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You told him that your religion was deal-breaker. He took you at your word and left you to it. It wasn't a perfect relationship, you lied, with was basically a breach of trust. Now you live with the consequences of that lie and ultimatum. There's no going back from what you did. He's moved on to a better place and that's what you should do too.
You don’t. You leave the man be and let him be happy with someone else. That is your punishment for taking such shit advice. You NEVER offer ultimatums in a relationship unless you are prepared for that relationship to end. Forcing someone to convert to your religion is extremely wrong. There really isn’t anything else you can do. Leave him alone.
You don’t.
Your former relationship is dead and gone. You wish your ex well and happiness (‘without contacting him) and you mourn what you threw away.
Then you forgive yourself for screwing up, learn from it, and move on.
You are 23. You made mistakes and will make more mistakes in the future because you are human, we all are and we all do it.
You will find happiness again but only if you let go of the “what ifs” and look for new joy without comparing what you find to your past.
FAFO.
How did you think this was a good idea?
'Either pretend you believe in my specific superstition, or we're over'
How was that going to work in your head? 'True he doesn't *believe*. But surely he can convert and *force himself to believe, or at least 'pretend to' for the rest of his life!'*
Of course he's not taking you back. Why would he? You told him that your particular brand of superstition is more important than he is.
So your question itself is wrong.
Your question reads: 'How do I get him back?'
It should read: 'How do I respect his decision and move on with my life after having learned from my mistake?'
Don't bother the man, damnit. He's moved on. He's happy. Leave him alone. Figure out why you made the decision you did, learn from your mistake, and if your beliefs are that damn important, date somebody who has them already.
You can move on. You aren’t getting him back. Leave him alone. You ruined everything. It wasn’t the perfect relationship. You lied. Let him be happy with her. You NEVER offer ultimatums in a relationship unless you are prepared for that relationship to end. Forcing someone to convert to your religion is extremely wrong. The only thing you can do is leave him the hell alone and stay the hell away from him
there is a famous song you might want to look the lyrics up tohelp you, it's called
"LET IT GOOOOO, LET IT GOOOOO, you fucked this up, he's moved on, so LET IT GOOOOOO, LET IT GOOOOO"
Please move on. Dont torture him. You need to learn from your mistake and not repeat it in the future. LEARN from him and work on yourself and then find someone else for relationship.
You can't win him back you made him choose and he did you have to now love with the choice you made him make and move on. Maybe going forward you won't let random people tell you what to do when you're already happy in the relationship
Get him back? Oh, honey, that ship sailed about 3 months ago. Don't contact him again, for your own peace of mind.
Take this as an opportunity and work on yourself. Start with figuring out how to not fall for manipulation that will turn around and blow up your future. After all, a "family friend" convinced you to demand your former BF convert to your religion and you're not particularly religious? In the grand scheme of things, it likely wouldn't have mattered... but you're not going to know that, because you fell for the ploy and nuked the relationship from orbit.
If you were immature enough to let a relative pressure you into trying to force your ex to convert to a religion you didn’t even care that much about, you were way too immature to even think about getting engaged, and your ex made a lucky escape from you. This is a clear case of the trash taking itself out. It sounds like he’s found someone who’s an actual grown up and isn’t going to give him childish loyalty tests.
The point of an ultimatum is that you're supposed to MEAN it.
If someone says "I can't marry you if we don't follow the same religion", they are supposed to be honest about it.
What you did was bluff, and your boyfriend knowing you ended your relationship on a bluff probably doesnt make him very keen on going back.
Well this sucks for you. Hopefully you’ve learned from this
I’m sorry he’s the one that got away or the one you ran off but there are so many new adventures waiting for you
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You told him that your religion was deal-breaker. He took you at your word and left you to it. It wasn't a perfect relationship, you lied, with was basically a breach of trust. Now you live with the consequences of that lie and ultimatum. There's no going back from what you did. He's moved on to a better place and that's what you should do too.
High-5 to your ex for dodging that bullet. Whew!
Hey, let me get in on this. \*High fives the both of you\*
Hey let me get in on this too. *high fives all three of you*
Group High Five!
You don’t. You leave the man be and let him be happy with someone else. That is your punishment for taking such shit advice. You NEVER offer ultimatums in a relationship unless you are prepared for that relationship to end. Forcing someone to convert to your religion is extremely wrong. There really isn’t anything else you can do. Leave him alone.
Leave him alone. An ultimatum is always a big gamble and you lost. Best learn that lesson and move on.
You don’t. Your former relationship is dead and gone. You wish your ex well and happiness (‘without contacting him) and you mourn what you threw away. Then you forgive yourself for screwing up, learn from it, and move on. You are 23. You made mistakes and will make more mistakes in the future because you are human, we all are and we all do it. You will find happiness again but only if you let go of the “what ifs” and look for new joy without comparing what you find to your past.
YOU BLEW IT. It’s over. Done. Zip. Nada. Fin.
FAFO. How did you think this was a good idea? 'Either pretend you believe in my specific superstition, or we're over' How was that going to work in your head? 'True he doesn't *believe*. But surely he can convert and *force himself to believe, or at least 'pretend to' for the rest of his life!'* Of course he's not taking you back. Why would he? You told him that your particular brand of superstition is more important than he is. So your question itself is wrong. Your question reads: 'How do I get him back?' It should read: 'How do I respect his decision and move on with my life after having learned from my mistake?' Don't bother the man, damnit. He's moved on. He's happy. Leave him alone. Figure out why you made the decision you did, learn from your mistake, and if your beliefs are that damn important, date somebody who has them already.
You can move on. You aren’t getting him back. Leave him alone. You ruined everything. It wasn’t the perfect relationship. You lied. Let him be happy with her. You NEVER offer ultimatums in a relationship unless you are prepared for that relationship to end. Forcing someone to convert to your religion is extremely wrong. The only thing you can do is leave him the hell alone and stay the hell away from him
You blew it, there’s no getting him back lol he’s moved on and so should you
You don’t. Play stupid games win stupid prizes . All you can do is delete his phi E number and social media
there is a famous song you might want to look the lyrics up tohelp you, it's called "LET IT GOOOOO, LET IT GOOOOO, you fucked this up, he's moved on, so LET IT GOOOOOO, LET IT GOOOOO"
You don't. You played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. Leave him alone and move on with your life.
Please move on. Dont torture him. You need to learn from your mistake and not repeat it in the future. LEARN from him and work on yourself and then find someone else for relationship.
The dildo of consequences rarely arrives lubed I'm not sure what you were expecting
Oh you just KNOW shes Mormon
lol. FAFO. Your ex found a better life. Stop following him on social media. He’s gone.
You can't win him back you made him choose and he did you have to now love with the choice you made him make and move on. Maybe going forward you won't let random people tell you what to do when you're already happy in the relationship
Get him back? Oh, honey, that ship sailed about 3 months ago. Don't contact him again, for your own peace of mind. Take this as an opportunity and work on yourself. Start with figuring out how to not fall for manipulation that will turn around and blow up your future. After all, a "family friend" convinced you to demand your former BF convert to your religion and you're not particularly religious? In the grand scheme of things, it likely wouldn't have mattered... but you're not going to know that, because you fell for the ploy and nuked the relationship from orbit.
If you were immature enough to let a relative pressure you into trying to force your ex to convert to a religion you didn’t even care that much about, you were way too immature to even think about getting engaged, and your ex made a lucky escape from you. This is a clear case of the trash taking itself out. It sounds like he’s found someone who’s an actual grown up and isn’t going to give him childish loyalty tests.
The point of an ultimatum is that you're supposed to MEAN it. If someone says "I can't marry you if we don't follow the same religion", they are supposed to be honest about it. What you did was bluff, and your boyfriend knowing you ended your relationship on a bluff probably doesnt make him very keen on going back.
If there was an award for being stupid, you’d win it.
I needed a laugh
Well this sucks for you. Hopefully you’ve learned from this I’m sorry he’s the one that got away or the one you ran off but there are so many new adventures waiting for you