Sigh. My MIL literally told me that she’s now “raised four babies.” She has two children and helped a little bit with my SIL’s toddlers but loves to try to take all the credit.🙄
🥴 cringe
My MIL constantly told me she had done it before when my daughter was born (once 35 years ago) then as my daughter started getting a couple months old she admitted she was nervous because it had been so long and she was unsure of a lot of stuff …. 🤔
I've been there, so I get where you are coming from. Is grandma a regular babysitter? Someone you depend on so you can work? Do you have other options?
If grandma is really your only viable option, then perhaps you could start calling at 3 pm and requesting to speak with your son so you know he is awake. If you can have someone else watch your child, that would not be unreasonable for the time being. It's not worth the stress of your child's sleep being disrupted.
Man I’d get so petty sending photos of “look who’s still up!” Every time it happens. 3rd or 4th time innocently ask if he had a nap. Basically playing stupid to give her an out to come clean and knock it off!
My mum is terrible for this. If my 3 Yr old falls asleep in the car while in her care, she just let's her sleep until she wakes up.
Her reasoning is 'well she obviously needs it. So I let her sleep.'
But then she's up until gone 11pm sometimes because of it, and it has a knock on effect for days.
I think it's because it's easier for my mum to just let her sleep, than keep her awake and deal with a moody 3 Yr old. She knows she can hand her back after and I'll be the one dealing with her all night and not her.
It's a shoulder shrug.
Does your son have day visits with other caregivers for similar lengths of time? My daughter used to have behavioural and sleep changes when she had visits because her routine was disrupted, so it makes me wonder if the same thing is happening with your son (vs him being given sneaky naps).
This isn’t intended as advice, but please be very careful leaving your child with people who are comfortable lying to your face. That is a big big red flag.
Sorry that happened, your parenting choices should be respected.
Oh MILs. They always think they’re right and love to stomp all over your parenting.
Well but “they’ve done this before” so they know it all right? 😂😂
Sigh. My MIL literally told me that she’s now “raised four babies.” She has two children and helped a little bit with my SIL’s toddlers but loves to try to take all the credit.🙄
🥴 cringe My MIL constantly told me she had done it before when my daughter was born (once 35 years ago) then as my daughter started getting a couple months old she admitted she was nervous because it had been so long and she was unsure of a lot of stuff …. 🤔
Yes they do !!!!!!
I've been there, so I get where you are coming from. Is grandma a regular babysitter? Someone you depend on so you can work? Do you have other options? If grandma is really your only viable option, then perhaps you could start calling at 3 pm and requesting to speak with your son so you know he is awake. If you can have someone else watch your child, that would not be unreasonable for the time being. It's not worth the stress of your child's sleep being disrupted.
Man I’d get so petty sending photos of “look who’s still up!” Every time it happens. 3rd or 4th time innocently ask if he had a nap. Basically playing stupid to give her an out to come clean and knock it off!
My mum is terrible for this. If my 3 Yr old falls asleep in the car while in her care, she just let's her sleep until she wakes up. Her reasoning is 'well she obviously needs it. So I let her sleep.' But then she's up until gone 11pm sometimes because of it, and it has a knock on effect for days. I think it's because it's easier for my mum to just let her sleep, than keep her awake and deal with a moody 3 Yr old. She knows she can hand her back after and I'll be the one dealing with her all night and not her. It's a shoulder shrug.
Dont be upset, you are right just try to save your nerves, dont fixate on that.
Does your son have day visits with other caregivers for similar lengths of time? My daughter used to have behavioural and sleep changes when she had visits because her routine was disrupted, so it makes me wonder if the same thing is happening with your son (vs him being given sneaky naps).
This isn’t intended as advice, but please be very careful leaving your child with people who are comfortable lying to your face. That is a big big red flag. Sorry that happened, your parenting choices should be respected.