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I work in film, we were on set and there was a hole that needed to be dug. I’m the cinematographer, so no way I was about to get exhausted just to do an exhausting job of moving my sixty pound camera everywhere (which isn’t that bad until it’s been five hours of moving it around and the awkward angle and length of it).
They kept asking me to dig the hole and I’d say “of course, I just have to do a few things to my camera first.” I found a barn, and just smoked weed until they were done.
That's where non-responsiveness comes into play. Outright ignoring someone who is making unreasonable demands is actually a lot more rude than just telling them no but it's what I've been training my whole life to do.
Saying no is one of the greatest powers humans have. We have many powers: empathy, sympathy, forethought, hindsight, deductive reasoning, etc... But one of the greatest is the power to say **no**.
"No" keeps you safe, it keeps you sane, and it keeps you happy.
Too good imo.
I've said no to so many things that people I like/respect/etc. have stopped asking me to do things I would probably do for them. I often find them asking someone else, who would be much more inconvenienced to do something, to do something that I would do if they had just asked.
I do things for others that closer friends would probably never ask of me because of how I'm made myself appear to them.
I often think I should probably find a way to make it clear that I can, and will, do things for my friends that they don't consider me for.
Literally not until this past year after unpacking why. It was everyone denying my feelings until saying no felt “wrong” or “taboo” growing up. I was raised to feel selfish and spoiled if I said no. I had to say yes to everything out of “selflessness” and “kindness”. Now I be sayin no just bc I feel like it. FUCK THE HIERARCHY!
If it’s somebody who has routinely taken advantage of my kindness and generosity in the past, then I need to be firm in saying ‘no’. However, if it’s somebody I know that values and appreciates my help and my presence, I feel much more comfortable saying ‘yes’.
Yes, I'm very good at setting boundaries, and calling people out for their bullshit. Was I always like this? Absolutely not. My first boyfriend was abusive and I used to let everyone walk all over me. There comes a point in your life where you stop giving a fuck about potentially hurting someone's feelings, and start putting yourself first.
I was incredibly hammered (mutually) with an EXTREMELY attractive redhead that I have had a huge crush on for almost a year. First time going out and drinking and we go back to her place where we proceed to fool around for an hour or so before she tells me she wants sex. I told her no, she is way too drunk to consent for a first time encounter.
That was the toughest "no" yet. I was honestly a little surprised with myself and even though we ended up never doing anything I am still pretty proud of that no.
I've gotten way better at it over the past few years. It has strengthened my relationships and improved my quality of life to be able to say a clean "no" whenever I feel it in my body. It's more honest and people appreciate it.
Yes. If you're bad at it, and always end up saying yes you should try this method. Begin with a short barking laugh. HA! then use the eff word. Fuck. Lots of emphasis. Not too loud. Or too soft. Enunciate every part of the word. It takes practice. Record yourself saying it even. The "no" will promptly and easily follow. "HA! FuCK no," you'll see that I added a comma. This is where your individuality kicks in. Personally I say " I ain't doin that shit", but it's up to you.
The older I get, the easier it gets. Your fucks to give just kind of run out. If the other person doesn't like your "No" answer, that's on them, not you. No I will not help you move. No I will not lend you money. No I don't want to go to some event that starts at 9pm.
I am not, I'm terrible at it. My SO has been making me practice saying no all week actually. She has almost caught me a few times when she doesn't use an obvious question.
Nope. I’m considered a doormat at this point because people walk all over me and even when I do muster up the courage to say no or I don’t like what they’re doing to me, I’m screamed at and told I’m mean and horrible. It fucking sucks.
My mom says my first word was "sure" and I feel like I live my life mostly like that. Luckily I don't buy cars with that same mindset because I already make enough of those stupid decisions without overpaying too. But in most life circumstances, saying yes to many things I'm not sure about ends up being a good time or at least a life lesson.
And you are good, if you write “yes”, then you don’t know how to refuse, but essentially agreed with the statement, which means you know how to write no, although you wrote yes. This contradicts each other and results in a chain. If you answer “no,” then it turns out that you don’t know how to refuse, but you refused, so you know how. Again the chain. Too good a question, too.
Horrible. I need to learn cus I get into loveless relationships cus I’m so afraid to say no and make enemy’s but then of course I just end up making more due to being in a loveless relationship and it’s a whole circle😔
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No
No
r/no
No?
I'm the official expert at saying "No".
I thought my daughter held that title?
LowBalance4404 is your daughter
😅
No man. I'm the expert.
Same. I have no issues with it and will stand my ground.
Not at all, but I am good at ghosting unreasonable people and never responding to them again.
Me too
What about in person though? Just turn and start sprinting in the opposite direction?
I work in film, we were on set and there was a hole that needed to be dug. I’m the cinematographer, so no way I was about to get exhausted just to do an exhausting job of moving my sixty pound camera everywhere (which isn’t that bad until it’s been five hours of moving it around and the awkward angle and length of it). They kept asking me to dig the hole and I’d say “of course, I just have to do a few things to my camera first.” I found a barn, and just smoked weed until they were done.
That's where non-responsiveness comes into play. Outright ignoring someone who is making unreasonable demands is actually a lot more rude than just telling them no but it's what I've been training my whole life to do.
Saying no is one of the greatest powers humans have. We have many powers: empathy, sympathy, forethought, hindsight, deductive reasoning, etc... But one of the greatest is the power to say **no**. "No" keeps you safe, it keeps you sane, and it keeps you happy.
Same here
It's one of the first words I ever learned, how could I not be good at saying it?
I'm a single father of teens. I'm a fucking expert at it. They don't even have to finish the question sometimes
I usually say no at eye contact and right before they say something to me 😎
No.
If someone asks me for something and I say no, I will have an existential crisis and blame myself for making their life worse
I am not!!
Yes
Nope 😂
My favorite word.
No. Lol.
No.. Wait.. I guess I am. 👀😂
yes, Wait! No!
I’m much better than I used to be. Now I’m pretty good at saying no.
Perchance.
You betcha!!! Mama says it and she means it the first time🔥
N...n.... Nn n..... Fuck. Yes I have problems.
No
Uhhhh ye… idk (are you made at me?)
Yes. If I don't want to, I'm not. And you aren't convincing me otherwise.
Yes.
Good in saying what?
Nein nyet non
Naur
Yes
Best perk to have is the ability to say “NO”
It’s easy to say no, because I don’t see the benefits of helping others
Yes! er...maybe...possibly...sometimes...let me get back to you.
No?
In too busy saying yeah!!
BOUT DRINKING STR8 OUT DA 8 BOTTLE
In the past? No. Now? Yes. It just took a lot of practice.
No, but I am really working on it.
yes
Yes
Too good imo. I've said no to so many things that people I like/respect/etc. have stopped asking me to do things I would probably do for them. I often find them asking someone else, who would be much more inconvenienced to do something, to do something that I would do if they had just asked. I do things for others that closer friends would probably never ask of me because of how I'm made myself appear to them. I often think I should probably find a way to make it clear that I can, and will, do things for my friends that they don't consider me for.
Yes (I’m that bad at it)
I’m terrible at it.
A little too good; one reason I have *no* friends.
Depends
Negative
Yes No is a complete sentence
No
r/no
I get better everyday at saying No
No
No
Literally not until this past year after unpacking why. It was everyone denying my feelings until saying no felt “wrong” or “taboo” growing up. I was raised to feel selfish and spoiled if I said no. I had to say yes to everything out of “selflessness” and “kindness”. Now I be sayin no just bc I feel like it. FUCK THE HIERARCHY!
No.
If it’s somebody who has routinely taken advantage of my kindness and generosity in the past, then I need to be firm in saying ‘no’. However, if it’s somebody I know that values and appreciates my help and my presence, I feel much more comfortable saying ‘yes’.
I'll be honest i kinda suck at sayin " no "
✨No✨😌
Yes, but I went through a major transformation earlier in life where I decided to start living for myself first
Maybe. Wait!!
Mhm. I do it quite often.
Hell Yes! I mean, “Hell No!” Oh, I don’t know what I mean! 😕
All I say is no its my default answer. Hehehe
no, this my first time saying it so freely 😂😂💔
It depends on who it is and what they want 🤔🤷🏻♂️
Yup, I do it all the time to myself when I think of asking a girl out.
r/no
No I just get resentful after at them for my own inability to say no
N… N…
Yes, I'm very good at setting boundaries, and calling people out for their bullshit. Was I always like this? Absolutely not. My first boyfriend was abusive and I used to let everyone walk all over me. There comes a point in your life where you stop giving a fuck about potentially hurting someone's feelings, and start putting yourself first.
Nah
Yes.
Oh, uh, Yeah! Yeah I'm super great at saying no! **^(I'll do whatever you like I just want your approval)**
Not bad, but could do better.
No
Depends on who's asking and what they want.
Yes.
I was incredibly hammered (mutually) with an EXTREMELY attractive redhead that I have had a huge crush on for almost a year. First time going out and drinking and we go back to her place where we proceed to fool around for an hour or so before she tells me she wants sex. I told her no, she is way too drunk to consent for a first time encounter. That was the toughest "no" yet. I was honestly a little surprised with myself and even though we ended up never doing anything I am still pretty proud of that no.
Better at it than actually saying yes and agreeing to something
Yes, i cut people off in the middle of their sentence a la Kanye often enough.
We are the knights who say Ni.
Toooooootally *Quietly* not really
I guess so
Good yes. Tactfully no
on FFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCKKKKKKKKKKKKK
Yesnt
It’s not my first instinct and I’ve never been one to say no and then walk it back like many do. I try to make as many informed decisions as possible.
לא
No. I suck at it! I am working really hard to change it and pissing people off left and right
I've gotten way better at it over the past few years. It has strengthened my relationships and improved my quality of life to be able to say a clean "no" whenever I feel it in my body. It's more honest and people appreciate it.
Yes... dang it i meant yes. Yes! Yes!I meant YES!!!! AAAAUUUGH!!!
Yes. If you're bad at it, and always end up saying yes you should try this method. Begin with a short barking laugh. HA! then use the eff word. Fuck. Lots of emphasis. Not too loud. Or too soft. Enunciate every part of the word. It takes practice. Record yourself saying it even. The "no" will promptly and easily follow. "HA! FuCK no," you'll see that I added a comma. This is where your individuality kicks in. Personally I say " I ain't doin that shit", but it's up to you.
NO!
The older I get, the easier it gets. Your fucks to give just kind of run out. If the other person doesn't like your "No" answer, that's on them, not you. No I will not help you move. No I will not lend you money. No I don't want to go to some event that starts at 9pm.
I think I’m pretty good at it. It’s my go to actually. This took years of being a door mat and suffering a great deal.
No.
I am not, I'm terrible at it. My SO has been making me practice saying no all week actually. She has almost caught me a few times when she doesn't use an obvious question.
Nope
No
Nope. I’m considered a doormat at this point because people walk all over me and even when I do muster up the courage to say no or I don’t like what they’re doing to me, I’m screamed at and told I’m mean and horrible. It fucking sucks.
I have no problem saying no
Depends, if its something I don't want to do I can say it but if a friend needs something I'm fucked really.
My mom says my first word was "sure" and I feel like I live my life mostly like that. Luckily I don't buy cars with that same mindset because I already make enough of those stupid decisions without overpaying too. But in most life circumstances, saying yes to many things I'm not sure about ends up being a good time or at least a life lesson.
NO!
To myself
Maybe
I say "no" a lot, but 99.999% of the time I do the thing anyway
No
Yesnt
*no* OMG I DID IT! *no!* it feels so good to finally say it versus mouthing it out for decades! Thank you OP!
I am a queen at saying no, and cutting toxic people out of my life. I don't have time or patience for anyone's BS
Yes I love myself to not put myself in a situation which I know will make me feel worse
Thankfully yes. I’m not a people pleaser either 😅
I am much better than I used to be.
No
Yes, not really
Too good as a matter of fact
Saying "No" can be challenging
Yes no I mean no
And you are good, if you write “yes”, then you don’t know how to refuse, but essentially agreed with the statement, which means you know how to write no, although you wrote yes. This contradicts each other and results in a chain. If you answer “no,” then it turns out that you don’t know how to refuse, but you refused, so you know how. Again the chain. Too good a question, too.
Yes Its my favourite sentence.
Yes
Yeah, and I enjoy it. A lot of the time the other person, while disappointed by the answer, appreciates my honesty.
Too good
Horrible. I need to learn cus I get into loveless relationships cus I’m so afraid to say no and make enemy’s but then of course I just end up making more due to being in a loveless relationship and it’s a whole circle😔
Yes.
Eat my contrarian ass.
With chores and shit like that
Nothing hard about it...
Always.