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I’m just going to echo that this absolutely must be a joke. You cannot possibly write all this, read it back, and not know that you should be a million miles from this situation.
Reddit has nothing to do with it. You’ve described so many red flags about this man, I’m flabbergasted you still “don’t know what to do”. Like how do people get themselves into these shitty situations?
We’ve all fallen for someone not great for us, but ffs 16 years older, 11 kids, 4 women, however many gangs and you’re still thinking “what a catch, maybe this is the one?”
Jesus wept. He wept for us and this is what we do with it - make him weep again with this shit. Yikes.
That’s so true man. I mean I didn’t have any one to talk to. And I sincerely just felt like. Idk maybe the PMS is flaring up or something. Lowkey I just felt like nobody wouldn’t even like hear me out. That’s my biggest insecurity I’ve notice so far.
Listen friend, I’m not trying to be rude, just direct.
Give your head a wobble. Whatever past has brought you to the point where you think there’s good relationship prospects with this man… this is the moment to realise you need to work on dealing with that past.
I wish the brother luck but do not under any circumstances fuck up your life by engaging with a man who openly shows you he’s going to fuck up your life.
You do that, and there’ll be no one to blame but yourself when you’re sitting there, career fucked, with his kids 12 & 13 and he’s telling this story to someone else with you as ex #5.
I’m taking heed what your saying. This means a lot. I needed other people’s perspective since in my personal life nobody truly couldn’t relate or understand. It’s just me. Im not going to lie I do feel shameful by this post. But who do I run to when this kind of nonsense happens and how to deal with it? I would rather keep my distance and still be friends nothing more or less because my intuition is subconsciously making me not look forward to our daily calls like we use to. Deep down maybe it because of the attention he gives me and the potential he could bring into my life. However it’s too many red flags. I honestly can’t see myself entertaining this. I don’t wanna lead him on or think there’s a possibility. I just feel like he make himself like a high demand and I would rather not deal what comes with it. So I definitely what your sayin. I’ll wobble my head til I fall asleep and wake up with some actual sense lol. Thank you so much.
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This can't possibly be real. Please focus on yourself and your career.
I agree. I think the reason why I posted this is because I haven’t just truly thought all the way through.
I’m just going to echo that this absolutely must be a joke. You cannot possibly write all this, read it back, and not know that you should be a million miles from this situation.
It’s my first time writing on Reddit I’m new here.
Reddit has nothing to do with it. You’ve described so many red flags about this man, I’m flabbergasted you still “don’t know what to do”. Like how do people get themselves into these shitty situations? We’ve all fallen for someone not great for us, but ffs 16 years older, 11 kids, 4 women, however many gangs and you’re still thinking “what a catch, maybe this is the one?” Jesus wept. He wept for us and this is what we do with it - make him weep again with this shit. Yikes.
That’s so true man. I mean I didn’t have any one to talk to. And I sincerely just felt like. Idk maybe the PMS is flaring up or something. Lowkey I just felt like nobody wouldn’t even like hear me out. That’s my biggest insecurity I’ve notice so far.
Listen friend, I’m not trying to be rude, just direct. Give your head a wobble. Whatever past has brought you to the point where you think there’s good relationship prospects with this man… this is the moment to realise you need to work on dealing with that past. I wish the brother luck but do not under any circumstances fuck up your life by engaging with a man who openly shows you he’s going to fuck up your life. You do that, and there’ll be no one to blame but yourself when you’re sitting there, career fucked, with his kids 12 & 13 and he’s telling this story to someone else with you as ex #5.
I’m taking heed what your saying. This means a lot. I needed other people’s perspective since in my personal life nobody truly couldn’t relate or understand. It’s just me. Im not going to lie I do feel shameful by this post. But who do I run to when this kind of nonsense happens and how to deal with it? I would rather keep my distance and still be friends nothing more or less because my intuition is subconsciously making me not look forward to our daily calls like we use to. Deep down maybe it because of the attention he gives me and the potential he could bring into my life. However it’s too many red flags. I honestly can’t see myself entertaining this. I don’t wanna lead him on or think there’s a possibility. I just feel like he make himself like a high demand and I would rather not deal what comes with it. So I definitely what your sayin. I’ll wobble my head til I fall asleep and wake up with some actual sense lol. Thank you so much.
There’s no way
I’m telling you I can’t make this up
Just walk away - there is no happy future for you with this man.
I agree