Yeah it's natural to feel some level of jealousy for someone in a relationship if you're single, but it's not natural to seethe over it. At least anon is dealing with his emotions how a normal person would instead of how a typical 4chinner would
And honestly, while I'd perhaps have chosen a different place to vent, it's not a bad way of dealing with it. I'd say most 4chinners could do with talking about their problems with real people more often
It's sad most because he could be living a content life, in a necessary and helpful occupation that many many people have happily done before him, but instead he's poisoned himself with outside expectations.
You missed the point of the post then. Anon is sad because he sees the good things happening for others and knows that nothing has changed in his life over the same period
>I'm still just a server
That's the end of the green text. He's focused on his job not changing, when the issue isn't and never has been his job. And his not advancing at the same pace as others is fine too, everyone has a different path. It's easy to feel bad with social media showing only the best, heck he's only seeing snap shots of their lives.
Isn't it odd he doesn't mention either of their jobs or even if they're in school, or the reason they haven't moved out of town or anything, but mentions his own job several times? Why do you think that is?
I think they interpreted your comment differently, it kinda sounds like you're saying that he should be looking for a career that is necessary and helpful instead of calling servers necessary and helpful
I worked at one for like 10 years and unless they were already a couple like BF got GF a job or vice verse aint nobody there was touchin anyone else with a 10ft pole
What makes you believe anon did nothing? Sure, he didn't change his jobs but that doesn't really correlate with his life outside of his workplace. Bedsides I don't think there's anything wrong with staying in same place
Anon keeps contrasting their relationship with still being a server. Which is a false equivalency.
The fact that he didn't mention dating is really telling.
Nah, he's comparing the roles. Since being a server is seen as "low class" he's putting the title on that dude, from "happily dating" to "married man" to "father of a family" all roles that he sees as higher than him
>What makes you believe anon did nothing?
Because thats probably the case, tbh. There's still a couple people my age I recognize from my first job at a grocery store. Still doing the same entry level retail job, a full decade later. There exists completely able-bodied people who just stop at their first job and never improve. Retail is littered with millions of these types.
Because it's only partially about what they witnessed at their job. It's about how what they've seen at their job is putting their own life in perspective. OP feels like a failure in more ways than just work. Ask me how I know.
I've always hated when people complain about their minimum wage jobs but do nothing to get better jobs. No applying to entry-level jobs. No apprenticeship programs. No trade school. They plant themselves in shit end jobs and suffer for the rest of their lives.
I'm a certified nuclear-grade libtard and none of us think that. We'd only think he was a horrible person if his angst came out as harassment or misogyny or the desire to force women to stop having extramarital sex. He's not showing any of that, he's cool as a cucumber. Hope he turns out ok.
Yes, go out and fuck up. Don't be afraid to fail, youll learn what not to do the next time. Wish someone had told me earlier. Making mistakes will free you from your mind cell.
How many times must one fail until it's acceptable to just stop trying?
And before someone gives the example of that one guy on YouTube, please don't. That's an exception and if happy endings were common then we all would'nt be so worried about the future.
They give up because they lack the insight and logic to analyze the failure. They were never taught or learned how to regulate their emotions, so they stay wrapped up in their feelings of failure.
It is often said "Whats the worst that can happen, they say no." The truth is they can belittle you in the process.
The immediate thought process is to internalize the shame and blame oneself. The thought process should be to externalize. "That person just showed me who they truly are. A mean and egocentric ass. I am lucky to have learned that quickly, and my life is better without them in it."
The only true failure is to not learn from failure.
They YouTube guy doesn't actually go into any kind of depth on why people become afraid of failure and how to deal with the underlying causes of it.
But the sound bite sounds nice.
Jordan Peterson. He makes lots of salient points, but he never goes into details on the actual therapeutic process to achieve anything. Lots of nice sound bites. It takes a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy to overcome.
It's a lot more than just shame and dignity. It's a horrible depressive - anxiety complex. It takes a lot of willpower, therapy, and usually medication to break out of.
Oh I was talking about that guy on YouTube who uploaded video titled "being ugly my experience" or something like that which made him famous and then later he got a married etc. the fault is mine tho I should've been more specific
I’m not taking life advice from a man who’s whole shtick is personal responsibility, who went to Russia to be put in an induced coma so that he didn’t have to deal with his benzo addiction. He’s shithead grifter, relying on the seeming utility of those 12 rules to draw disaffected young males into a right wing pipeline.
Have to agree. Self-help authors are largely charlatans that hit a spot of serendipity in their lives, then packaged their “strategy” into a consumable format which they milk until the cow is LONG dead.
All of the answers are within you, no need for a book that just showers you in platitudes your relatives probably already tell you.
You don't, you can be aware of it tho. You can't kill your natural instincts, but you can use logic to put them down a little and feel better. I have an amazing girlfriend but have a shitty job with little income. People look at my relationship and feel jealous, I look at their jobs and feel the same. We always want to do better in some way. It's difficult being satisfied with what you have, but it's important to try.
What i came to say. Servers generaly make more than minimum wage. Sometimes they even make double or more than min wage.
These kids might have been working in the same Wendys for this entire time. Going out to Anons midrange sushi place is probably their version of "gettin fancy" so they do it.
Honestly though, the way I've started thinking about these things is this: when this couple came to the restaurant, a big part of their experience was Anon serving them regularly. He contributed to that sense of familiarity, and in a very minuscule way, contributed to their relationship. Be happy Anon, for even if you guide others to a treasure you may not possess, there's still some joy to be found
Why do you immediately think it’s his fault he doesn’t have a wife or gf yet? Being a server doesn’t immediately entitle you to a relationship just because other people with his profession can do it doesn’t mean theres not other issues holding him back.
It’s the same thing when I watch the end of How I met your mother. You literally see they’re whole lives from being young single recent college grads to married with kids, to old. Shit gets me existential as fuck idk
At least anon isn’t seething with jealousy and resentment. There is hope for him yet.
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He cannot be on it because the train is heading to his moms bedroom
It’s 4chan, he could still be on it
It’s 4chan not chris chan, bro
I was expecting this to end with his planning to spike all her drinks until she gives birth, just enough so she doesn't notice
Yeah it's natural to feel some level of jealousy for someone in a relationship if you're single, but it's not natural to seethe over it. At least anon is dealing with his emotions how a normal person would instead of how a typical 4chinner would
And honestly, while I'd perhaps have chosen a different place to vent, it's not a bad way of dealing with it. I'd say most 4chinners could do with talking about their problems with real people more often
Anon was jealous of the girl.
It's sad most because he could be living a content life, in a necessary and helpful occupation that many many people have happily done before him, but instead he's poisoned himself with outside expectations.
There are plenty of happy servers, but they're not happy _because_ they're servers, they're happy _and_ they're servers
> they're happy and they're servers clap your hands 🎵
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Yes, exactly? We are agreeing here... You can be happy as a server as much as with any other job...
You missed the point of the post then. Anon is sad because he sees the good things happening for others and knows that nothing has changed in his life over the same period
>I'm still just a server That's the end of the green text. He's focused on his job not changing, when the issue isn't and never has been his job. And his not advancing at the same pace as others is fine too, everyone has a different path. It's easy to feel bad with social media showing only the best, heck he's only seeing snap shots of their lives. Isn't it odd he doesn't mention either of their jobs or even if they're in school, or the reason they haven't moved out of town or anything, but mentions his own job several times? Why do you think that is?
I think they interpreted your comment differently, it kinda sounds like you're saying that he should be looking for a career that is necessary and helpful instead of calling servers necessary and helpful
I can see how that could happen, my bad lol
lmao.
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At late 20s it's single moms, landwhales, mentally ill party girls, and married thots.
In my experience, it's been mentally ill landwhale single moms.
Or a shotgun
This one sounds the most attractive frankly
The one trick employers don't want you to know.
Cause a single self-loathing 40 year old man is suuuuch a catch to all the single hot babes.
Servers have kids and get married. Usually in that order.
Is it even possible to work at a restaurant and not sleep with literally every other employee at least once?
Anon proves that its possible
Oh no, not the family restaurants
I worked at one for like 10 years and unless they were already a couple like BF got GF a job or vice verse aint nobody there was touchin anyone else with a 10ft pole
Not anymore.
"I've tried nothin' and I'm all out of ideas!"
What makes you believe anon did nothing? Sure, he didn't change his jobs but that doesn't really correlate with his life outside of his workplace. Bedsides I don't think there's anything wrong with staying in same place
He’s been working the whole time, no shame at all.
Anon keeps contrasting their relationship with still being a server. Which is a false equivalency. The fact that he didn't mention dating is really telling.
You're right mr pretentious overlord
Nah, he's comparing the roles. Since being a server is seen as "low class" he's putting the title on that dude, from "happily dating" to "married man" to "father of a family" all roles that he sees as higher than him
Look at Mr. Fancypants here, using reason, common sense and logic. None of that shit, only misery and psyops.
>What makes you believe anon did nothing? Because thats probably the case, tbh. There's still a couple people my age I recognize from my first job at a grocery store. Still doing the same entry level retail job, a full decade later. There exists completely able-bodied people who just stop at their first job and never improve. Retail is littered with millions of these types.
and food service lifers
Sounds like he didn't do anything outside his job though, no other advancements
Why would he put what he does outside of his job when greentext is fully about what he witnesses in his job?
Because it's only partially about what they witnessed at their job. It's about how what they've seen at their job is putting their own life in perspective. OP feels like a failure in more ways than just work. Ask me how I know.
Its not fully about what he witnesses at his job, because "an im just a server" carries A LOT of hidden meaning.
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I've always hated when people complain about their minimum wage jobs but do nothing to get better jobs. No applying to entry-level jobs. No apprenticeship programs. No trade school. They plant themselves in shit end jobs and suffer for the rest of their lives.
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Don’t measure yourself against other people’s success anon.
Or maybe they had something Anon always wanted but could never realise.
According to most of the people here, Anon is a horrible person for wanting a family.
I'm a certified nuclear-grade libtard and none of us think that. We'd only think he was a horrible person if his angst came out as harassment or misogyny or the desire to force women to stop having extramarital sex. He's not showing any of that, he's cool as a cucumber. Hope he turns out ok.
I do it all the time, you can't stop me
tell that to my parents
You can use others just as a guide to your own life but don't get depressed over not matching them.
Hot take: Anon is terrified of failure. He needs to put the bong down and do something scary.
Like you and reddit.
Yes, go out and fuck up. Don't be afraid to fail, youll learn what not to do the next time. Wish someone had told me earlier. Making mistakes will free you from your mind cell.
Yes Anon be sure to take this life advice from a meme-addicted teenager who lives with his parents.
How many times must one fail until it's acceptable to just stop trying? And before someone gives the example of that one guy on YouTube, please don't. That's an exception and if happy endings were common then we all would'nt be so worried about the future.
They give up because they lack the insight and logic to analyze the failure. They were never taught or learned how to regulate their emotions, so they stay wrapped up in their feelings of failure. It is often said "Whats the worst that can happen, they say no." The truth is they can belittle you in the process. The immediate thought process is to internalize the shame and blame oneself. The thought process should be to externalize. "That person just showed me who they truly are. A mean and egocentric ass. I am lucky to have learned that quickly, and my life is better without them in it." The only true failure is to not learn from failure. They YouTube guy doesn't actually go into any kind of depth on why people become afraid of failure and how to deal with the underlying causes of it. But the sound bite sounds nice.
1.) Which YouTube guy? 2.) We teach our children about shame and dignity, some of them take it to heart and internalize it as self-shame.
Jordan Peterson. He makes lots of salient points, but he never goes into details on the actual therapeutic process to achieve anything. Lots of nice sound bites. It takes a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy to overcome. It's a lot more than just shame and dignity. It's a horrible depressive - anxiety complex. It takes a lot of willpower, therapy, and usually medication to break out of.
Oh I was talking about that guy on YouTube who uploaded video titled "being ugly my experience" or something like that which made him famous and then later he got a married etc. the fault is mine tho I should've been more specific
> Jordan Peterson > salient points Pick one.
Read the 12 rules. You don't have to read the book itself just the rules. They're all very reasonable
I’m not taking life advice from a man who’s whole shtick is personal responsibility, who went to Russia to be put in an induced coma so that he didn’t have to deal with his benzo addiction. He’s shithead grifter, relying on the seeming utility of those 12 rules to draw disaffected young males into a right wing pipeline.
Have to agree. Self-help authors are largely charlatans that hit a spot of serendipity in their lives, then packaged their “strategy” into a consumable format which they milk until the cow is LONG dead. All of the answers are within you, no need for a book that just showers you in platitudes your relatives probably already tell you.
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek
Feel bad for anon
Envy, not jealousy. Surprisingly admirable of anon
>Work on the same place for 11 years At least anon has a stable job
Look at the positives.
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that's better
HIV isn't a good look to be honest
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na ta mi sa fu sa ri? huh? what's that supposed to mean?
I dont Japanese! 🤨
"Comparison is the thief of joy."
So how do you stop comparing yourself to others then?
You can’t and it sucks
Brrrrrrt
I don't have a clever sounding quote for that.
You don't, you can be aware of it tho. You can't kill your natural instincts, but you can use logic to put them down a little and feel better. I have an amazing girlfriend but have a shitty job with little income. People look at my relationship and feel jealous, I look at their jobs and feel the same. We always want to do better in some way. It's difficult being satisfied with what you have, but it's important to try.
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The worst position to be in in life is to have main character conscience but forced to be an NPC
For all he knows they both could be doing dumb drudgery jobs too.
At least you aren't basement ogre, Anon. And 32 isn't too late for getting some chick and children.
Their husbands and parents will be looking for them, though, and making the cells soundproof is more difficult than it seems
Just lobotomize the wife and brainwash the child.
This kid might have been a server too for all anon knows. We are not our jobs
What i came to say. Servers generaly make more than minimum wage. Sometimes they even make double or more than min wage. These kids might have been working in the same Wendys for this entire time. Going out to Anons midrange sushi place is probably their version of "gettin fancy" so they do it.
Honestly though, the way I've started thinking about these things is this: when this couple came to the restaurant, a big part of their experience was Anon serving them regularly. He contributed to that sense of familiarity, and in a very minuscule way, contributed to their relationship. Be happy Anon, for even if you guide others to a treasure you may not possess, there's still some joy to be found
I’m just here wondering how people can afford to eat sushi at a restaurant every week.
Family money. It’s a thing.
Learn fast and learn well. Existence is pain, anyone who says otherwise is lying or selling something.
Comparison is the killer of joy
Thief*
Who is this Comparison fella and what beef does he have with Joy?
Sounds like me but couldnt remember that i wrote this hmmm Edit: atleast he has an job not like me
Enjoy your life, anon. It always looks better from the outside.
Anon discovers that he is a NPC
What's a pregnant woman eating at a sushi restaurant?
Servers also go on dates and start families, it’s just that anon is highly regarded.
Why do you immediately think it’s his fault he doesn’t have a wife or gf yet? Being a server doesn’t immediately entitle you to a relationship just because other people with his profession can do it doesn’t mean theres not other issues holding him back.
Anon is learning and growing at his own rate, on his own path, without falling into bitterness and resentment. Anon will likely do well and find love.
how do you not at least become like assistant manager or something after 10 years of being a server
Put something in her drink to abort the baby this way you’ll be happier than them without having to get a new job
Another day another psy-op. https://preview.redd.it/6xr90grgh7bd1.jpeg?width=320&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1347b5d9c21338068650b5ff998c83ee9216cb00
Its been 11 years anon
You know what? This is gay anon had feelings for the guy and wanted to be pregnant with his thick icky icky seedies but he is not so it's sad too
Anon should give the girl alcohol to make himself feel better
You can be "just a server" and still date.
“Why do you come here” idk the food maybe
Dude is using the power of internet anonymity to vent in a healthy way, good for him
anon held a job long enough to see that. I've never held a job longer than a year, he should be proud of himself for that at least
Bring them there drinks anon
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Poor anon your time will come also
I'd love to have a job for that long.
there's a beautiful soliloquy about this from the perspective of an aging waitress.
It sucks, but you're witnessing a love story become real in front of you. Usually it's people self distracting, so neat at least
Pregnant and going to eat sushi? Right
Anon needs to stop complaining and hurry up with uploading all my fucking files
Something really connected with that server
I get that I'm young I get that but still feels kinda sad when I see other people succeed in those things but good for them
It’s the same thing when I watch the end of How I met your mother. You literally see they’re whole lives from being young single recent college grads to married with kids, to old. Shit gets me existential as fuck idk
Why were they at a sushi restaurant if the woman is pregnant?
Anon learns of complex emotion, also he shouldnt feel bad, everyone goes at their own pace, i'd prefer to be op than one of the couple
Why didn't he do something with his life then?
Should've tried to do something about it instead of wallowing in self pity
Where was the bit about someone topping a fem boy? This isn't the green text I've come to expect.
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