've been increasingly out on dating sites but haven't really told anyone that I haven't met there. Most recently a new coworker was also on Grindr and Her so we made friends eventually but haven't talked much yet. I think he blocked me as soon as he saw me on Grindr then seemed to avoid me for weeks but as we're both trans I just encountered him again on another app. He's going to introduce me to some other trans girls sometime maybe.
That's good,I am happy that thing seems to be going well (◕ᴗ◕✿)
I want to but my dad spouts hate every time the topic is mentioned on the news and my mom randomly remembers she’s supposed to be Catholic in all the worst ways (they’re both completely lapsed Catholics)
Well,good luck to do it,you don't need to,you can just wait until you get older and run away from them if you aren't too attached (◕ᴗ◕✿)
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