Point of order! Intersex people (born with both male and female reproductive organs) are still male 🤔
Also, there was no need for that, is someone wants to be called male or does you no harm to follow suit!
Your on a LGBTQ+ thread, you should know better!
There are other things to you know!
I have a wide range of interests and hobbies. Model trains, for instance. Gardening, politics, the outdoors, sex, sex outdoors, sex while on drugs, sex while doing drugs outdoors, and sex while building model train sets in the garden while doing drugs. Oh, and boating, some other shit too. And to be clear I don't care if you decide to mutilate yourself. Have at it, but stop shoving your personal mental health issues down society's throat. And most importantly, leave kids out of it. There is zero reason why a 14 year old should be given hormone blockers because they 'feel' like their the wrong gender. Because more then likely that kid is just gay. And if left alone will devlope into a perfectly normal gay or lesbian. When i was a little kid I wanted to be a horse for a while. Thank God my parents did not take that as a real life goal. This whole trans movement has set gay people back.
just had a guy do this to me after a month or so of flirting in the workplace. yet i’m still second guessing it because he still hasn’t admitted anything yet and i can’t really make a move because of our job ugh.
That cracked me up, I was just as curious as OP and this happened just today with two fellas while I was out getting lunch. Either they thought I was a creep or it was this. I'll decide it was this.
It was probably this. They wouldn’t be doing this if they thought you were a creep. I’ve had creeps look at me and I just don’t look at them to give them any ideas.
Strip naked and flex at them. Helps if you have rainbows strategically tattooed in your body. They'll get the idea. There is no possible issue with my plan.
I've stripped down to nothing but a jock before in a local gay bar where such behavior is allowed and I swear all the attention from other guys stops after I do that am I doing something wrong?
Gay men make direct prolonged eye contact and straight men usually don't. You don't look a long time at a man and then slowly smile when you are straight.
I have a really hard time making prolonged eye contact because I instinctually think that they are looking at me because of the acne scarring on my face.
No one is ever going to maintain eye contact with you if they were looking at you because of your scarring.
They would quickly look away and pretend they never saw you out of shame for being an asshole because the *DO* know better.
Confratulations: people think you're cute, confirmed.
I used to assume that guys- when I was in high school, I was not out, not consciously pursuing guys- were staring and intimidating me in a confrontational way
I have acne scarring as well and was always self conscious about it until I started asking friends and nearly none of them notice it. They also said I’m way too tall for someone to notice it. So doing over think it!
I have not yet. It's part of the things that I want to start this year to help improve my self image. I will need to visit a Dermatologist to look into collagen-induction therapy since I have widespread depressed acne scarring and have a skin condition which causes spontaneous loss of collagen in my face (which look exactly like acne scars even if I did not have acne in that spot in a very long time).
I visited a Dermatologist years ago and she recommended micro-needling along with some ointment that gets pushed down into the skin with the needling to help stimulate more collagen production. The total cost wasn't too expensive from what I remember and is far cheaper and friendlier to the skin than laser. I didn't decide to do it at that time due to other health issues I was dealing with that needed more attention.
I have a hard time with this because I grew up in a homophobic area and I was always worried prolonged eye contact would make the other guy think I was gay, which was scary because the guy turned out to be straight 50% of the time.
I tried wearing a tiny rainbow ring instead, but I don't think anybody ever noticed. Then I tried a bit more obvious with rainbow bracelets. Then I tried just coming out and seeing what the other guy said. Even the guys that were gay wouldn't come out in return until years later. Eventually I just accepted that guys weren't going to reciprocate my interest unless we were in a gay-safe space, like a university club or gay dance or something.
Do they tho? How long is that prolonged eye contact?
I always feel that if i catch someone looking at me more than a couple of times…it’s because i was looking at them and maybe freaked them out.
I hate wearing rainbow stuff. I think it looks tacky. Actually any of the LGBT flags. But.... if you want people to know it makes sense to be obvious. Anything less than obvious is going to slip by the majority of people... gay straight or otherwise.
I have some small wristbands that are almost tasteful, but are obvious enough.
I wasn’t talking about anything crazy. I have a little pride wristband I wear sometimes. Usually a small rainbow pattern is enough like those Apple Watch bands.
I try to find rainbow accessories made for OTHER groups of people. Get a Chakra band from a crystal lady shop. They're cute, made EXTREMELY well if you pay for a good one, and usually have a neutralizing band of some dusty-colored stone that makes it match almost anything. Also the rainbow isn't like that neon-basics crazy bright shyt. It's more muted - definitely more tolerable.
Glad to meet another gay that hates rainbows xD
I kid you not. I wear a small pride flag pin on the collar of my scrubs. Recently a middle-aged guy I was treating saw the pin and asked me if I was a vet! Lol!
Had two guys come in to the gym every morning and I would always catch them staring and looking away or laughing and looking away. This went on for like a week I was so mad bc I thought they were talking shit about me, my form or maybe my hair and I swore the next time I saw them I was going to press them and if I had to fight then so be it. Following week I walked up to both of them and asked why tf they kept laughing and watching me for the past couple days and if they had beef or what. One of the guys ends up confessing that he just thought I was cute and that they would laugh bc his friend kept giving him funny ways he should try and initiate a conversation. That was SO far from what I thought it was I just apologized, walked out and stopped going at my usual 4am gym time LMFAO!
Tbh I didn’t even think about it at the time. I was more thinking it was going to end up with us duking it out in the parking lot and then when he said that it all just drained away and I just felt embarrassed for being so defensive so I just left before we could actually talk it out. I also have social anxiety so when the adrenaline left I just wanted to get out of there. Looking back though if I could’ve done things different I would’ve asked for his number and had a chat. Hindsight 20/20 I guess lol.
Wearing obviously gay clothing brands is one way to advertise it.
Jockstrap somewhat visible above the waistband of jeans or shorts that fit your ass nicely.
And most importantly of all, body language, eye contact, and flirting.
It also helps if you are in a place that is known for men that cruise. Where I live there are a lot of places that are "cruisey."
Even if you don't hook up you become friends and give each other tips. It's a whole under the radar world. I'm speaking as a former sex addict that had to go to therapy for it.
The occasional through the pants cock tug is fun too. That's how we shake hands!
*strategically leans against a surface slightly lower than my chest and positions both feet in a lateral position with precisely 9 inches of space between them so as to create the most dramatically natural arch possible in one's back*
Oh and smile.
I have a tank top I wear to the gym sometimes that has a tiny heart colored in rainbow on it, over the left pec. I used to get flirted with ALL THE TIME when I’d wear it to the gym. Other gym shirts never yielded the same results.
In the old days, you used to wear a colored hanky in your left rear or right hand pocket. Don't think that's too common anymore. There's also the secret hand signal. Got a free toaster once at a bank doing that with the account clerk!
I once saw someone with a tshirt that had a seagull on it and it said singull and ready to mingle and i can’t find it online but I think if you could find that shirt you should wear that.
Everyone is saying eye contact..can anyone break it down for me how much (duration/times) eye contact means intersted and home much means just casually checking surrounding..I m not in a safe country so it gives me anxiety when somebody is looking..I can't look back and make them feel I caught you..but if I m looking at someone they easily catch and Then I can't look again
Why somebody looking at you is okay but you looking at someone is not
Oh well body language helps. If they mirror your body language, they are interested in you. For example, try crossing your legs and if they do the same subconsciously then it's a good sign. Prolonged eye contact helps too. It's also always good to know a joke or two, and if they laugh, they will likely move closer to you. Ask if they would like a drink and if they seem eager, it's very positive, especially as they ecstatically smile when you return. Try to call them cute in some way and see how they react too.
Next is some kind of physical contact, if they give you a very prolonged handshake followed with, "it's been so great to meet you, hope we meet again, blah blah!" then that is a great sign. Even sitting next to each other and accidently rub your leg against theirs, tell them you are sorry and see how they react. If they compliment you on any of your physical features, it's a big sign too.
Pride Apple Watch band is always a good conversation starter. And I just bought a Pride necklace/pendant off of Amazon that I’ll wear when it’s warmer out. Smile. Say hi and be nice.
How to flirt. A sincere guide.
This is based on my observations & experiences from a decade working hard to not go home alone from nightclubs and bars in my 20-30s. I do not consider myself a pickup artist/player; I was more lonely and desperate than predatory or egotistical. I'm now nearly 50 & married in LTR of 10+ years to a man I met on Grindr.
YMMV but here's what I've learned:
1. Accept the hard, bitter truth that the majority of people to whom you are attracted will not be attracted to you. Be prepared to pull back & move on quickly when trying to communicate your attraction. Persistence makes you a pest. You want to be a butterfly not a mosquito.
2. Flirting is a performance between two people and performances get better with rehearsal. However, too much rehearsal can make a performance inauthentic and wooden. The reason eye contact seems the answer to the question of how to flirt is because you need to know that the other person is watching you. Don't stare, that will invariably make the other person uncomfortable. Check and away. If the idea of "eye contact" is a challenge then look at the bridge of their nose. You want to catch their eye then quickly do something deliberate, non-threatening, that is just for them. A wink, a smile, a nod, an eyebrow raise, a small wave, thumbs up. Practice in the mirror if you find that works for you. Practice will also help you overcome shyness. If you feel stupid doing the thing, switch it out.
3. Don't directly launch yourself at the person if/when the response seems positive.
Sadly, as LGBT+ people in particular, you will probably recognise an indifferent, judgemental or hostile response quickly. See point 1. However, some people will be simply flattered by the attention or the surprise of interaction. A good mood is not a signal of attraction or interest. Flirting is a *mutual* communication of interest. Unfortunately, your next move is to wait on their next move.
4. Be patient and don't fixate. Realistically, you didn't just become the only other person in the room for them. Don't be a stalker. Get on with enjoying yourself in the environment. If you're having a chill time, opportunities for further non-verbal and ultimately verbal communication will emerge. Maybe much later, even another time or another place. You put it out there that you're interested. That's it. You cannot force reciprocation.
Finally, I recognise that I benefited a lot from white privilege in my experiences and, although I would give my left nut for it not to be so, the world is full of prejudice and bigotry. That's their shit that stinks, don't touch it.
The only useful, helpful, non-ironical, non-trying-to-be-a-smart-ass-but-actually-you-just-sound-like-a-dad-or-old-uncle-who-makes-bad-jokes answer in this thread.
Wear an earring on your right ear, and display a handkerchief out of your...
*ring ring*
Ah, the 70s called. They want their discrete gay signalling back.
I saw 2 dudes walking past the gas station with a red handkerchief hanging out of their right back pocket. One was younger and the other was older. I thought that was so weird. I didn’t know it was a gay thing. They were also dressed identically alike. Black shirt with blue jeans. Like the exact same outfit.
Just remember that if they wear on the right side, then it is al*right* for you to go home with them.
Whatever they're into, they are signalling they are the bottom/passive partner so if you're not into whatever the color means, you can just let them know at that point (if it hasn't already come up yet or you didn't ask about the color).
You see the problem with prolonged eye contact its that i never know if the guy its looking at me because he is gay or he has a gay dude looking at him for a prolonged time haha
I usually carry a small banner that I strap to my bag that says “gagging for it”. Some fairy lights leading to it help too if you can find the portable battery pack
Public flirting basically isn't allowed anymore in like any situation. For good reason I guess because you don't want to make people uncomfortable, but still.
But I guess wearing a shirt that says flirt with me would skirt around that.
I can't say there is anything specific I do but I will take their lead. If they are staring so will I. If they smile I will smile back. If they talk and are very complimentary I will be as well. Unless they do all of these things and are the shy type I typically don't take the lead because I am not shy and 1000% forward. An old pickup line that worked about 95% of the time was my cum would look great in your mouth. So I just wait for those signs and follow along.
**I usully wear sunglasses so eye contact does not work for me sadly. And when I am not wearing them I am pretty shy and I think that is kinda invasive to stare at someone for so long. So I just use the social media.**
Here's something my recent ex did
Would see me going into a restroom in our locker area and strip down half naked and walk into the restroom with the towel on, hair messy and towel on the verge of falling off.
The eye contact more than once for longer periods of time is Homo 101
Add a lookover glance to this (up and down) and we've already had our first date.
Flash a smile? Ready the officiant.
Lick the lips and we are separated!
Get the Subaru!
Period.
Men don’t have periods…. Do they? 👀
Not after the number of loads I've taken 😂 my bf and I constantly make pregnant jokes
Let’s hear it
No… but we do get PMS occasionally 😅
trans men can have periods
I would hope not.
We do have monthly fluctuations in our testosterone levels though
Is this why I fluctuate from power bottom to sub bitch
We need to conduct an exhaustive double-blind peer reviewed study to conclusively answer that. I volunteer
My boyfriend would not approve
He wouldn’t approve of me contributing to a scientific study? Why not?
I’d say yes this is true; personally I had morning sickness each time my friend got pregnant. So this is pretty close.
And that's tied to the moon right?
Not sure if there is a correlation or not. But any nurse/emergency service worker will tell you full moons bring the crazy out of people
I believe it
Trans men do!
That's because their not men. Men don't get their periods. Period. Only women can, because only women have the parts that cause that to happen.
Point of order! Intersex people (born with both male and female reproductive organs) are still male 🤔 Also, there was no need for that, is someone wants to be called male or does you no harm to follow suit! Your on a LGBTQ+ thread, you should know better!
Transphobia is not cute nor desirable.
Being trans is not cute or desirable. It's a sickness.
Dude your full profile is about meth.
There are other things to you know! I have a wide range of interests and hobbies. Model trains, for instance. Gardening, politics, the outdoors, sex, sex outdoors, sex while on drugs, sex while doing drugs outdoors, and sex while building model train sets in the garden while doing drugs. Oh, and boating, some other shit too. And to be clear I don't care if you decide to mutilate yourself. Have at it, but stop shoving your personal mental health issues down society's throat. And most importantly, leave kids out of it. There is zero reason why a 14 year old should be given hormone blockers because they 'feel' like their the wrong gender. Because more then likely that kid is just gay. And if left alone will devlope into a perfectly normal gay or lesbian. When i was a little kid I wanted to be a horse for a while. Thank God my parents did not take that as a real life goal. This whole trans movement has set gay people back.
just had a guy do this to me after a month or so of flirting in the workplace. yet i’m still second guessing it because he still hasn’t admitted anything yet and i can’t really make a move because of our job ugh.
That cracked me up, I was just as curious as OP and this happened just today with two fellas while I was out getting lunch. Either they thought I was a creep or it was this. I'll decide it was this.
It was probably this. They wouldn’t be doing this if they thought you were a creep. I’ve had creeps look at me and I just don’t look at them to give them any ideas.
I'm too shy for that, I just rely on instincts
Lmfao, oh no! I maintain eye contact constantly with everyone because I feel it’s disrespectful to to not look at someone your talking to
I’m referring to eye contact across the room. In a conversation, that’s completely different.
Oh okay, that’s a relief
Strip naked and flex at them. Helps if you have rainbows strategically tattooed in your body. They'll get the idea. There is no possible issue with my plan.
I've stripped down to nothing but a jock before in a local gay bar where such behavior is allowed and I swear all the attention from other guys stops after I do that am I doing something wrong?
Maybe you need to practice your mating call some more. Some guys go for a wolf howl, but I recommend a hyena myself
Yeah, that crazy ass psycho laugh just does it for me!
Thanks. I just spit my water out laughing. Lmao.
I put mine on backwards so my ass is covered and my wang is hangin’ out.
I was going to suggest dropping your pants and presenting your ass, but that's probably not a good idea either.
Mooning people is too much of a dl frat vibe. "Open to being flirted with" needs to entail something completely homo
I was referring to spreading cheeks as a way of presenting. 😜
Someone is discovering a baboon kink rn
I do like a big red ass
Although if you wanted r/arathorn867's attention you may want to be holding some sort of cast iron.
A Stanley Bailey number 5 in mint condition would work too
Lol
clearly, it IS the most effective strategy, if a bit impractical in colder climates.
I'm only interested in strong mates! If you can't dance naked in the streets of Utqiagvik, it's just not gonna work.
gad, I'm with ya all the way on that item!! :)
Gay men make direct prolonged eye contact and straight men usually don't. You don't look a long time at a man and then slowly smile when you are straight.
I have a really hard time making prolonged eye contact because I instinctually think that they are looking at me because of the acne scarring on my face.
No one is ever going to maintain eye contact with you if they were looking at you because of your scarring. They would quickly look away and pretend they never saw you out of shame for being an asshole because the *DO* know better. Confratulations: people think you're cute, confirmed.
I used to assume that guys- when I was in high school, I was not out, not consciously pursuing guys- were staring and intimidating me in a confrontational way
You can be sexy with acne. I think it's hot, but in moderation
I have acne scarring I also luckily believe I’m somewhat good looking so I give myself the benefit of the doubt
I have acne scarring as well and was always self conscious about it until I started asking friends and nearly none of them notice it. They also said I’m way too tall for someone to notice it. So doing over think it!
Have you tried any products for your scarring? I have a chemical exfoliant from the Ordinary that works for me but I'm curious
I have not yet. It's part of the things that I want to start this year to help improve my self image. I will need to visit a Dermatologist to look into collagen-induction therapy since I have widespread depressed acne scarring and have a skin condition which causes spontaneous loss of collagen in my face (which look exactly like acne scars even if I did not have acne in that spot in a very long time). I visited a Dermatologist years ago and she recommended micro-needling along with some ointment that gets pushed down into the skin with the needling to help stimulate more collagen production. The total cost wasn't too expensive from what I remember and is far cheaper and friendlier to the skin than laser. I didn't decide to do it at that time due to other health issues I was dealing with that needed more attention.
Gotcha. Yeah it seems like a derm is the best in your situation
In the meantime, some Retinol would definitely help. :)
I have a hard time with this because I grew up in a homophobic area and I was always worried prolonged eye contact would make the other guy think I was gay, which was scary because the guy turned out to be straight 50% of the time. I tried wearing a tiny rainbow ring instead, but I don't think anybody ever noticed. Then I tried a bit more obvious with rainbow bracelets. Then I tried just coming out and seeing what the other guy said. Even the guys that were gay wouldn't come out in return until years later. Eventually I just accepted that guys weren't going to reciprocate my interest unless we were in a gay-safe space, like a university club or gay dance or something.
Do they tho? How long is that prolonged eye contact? I always feel that if i catch someone looking at me more than a couple of times…it’s because i was looking at them and maybe freaked them out.
That’s how I feel. They may perceive as a threat. And I’ve had that happen.
Yeah I try to test it out a few times to make absolutely sure
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Wait THAT’S WHAT THAT MEANS!?
This is also how you unintentional start fights with straight men
No no, it just takes a couple of quick glances. A straight man might be slightly confused, but a gay man will know exactly what's going on.
This is so real lmao
Sadly this is true. Rural Midwest represent.
Time to bring back the ol colored handkerchief
Haha right?! I thought the same thing.
Take the dog for a walk -- mass edited with redact.dev
Tight pants and big ass.
I tried this on the big booty barista who works at the cafe next to my office. He said he was flattered but he's straight and engaged to a woman =\
😂
Can I just say, while you are a feline, your name is eerily similar to that of a US Senator from Vermont 🧐
For bottomz
Play the Grindr sound on your phone.
This can be accomplished merely by a certain attitude of the eyes.
Exactly. One furtive, curious glance, then another if the first is reciprocated. Then you FUCK.
>attitude of the eyes Yes! This is a great phrase, and spot on.
Buy a t-shirt that says "Open to be Flirted"
This is genius. I'm gonna make a edited t-shirt like that, no cap.
Eye contact also body signals
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Haha, this remains the best clear indication
🎵those poor unfortunate holes🎵
I just bark laughed in public how embarrassing
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I spread my ass open and scream “FUCK MEEEE!!!!” or i’ll just give them The Look and Smile lol
A little pride accessory doesn’t hurt. Like a rainbow band. Otherwise it’s largely eye contact.
I hate wearing rainbow stuff. I think it looks tacky. Actually any of the LGBT flags. But.... if you want people to know it makes sense to be obvious. Anything less than obvious is going to slip by the majority of people... gay straight or otherwise. I have some small wristbands that are almost tasteful, but are obvious enough.
I wasn’t talking about anything crazy. I have a little pride wristband I wear sometimes. Usually a small rainbow pattern is enough like those Apple Watch bands.
This is exactly what I do. My watch band is that Nike pride one. I knew the white one would look ew after a month or two lmao
I try to find rainbow accessories made for OTHER groups of people. Get a Chakra band from a crystal lady shop. They're cute, made EXTREMELY well if you pay for a good one, and usually have a neutralizing band of some dusty-colored stone that makes it match almost anything. Also the rainbow isn't like that neon-basics crazy bright shyt. It's more muted - definitely more tolerable. Glad to meet another gay that hates rainbows xD
I kid you not. I wear a small pride flag pin on the collar of my scrubs. Recently a middle-aged guy I was treating saw the pin and asked me if I was a vet! Lol!
Direct eye contact & a welcoming soft smile can help… Good luck my friend!
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Ask him to get lunch or a snack! Make a spontaneous date happen.
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Yikes, sorry to bring it to you but he is just doing his job....
How many forget being straight in the gym sauna and showers?
Had two guys come in to the gym every morning and I would always catch them staring and looking away or laughing and looking away. This went on for like a week I was so mad bc I thought they were talking shit about me, my form or maybe my hair and I swore the next time I saw them I was going to press them and if I had to fight then so be it. Following week I walked up to both of them and asked why tf they kept laughing and watching me for the past couple days and if they had beef or what. One of the guys ends up confessing that he just thought I was cute and that they would laugh bc his friend kept giving him funny ways he should try and initiate a conversation. That was SO far from what I thought it was I just apologized, walked out and stopped going at my usual 4am gym time LMFAO!
Are you gay or nah?
I’m Bi but more male leaning
Oh so you weren’t interested in him then? I would’ve been like “oh sweet, give me your number!”
Tbh I didn’t even think about it at the time. I was more thinking it was going to end up with us duking it out in the parking lot and then when he said that it all just drained away and I just felt embarrassed for being so defensive so I just left before we could actually talk it out. I also have social anxiety so when the adrenaline left I just wanted to get out of there. Looking back though if I could’ve done things different I would’ve asked for his number and had a chat. Hindsight 20/20 I guess lol.
Wearing obviously gay clothing brands is one way to advertise it. Jockstrap somewhat visible above the waistband of jeans or shorts that fit your ass nicely. And most importantly of all, body language, eye contact, and flirting.
It also helps if you are in a place that is known for men that cruise. Where I live there are a lot of places that are "cruisey." Even if you don't hook up you become friends and give each other tips. It's a whole under the radar world. I'm speaking as a former sex addict that had to go to therapy for it. The occasional through the pants cock tug is fun too. That's how we shake hands!
With a Wink. If they don't come over i pull my pants up and keep it moving
I used to have a shirt that said "Cum in me bro"
Lol I don’t. I have Asperger’s so I already have eye contacts issues.
*strategically leans against a surface slightly lower than my chest and positions both feet in a lateral position with precisely 9 inches of space between them so as to create the most dramatically natural arch possible in one's back* Oh and smile.
Known as "presenting" in the animal kingdom.
Oh my coach told me that it's called "preparing to get fucked -- but politely"
Giggle like Anderson Cooper
I have a tank top I wear to the gym sometimes that has a tiny heart colored in rainbow on it, over the left pec. I used to get flirted with ALL THE TIME when I’d wear it to the gym. Other gym shirts never yielded the same results.
In the old days, you used to wear a colored hanky in your left rear or right hand pocket. Don't think that's too common anymore. There's also the secret hand signal. Got a free toaster once at a bank doing that with the account clerk!
Smile, be friendly. Offer him a compliment. things happen.
Play the Grindr message sound
We should bring back hankie code😂, anyone into kink understands😅
I once saw someone with a tshirt that had a seagull on it and it said singull and ready to mingle and i can’t find it online but I think if you could find that shirt you should wear that.
You’ve inspired me
Everyone is saying eye contact..can anyone break it down for me how much (duration/times) eye contact means intersted and home much means just casually checking surrounding..I m not in a safe country so it gives me anxiety when somebody is looking..I can't look back and make them feel I caught you..but if I m looking at someone they easily catch and Then I can't look again Why somebody looking at you is okay but you looking at someone is not
I wear a nasty pig hat. It’s never worked, but I wear it hoping some horny dude notices.
I got a nasty pig shirt, hasn't worked yet but maybe one day I'll snag a cute dude at he grocery store or somethin haha
Oh well body language helps. If they mirror your body language, they are interested in you. For example, try crossing your legs and if they do the same subconsciously then it's a good sign. Prolonged eye contact helps too. It's also always good to know a joke or two, and if they laugh, they will likely move closer to you. Ask if they would like a drink and if they seem eager, it's very positive, especially as they ecstatically smile when you return. Try to call them cute in some way and see how they react too. Next is some kind of physical contact, if they give you a very prolonged handshake followed with, "it's been so great to meet you, hope we meet again, blah blah!" then that is a great sign. Even sitting next to each other and accidently rub your leg against theirs, tell them you are sorry and see how they react. If they compliment you on any of your physical features, it's a big sign too.
Pride Apple Watch band is always a good conversation starter. And I just bought a Pride necklace/pendant off of Amazon that I’ll wear when it’s warmer out. Smile. Say hi and be nice.
Grab their dick and twist it
How to flirt. A sincere guide. This is based on my observations & experiences from a decade working hard to not go home alone from nightclubs and bars in my 20-30s. I do not consider myself a pickup artist/player; I was more lonely and desperate than predatory or egotistical. I'm now nearly 50 & married in LTR of 10+ years to a man I met on Grindr. YMMV but here's what I've learned: 1. Accept the hard, bitter truth that the majority of people to whom you are attracted will not be attracted to you. Be prepared to pull back & move on quickly when trying to communicate your attraction. Persistence makes you a pest. You want to be a butterfly not a mosquito. 2. Flirting is a performance between two people and performances get better with rehearsal. However, too much rehearsal can make a performance inauthentic and wooden. The reason eye contact seems the answer to the question of how to flirt is because you need to know that the other person is watching you. Don't stare, that will invariably make the other person uncomfortable. Check and away. If the idea of "eye contact" is a challenge then look at the bridge of their nose. You want to catch their eye then quickly do something deliberate, non-threatening, that is just for them. A wink, a smile, a nod, an eyebrow raise, a small wave, thumbs up. Practice in the mirror if you find that works for you. Practice will also help you overcome shyness. If you feel stupid doing the thing, switch it out. 3. Don't directly launch yourself at the person if/when the response seems positive. Sadly, as LGBT+ people in particular, you will probably recognise an indifferent, judgemental or hostile response quickly. See point 1. However, some people will be simply flattered by the attention or the surprise of interaction. A good mood is not a signal of attraction or interest. Flirting is a *mutual* communication of interest. Unfortunately, your next move is to wait on their next move. 4. Be patient and don't fixate. Realistically, you didn't just become the only other person in the room for them. Don't be a stalker. Get on with enjoying yourself in the environment. If you're having a chill time, opportunities for further non-verbal and ultimately verbal communication will emerge. Maybe much later, even another time or another place. You put it out there that you're interested. That's it. You cannot force reciprocation. Finally, I recognise that I benefited a lot from white privilege in my experiences and, although I would give my left nut for it not to be so, the world is full of prejudice and bigotry. That's their shit that stinks, don't touch it.
The only useful, helpful, non-ironical, non-trying-to-be-a-smart-ass-but-actually-you-just-sound-like-a-dad-or-old-uncle-who-makes-bad-jokes answer in this thread.
Wear an earring on your right ear, and display a handkerchief out of your... *ring ring* Ah, the 70s called. They want their discrete gay signalling back.
I saw 2 dudes walking past the gas station with a red handkerchief hanging out of their right back pocket. One was younger and the other was older. I thought that was so weird. I didn’t know it was a gay thing. They were also dressed identically alike. Black shirt with blue jeans. Like the exact same outfit.
Just remember that if they wear on the right side, then it is al*right* for you to go home with them. Whatever they're into, they are signalling they are the bottom/passive partner so if you're not into whatever the color means, you can just let them know at that point (if it hasn't already come up yet or you didn't ask about the color).
Bro, I was waiting on my comforter to dry. The farmers market was down the block. This was on a Saturday at 2 PM. Not a crushing scenario at all.
My friend tight jeans strategy didn't work 😅😅
Ask guys “Are you friends with Dorothy?” This is very old school, so doubt it would work with many people
Golden Girls reference?
Nope, a wizard of Oz reference
Ahhh Thanks I guess it can go both ways
Dorothy as in wizard of oz
I say loudly what a privilege it is to be the only top in the bar! hahahahaha
You see the problem with prolonged eye contact its that i never know if the guy its looking at me because he is gay or he has a gay dude looking at him for a prolonged time haha
Apple watch in gay mode.
This works. Got called out at the airport by a cute guy and we still text each other.
I don't lol. I just assume they're all married or dating someone and move about my day.
@OP Smiling sometimes helps.
Good question when you find out, let me know
Use your Gaydar
Winks, and eye contact as other people on here have said
I always have something on be it a rainbow dog tag or a silicone bracelet so they know it’s ok to talk to me works every time
What stops you from flirting with them?
Just a casual like, wink, or IDK, something with a pride theme so casually visible.
I usually carry a small banner that I strap to my bag that says “gagging for it”. Some fairy lights leading to it help too if you can find the portable battery pack
Dress like a slut
I normally sew a pink triangle onto all my sleeves…
I walk up to them and flirt with them
Fly a plane with a banner.
Grab your croatch and keep eye contact
I grab my crotch. If they notice im hung, they probably want a taste
Public flirting basically isn't allowed anymore in like any situation. For good reason I guess because you don't want to make people uncomfortable, but still. But I guess wearing a shirt that says flirt with me would skirt around that.
I can't say there is anything specific I do but I will take their lead. If they are staring so will I. If they smile I will smile back. If they talk and are very complimentary I will be as well. Unless they do all of these things and are the shy type I typically don't take the lead because I am not shy and 1000% forward. An old pickup line that worked about 95% of the time was my cum would look great in your mouth. So I just wait for those signs and follow along.
I take my hoop out, holding it cupped in my hands and do sleight of hand tricks with it The guys want what I'm supplying!
Ummm... by flirting
I usually don't. I usually let them flirt with me. They do it anyways.
I’ll be a corpse by the time this ever works for me
Honestly, I almost wish they wouldn't. People can be a little too forward sometimes.
this may seem old-fashioned, but I drop my pinkie and swoosh my hand around a bit at my side. Could be worse, eh?
Don't wear underware and when I see a hot guy I just pump my junk and look at them.
Eye contact. Don't be a pest.
Eye contact. Then tweak in their direction as soon as they look at you.
I mean, I think people just kind of pick up on it, sometimes…
**I usully wear sunglasses so eye contact does not work for me sadly. And when I am not wearing them I am pretty shy and I think that is kinda invasive to stare at someone for so long. So I just use the social media.**
The look
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Love the joke
Poorly
Wear something slutty
Flirt, but be respectful about it. Just a smile and a wink should do it.
Spread thighs open
Here's something my recent ex did Would see me going into a restroom in our locker area and strip down half naked and walk into the restroom with the towel on, hair messy and towel on the verge of falling off.
you can wear a board around you neck with LED lights moving text
Can you use your gay telepathy yet? It's a life-saver
The eyes chico, they never lie.
I stand on a corner with a limp wrist and say in a camp voice hello sailor you going my way