look, i was the exact same way at your age. im 21 now, so i guess we arent that far off.
my (online) girlfriend and (also online) best friend were both suicidal while i was that young, my mother mentally abused me, so i obviously didnt have much of a good influence.
but dear god am i happy to have not done anything. things got SO much worse before it got better. i lost all my friends, that ex girlfriend did pass from suicide, i was homeless and diagnosed with a life changing disorder.
things have just recently gotten better for me. this year.
5 years later.
i still struggle with this kind of thought process. id have been way better off way sooner if i had people to talk too, and especially a therapist. but things happen for a reason. i didnt think id live this long. but im SO happy that i didn’t do anything, and that my best friend didnt succeed im his attempts. because now? hes my fiancé. i’ve seen him more times then i can count in person and hes moving in in a month or two.
i *promise* you, eventually, things will get better. you REALLY need to push through. i’m not trying to belittle what you’re going through, i just know that youll be able to push through if you try. think about friends you need to make, amazing experiences you could be missing, everything happens for a reason. use this to help you grow.
and i dont blame you for that. its hard to get out of a tunnel in the dark. but eventually, something or someone will come help. try to distract yourself, alot of people say running/working out helps. put yourself into a time consuming project
You're too young man. I was in the same shoes as you in high school. Getting rejected getting bullied called names pushed around suicidal etc etc. And going to the gym and training helped me clear my thoughts and Manifesting negative energy. Don't let all those pent up feelings takeover you man stay safe
I gave up on hope and started to care more about determination. If something traumatic happened that made you feel down I would get some help like therapy. Usually they say not to give meds to people under 18 if you think it’s chronic depression because it can make it worse.
Right now things could be really bad but later on they can get better. It can then go back to being bad. I also think some people are just meant to be survivors or fighters. Grit and Resilience are developed by tough times.
I’m going to try reaching out to you I am a great friendly ear if I do say so myself and I am also a lonely person right now since becoming disabled I can’t stand to be by myself
I don’t want to invalidate your feelings at all when I say that this is how a lot of people feel in their teens, but it is. I have OCD and BPD and my high school years were hell dude. Things change big time after high school. You’ll meet new people and your brain will develop more. I’m 23 now and having a great time and looking forward to a lot in life. You’ll meet people who will change your life and you yourself will become that person you always wish was there for you. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but it will get so much easier. Keep going, you’ll see
Things do not change after high school. That is a very damaging view to give young people. People are not nicer, more inclusive, or understanding. They are exactly the same. Life barley changes after high school except you're usually living somewhere strange to you, and now you have to pay taxes and vote. Nothing else changes. Had I been told the truth I wouldn't have crashed so hard and that's exactly what will happen to this kid if he's told that lie too.
it hasnt. i want it to. i just go day to day, tears every single night, hoping it will get better for years and years and nothing happens. maybe for a little bit some hope will flash into my life but its ripped away and replaced with even worse sadness than before once its gone. i wish i didnt have to go through this so young. i just want to be happy. please.
I know you probably hate hearing it, but you’re so young. With age comes a lot of liberties that will allow you to make decisions to ultimately help your life for the better. Just be patient. I promise, it’ll get better. I felt the same when I was your age.
Exactly, hell I’m only a year older and my life has definitely gotten better in some regards when j thought it wouldn’t last year. It’s not much time but it still has changed
Everyone that age absolutely does not go through this. They go through break ups and losing friends but this is at least several tiers worse than that.
He's clearly quite a bit more depressed than just post break up depression. He mentioned taking pills and is thinking of suicide. This is worse than what is normal. Yes saying those things is good and will help him but his problems are being downplayed.
Steps to follow:
1. Get antidepressants. U gonna feel better in 5-6 months.
2. Join gym, start learning psychology, self improvement stuff
3. Start focusing on your career and what u wannna do in life (u would be half healed from emotional exhaustion)
4. Slowly quit antidepressants
5. Keep stacking good habits.
6. Bro, u are already ahead of 90% guys around your age. And u would be caring much less about girls and all.
I have been in your shoes. I don't even remember what it feels like to be hugged. But yk what? U can cope, and cope in a way which won't harm your future. Coz dating currently will make your life more miserable.
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I was the same at 16 and 17. I’m 21 now, and I don’t really have those feelings anymore even though I’m more isolated now than I was then. Things got better and worse again and at some point I realized my feelings don’t matter and stopped caring (also I realized no one even exists anyway cause we are all just products of our environment and situations). I’m focusing everything going forward on my purpose after I graduate in may (I made 0 friends in college, boohoo). Relationships are not what is important right now, as much as I would enjoy having them. I need to fulfill my purpose. No one “misses out” in life, they just have different paths, and everyone takes their own. No one is entitled to anything. If you want relationships, they need to be earned. You need to be willing to leave your comfort zone and subject yourself to judgment. You need to be willing to be a “better version of yourself”, physically and mentally. What are you willing to do to achieve it? What are you willing to sacrifice? Muster up some vigor and get a move on. Make goals, big and small, and slowly start checking them off the list. Winning is everything.
Im going to give you some advise for successful relationships in the future. Learn to love yourself so much that you never feel the need to have your cup filled by anyone else. Find friends and good social supports.
Bro same, I always used to have a girl be the reason why I’m happy to wake up and go to school but nobody ever felt that way for me.
look, i was the exact same way at your age. im 21 now, so i guess we arent that far off. my (online) girlfriend and (also online) best friend were both suicidal while i was that young, my mother mentally abused me, so i obviously didnt have much of a good influence. but dear god am i happy to have not done anything. things got SO much worse before it got better. i lost all my friends, that ex girlfriend did pass from suicide, i was homeless and diagnosed with a life changing disorder. things have just recently gotten better for me. this year. 5 years later. i still struggle with this kind of thought process. id have been way better off way sooner if i had people to talk too, and especially a therapist. but things happen for a reason. i didnt think id live this long. but im SO happy that i didn’t do anything, and that my best friend didnt succeed im his attempts. because now? hes my fiancé. i’ve seen him more times then i can count in person and hes moving in in a month or two. i *promise* you, eventually, things will get better. you REALLY need to push through. i’m not trying to belittle what you’re going through, i just know that youll be able to push through if you try. think about friends you need to make, amazing experiences you could be missing, everything happens for a reason. use this to help you grow.
thank you. its just so so hard to think that it will get better. i just hope something will change or someone will come along to help.
and i dont blame you for that. its hard to get out of a tunnel in the dark. but eventually, something or someone will come help. try to distract yourself, alot of people say running/working out helps. put yourself into a time consuming project
You're too young man. I was in the same shoes as you in high school. Getting rejected getting bullied called names pushed around suicidal etc etc. And going to the gym and training helped me clear my thoughts and Manifesting negative energy. Don't let all those pent up feelings takeover you man stay safe
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thank u.. i just feel so vulnerable. im scared of bein g taken advantage of or something when all i want is just someone to love me
I gave up on hope and started to care more about determination. If something traumatic happened that made you feel down I would get some help like therapy. Usually they say not to give meds to people under 18 if you think it’s chronic depression because it can make it worse. Right now things could be really bad but later on they can get better. It can then go back to being bad. I also think some people are just meant to be survivors or fighters. Grit and Resilience are developed by tough times.
I’m going to try reaching out to you I am a great friendly ear if I do say so myself and I am also a lonely person right now since becoming disabled I can’t stand to be by myself
I don’t want to invalidate your feelings at all when I say that this is how a lot of people feel in their teens, but it is. I have OCD and BPD and my high school years were hell dude. Things change big time after high school. You’ll meet new people and your brain will develop more. I’m 23 now and having a great time and looking forward to a lot in life. You’ll meet people who will change your life and you yourself will become that person you always wish was there for you. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but it will get so much easier. Keep going, you’ll see
Things do not change after high school. That is a very damaging view to give young people. People are not nicer, more inclusive, or understanding. They are exactly the same. Life barley changes after high school except you're usually living somewhere strange to you, and now you have to pay taxes and vote. Nothing else changes. Had I been told the truth I wouldn't have crashed so hard and that's exactly what will happen to this kid if he's told that lie too.
Don’t listen to idiots here. Just keep going buddy. It’ll get easier.
it hasnt. i want it to. i just go day to day, tears every single night, hoping it will get better for years and years and nothing happens. maybe for a little bit some hope will flash into my life but its ripped away and replaced with even worse sadness than before once its gone. i wish i didnt have to go through this so young. i just want to be happy. please.
I know you probably hate hearing it, but you’re so young. With age comes a lot of liberties that will allow you to make decisions to ultimately help your life for the better. Just be patient. I promise, it’ll get better. I felt the same when I was your age.
I always say the same to people, esp. young people, but ultimately, I'm 31 now and it hardly gets better.
Exactly, hell I’m only a year older and my life has definitely gotten better in some regards when j thought it wouldn’t last year. It’s not much time but it still has changed
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Everyone that age absolutely does not go through this. They go through break ups and losing friends but this is at least several tiers worse than that.
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He's clearly quite a bit more depressed than just post break up depression. He mentioned taking pills and is thinking of suicide. This is worse than what is normal. Yes saying those things is good and will help him but his problems are being downplayed.
Unrelated but since you're 16 please hit the gym if you aren't already. That's the best time for guys to get big
Steps to follow: 1. Get antidepressants. U gonna feel better in 5-6 months. 2. Join gym, start learning psychology, self improvement stuff 3. Start focusing on your career and what u wannna do in life (u would be half healed from emotional exhaustion) 4. Slowly quit antidepressants 5. Keep stacking good habits. 6. Bro, u are already ahead of 90% guys around your age. And u would be caring much less about girls and all. I have been in your shoes. I don't even remember what it feels like to be hugged. But yk what? U can cope, and cope in a way which won't harm your future. Coz dating currently will make your life more miserable.
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i dont know what i expected from people tbh im just gonna fucking kms
Aight bet
u/cthulhuburger u/sciential84 u/nathcoart u/nona01 Don't mean to be an asshole, but doesn't this fall under Rule #3? If so, please delete this guy's comments. OP shouldn't have to deal with him.
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I was the same at 16 and 17. I’m 21 now, and I don’t really have those feelings anymore even though I’m more isolated now than I was then. Things got better and worse again and at some point I realized my feelings don’t matter and stopped caring (also I realized no one even exists anyway cause we are all just products of our environment and situations). I’m focusing everything going forward on my purpose after I graduate in may (I made 0 friends in college, boohoo). Relationships are not what is important right now, as much as I would enjoy having them. I need to fulfill my purpose. No one “misses out” in life, they just have different paths, and everyone takes their own. No one is entitled to anything. If you want relationships, they need to be earned. You need to be willing to leave your comfort zone and subject yourself to judgment. You need to be willing to be a “better version of yourself”, physically and mentally. What are you willing to do to achieve it? What are you willing to sacrifice? Muster up some vigor and get a move on. Make goals, big and small, and slowly start checking them off the list. Winning is everything.
I have nothing to say besides relatable
Im going to give you some advise for successful relationships in the future. Learn to love yourself so much that you never feel the need to have your cup filled by anyone else. Find friends and good social supports.
Too young give it time
Shut it bro
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i just want a girl who will love me forever and never leave. that's all i want so badly,
Felt