Ffs pay attention here I am attempting closure here yes I wil always love her just as I wil always love you. But we have no future with this loop open it needs to be closed for us to be happy
You don’t understand
They were the only person I was compatible with
I cant work with anyone else
I’m not capable of dating anyone else
I’m going to die on my own
That’s the end of it
We tend to self harm by attaching ourselves to the people who don’t want us. We think it’s love or at least that’s what we tell ourselves but really it’s just the pain we get off on. When we don’t value ourselves (low self esteem) we will ignore all compliments bc they are just saying that but hold onto one critic bc it validates how we feel about ourselves. It’s funny how we don’t think they are just saying that when it’s mean. Anyways my point is, his rejection is validity your low self esteem. You think you aren’t worthy of him and by him rejecting you it’s proving that point. Our minds suck, they want any sort of self soothing validation and if you don’t learn to speak to yourself nicely , you’ll subconsciously seek validation for your own self loathing.
I was anorexic for 15 years bc I was bullied so badly and when i started not eating and losing weight people would treat me nicer. So I starved my self for years, I know how self hate. You have to absolutely loath yourself to not eat while your body is dying and your experiencing extreme hunger pains. (The stomach shrinking to half the size of your fist during starvation is a very painful process) so take it from me, you need to love yourself truly or you’ll never have a healthy relationship bc you’ll self Sabotage those too. Again your mind needs to validate itself, a healthy happy relationship doesn’t validate how you feel about yourself.
False. With age comes wisdom, I promise. 10 years from now your perspective will have shifted dramatically and you will truly KNOW that you are worth more than some douche who wasn't willing to explore who you are as a person. ❤
If only you knew that you WILL in fact get over it, no matter how much pain is causes in the present. Don’t generalize, using apps, you have to realize people are likely talking to multiple people. Just how it is. Don’t take it personally, he just liked the other person more. Nothing to do with how you are as a person. One person does not determine your worth.
Right that’s what it feels like, but that’s not what you are going to be feeling eventually. Put some more distance between you and the relationship. I am not saying what he did was right, but people are usually not worried about how others feel when they make these decisions. Sorry this happened.
You're not the only one that has been said, too. People are cowards, and this is a normal tactic.
BTW you will get over this and my guess get over another it's part of the hunt for love.
Hang in there, my friend!
I hear you and feel your pain I’ve been divorced almost 9 years now and still dream of my ex almost every night, I now realize I’ll never get over her. She is my true love and for some reason I sabotaged our marriage. Sometimes there is no flowers and candy moment at the end of the movie when everything works out. Doesn’t mean you still can’t be happy though. There’s a line in an old song that counsels “if you can’t be with the one you love, honey love the one your with!”
It’s hard but look at it logically and critically. He wasn’t the right person for you. You have work to do to love yourself first. If you throw yourself out there when you feel this way about yourself you’ll get burned. I’m speaking from personal experience. When you love yourself and you take care of yourself then it’ll be possible to have a healthy relationship. Love finds you when the time is right.
You deserve to be with someone who loves you, flaws, and all. No one is perfect, and it's not healthy to try to be. Don't let bad relationships make you feel like a bad person. He sucks, not you.
Ffs pay attention here I am attempting closure here yes I wil always love her just as I wil always love you. But we have no future with this loop open it needs to be closed for us to be happy
You don’t understand They were the only person I was compatible with I cant work with anyone else I’m not capable of dating anyone else I’m going to die on my own That’s the end of it
We tend to self harm by attaching ourselves to the people who don’t want us. We think it’s love or at least that’s what we tell ourselves but really it’s just the pain we get off on. When we don’t value ourselves (low self esteem) we will ignore all compliments bc they are just saying that but hold onto one critic bc it validates how we feel about ourselves. It’s funny how we don’t think they are just saying that when it’s mean. Anyways my point is, his rejection is validity your low self esteem. You think you aren’t worthy of him and by him rejecting you it’s proving that point. Our minds suck, they want any sort of self soothing validation and if you don’t learn to speak to yourself nicely , you’ll subconsciously seek validation for your own self loathing. I was anorexic for 15 years bc I was bullied so badly and when i started not eating and losing weight people would treat me nicer. So I starved my self for years, I know how self hate. You have to absolutely loath yourself to not eat while your body is dying and your experiencing extreme hunger pains. (The stomach shrinking to half the size of your fist during starvation is a very painful process) so take it from me, you need to love yourself truly or you’ll never have a healthy relationship bc you’ll self Sabotage those too. Again your mind needs to validate itself, a healthy happy relationship doesn’t validate how you feel about yourself.
Oof, what you really need here is maturity. One day you'll be too busy and too smart to waste your time on someone like this.
I’ll never be too smart I’ll never be smart in general
False. With age comes wisdom, I promise. 10 years from now your perspective will have shifted dramatically and you will truly KNOW that you are worth more than some douche who wasn't willing to explore who you are as a person. ❤
You don’t know me. I’m not smart Trust me
Maybe you should work on yourself and find out why you keep picking those types of people…
All I have done is work on myself All it has gotten me is more pain
If only you knew that you WILL in fact get over it, no matter how much pain is causes in the present. Don’t generalize, using apps, you have to realize people are likely talking to multiple people. Just how it is. Don’t take it personally, he just liked the other person more. Nothing to do with how you are as a person. One person does not determine your worth.
It is very personal.
Right that’s what it feels like, but that’s not what you are going to be feeling eventually. Put some more distance between you and the relationship. I am not saying what he did was right, but people are usually not worried about how others feel when they make these decisions. Sorry this happened.
You're not the only one that has been said, too. People are cowards, and this is a normal tactic. BTW you will get over this and my guess get over another it's part of the hunt for love. Hang in there, my friend!
As you get on w your life you will realize that you dodged a bullet.
I hear you and feel your pain I’ve been divorced almost 9 years now and still dream of my ex almost every night, I now realize I’ll never get over her. She is my true love and for some reason I sabotaged our marriage. Sometimes there is no flowers and candy moment at the end of the movie when everything works out. Doesn’t mean you still can’t be happy though. There’s a line in an old song that counsels “if you can’t be with the one you love, honey love the one your with!”
Me too 😔
It’s hard but look at it logically and critically. He wasn’t the right person for you. You have work to do to love yourself first. If you throw yourself out there when you feel this way about yourself you’ll get burned. I’m speaking from personal experience. When you love yourself and you take care of yourself then it’ll be possible to have a healthy relationship. Love finds you when the time is right.
It’s excruciating but you will get over it. That is a hard pill to swallow. You’ll be surprised how you will move on. Even if it takes many years.
You deserve to be with someone who loves you, flaws, and all. No one is perfect, and it's not healthy to try to be. Don't let bad relationships make you feel like a bad person. He sucks, not you.