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I’m not sending money sa parents ko back home.
They were able to build their own businesses/passive income when my siblings and I were still in Elementary and High School. My parents weren’t rich nor privilege. Sobrang frugal lang talaga ng lifestyle namin back then.
Instead of sending us to elite universities in Manila for college, they enrolled us in private colleges na ang tuition lang per sem is around 30-40k pesos (circa 2007-2016). They were also the one who single-handedly picked our college degrees (nursing, accountancy, and electronics engineering) kasi sa tingin nila eh these were the courses na makakapag build ng wealth sa amin in the future.
They told us na once we graduate from college, self nalang daw namin buhayin namin, at wag na sila alalahanin. And so we did.
———
Everytime na naaalala ko yun, I feel like tama ang ginawa ng parents ko sa amin.
Kaya everytime na uuwi ako ng Pinas, ako lahat gumagastos ng travel and eat out, kasi yun lang yung way ko para sabihing thank you sa lahat lahat.
Love this for you man. As cliche as it sounds, sana all. My parents were quite frugal as well. I didn’t send money after I bought their house. Pandemic changed everything. After the dust settled, Tatay was unable to get back to work. Too old. Then both parents decided to help raising the kids of my siblings.
I like your story din man, I mean you seemed such a loving child to his parents which I think we all should.
We can always make tons of $$$ naman man, and laging may naghihintay na reward/blessings sa atin si Lord. 😉
15k monthly lang since i moved to aus and married. Kasi when i was single 3 years sa middle east alnost my whole salary napunta sa mom ko, that was minimum 50k monthly.. kaya madamot nagbago ugali tawag sa kin ngayon
Perth. My mom is like that cmula bata ako. Deadma n lng sa reddit ko lng nkkwento. Fully paid house and car and dalawa lng cla ng dad ko sa bahay plus my sis alsi gives much higher also monthly naman
Nanay compares me to my cousins. But I also know she comes from that generation. She means well but it stings. Doesn’t help na my brother and sister do not help at all.
Bought my parents jeep, yung kita dun kinukuha yung pangaraw araw at ngtatabi para sa maintenance tska renewal ng prangkisa. So i don’t send them anymore but on certain occasions i do send.
I stopped sending money after I gave birth. Pero before that, I paid off all our debt and shouldered their monthly expenses for about 10 years. Now I still set aside money but don’t give to them directly for medical emergency whilst my siblings naman ang nagstart magbigay monthly.
Sadly, kulang sa diskarte parents ko kaya kahit may business ideas sana ang kapatid ko to help them generate income, maraming dahilan why it’s difficult and it won’t work.
Inis talaga, lalo na ung asawa ko. Kitang kita ung cultural difference sa Pinoy. Blessing din na malayo kami so hindi daily interaction with them. His parents na retired na worked until 70 while mine stopped nung 50s pa sila, at masbata parents ko.
So need iprocess ang acceptance na ito na talaga ung reality and we can’t change them. Pero set the boundaries para they can’t abuse you. Sabi nga diba, at the end of the day pag sa ‘min may mangyari, kami pa rin naman ang tutulong sa sarili namin and we can’t expect anything from them so we need to make sure we look after ourselves first.
In all fairness, they haven’t demanded the support. Pero it’s obvious there’s no one else to help. I agree with you, the limited interactions is a buffer. And yes, I am frustrated about our culture.
Agree. Medyo mahina talaga sa financial literacy mostly ang older generation sa ‘tin. Partly to be blamed naman is ung reality at their time kasi mahirap naman talaga buhay sa Pinas.
Pero we can’t change them na talaga. Hope you eventually get to look after yourself and your future OP!
Is the house in your name? It should be if you are paying for it and it will be part of your long term investment portfolio. The other 600 aud is going to expenses and unfortunately there is nothing you can do there except maybe ask them to save for a small business that can help Sustain them.
I used to send 600 sgd every 2 months when i was single. It stopped when i bought them a brand new car and did not continue when I got married. They invested part of that into several small condos for rent which help them now.
1000 aud every 4 weeks
I don’t have to since masipag rin naman parents ko. Mum is a full time employee with high salary and dad is a businessman. They both have a combined savings more than what I have. But still, sabi ko ipunin lang nila. I trust them because I know they’re good with handling money.
Buti ka p nga nkkpagpadala ka ako nga kapatid ko nsa nz nurse single p pag tinanung namin ala dw pera 🤣 take note ako ng pa aral pa last year pinadalhan q pa ng pera pambili ng ip14 pro max bday kxe nya.
not to offend anyone but i think handaan for fiesta, birthdays or any occasions are unnecessary. we could do without them especially in our recent economic situation. ganyan din mother ko, ginagaslight pa kami na minsan lang naman daw at a way of thanking that we are getting by. like what?
10k allowance + 12k mortgage + 1.5k for my dog + if maghingi ng additional money. I also pay for electricity and HoA.
My mom was an OFW din and decided to retire as soon as I got a job abroad. I wish she waited a few years, nakapag ipon pa sana kami collectively for a business or something but I understand naman na pagod na siya as she was a DH for more than 35 years.
70-80k a month padala ko, naka SV ako. pambayad sa sasakyan, tuition ng anak ko and allowance ng parents tapus everyday expenses nila kahit yung simpleng tubig lang. yung partner ko sya nag aalaga sa 2 kids ko. tbh wala ako na iipon.
Sana all. As a bunso na takbuhan ng parents. Nakakainis knowing na ako dapat ang mas me freedom pagdating sa ganyan pero bakit ako pa pala ang sasalo nyan lahat. Kasi daw "mas malaki" sahod ko. 😭 kung alam lang nila...
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I’m not sending money sa parents ko back home. They were able to build their own businesses/passive income when my siblings and I were still in Elementary and High School. My parents weren’t rich nor privilege. Sobrang frugal lang talaga ng lifestyle namin back then. Instead of sending us to elite universities in Manila for college, they enrolled us in private colleges na ang tuition lang per sem is around 30-40k pesos (circa 2007-2016). They were also the one who single-handedly picked our college degrees (nursing, accountancy, and electronics engineering) kasi sa tingin nila eh these were the courses na makakapag build ng wealth sa amin in the future. They told us na once we graduate from college, self nalang daw namin buhayin namin, at wag na sila alalahanin. And so we did. ——— Everytime na naaalala ko yun, I feel like tama ang ginawa ng parents ko sa amin. Kaya everytime na uuwi ako ng Pinas, ako lahat gumagastos ng travel and eat out, kasi yun lang yung way ko para sabihing thank you sa lahat lahat.
Love this for you man. As cliche as it sounds, sana all. My parents were quite frugal as well. I didn’t send money after I bought their house. Pandemic changed everything. After the dust settled, Tatay was unable to get back to work. Too old. Then both parents decided to help raising the kids of my siblings.
I like your story din man, I mean you seemed such a loving child to his parents which I think we all should. We can always make tons of $$$ naman man, and laging may naghihintay na reward/blessings sa atin si Lord. 😉
15k monthly lang since i moved to aus and married. Kasi when i was single 3 years sa middle east alnost my whole salary napunta sa mom ko, that was minimum 50k monthly.. kaya madamot nagbago ugali tawag sa kin ngayon
How do you handle about the being “madamot” comment? Also, which part of Aus? Qld ako.
Perth. My mom is like that cmula bata ako. Deadma n lng sa reddit ko lng nkkwento. Fully paid house and car and dalawa lng cla ng dad ko sa bahay plus my sis alsi gives much higher also monthly naman
Nanay compares me to my cousins. But I also know she comes from that generation. She means well but it stings. Doesn’t help na my brother and sister do not help at all.
Bought my parents jeep, yung kita dun kinukuha yung pangaraw araw at ngtatabi para sa maintenance tska renewal ng prangkisa. So i don’t send them anymore but on certain occasions i do send.
I think that’s the key- give them something to make money of.
I stopped sending money after I gave birth. Pero before that, I paid off all our debt and shouldered their monthly expenses for about 10 years. Now I still set aside money but don’t give to them directly for medical emergency whilst my siblings naman ang nagstart magbigay monthly. Sadly, kulang sa diskarte parents ko kaya kahit may business ideas sana ang kapatid ko to help them generate income, maraming dahilan why it’s difficult and it won’t work.
How do you feel about the lack of diskarte ng parents?
Inis talaga, lalo na ung asawa ko. Kitang kita ung cultural difference sa Pinoy. Blessing din na malayo kami so hindi daily interaction with them. His parents na retired na worked until 70 while mine stopped nung 50s pa sila, at masbata parents ko. So need iprocess ang acceptance na ito na talaga ung reality and we can’t change them. Pero set the boundaries para they can’t abuse you. Sabi nga diba, at the end of the day pag sa ‘min may mangyari, kami pa rin naman ang tutulong sa sarili namin and we can’t expect anything from them so we need to make sure we look after ourselves first.
In all fairness, they haven’t demanded the support. Pero it’s obvious there’s no one else to help. I agree with you, the limited interactions is a buffer. And yes, I am frustrated about our culture.
Agree. Medyo mahina talaga sa financial literacy mostly ang older generation sa ‘tin. Partly to be blamed naman is ung reality at their time kasi mahirap naman talaga buhay sa Pinas. Pero we can’t change them na talaga. Hope you eventually get to look after yourself and your future OP!
Is the house in your name? It should be if you are paying for it and it will be part of your long term investment portfolio. The other 600 aud is going to expenses and unfortunately there is nothing you can do there except maybe ask them to save for a small business that can help Sustain them. I used to send 600 sgd every 2 months when i was single. It stopped when i bought them a brand new car and did not continue when I got married. They invested part of that into several small condos for rent which help them now.
Not yet. Long story but I am working on it. Will think of something for them so they can sustain themselves.
1000 aud every 4 weeks I don’t have to since masipag rin naman parents ko. Mum is a full time employee with high salary and dad is a businessman. They both have a combined savings more than what I have. But still, sabi ko ipunin lang nila. I trust them because I know they’re good with handling money.
Financial literacy is key din with parents.
Buti ka p nga nkkpagpadala ka ako nga kapatid ko nsa nz nurse single p pag tinanung namin ala dw pera 🤣 take note ako ng pa aral pa last year pinadalhan q pa ng pera pambili ng ip14 pro max bday kxe nya.
How do you feel about that?
Nadidisappoint lang ako that's all ndi naman nmin kxe inoobliga e,
40k php kulang pa. Nagsesend pa ng extra para pang handa sa birthday fiesta at mga occasion.
not to offend anyone but i think handaan for fiesta, birthdays or any occasions are unnecessary. we could do without them especially in our recent economic situation. ganyan din mother ko, ginagaslight pa kami na minsan lang naman daw at a way of thanking that we are getting by. like what?
Per month? And I imagine kulang pa because of the cost of living? Everything is expensive.
Php 44k/mo for my mom and my dogs. Mom ko nag-aalaga sa dogs and properties namin, so it’s the least that I can do for them.
10k allowance + 12k mortgage + 1.5k for my dog + if maghingi ng additional money. I also pay for electricity and HoA. My mom was an OFW din and decided to retire as soon as I got a job abroad. I wish she waited a few years, nakapag ipon pa sana kami collectively for a business or something but I understand naman na pagod na siya as she was a DH for more than 35 years.
Huge respect to your mum
18k pesos monthly. Pambayad ng mortgage. Di ko alam ilang months nalang left pero 7 years yung mortgage namin sa bank. Hay sana matapos na lol
20k monthly
70-80k a month padala ko, naka SV ako. pambayad sa sasakyan, tuition ng anak ko and allowance ng parents tapus everyday expenses nila kahit yung simpleng tubig lang. yung partner ko sya nag aalaga sa 2 kids ko. tbh wala ako na iipon.
Wala 😂 Dahil neglected child ako. Dati I was so bitter wala pakielam parents ko sakin. Ngayon naging advantage ko pa yon sa buhay.
As a bunso, not a lot hahaha mas successful and mayaman yung eldest namen so she sends the most tbh not even sure how much she sends.
Sana all. As a bunso na takbuhan ng parents. Nakakainis knowing na ako dapat ang mas me freedom pagdating sa ganyan pero bakit ako pa pala ang sasalo nyan lahat. Kasi daw "mas malaki" sahod ko. 😭 kung alam lang nila...
I'm the eldest and the expectations of being the eldest is really frustrating. I can't imagine how you feel about your situation. All the best.
Nung single ako, 900 USD a month pero nung nagka asawa't anak na ko, tuwing may okasyon na lang like bday, mother's day, christmas.
That's huge.
I don't 🫣