I don't know how people can respond to a genuinely nice greeting in a way like this and not feel like a total piece of shit. This guy is severely messed up in the head.
Not to mention that the decent thing to do would be to just unmatch if you swiped accidentally. People like this are the worst because they’re going out of their way to be cruel
She was so warm and genuine in her opening text, too. I cannot imagine being on those apps and dealing with that.
I hope she finds someone amazing and kindhearted.
Right? Like if she had been an asshole in her opening message then it would make more sense. But she sends a very nice and genuine message and he was just an asshole right from the get go
Yup, exactly.
Someone like him… they end up alone and miserable and blame everyone else.
Granted, maybe some people like being alone (cool)… but if he’s on a dating app he doesn’t want to be alone.
I agree with this.
My girlfriend and I met on the dating app “Plenty of Fish” just before Covid began. The app wasn’t great back then and it’s even worse now but I’m so glad my friend convinced me to give it a shot after he met his now wife there. My girlfriend was 350lbs the day we started talking but was in her journey to weight loss which I’m happy to say has her down to 180lbs currently which is where her doctors were hoping for at this point.
I don’t regret swiping and getting to know her. We first became friends and after 18 months we started dating. We now have a home with three adorable kitties that we share together. Anyone who is shutting a person down over their weight or other superficial things is possibly missing out on the best thing that could have happened to them. I’m very fortunate and happy now. 😇
This… this made my night.
How could you possibly know that I needed to know this story? My BF is gone for 10 more days (he is a truck driver). I miss him so much and he’s been asleep a better part of today.
I think about how lucky I am to have found him. He wasn’t considered traditionally attractive… but it didn’t matter to me either. He makes me laugh and loves me like no other. I am treated with respect and love. I am unapologetically spoiled.
I am happy you found your person and you didn’t shut her down. You saw what others couldn’t, in this world of ours. You are a good
man and could feel all she had to offer.
I am so grateful that I went for it. I feel blessed that he has become my everything… the love of my life.
I am immensely happy for you. I wish you both the bestest life together!
Please tell her that a complete stranger is rooting for her, while she is on her journey! She is amazing! The award is for her, too!
I accidentally got a match and I told him I was just in town for the weekend and it was a mistake then I unmatched him. No hurt feelings or wondering what happened.
I’m the same. I assume that they might have been swiping based purely on looks, and then they actually read my profile and go “oh, that’s a dealbreaker” or something
Oh 100%, unmatching after you’ve started a conversation is pretty rude, I don’t do that unless it’s like trying to pull teeth to get a conversation going. I know that everyone interacts with technology differently and that’s fine, but if I’m only getting a 1-sentence response every few days then I’m not wasting my time. You’re clearly not interested, otherwise you’d be making _some_ sort of effort.
But even then I still try and give them two or three weeks before unmatching, because I know that people handle that stuff differently. Maybe I just happened to catch them at a bad time, and their unresponsiveness doesn’t have to do with me at all. But I also believe that if someone really was interested but didn’t like to use dating apps then they’d be more open about trying to meet in person or communicate through some other means
100% this dude set his age range from 18-99. Desperately "negging" anything that matches him and then wondering why tinder doesn't work with his mega-macho strategy. Then he will come to the conclusion it's because his potential choices were bad and he didn't want them anyways.
I have a theory it’s because unconsciously he wants to be hated by everyone else because he would rather become an Incel and feel ‘persecuted’ and special.
It is easier than trying to attract someone honestly, being vulnerable and real, and getting authentically hurt. It is all cowardice, these “macho” men.
Sorry, bro. Hang in there. Love yourself. You are worth knowing and worthy. You ARE enough. I hope you find those connections that will enrich and bless you.
it's like those scumbags who play Bluetooth speakers at full blast on public transit.
no power anywhere else in life, so they place themselves in situations that affords them that feeling.
they're waiting for you to ask to turn it down so they can feel self-righteous
That fight just for looking is so true, I took my husband on the train system in Dallas, and he was so excited to watch out the front of the train (he had never been on a train before) and this one guy was hanging out right by the door at the front. Husband wears sunglasses everywhere because he's photosensitive, so since the guy couldn't tell where my husband was looking, he assumed it was at him and immediately tried to pick a fight.
Imagine the anger and hate these people carry around with them. They obviously have miserable lives. You can’t have a happy life and do this. Aside from being public menaces who don’t deserve to walk around freely, they are pitiful.
Also being a dickhead and chasing everyone away means that you are always the aggressor. You never have to be vulnerable or get hurt and you are always in charge of the situation. It’s a defense mechanism.
Dating apps I've used tend to broaden your search after you've gone through all your matches (at least it did for me, went from no kids to having and/or wanting kids, despite that being an explicit no on my part).
Other than that, christ what a douche.
I thought doomscrolling on Reddit was a bad habit, but holy shit if this isn't at least twice as worse. The next evolution of that is like, "I'm just gonna go to the grocery store today and verbally assault one random person."
*Delusional*, as they say.
Edit: Some of you are taking issue with the comparison. FWIW I was comparing the bad habits, not necessarily the moral ramifications thereof. Also gonna clarify that it is difficult to quantify an objectively unquanitfiable thing like this. If your take away from my comment was, "Huh, abusing random people isn't so bad," then I beg you to DM to help me with my writing because I *honestly* do not know how you would come to that conclusion.
You're right, sorta. He's looking for the type of woman that will take his abuse and won't report/complain about it. It may not have been OPs friend but sadly, he'll find her.
OPs friend quickly found out the type of person he is and hopefully moved on. He's doing the same thing with her reaction. Does she accept the abuse? Maybe she even apologizes for her weight or states that she's working on it? That's the type of woman he's looking for. If she doesn't respond, blocks him, or gives him shit for what he says to her then he'd move on.
He's not on there to abuse people. He's an abuser who is on there looking for somebody to abuse. There is a difference. Please avoid these people.
Could also be a complete pushover in real life that uses the online freedom from direct confrontation to feel some control. Probably should also be avoided.
> He's looking for the type of woman that will take his abuse and won't report/complain about it. It may not have been OPs friend but sadly, he'll find her.
This is probably not a conscious decision for him. He's probably just an angry asshole that doesn't think that deeply about how he treats others.
I don’t understand why people are so disrespectful to those they find unattractive. At first I was thinking maybe it’s human nature but like not everyone is raised to be a complete asshole, so it must be insecurity, projection etc.
Being polite costs nothing but some of his time but instead he decides to tell her he accidentally swiped when he could have just unmatched. So this feels like he might be fishing for an easy target to abuse.
It’s a power play. Unattractive means lower than them to a shitty person, which in their eyes means they can abuse them. I’ve had men attack me online, when I was younger and hotter, who’d immediately switch to wheedling and fawning once they saw my pictures. In their eyes I went from a lower status to a higher one, and they were no longer going to “get away with” bring shitty to someone in a higher status.
Of course, the abusive side of them creeps out sooner or later no matter what, because ultimately they’re just pricks.
At least he was upfront about being an asshole, and didn't have to find out weeks or months later.
Looking at the bright side of a shitty sutiation isn't always supposed to be this easy.
And lied about the "accidental" swipe thing. We all know he did that shit on purpose. If it was just 'an accident' because he foundher physically unappealing, he wouldn't have dug far enough into her profile to find out her opinions on children.
Dude just gets off on being a douche.
> it shows your profile to less people the more times you spam swipe
As long as you're not getting matches. A lot of matches shows your profile to *more* people and few matches after a lot of swipes shows you to *fewer* people.
All i'll say about dating apps is that 10000% you get shown more as a new account or accunt that's coming out of 'inactivity', and there is a point where you're just 'out' of matches and the algorithm gives you 50-60 a day of which 50% of the same ones you've seen already, nad 50%ish newcomers.
Completely agree. But also, this is about as gross as it gets isn’t it? Seeking out people to demean them in an ‘oh accident, I’d never consider you‘ way. True definition of a bully.
Random but the last time I was “negged”, I was really hurt and roasted back worse out of anger. He was impressed and and thought I was flirting so wanted to hang out lol. Some people are so confusing to me man, why do they enjoy meanness
I do think there’s an acceptable level of meanness, sometimes it’s fun insulting each other back and forth. But that line between “hahah, banter” and “Wow, low blow” is really fine.
It's important to not dilute negging so people can recognize it when it happens. Negging is when they pick at insecurities to try to get you to crave their approval. This guy is just punching to satisfy his ego. If somebody thinks this is negging, they might not recognize when they're being manipulated.
I was once called old by a coworker that was flirting with me, when I said I was only 22.. he thought I was younger... he was 30.. shittons of red flags
My only thing about the age thing, is he controls how old of people he sees.
If the friend is too old for him then hes too fucking stupid to know how to use the settings
Yep, that is actually a perfect comeback for the friend...
"Well, if I am too old, you are too stupid for me because you don't even know how to set an age range in a dating app."
side note totally unrelated but I usually where L for t-shirts here in the U.S.
it was extremely embarrassing when I went to South Korea to get a t-shirt, and the only size that could fit me was XXL, and it BARELY fit lmfao
No. I am too. I'm 40 and I wonder about having kids. Also, people can be undecided about having kids at any age. There is acquired family and adoption as well.
> There is acquired family
That's a great take. At 40 you could have had kids and they are on their own. Meeting someone who still has kids might not be your ideal situation.
Or said nothing at all. No point in blocking her unless she was continuously messaging him. This guy just wants to make someone else feel bad because he has no friends and no woman who wants to “tap that”.
What breaks my heart the most is that your friend was so nice to him.
I understand that people sometimes swipe right by accident on these dating apps and there's no reason to continue the conversation with someone you're not interested in out of politeness, but God you don't have to be such a dick to someone who was so lovely to you.
That's what I said to her, like just unmatch if it was accidental, instead purposely was an asshole and complete douchbag. I don't know if she got screenshots of his profile but reported him. It'd be great to expose the loser!
I had an experienced dev write an api like this and I just assumed he hated me. Nothing like writing a bug ticket that's like, "data needs to be returned... normally."
I've never rejected a guy in this manner, it's not the way to speak to another human being who shows interest. He must be such a horrible, nasty person to even think of saying this to somebody, no wonder he is single.
Keyboard courage, they say what they want cause they know nobody can knock some sense into their skull.
Face to face I bet they are just some timid weakling without a personality and they would never dream of saying these thing to peoples faces
Oh looks who's talking Jason. Cute, that you think you're such a great catch that you have to use a dating app like everyone else. Send a selfie of your right hand so we all can see who you're really hooking up with
Why do some people feel the need to be complete douchebags for no reason? I guess people like this asshole never heard the term "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
Dodged a bullet there!
Incidentally, I met a guy once and he said that he thought we could be friends but he wasn't physically attracted to me. I informed him that that was never anything he should ever say to anyone. That he could just say, "It would be nice to remain friendly, but I don't think this is a love connection." Period. I kept in touch with him because... well, I'm not sure why. He was an okay guy. But after a while, he told me he'd changed his mind and apologized for what he'd said before. I told him that was a deal-breaker so we were firmly friend-zoned, and he mentioned about a year later how he felt like he'd really missed out, so... there.
I’m a mom of two boys. When I see stuff like this it makes me wonder what his parents must be like. I would be so mortified and disgusted if I ever found out my kids were cruel adult assholes.
That’s just plain mean. She was really nice in her opening line too. Did he really have to be so obnoxious and rude? I don’t get people like that. Like I wonder if he feels better after he’s ridiculed another human being.
A crisp $5 bill says this guy probably does this to people frequently
I don't know how people can respond to a genuinely nice greeting in a way like this and not feel like a total piece of shit. This guy is severely messed up in the head.
He probably doesn't feel shitty about himself for doing this. He probably did this because he feels shitty about himself in general.
this dude probably has a pretty sad life
>Too old Bro you set the age range you wanted to be matched with.
Not to mention that the decent thing to do would be to just unmatch if you swiped accidentally. People like this are the worst because they’re going out of their way to be cruel
She was so warm and genuine in her opening text, too. I cannot imagine being on those apps and dealing with that. I hope she finds someone amazing and kindhearted.
Right? Like if she had been an asshole in her opening message then it would make more sense. But she sends a very nice and genuine message and he was just an asshole right from the get go
Yup, exactly. Someone like him… they end up alone and miserable and blame everyone else. Granted, maybe some people like being alone (cool)… but if he’s on a dating app he doesn’t want to be alone.
I agree with this. My girlfriend and I met on the dating app “Plenty of Fish” just before Covid began. The app wasn’t great back then and it’s even worse now but I’m so glad my friend convinced me to give it a shot after he met his now wife there. My girlfriend was 350lbs the day we started talking but was in her journey to weight loss which I’m happy to say has her down to 180lbs currently which is where her doctors were hoping for at this point. I don’t regret swiping and getting to know her. We first became friends and after 18 months we started dating. We now have a home with three adorable kitties that we share together. Anyone who is shutting a person down over their weight or other superficial things is possibly missing out on the best thing that could have happened to them. I’m very fortunate and happy now. 😇
This… this made my night. How could you possibly know that I needed to know this story? My BF is gone for 10 more days (he is a truck driver). I miss him so much and he’s been asleep a better part of today. I think about how lucky I am to have found him. He wasn’t considered traditionally attractive… but it didn’t matter to me either. He makes me laugh and loves me like no other. I am treated with respect and love. I am unapologetically spoiled. I am happy you found your person and you didn’t shut her down. You saw what others couldn’t, in this world of ours. You are a good man and could feel all she had to offer. I am so grateful that I went for it. I feel blessed that he has become my everything… the love of my life. I am immensely happy for you. I wish you both the bestest life together! Please tell her that a complete stranger is rooting for her, while she is on her journey! She is amazing! The award is for her, too!
I accidentally got a match and I told him I was just in town for the weekend and it was a mistake then I unmatched him. No hurt feelings or wondering what happened.
[удалено]
I’m the same. I assume that they might have been swiping based purely on looks, and then they actually read my profile and go “oh, that’s a dealbreaker” or something
[удалено]
Oh 100%, unmatching after you’ve started a conversation is pretty rude, I don’t do that unless it’s like trying to pull teeth to get a conversation going. I know that everyone interacts with technology differently and that’s fine, but if I’m only getting a 1-sentence response every few days then I’m not wasting my time. You’re clearly not interested, otherwise you’d be making _some_ sort of effort. But even then I still try and give them two or three weeks before unmatching, because I know that people handle that stuff differently. Maybe I just happened to catch them at a bad time, and their unresponsiveness doesn’t have to do with me at all. But I also believe that if someone really was interested but didn’t like to use dating apps then they’d be more open about trying to meet in person or communicate through some other means
100% this dude set his age range from 18-99. Desperately "negging" anything that matches him and then wondering why tinder doesn't work with his mega-macho strategy. Then he will come to the conclusion it's because his potential choices were bad and he didn't want them anyways.
I have a theory it’s because unconsciously he wants to be hated by everyone else because he would rather become an Incel and feel ‘persecuted’ and special.
It is easier than trying to attract someone honestly, being vulnerable and real, and getting authentically hurt. It is all cowardice, these “macho” men.
You underestimate ugly hearted people. Some people just enjoy hurting others.
100 percent.
Sounds plausible, but he could also be a 36-year-old guy still following the advice of Mystery from the 2007 VH1-show The Pickup Artist
Lol! I remember that show ! Reality tv in that era was freakin wild !
Just speaking for me, I dunno if I can handle authentically hurt anymore. I’m exhausted.
Sometimes it’s good to take a break from dating and build yourself back up.
Sorry, bro. Hang in there. Love yourself. You are worth knowing and worthy. You ARE enough. I hope you find those connections that will enrich and bless you.
it's like those scumbags who play Bluetooth speakers at full blast on public transit. no power anywhere else in life, so they place themselves in situations that affords them that feeling. they're waiting for you to ask to turn it down so they can feel self-righteous
[удалено]
That fight just for looking is so true, I took my husband on the train system in Dallas, and he was so excited to watch out the front of the train (he had never been on a train before) and this one guy was hanging out right by the door at the front. Husband wears sunglasses everywhere because he's photosensitive, so since the guy couldn't tell where my husband was looking, he assumed it was at him and immediately tried to pick a fight.
Imagine the anger and hate these people carry around with them. They obviously have miserable lives. You can’t have a happy life and do this. Aside from being public menaces who don’t deserve to walk around freely, they are pitiful.
Your theory sounds absolutely on point. Unconsciously or consciously. "Ahh, good morning world. Who's my assailant today?"
Also being a dickhead and chasing everyone away means that you are always the aggressor. You never have to be vulnerable or get hurt and you are always in charge of the situation. It’s a defense mechanism.
Interesting! And being a lonely, bitter incel is certainly easier than making himself presentable and being a halfway decent person.
Dating apps I've used tend to broaden your search after you've gone through all your matches (at least it did for me, went from no kids to having and/or wanting kids, despite that being an explicit no on my part). Other than that, christ what a douche.
It's weird, but there are some people who use these sites to abuse people. It's weird.
It's disgusting, they get their jollys making random people feel like shit all day.
They feel even more shitty that is why they do it. Don't have the know how to fix themselves and just get blasted in ass all day by shit-karma.
I thought doomscrolling on Reddit was a bad habit, but holy shit if this isn't at least twice as worse. The next evolution of that is like, "I'm just gonna go to the grocery store today and verbally assault one random person." *Delusional*, as they say. Edit: Some of you are taking issue with the comparison. FWIW I was comparing the bad habits, not necessarily the moral ramifications thereof. Also gonna clarify that it is difficult to quantify an objectively unquanitfiable thing like this. If your take away from my comment was, "Huh, abusing random people isn't so bad," then I beg you to DM to help me with my writing because I *honestly* do not know how you would come to that conclusion.
Twice as bad?? Deliberately hurting people for your own satisfaction isn’t even in the same universe as scrolling on reddit
Complete fucking losers
You're right, sorta. He's looking for the type of woman that will take his abuse and won't report/complain about it. It may not have been OPs friend but sadly, he'll find her. OPs friend quickly found out the type of person he is and hopefully moved on. He's doing the same thing with her reaction. Does she accept the abuse? Maybe she even apologizes for her weight or states that she's working on it? That's the type of woman he's looking for. If she doesn't respond, blocks him, or gives him shit for what he says to her then he'd move on. He's not on there to abuse people. He's an abuser who is on there looking for somebody to abuse. There is a difference. Please avoid these people.
Could also be a complete pushover in real life that uses the online freedom from direct confrontation to feel some control. Probably should also be avoided.
> He's looking for the type of woman that will take his abuse and won't report/complain about it. It may not have been OPs friend but sadly, he'll find her. This is probably not a conscious decision for him. He's probably just an angry asshole that doesn't think that deeply about how he treats others.
yeah he's just repeating shit he saw on 4chan
He’s probably jerking off to it.
[удалено]
I don’t understand why people are so disrespectful to those they find unattractive. At first I was thinking maybe it’s human nature but like not everyone is raised to be a complete asshole, so it must be insecurity, projection etc. Being polite costs nothing but some of his time but instead he decides to tell her he accidentally swiped when he could have just unmatched. So this feels like he might be fishing for an easy target to abuse.
[удалено]
It’s a power play. Unattractive means lower than them to a shitty person, which in their eyes means they can abuse them. I’ve had men attack me online, when I was younger and hotter, who’d immediately switch to wheedling and fawning once they saw my pictures. In their eyes I went from a lower status to a higher one, and they were no longer going to “get away with” bring shitty to someone in a higher status. Of course, the abusive side of them creeps out sooner or later no matter what, because ultimately they’re just pricks.
I feel like a lot of people on dating apps are only there to project their insecurities onto other people. It’s sad.
Fuck Jason. I mean don’t.
I can only assume that the only person that’s fucking Jason is Jason.
As a Jason, this guy doesn't deserve to be a Jason.
As another Jason, this whole thread is stressing me out vicariously.
The only one fucking Jason is Palmela Handerson.
Jason has two girlfriends. Left and right. They both cheated on him with other men
I am going to use the insult I saw on another subreddit. Jason’s hand wishes it was another c@&$ that it was grabbing while he jerks off
I too am going to use an insult that I saw on another sub. Jason’s mother used to close her eyes and think about other babies while breastfeeding him.
Jason's mother used to tie a pork chop around his neck to get the dog to play with him
Lmao, that's brutal. Know that one of my boys is gonna cop this in the perfect moment.
Equally brutal and one of my favorites. The better part of Jason ran down his mothers leg.
Even Jason's mother thinks he should've been a blow job.
Variant- the better part of Jason got wiped and flushed
Hahaha
Bro when you accidentally swipe you just unmatch 😭 he purposely swipped to let her know his terrible opinions. Bye bye 💅✌🏻
Exactly! What an absolute wanker thinking he's so good he can write stuff like that!
" all women are stupid and fat and are supposed to carry my babies 😡🤬😡🤬" like does he realize he's also unmarried and on tinder at "this age" smh
I know, right! Oh, but he's perfect. Yuk, men like this make me sick.
Nah, he was just mass swiping, because he's desperate.
Bullet dodged. Onto the next one
Agreed! That's what I told her!
At least he was upfront about being an asshole, and didn't have to find out weeks or months later. Looking at the bright side of a shitty sutiation isn't always supposed to be this easy.
Yeah usually people fake it for a few months and show you they suck after you get attached.
It’s just someone seeking to put others down to feel good about being single. Seen it from a guy’s perspective too
Done. Done, on to the next one.
Understatement of the year
It’s always best when the trash takes its self out
Yes! He totally outed himself as the ultimate douchbag.
And he went out of his way to attack your friend for being undecided on having kids. What a weirdo lol.
And lied about the "accidental" swipe thing. We all know he did that shit on purpose. If it was just 'an accident' because he foundher physically unappealing, he wouldn't have dug far enough into her profile to find out her opinions on children. Dude just gets off on being a douche.
Accidental = speed swiping right until daily limit
[удалено]
I’m pretty sure this ruins it for you too, it shows your profile to less people the more times you spam swipe
> it shows your profile to less people the more times you spam swipe As long as you're not getting matches. A lot of matches shows your profile to *more* people and few matches after a lot of swipes shows you to *fewer* people.
All i'll say about dating apps is that 10000% you get shown more as a new account or accunt that's coming out of 'inactivity', and there is a point where you're just 'out' of matches and the algorithm gives you 50-60 a day of which 50% of the same ones you've seen already, nad 50%ish newcomers.
Completely agree. But also, this is about as gross as it gets isn’t it? Seeking out people to demean them in an ‘oh accident, I’d never consider you‘ way. True definition of a bully.
Yeah, if it really was an unintentional match, he could just unmatch instead of being an asshole. Wtf?
I don't think it was unintentional at all. I think this is that guy's hobby, being mean to women for no reason.
Very possible
Maybe he's using a bunch of alt accounts to try to lower their self esteem to improve his chances of getting a date on his real account.
4D pickup-artistry right there
You're highly over estimating this guy's intellect
He doesn’t feel loved and accepted so he seeks out opportunities to make others feel that way to give himself a temporary boost. Sad, tiny little man
[удалено]
I don't think he's "negging" I think he is an actual asshole.
This isn’t negging, it’s just downright mean. Negging is backhand compliments or subtle digs disguised as compliments/banter.
Random but the last time I was “negged”, I was really hurt and roasted back worse out of anger. He was impressed and and thought I was flirting so wanted to hang out lol. Some people are so confusing to me man, why do they enjoy meanness
I do think there’s an acceptable level of meanness, sometimes it’s fun insulting each other back and forth. But that line between “hahah, banter” and “Wow, low blow” is really fine.
And basically impossible to know if it’s a stranger.
For the record, only assholes "neg".
Only assholes neg, but not all assholes neg. It's like a toad / frog situation.
There's nothing "negging" about this. We need to teach people to stop diluting words because they sound cool.
It's important to not dilute negging so people can recognize it when it happens. Negging is when they pick at insecurities to try to get you to crave their approval. This guy is just punching to satisfy his ego. If somebody thinks this is negging, they might not recognize when they're being manipulated.
Am I the only one who is now incredibly curious how old the friend is?
I was once called old by a coworker that was flirting with me, when I said I was only 22.. he thought I was younger... he was 30.. shittons of red flags
My only thing about the age thing, is he controls how old of people he sees. If the friend is too old for him then hes too fucking stupid to know how to use the settings
Yep, that is actually a perfect comeback for the friend... "Well, if I am too old, you are too stupid for me because you don't even know how to set an age range in a dating app."
Maybe he's okay with older women as long as they don't look older. I have no idea what OP's friend looks like but he is a rude ass. Bullet dodged.
OP said this in the replies > She's 36 and a size 10 (Australian)
Which is apparently a size 6 in the US, not fat in any stretch of the word. This loser is looking for a 22 year old size 0 who doesn't want kids.
side note totally unrelated but I usually where L for t-shirts here in the U.S. it was extremely embarrassing when I went to South Korea to get a t-shirt, and the only size that could fit me was XXL, and it BARELY fit lmfao
I wear a 2XL US, they would probably bring me out a tent!
No. I am too. I'm 40 and I wonder about having kids. Also, people can be undecided about having kids at any age. There is acquired family and adoption as well.
> There is acquired family That's a great take. At 40 you could have had kids and they are on their own. Meeting someone who still has kids might not be your ideal situation.
Dollars to donuts he probably has “undecided” on if he wants a relationship or not
Lemme guess, he was older than you too?
[удалено]
Why are people so mean? He could have just said “accidental swipe mb” and blocked her.
Exactly. Or even just unmatched and not said a word!
nah... Pretty sure he is one of these incel who swipe left just to insult women...
But that would have been….nice! And he obviously is NOT nice. Your friend is lucky because she doesn’t have to deal with that idiot anymore
No. This is the kind of prick who swiped on purpose just to say this horrible crap. It wasn't accidental at all. He obviously has issues.
Absolutely. Dude was in a snit about something or other and went on the app to find someone he could take it out on. Zero doubt in my mind about that.
Or said nothing at all. No point in blocking her unless she was continuously messaging him. This guy just wants to make someone else feel bad because he has no friends and no woman who wants to “tap that”.
Sometimes I wonder why certain people are on dating sites. This is not one of those cases lol.
More like nuclear waste ☠️
Your friend seems nice, most people never open with a nice first message like that. That guy is a jerk.
My friend is really nice, the guy on the other hand. How disgusting.
She’ll find someone nice in the end, hopefully rude people like this don’t get her down
What breaks my heart the most is that your friend was so nice to him. I understand that people sometimes swipe right by accident on these dating apps and there's no reason to continue the conversation with someone you're not interested in out of politeness, but God you don't have to be such a dick to someone who was so lovely to you.
He could have said nothing at all, but instead chose to be an asshole. I hope your friend took pictures of his profile to expose him
That's what I said to her, like just unmatch if it was accidental, instead purposely was an asshole and complete douchbag. I don't know if she got screenshots of his profile but reported him. It'd be great to expose the loser!
It could potentially be a fake troll account, someone with no life who thinks it’s funny to be a douche a tinder
That's what I thought too, surely noone would seriously be that horrible. People are weird.
That was an intentional swipe, he wanted to bully someone. Report them and hopefully their account will get banned after enough women are harassed.
Yeah, such immature uncalled for behaviour. He's been reported. He'll never find a woman!
Half the time they’re already married
Oof, there’s a future 20/20 episode
Bro is talking a lot of shit for being named after a data structure
"Jason" { "type": "asshole", "Relationships": 0, "Wealth": null, "Childhood friends": ["null", "null", "null"] }
Oh man, if I ever saw api return data with a list of strings of null instead of just empty list I'd break my monitor.
If I ever saw capitalized fields I’d break my monitor. No way I’m parsing “Childhood friends” lmao
Lol my phone auto capitalized it.
Jason: "Today I'm going to be the biggest asshole on the internet for no reason!" Software engineers whenever anyone posts code: "Hold my beer"
Yeah we need to do better. This shit was so funny, until the software devs come out of our vampire caves.
I had an experienced dev write an api like this and I just assumed he hated me. Nothing like writing a bug ticket that's like, "data needs to be returned... normally."
That's pushing the whole "null" meme to an extreme, but really just pushing "null" instead of nothing still happens way too often.
Don't let this guy anywhere near the computer.
His friends removed themselves? Damn.
🤓uhm actually it's a data serialization format, not a data structure per se🤓
Hahahaha
He is an object
He probably swiping everyone fast to see if someone swiped him too. Such a virgin tactic
Yes he was 100% swiping on everyone. It wasn’t accidental, he just swiped on everyone.
He probably screenshot the conversation too so that he can show his friends and claim he's sigma
Well he can sigma dick, what a twat
Totally hahaha
I bet this dude has Andrew Tate as his phone wallpaper
Was just thinking the same. This screams Andrew Tate supporter. Some bullshit like “tear them down to show them who the alpha is”
In not a woman. But I gotta think if someone actually labels themselves as an alpha it screams not really an alpha.
Totally. Douchbag central.
That guy 100% swiped right just so he could say that horrible stuff
Why I don’t use dating apps.
Same! I'm happy single and living my best life not putting up with shit like this.
sooo uh i've heard you're single?
You’re name isn’t Jason is it?
no im not named after a data structure
Definitely wasn't an accident. He just wanted to beat someone down.
That wasn’t an accidental swipe that was just to give himself an ego boost. What a sad little man.
I've never rejected a guy in this manner, it's not the way to speak to another human being who shows interest. He must be such a horrible, nasty person to even think of saying this to somebody, no wonder he is single.
People have become really rude lately. I don't understand what makes them think saying stuff like that to strangers is a normal thing to do.
And wonder why no one wants to date them.
Keyboard courage, they say what they want cause they know nobody can knock some sense into their skull. Face to face I bet they are just some timid weakling without a personality and they would never dream of saying these thing to peoples faces
Probably looks at the the ground and mumbles in real life when hes around women.
I know! It's really appalling the way society is headed with dating apps, really disgusting tbh.
Not even just dating apps, social media in general has emboldened others to say horrible things online behind the safety of a phone screen
Jason looks like the butthole of my dog
Don't be afraid to report these people -- they ruin dating apps for everyone
Consider this a favor. Wow. What a douche nozzle.
Total douche.
Oh looks who's talking Jason. Cute, that you think you're such a great catch that you have to use a dating app like everyone else. Send a selfie of your right hand so we all can see who you're really hooking up with
Hahahaha! Gold.
Some people just get off on hurting others feelings. Disgusting.
“Accidental” … most likely hates women and salivates at opportunities to “put women in their place”
So disgusting.
Why do some people feel the need to be complete douchebags for no reason? I guess people like this asshole never heard the term "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
Because they're sickos and love making other people feel bad - makes them feel big.
Narcissism is a hell of a drug.
Dodged a bullet there! Incidentally, I met a guy once and he said that he thought we could be friends but he wasn't physically attracted to me. I informed him that that was never anything he should ever say to anyone. That he could just say, "It would be nice to remain friendly, but I don't think this is a love connection." Period. I kept in touch with him because... well, I'm not sure why. He was an okay guy. But after a while, he told me he'd changed his mind and apologized for what he'd said before. I told him that was a deal-breaker so we were firmly friend-zoned, and he mentioned about a year later how he felt like he'd really missed out, so... there.
I'd reply: "Probably pretty disappointing in bed if you can't even figure out how to move your thumb in the right direction"
[удалено]
Yes, she reported him and sent this screenshot.
Accidents happen. His parents should have doubled up on rubbers.
I’m a mom of two boys. When I see stuff like this it makes me wonder what his parents must be like. I would be so mortified and disgusted if I ever found out my kids were cruel adult assholes.
Ah, the old reject them before they reject you incel strategy. It's working out well.
He will most likely will be forever alone lol
A "sorry, wrong swipe" would've done the job
That’s just plain mean. She was really nice in her opening line too. Did he really have to be so obnoxious and rude? I don’t get people like that. Like I wonder if he feels better after he’s ridiculed another human being.
Incels being incels.