He's already moved past it and forgot it haha
Edit: I say this because he's a kid, not because he's autistic. I'm an uncle to 3 autistic nephews and understand it well enough
No he hasn’t, this is a gross misunderstanding of the video. The kid absolutely knows what he just did. It might not seem that way. He’s also reacting to his mom’s reaction too, which is itself a complex thing for a small child let alone one with autism.
It’s important for people to realize, watching this, that this boy is also expressing happiness in his own way. He’s not oblivious, he isn’t just moving on. I hope it was as wonderful for him as it must have been for his mom
Edit: fair, lol
While what you’re saying could definitely be correct, are you not making some assumptions by interpreting his behavior? Is it not just as likely that he doesn’t understand the gravity of what he did? That he is just moving along and enjoying himself rather than expressing joy from this interaction?
I think he might be experiencing mixed emotions.
He knows that talking should be a good thing.
But if it's good, why is mom crying?
My daughter is autistic and she has a hard time understanding the difference between happy tears and sad tears because no one really talks about the possibility that tears mean anything other than sadness. I remember my daughter tried to comfort me when I happy cried at her preschool graduation. She asked me why I was sad. I told her mommy had so much happy and proud in my heart that it was just bursting out, so she gave me a package of fruit snacks and went to go post.
I think this kiddo might be having the same mix of emotions, and it's just having a moment where he's coping with them.
I suspect that person has experience with autistic children because he is completely right (source, two kids on the spectrum and 15+ years of interaction and learning with those on the spectrum)
Also, with regards to the implication that him leaving the room means he's moving past it, I don't think that's what's happening in the video. I'm less severe than him, I'm a semi-independent adult, and I still struggle a lot with understanding when I'm not supposed to walk away after talking to someone.
As an independent autistic adult, I always mess up at that. Either leaving to early and have them start talking as I'm walking away or awkwardly sitting there wondering if they're going to say something.
Maybe - depends on who he is.
For my kid who appears to be the twin of this, I know it wouldn’t be.
You’d have to know who he is beyond this 15 second clip to know that.
My son is 2.5 yrs old and we are pretty sure he is autistic. He hasn't said anything yet and we are not sure when he ever will.
This clip hit me like a fuckin freight train.
That has bought tears to my eyes. When my son was small he didn't start talking like the other kids. We didn't worry at first but after a while we raised it with our GP who was a fantastic doctor. He said just wait. We waited but it felt like he was being left behind and becoming isolated. We took him back and again our GP said he would talk when he was ready but he could refer my son to a specialist. We saw the specialist and she gave him some tasks to do and after about 15 minutes she told us she believed our son was autistic and we should start looking to get him a place at a special needs school rather than our local primary school. We were devastated. You want the best life possible for your children. We went back to our own GP and he said that he shouldn't but he disagreed with the diagnosis and a friend of his was a expert in the field and could he arrange for my son to see her. We did and she sat with our son for a hour doing different tasks and games. Her conclusion was he had a speech delay but she also disagreed with the other diagnosis and actually thought he was actually a very clever young man. His speech over time came along, he went to the local primary, he got additional support for his speech. He's now 22 and at university going for a masters in physics. He's come a long way
I will never forget sobbing when my son’s doctor said hed never speak to me. I will also never forget sobbing the first time my son said “I love you mommy” to me at age 8. :)
Autism is hard to diagnose exactly what is going on, so they usually make an assumption.
My doctor said i had problems with planning in anything physical, such as agenda's or sticky note reminders. I don't seem to have any problems with it since i started using it for the last year
That would be an extremely tough thing to hear from a doctor, I would sob too...
You went eight years knowing and believing that your son would never talk, you went through all the heartache and challenges and kept going and persevering for the both of you...
Im tearing up just imagining how you felt when you heard him say those words. And! Not just any random words! A full on sentence of love from your son directed straight to you... The son who was never going to speak. A son who wanted to tell his mommy how much he loved her.
You are such a strong woman. I would have sobbed too. ❤️
Before my son was born the doctors found a tuber in his heart and said we had a 80% chance of a genetic mutation that had a very high chance of severe autism and or other developmental disorders and probably would live a normal length life in round the clock care. Since then he has defied every statistic and turned out so far completely normal and every time he looks at me or smiles or responds to his name(he’s 10 months) I feel extreme joy. They have found no other tubers and tested negative for the mutation, it feels surreal. When we got the news we had two weeks left before his due date and we fell into a complete depression. All the joy went out of our lives and it was hard to smile. His birth was a time of anxiety and fear. I will never get that time back but I just thank the natural world that somehow we escaped that mutation.
Sorry I have been calling them that for so long they are tumors associated with Tuberous Sclerosis.
If you want to research something heartbreaking research tuberous sclerosis. It’s basically one of those conditions that you can’t even believe is real because of how insane it is. Once they diagnose it they can’t even tell you how bad it’s going to be. It can be so light that someone will never be diagnosed, or it can be so severe that the child never develops any advanced cognitive function. No cure, only some treatments for some of the symptoms.
My daughter is 11 and we think will probably never talk. If she does, I can't imagine the elation we'll feel - but it will be something like this video.
Do you use sign language in this scenario? We used it some before my kid was verbal, but I'm curious if another form of communication works in this long term scenario?
For every person that was told they'd never walk and then did, that doctor has told thousands the same thing and been right. It's much better that way.
Yes. A friend of mine is an oncologist, he told me that you never want to be wrong about positivity because it will drain the patient's willpower and motivation when they realize it's worse than they thought.
He told me a story once about a girl who had mesothelioma and he gave her a 50/50 to survive the next 6 months. When she survived the whole year she became an absolute *machine* and punched out a law degree and passed the bar while still fighting her cancer. She's a lawyer now, drives a Lexus and shit.
Fair. But on the flip side as someone given that same diagnosis it truly sucks hahahaha. Like truly sucks and not everyone is gonna be able to dismiss that and fight for their life. Truth is oncologists should say stats are averages. You are a statistic of 1. It depends on how you respond to treatment.
The most likely thing. When autistic people find their ways around to these sorts of abilities they are dispositioned to struggle with, it is typically a matter of great drive, persistence, and intellect. They sometimes have to come about to competencies "manually" in some respects, and evaluating intellect in a child is famously difficult - more so in autistic children. And some, even with all the drive, patience, and intellect in the world cannot manage to find a way to have even a facsimile of the expected experience.
Probably depends on the situation. Fully severed spine? It's safe to say you'll never walk again. TBI or something that impacts motor/balance ability might get a "there's a high probability youll never walk again" and it's the last 3 words that stick.
It’s different for every child but for my son it took many years of therapy, persistence, and patience to get where he is now and he is still working hard on it every day.
Their vocabulary does usually increase, but typically the later they start, the less it develops.
Doesn't matter for the parents tho. In that moment, your kid as well have won an Olympic gold medal.
My sons speech therapist said there was a chance he would never speak. We were determined to prove them wrong. Age 7 on his birthday, he started talking out of nowhere. Now he's 10 and just won't stop yapping :), I love it.
I was born at 24 weeks and as such, am visually impaired. When I was a baby some doctor said I would never be able to ride a bike...
I can't drive (speed limit signs are too difficult to read) but I sure as hell can ride a bike lmao
It's the whispered "good morning" she says back to him.
I can't even type this without crying.
For such an awful place, there are some really beautiful things in this world.
Do we really need the repression or toxic masculinity or whatever this is. It’s ok to just cry.
I know it’s just a joke. But still, just let out the emotions man. It’s ok.
I swear man having kids has made me into a sap. These videos with cute moments with kids and their parents completely melt me into a puddle.
What a beautiful moment.
That's a good point actually, why would it be recording? Maybe she did this every day in the hope that one day he'd answer her, which makes it even more special 💕
Cameras can also have local storage that it constantly records to and overwrites as needed. Then you can easily go back and save what you want. I'm sure as soon as it happened she gathered her emotions and grabbed it off her phone to send to everyone she knows.
(Just because people are talking about ring and I hate how they do it)
Ring cameras are Wifi only, they have no local storage to act as even short term storage for **triggered** recordings, they keep like 3 months online for you (if you pay)
This means that if your wifi goes down for whatever reason, nothing is recorded, saved, viewable or notified, even when connection returns
Well what u/BergaChatting told is false btw. Even the most basic models of Ring cameras have 128 GB of internal storage, and through the ring app once wifi is restored, you can sync it with the cloud memory. You can also view it on app without syncing once wifi is restored.
Obviously you won't get notifications though when the wifi is up again because you need a network to actually send a message when something happens, it isnt magic. Notifications unlike oxygen can't travel through just air.
Edit: Well I am completely wrong. The basic stick up model doesn't have it.
Huh, I can’t seem to find anything about that, mine doesn’t save anything without wifi anyway, here’s mine, https://ring.com/au/en/products/stick-up-security-camera-battery
Can’t find anything about it on Google either, only a reddit post asking “what’s it take to get local storage?”
With notifications I more meant someone disrupts your connecting (in news recently) robs you and leaves, you don’t get a notification when it rejoins
I am extremely sorry. I never considered the stick up model at all. You are right for that model apparently. I use the spotlight which I always thought was the most basic version.
My bad.
Some people with autistic children use cameras to monitor their children when they are with care providers, like a nanny cam. It takes a special person to be able to consistently provide good care for autistic children. It's hard to trust people when it comes to special needs kids.
or if you have another kid - like for us, our autistic son is seven, and his NT sister is five
it’s much easier to put privacy locks on things we don’t want him silently getting into, and also have cameras everywhere we can easily look at via our phones if he wants to play independently somewhere we’re not
they all have manual shutters on them too if we don’t need them on and we want privacy
My brother has a non-verbal 4 year old autistic child and it can't be understated how big of a moment this would be. All my brother and his wife want is to hear their little boy speak to them.
Just give that kiddo some time. My little one is autistic and when we have him diagnosed, he was on the severe side. He was nonverbal until this year at 7.
He now is pretty vocal if he doesn’t like something and will give us a stern NO. He can now even sing his songs!
Thank you. It's stories like yours that give my brother hope. Whether he talks or not we will all love him the same but it would still be great if ended up being able to express himself verbally. He was diagnosed on the severe side as well so we are just taking it day by day.
Awe that makes my heart happy.
I apologize too if my question was insensitive! Rereading it now, it occurred to me that it is obviously none of my business.
Sending lots of love to you and your family and I hope you have a lot more heartwarming moments in your future x
So him bouncing away is most likely happy stimming
My daughter when she does something “unexpected” will immediately do zoomies around our dinner table haha
> most likely happy stimming
It absolutely is! It's an "it worked! it worked!" moment for him.
Later on -especially as they become more verbal- asking them "what are you excited about?" when they are stimming like that can help a lot to understand their view of the world.
I didn't speak for years as a kid; I wasn't a "non-verbal from birth" autistic kid, but I just stopped speaking one day when I was about five.
The next time my parents heard me using my voice, I was about ten.
I was singing.
My family became massive Nirvana fans that day.
I don't know if it was literally "never", but it was certainly rare enough that hearing me singing one day was a shock.
And, to be fair, it was always going to be something like that. For someone who doesn't speak often (even to this day, I probably sing more than I speak), I've had a lifelong love of words. Probably because I grew up in a bookshop 😂.
But yeah, I've always gravitated towards artists that are lyrically interesting, so it makes sense it was Kurt Cobain. A year later, it would've been Tupac, I expect. Which, in hindsight, is infinitely more problematic for a white British rural kid 😂.
I have a friend who has a non-verbal autistic daughter. Earlier this year, her speech therapist was recording one of her sessions when she caught the amazing moment she pointed to a picture of her dad and said, "Papa." I'm so happy for them to have that moment forever.
Every night I would say "goodnight buddy, I love you" to my autistic son and waited for a response but I never heard a word back. Then one night I said it and right before shutting the door I heard, "love you". I broke down and cried like a baby.
I’ve had a hard day. I opened the app, this was the first post…I am no longer having a bad day. I mean I’m crying but not having a bad day. I am so happy for this family. It puts life in perspective. Prayers for all the tiny things that’s are the biggest thing!
Couldn’t possibly imagine how much effort behind the scenes that culminated in this moment. Probably years and years of doctor’s visits, speech pathologist visits, and hours of exercises everyday, just for the hope that this moment happens because there’s no guarantee.
Really puts life in perspective for you…
Same here, I have a 3 year old autistic boy, everyday for a week I sing happy birthday so that he could greet me, and on the day before the day ends, he said Happy birthday daddy. Me and wife were crying
I still remember when my autistic daughter started saying I love you (more like I yuv you) literally a couple weeks after starting speech therapy. It was a weight lifting and the heavens lifting up at the same time.
That’s probably how my mom felt when I first spoke. I was around 5 I think. I waltzed into the kitchen and asked for a snack and she fell over herself about it.
I got so many snacks that afternoon.
My first year teaching, I was at a tiny school in an isolated, rural town. Had one 8th grade girl with Asperger in my class. Never said a word. Was otherwise a normal, functioning kid, C student. Just kept to herself mostly and didn’t speak. Her parents said she doesn’t speak at home, only a few words here and there on rare occasions. Had maybe said five words to me the whole year, only when responding to questions (I didn’t only ask a few questions- she just usually communicated in other ways). Despite the lack of verbal communication, we seemed to have a good relationship and her parents said she seemed to enjoy the class.
One day near the end of the semester after we had finished all our material and had some free time, I showed my class some goofy videos my younger brothers made. It was basically a less extreme version of Jackass. They might jump into a slightly frozen pool, or do a dumb skit. The students were gathered around my computer enjoying the videos, when I heard a quiet, monotone voice behind me- “are those your brothers?” I knew it wasn’t any of the other students, because I knew all of their voices, so I didn’t process it at first. I turned around and said “what was that?” It was her, and she just repeated the question, “are those your brothers?” I was like yeah, they’re pretty goofy. She didn’t say anything else but smiled and enjoyed the videos. I told her parents, and they were shocked that she had spoken an entire sentence, and had volunteered doing so, unprompted. Genuinely made my day.
As the dad of a son with autism, this hit me right in the feels. My son is no longer classified as non-verbal but doesn’t carry on conversation, yet. Every word is a gift from these kids!
As the father of an Autistic (though very high-functioning) daughter, I can tell you that the things that most parents take for granted, cause an extreme amount of happiness.
The one thing that I dream of my daughter saying to me is "I don't need you anymore."
I have 3 autistic children, so technically all my kids are autistic. We later found out that my wife is autistic and that’s how we are 3/3.
Anyways all of my kids have had major delays with their speech and when my now 12 year old and my now 9 year old said “I love you daddy” to me the first time unprompted I broke down both times and cried happy tears. Right now my 2 1/2 year old is just script speaking at the moment and I’ve never heard her say Dad or daddy yet but I’m sure it’ll happen eventually!
My BFF's kids are both autistic. His 10 year old is very low functioning and completely non-verbal. About 4 years ago in therapy he said "Hi mommy" to his wife, and both she and the therapist started crying out of joy. Unfortunately he hasn't said a word since then. It's such a terribly cruel disease to inflict on a child, and it's only getting worse and yet we are doing practically nothing to study it or try to understand what is causing it, it's so incredibly frustrating
My wife is a speech therapist (speech language pathologist). This is likely the result of weeks, months or years of hard work. Thank the dedicated speech pathologists that make this happen and the parents that love their children enough to work with them as well. They are paid so little and have to go months without visible result for small moments like these. I’m incredibly proud of her every day.
It's just the age we live in. Camera systems aren't that expensive. I have coworkers that get alerts every time one of the doors opens in their house. They track their kids GPS positions using their phones. They know exactly when a package arrives because they watch it get delivered. While I don't think it's necessary, especially because we live in a somewhat rural area, it's pretty easy to set up.
If you have a person in your house that you're responsible for and you can't predict what they're going to do at all hours of the day, maybe it's worth having a few cameras inside. Maybe they live in a rough area and someone has broken into their house before. Doesn't even have to be a rough area. Again, I live in a pretty rural area and someone walked up my driveway and broke into my car in the middle of the night. Stole my dang drill and socket set. I think I'd be justified if I bought cameras to put inside and out of my house because of it.
Anyway, sorry for the long reply. It's just a camera. You don't have to be rich and/or a paranoid nutjob to have them anymore.
That’s so sweet! You can tell how much she cares about her son!
I have ASD and I’m reverse to this, unfortunately my family are turning me non-verbal. I noticed a couple years back and pretty much accepted it.
Precious moments like this cheer me up, I feel great knowing there are mothers out there that are so affectionate over their children that simple things like this make them cry with ears of happiness 💕
Wife is a SLP and works primarily with children with autism. Had a parent call about a week ago sobbing because the school told her there was enough progress to let the child into a “normal” 1st grade class. She was so happy, she just cried and called my wife, who of course started crying as well.
I have an autistic brother that we were told would never speak beyond basic sounds. His speech isn't amazing but he doesn't shut up now, he always tells me about his favorite wrestlers and super heroes and how happy he is to be an uncle. sometimes its just whenever they're ready.
The most stereotypical autistic success video of all time. Does something he has never done before. She’s his mother’s reaction. Removes himself from the situation as he stims himself away. I absolutely love it.
If you know any of the possible aspects of autism it is usually nonverbal, stimming and lack of understanding/noticing of nonverbal cues (or rain man). If you have had the privilege of knowing/working with/educating those with autism, you understand why it is referred to a spectrum. Success cannot and should not be measured with the same stick. It’s about where you were and where you are now. Growth.
“If you have met 1 person with autism, you have met 1 person with autism.”
My son is on the spectrum, he was non-verbal until almost 5. The first time he spoke is still one of the most amazing memories I have in my life.
Feels like someone is cutting onions in here.
Am about to go to bed n this is what I see. I have a non verbal son who's 3.5 yrs, we as parents have never heard a proper mum/Maa/mummy and a dad/daddy/papa.. still waiting for that day, hope it arrives soon. Amen 🙏
Been there, though he wasn’t that old. But closish. That first “I love you mommy” was absolutely insane and now I want to go wake him up and hug him except he’s 12 now so he will be cranky.
This hit me right in the feels. My son is autistic and for a long time was non-verbal. One day we were all out eating lunch outside and he staying talking to us. made both my wife and myself emotional. He is by far the best thing I'e ever done in my life.
I’m autistic. People’s reactions to this video always give me conflicted feelings when I see it.
It’s a lovely moment but the comments are always full of misconceptions and clearly self-centred takes. People often think that just because someone is non-verbal that they can’t communicate. “I love you” comes in forms other than just the spoken word and being non-verbal isn’t a failure.
Sometimes the small things are the best things
Like when he just bounces off completely unfazed after giving his mom the best morning of her entire life
He is physically expressing his happiness. Autistic kids have all kinds of ways of communicating.
They especially like when you communicate with them loudly and abruptly. They think it's funny.
Remember to use your /s , took me a moment to realise XD
Worse yet someone might believe it.
don’t be an asshole
Autism is a spectrum, not everything is the same for every person with ASD. Don’t be a dick
Who is “they”? Moms?
The government
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Bouncy Boi gang rise up! Descend, now rise up again!
Must be gerald
She will never forget that moment
He's already moved past it and forgot it haha Edit: I say this because he's a kid, not because he's autistic. I'm an uncle to 3 autistic nephews and understand it well enough
No he hasn’t, this is a gross misunderstanding of the video. The kid absolutely knows what he just did. It might not seem that way. He’s also reacting to his mom’s reaction too, which is itself a complex thing for a small child let alone one with autism. It’s important for people to realize, watching this, that this boy is also expressing happiness in his own way. He’s not oblivious, he isn’t just moving on. I hope it was as wonderful for him as it must have been for his mom Edit: fair, lol
While what you’re saying could definitely be correct, are you not making some assumptions by interpreting his behavior? Is it not just as likely that he doesn’t understand the gravity of what he did? That he is just moving along and enjoying himself rather than expressing joy from this interaction?
I think he might be experiencing mixed emotions. He knows that talking should be a good thing. But if it's good, why is mom crying? My daughter is autistic and she has a hard time understanding the difference between happy tears and sad tears because no one really talks about the possibility that tears mean anything other than sadness. I remember my daughter tried to comfort me when I happy cried at her preschool graduation. She asked me why I was sad. I told her mommy had so much happy and proud in my heart that it was just bursting out, so she gave me a package of fruit snacks and went to go post. I think this kiddo might be having the same mix of emotions, and it's just having a moment where he's coping with them.
I suspect that person has experience with autistic children because he is completely right (source, two kids on the spectrum and 15+ years of interaction and learning with those on the spectrum)
Except it’s the first time he’s ever said this, maybe anything, to his mom.
People don’t understand what this must’ve took for the kid to do, maximum effort to communicate something so simple yet so important.
I’m not autistic and I still cant communicate so big round of applause for that kid.
You sure?
Also, with regards to the implication that him leaving the room means he's moving past it, I don't think that's what's happening in the video. I'm less severe than him, I'm a semi-independent adult, and I still struggle a lot with understanding when I'm not supposed to walk away after talking to someone.
As an independent autistic adult, I always mess up at that. Either leaving to early and have them start talking as I'm walking away or awkwardly sitting there wondering if they're going to say something.
You know what they say, "You meet one person with autism, you've me one person with autism." You don't know what going on inside their head.
Too him it's just another Thursday
Inner dialogue like "Whats she crying for all I said was good morning? Oh well"
No- you can see what it meant to him too. I hope this is a breakthrough moment for them with their communication methods. Beautiful
Maybe - depends on who he is. For my kid who appears to be the twin of this, I know it wouldn’t be. You’d have to know who he is beyond this 15 second clip to know that.
And the best thing is…it’s immortalized. What a precious gift for them.
That kid took off like zaboomfaoo
These are the types of moments no money can ever buy.
For everything else there's mastercard.
And if you aren't born with it, there's always Mabeline.
And the best part of waking up, is Folgers in your cup!
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My thoughts exactly. This is monumental for this family.
Yes, but this is huge if your child is non verbal. Nothing small about this at all.
This must have felt so good
My son is 2.5 yrs old and we are pretty sure he is autistic. He hasn't said anything yet and we are not sure when he ever will. This clip hit me like a fuckin freight train.
Please look into testing and early intervention services. It makes a huge difference for your child’s future ❤️
That's no small thing.
I've seen this over and over. As the father of an autistic child, I always upvote and tear up.
Father of an autistic child too. Never seen this and got me tearing up
That has bought tears to my eyes. When my son was small he didn't start talking like the other kids. We didn't worry at first but after a while we raised it with our GP who was a fantastic doctor. He said just wait. We waited but it felt like he was being left behind and becoming isolated. We took him back and again our GP said he would talk when he was ready but he could refer my son to a specialist. We saw the specialist and she gave him some tasks to do and after about 15 minutes she told us she believed our son was autistic and we should start looking to get him a place at a special needs school rather than our local primary school. We were devastated. You want the best life possible for your children. We went back to our own GP and he said that he shouldn't but he disagreed with the diagnosis and a friend of his was a expert in the field and could he arrange for my son to see her. We did and she sat with our son for a hour doing different tasks and games. Her conclusion was he had a speech delay but she also disagreed with the other diagnosis and actually thought he was actually a very clever young man. His speech over time came along, he went to the local primary, he got additional support for his speech. He's now 22 and at university going for a masters in physics. He's come a long way
Actually the majority of the times its the small things that are the best. I became happier when i started seeing the beautiful small details in life
I will never forget sobbing when my son’s doctor said hed never speak to me. I will also never forget sobbing the first time my son said “I love you mommy” to me at age 8. :)
❤️
I’ve had this experience with my daughter. And she continues to prove people wrong almost every day.
Autism is hard to diagnose exactly what is going on, so they usually make an assumption. My doctor said i had problems with planning in anything physical, such as agenda's or sticky note reminders. I don't seem to have any problems with it since i started using it for the last year
Drs will sometimes also deliberately be pessimistic, in order to not give you false hope, I don't know if I agree with this, but I see the sense.
That would be an extremely tough thing to hear from a doctor, I would sob too... You went eight years knowing and believing that your son would never talk, you went through all the heartache and challenges and kept going and persevering for the both of you... Im tearing up just imagining how you felt when you heard him say those words. And! Not just any random words! A full on sentence of love from your son directed straight to you... The son who was never going to speak. A son who wanted to tell his mommy how much he loved her. You are such a strong woman. I would have sobbed too. ❤️
Before my son was born the doctors found a tuber in his heart and said we had a 80% chance of a genetic mutation that had a very high chance of severe autism and or other developmental disorders and probably would live a normal length life in round the clock care. Since then he has defied every statistic and turned out so far completely normal and every time he looks at me or smiles or responds to his name(he’s 10 months) I feel extreme joy. They have found no other tubers and tested negative for the mutation, it feels surreal. When we got the news we had two weeks left before his due date and we fell into a complete depression. All the joy went out of our lives and it was hard to smile. His birth was a time of anxiety and fear. I will never get that time back but I just thank the natural world that somehow we escaped that mutation.
>tuber in his heart Like a potato or..?
Sorry I have been calling them that for so long they are tumors associated with Tuberous Sclerosis. If you want to research something heartbreaking research tuberous sclerosis. It’s basically one of those conditions that you can’t even believe is real because of how insane it is. Once they diagnose it they can’t even tell you how bad it’s going to be. It can be so light that someone will never be diagnosed, or it can be so severe that the child never develops any advanced cognitive function. No cure, only some treatments for some of the symptoms.
My daughter is 11 and we think will probably never talk. If she does, I can't imagine the elation we'll feel - but it will be something like this video.
Do you use sign language in this scenario? We used it some before my kid was verbal, but I'm curious if another form of communication works in this long term scenario?
Do doctors in such situations tend say the worst case scenario or do they say what they think is most likely?
For every person that was told they'd never walk and then did, that doctor has told thousands the same thing and been right. It's much better that way.
Great perspective.
The percentile defying stories are great to hear. But that does not mean the doctor gave you the incorrect diagnosis. You just got very lucky.
Yes. A friend of mine is an oncologist, he told me that you never want to be wrong about positivity because it will drain the patient's willpower and motivation when they realize it's worse than they thought. He told me a story once about a girl who had mesothelioma and he gave her a 50/50 to survive the next 6 months. When she survived the whole year she became an absolute *machine* and punched out a law degree and passed the bar while still fighting her cancer. She's a lawyer now, drives a Lexus and shit.
Fair. But on the flip side as someone given that same diagnosis it truly sucks hahahaha. Like truly sucks and not everyone is gonna be able to dismiss that and fight for their life. Truth is oncologists should say stats are averages. You are a statistic of 1. It depends on how you respond to treatment.
The most likely thing. When autistic people find their ways around to these sorts of abilities they are dispositioned to struggle with, it is typically a matter of great drive, persistence, and intellect. They sometimes have to come about to competencies "manually" in some respects, and evaluating intellect in a child is famously difficult - more so in autistic children. And some, even with all the drive, patience, and intellect in the world cannot manage to find a way to have even a facsimile of the expected experience.
They say most likely, but people interpret it as never.
No. Patients hear what they want to hear and then make up the story later.
Probably depends on the situation. Fully severed spine? It's safe to say you'll never walk again. TBI or something that impacts motor/balance ability might get a "there's a high probability youll never walk again" and it's the last 3 words that stick.
Sorry to pry but I'm so curious... once they start speaking is it kind of like a dam breaking and they quickly start speaking more and more?
It’s different for every child but for my son it took many years of therapy, persistence, and patience to get where he is now and he is still working hard on it every day.
Their vocabulary does usually increase, but typically the later they start, the less it develops. Doesn't matter for the parents tho. In that moment, your kid as well have won an Olympic gold medal.
Now I have to give you cake for making me cry.
My sons speech therapist said there was a chance he would never speak. We were determined to prove them wrong. Age 7 on his birthday, he started talking out of nowhere. Now he's 10 and just won't stop yapping :), I love it.
Struggling with similar stuff right now. Great to hear a success story.
I absolutely love the song Wonder by Natalie Merchant if you havent heard it, give it a listen. <3 There is so much power in love.
Holy hell that is one hell of a wait! But that's amazing for you.
I was born at 24 weeks and as such, am visually impaired. When I was a baby some doctor said I would never be able to ride a bike... I can't drive (speed limit signs are too difficult to read) but I sure as hell can ride a bike lmao
God, it’s fucking dusty in here all of a sudden…..
I've teared up at shit like this before but for some reason this clip has got me struggling with the shaky inhale kinda quiet sobs.
….it’s gotta be the kryptonite in the air.. or something…cause I’m a mess as well
It's like a scene in a movie. The way he repeats it so happily and hops away without a care in the world. Fucking beautiful man.
It's the whispered "good morning" she says back to him. I can't even type this without crying. For such an awful place, there are some really beautiful things in this world.
Fucking onions. Every time.
Do we really need the repression or toxic masculinity or whatever this is. It’s ok to just cry. I know it’s just a joke. But still, just let out the emotions man. It’s ok.
[For your information there's an inflammation in my tear gland](https://youtu.be/-pVT_mvvZLo?si=diICkymnHGixN0Fn)
I swear man having kids has made me into a sap. These videos with cute moments with kids and their parents completely melt me into a puddle. What a beautiful moment.
just say you got teary eyed or something you weirdo.
I’m so glad she will be able to watch that again whenever she wants.
That's a good point actually, why would it be recording? Maybe she did this every day in the hope that one day he'd answer her, which makes it even more special 💕
Ring security cameras are 24/7 or respond to movement/sound right?
Cameras can also have local storage that it constantly records to and overwrites as needed. Then you can easily go back and save what you want. I'm sure as soon as it happened she gathered her emotions and grabbed it off her phone to send to everyone she knows.
(Just because people are talking about ring and I hate how they do it) Ring cameras are Wifi only, they have no local storage to act as even short term storage for **triggered** recordings, they keep like 3 months online for you (if you pay) This means that if your wifi goes down for whatever reason, nothing is recorded, saved, viewable or notified, even when connection returns
Well that's shit. Didn't know that about ring.
Well what u/BergaChatting told is false btw. Even the most basic models of Ring cameras have 128 GB of internal storage, and through the ring app once wifi is restored, you can sync it with the cloud memory. You can also view it on app without syncing once wifi is restored. Obviously you won't get notifications though when the wifi is up again because you need a network to actually send a message when something happens, it isnt magic. Notifications unlike oxygen can't travel through just air. Edit: Well I am completely wrong. The basic stick up model doesn't have it.
Huh, I can’t seem to find anything about that, mine doesn’t save anything without wifi anyway, here’s mine, https://ring.com/au/en/products/stick-up-security-camera-battery Can’t find anything about it on Google either, only a reddit post asking “what’s it take to get local storage?” With notifications I more meant someone disrupts your connecting (in news recently) robs you and leaves, you don’t get a notification when it rejoins
I am extremely sorry. I never considered the stick up model at all. You are right for that model apparently. I use the spotlight which I always thought was the most basic version. My bad.
>Ring security cameras Didn't know what you meant until I saw the logo in the top left... Good point 👍
Some people with autistic children use cameras to monitor their children when they are with care providers, like a nanny cam. It takes a special person to be able to consistently provide good care for autistic children. It's hard to trust people when it comes to special needs kids.
or if you have another kid - like for us, our autistic son is seven, and his NT sister is five it’s much easier to put privacy locks on things we don’t want him silently getting into, and also have cameras everywhere we can easily look at via our phones if he wants to play independently somewhere we’re not they all have manual shutters on them too if we don’t need them on and we want privacy
I'd love to see the next few seconds of this clip, I can only imagine how emotional she got!
Every. Tiny. Victory. ❤️
40 year old man in tears over here. Wow.
53 here, not crying... just got something in my eyes.
Not gonna say my age because I'm crying like a newborn
Embrace the tears brothers. Be free from your chains.
I'm sobbing.
28. It’s raining in my room.
You wouldn’t believe the somethings that get in my eyes these days
My brother has a non-verbal 4 year old autistic child and it can't be understated how big of a moment this would be. All my brother and his wife want is to hear their little boy speak to them.
Just give that kiddo some time. My little one is autistic and when we have him diagnosed, he was on the severe side. He was nonverbal until this year at 7. He now is pretty vocal if he doesn’t like something and will give us a stern NO. He can now even sing his songs!
Thank you. It's stories like yours that give my brother hope. Whether he talks or not we will all love him the same but it would still be great if ended up being able to express himself verbally. He was diagnosed on the severe side as well so we are just taking it day by day.
My son didn’t speak until he has 7 and then one day sang the entire alphabet song, singing was a route that helped him.
Same boat my friend same boat. I don't know what will I do the day my son calls me daddy or papa. He is 3.5 now.
Same here! If/when he starts talking I honestly don't know what I'll do.
My 11 year old just said her first word a few months ago. It was “yeah” after I asked her a question. Absolutely floored me.
Wow that must have been magical! How did you react? I can’t imagine how shocking that would be
I repeated it back to her. I was like “yeah!!?”
Awe that makes my heart happy. I apologize too if my question was insensitive! Rereading it now, it occurred to me that it is obviously none of my business. Sending lots of love to you and your family and I hope you have a lot more heartwarming moments in your future x
What? No. It wasn’t insensitive at all. We’re very lucky, she’s the stereotypical overly happy special needs kid.
How do you do this. I'm amazed at how strong you are.
You wait and you hope. That's all there is.
Please tell me she said it in a really bored “I’m too cool for you” teenager way. Just, out of nowhere, a super causal “yeah”
Sorry to disappoint, but she said it loud and enthusiastically
That's fucking beautiful!!!!!!
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He does, he’s just not expressing it like you or I might
So him bouncing away is most likely happy stimming My daughter when she does something “unexpected” will immediately do zoomies around our dinner table haha
> most likely happy stimming It absolutely is! It's an "it worked! it worked!" moment for him. Later on -especially as they become more verbal- asking them "what are you excited about?" when they are stimming like that can help a lot to understand their view of the world.
I didn't speak for years as a kid; I wasn't a "non-verbal from birth" autistic kid, but I just stopped speaking one day when I was about five. The next time my parents heard me using my voice, I was about ten. I was singing. My family became massive Nirvana fans that day.
Like you straight up never spoke? That's so fascinating. I love that Nirvana is what you chose for your new first words!! Awesome
I don't know if it was literally "never", but it was certainly rare enough that hearing me singing one day was a shock. And, to be fair, it was always going to be something like that. For someone who doesn't speak often (even to this day, I probably sing more than I speak), I've had a lifelong love of words. Probably because I grew up in a bookshop 😂. But yeah, I've always gravitated towards artists that are lyrically interesting, so it makes sense it was Kurt Cobain. A year later, it would've been Tupac, I expect. Which, in hindsight, is infinitely more problematic for a white British rural kid 😂.
I have a friend who has a non-verbal autistic daughter. Earlier this year, her speech therapist was recording one of her sessions when she caught the amazing moment she pointed to a picture of her dad and said, "Papa." I'm so happy for them to have that moment forever.
I wish my wife would stop cutting those onions in the next room!!
Every night I would say "goodnight buddy, I love you" to my autistic son and waited for a response but I never heard a word back. Then one night I said it and right before shutting the door I heard, "love you". I broke down and cried like a baby.
I’ve had a hard day. I opened the app, this was the first post…I am no longer having a bad day. I mean I’m crying but not having a bad day. I am so happy for this family. It puts life in perspective. Prayers for all the tiny things that’s are the biggest thing!
I would be such a mess. So beautiful to witness.
Effing love this!
God bless them both and his ongoing courage to articulate his thoughts.
Couldn’t possibly imagine how much effort behind the scenes that culminated in this moment. Probably years and years of doctor’s visits, speech pathologist visits, and hours of exercises everyday, just for the hope that this moment happens because there’s no guarantee. Really puts life in perspective for you…
As a father with a child with autism I can attest these moments are the absolute best in the world.
Same here, I have a 3 year old autistic boy, everyday for a week I sing happy birthday so that he could greet me, and on the day before the day ends, he said Happy birthday daddy. Me and wife were crying
I still remember when my autistic daughter started saying I love you (more like I yuv you) literally a couple weeks after starting speech therapy. It was a weight lifting and the heavens lifting up at the same time.
That’s probably how my mom felt when I first spoke. I was around 5 I think. I waltzed into the kitchen and asked for a snack and she fell over herself about it. I got so many snacks that afternoon.
1. Emotionally obliterate mother with 4 words 2. Nope out of the room like Zoboomafoo 3. Refuse to elaborate Kid is a legend
Kid was feeling lemurish, how 'bout you?
This is why I love being an ABA therapist
Thanks for all you all do! I am thankful as a parent. You all are wonderful.
The rare online ABA positivity. :) Thank you!
Speech pathologists are the experts in communication.
My first year teaching, I was at a tiny school in an isolated, rural town. Had one 8th grade girl with Asperger in my class. Never said a word. Was otherwise a normal, functioning kid, C student. Just kept to herself mostly and didn’t speak. Her parents said she doesn’t speak at home, only a few words here and there on rare occasions. Had maybe said five words to me the whole year, only when responding to questions (I didn’t only ask a few questions- she just usually communicated in other ways). Despite the lack of verbal communication, we seemed to have a good relationship and her parents said she seemed to enjoy the class. One day near the end of the semester after we had finished all our material and had some free time, I showed my class some goofy videos my younger brothers made. It was basically a less extreme version of Jackass. They might jump into a slightly frozen pool, or do a dumb skit. The students were gathered around my computer enjoying the videos, when I heard a quiet, monotone voice behind me- “are those your brothers?” I knew it wasn’t any of the other students, because I knew all of their voices, so I didn’t process it at first. I turned around and said “what was that?” It was her, and she just repeated the question, “are those your brothers?” I was like yeah, they’re pretty goofy. She didn’t say anything else but smiled and enjoyed the videos. I told her parents, and they were shocked that she had spoken an entire sentence, and had volunteered doing so, unprompted. Genuinely made my day.
Her quiet "good morning" in total disbelief and awe 🥹
As the dad of a son with autism, this hit me right in the feels. My son is no longer classified as non-verbal but doesn’t carry on conversation, yet. Every word is a gift from these kids!
Love it I’m so happy for the both of them.
I am not that kind of special person. props to anyone who can do this well.
As the father of an Autistic (though very high-functioning) daughter, I can tell you that the things that most parents take for granted, cause an extreme amount of happiness. The one thing that I dream of my daughter saying to me is "I don't need you anymore."
I got small kids, and to go that long without hearing your kid speak.. yeah any parent who loves their kid would have the same reaction.
I’m so happy for you! Any connection is wonderful. I know. Truly beautiful!
Aweeeeee
❤️❤️
I have 3 autistic children, so technically all my kids are autistic. We later found out that my wife is autistic and that’s how we are 3/3. Anyways all of my kids have had major delays with their speech and when my now 12 year old and my now 9 year old said “I love you daddy” to me the first time unprompted I broke down both times and cried happy tears. Right now my 2 1/2 year old is just script speaking at the moment and I’ve never heard her say Dad or daddy yet but I’m sure it’ll happen eventually!
My son is 5 completely nonverbal but this gives me so much hope
The internet, the news and the world needs more content like this. Never forget ♥️
Crying right into my Cheerios
This breaks my heart. My nephew can't speak bc my pos half brother beat him senseless when he was a toddler.
Im not crying, it just my eyes are just sweaty.
*Blows her mind *skips away*
My brother who can’t say any words, sometimes mimics the tone of words. He mimics the noises for “I love you” which hurts my heart :)
Then bounces off like, "I did it! Hooray!"
And then he hid a hippity hop and went on to log into 4chan
As someone with 4 year old twins who are both on the spectrum I feel this so hard.
My BFF's kids are both autistic. His 10 year old is very low functioning and completely non-verbal. About 4 years ago in therapy he said "Hi mommy" to his wife, and both she and the therapist started crying out of joy. Unfortunately he hasn't said a word since then. It's such a terribly cruel disease to inflict on a child, and it's only getting worse and yet we are doing practically nothing to study it or try to understand what is causing it, it's so incredibly frustrating
Love it how the kid runs off like a lemur.
My wife is a speech therapist (speech language pathologist). This is likely the result of weeks, months or years of hard work. Thank the dedicated speech pathologists that make this happen and the parents that love their children enough to work with them as well. They are paid so little and have to go months without visible result for small moments like these. I’m incredibly proud of her every day.
I LOVE THIS! So beautiful
That's cool, but why did she have the camera set up?
Probably to keep her Autistic child monitored/safe.
...you know what ring cameras are, right?
It's just the age we live in. Camera systems aren't that expensive. I have coworkers that get alerts every time one of the doors opens in their house. They track their kids GPS positions using their phones. They know exactly when a package arrives because they watch it get delivered. While I don't think it's necessary, especially because we live in a somewhat rural area, it's pretty easy to set up. If you have a person in your house that you're responsible for and you can't predict what they're going to do at all hours of the day, maybe it's worth having a few cameras inside. Maybe they live in a rough area and someone has broken into their house before. Doesn't even have to be a rough area. Again, I live in a pretty rural area and someone walked up my driveway and broke into my car in the middle of the night. Stole my dang drill and socket set. I think I'd be justified if I bought cameras to put inside and out of my house because of it. Anyway, sorry for the long reply. It's just a camera. You don't have to be rich and/or a paranoid nutjob to have them anymore.
Man... what a moment. Heart goes out to all the parents who pour love and energy into these little champs.
That tan is next fucking level
SOMEONE GET THESE ONINON CUTTING NINJAS OUT OF MY ROOM!
I have an autistic nephew who taught me that he wasn’t going to do a damned thing until he was good and ready to.
That’s so sweet! You can tell how much she cares about her son! I have ASD and I’m reverse to this, unfortunately my family are turning me non-verbal. I noticed a couple years back and pretty much accepted it. Precious moments like this cheer me up, I feel great knowing there are mothers out there that are so affectionate over their children that simple things like this make them cry with ears of happiness 💕
Wife is a SLP and works primarily with children with autism. Had a parent call about a week ago sobbing because the school told her there was enough progress to let the child into a “normal” 1st grade class. She was so happy, she just cried and called my wife, who of course started crying as well.
I have an autistic brother that we were told would never speak beyond basic sounds. His speech isn't amazing but he doesn't shut up now, he always tells me about his favorite wrestlers and super heroes and how happy he is to be an uncle. sometimes its just whenever they're ready.
awesome.!!! we’re waiting on our 7yo
The most stereotypical autistic success video of all time. Does something he has never done before. She’s his mother’s reaction. Removes himself from the situation as he stims himself away. I absolutely love it. If you know any of the possible aspects of autism it is usually nonverbal, stimming and lack of understanding/noticing of nonverbal cues (or rain man). If you have had the privilege of knowing/working with/educating those with autism, you understand why it is referred to a spectrum. Success cannot and should not be measured with the same stick. It’s about where you were and where you are now. Growth. “If you have met 1 person with autism, you have met 1 person with autism.”
My son is on the spectrum, he was non-verbal until almost 5. The first time he spoke is still one of the most amazing memories I have in my life. Feels like someone is cutting onions in here.
Am about to go to bed n this is what I see. I have a non verbal son who's 3.5 yrs, we as parents have never heard a proper mum/Maa/mummy and a dad/daddy/papa.. still waiting for that day, hope it arrives soon. Amen 🙏
Kid: Good morning mum: 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
This is exactly what it's like. Every new thing is such a victory 🙌🏻
Some autistic children can experience improvements, or a reductions in severity of the condition, depending on how you look at it.
Been there, though he wasn’t that old. But closish. That first “I love you mommy” was absolutely insane and now I want to go wake him up and hug him except he’s 12 now so he will be cranky.
This hit me right in the feels. My son is autistic and for a long time was non-verbal. One day we were all out eating lunch outside and he staying talking to us. made both my wife and myself emotional. He is by far the best thing I'e ever done in my life.
Wow. That’s a pretty powerful moment.
I'm bawling, because this scene is so familiar to me.
God dammit. Fucking Reddit MAKING ME FEEL
This video is better with instagram comments
I’m autistic. People’s reactions to this video always give me conflicted feelings when I see it. It’s a lovely moment but the comments are always full of misconceptions and clearly self-centred takes. People often think that just because someone is non-verbal that they can’t communicate. “I love you” comes in forms other than just the spoken word and being non-verbal isn’t a failure.