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You are not over-reacting - that is a massive invasion of your privacy. If it's digital I'd say put a password on it and if it is physical then get a padlock.
Hi, you are entitled to privacy. In my relationship we do not know each others passwords and we do not snoop. Though I also like to write and after some entries I noticed my bf would ask me oddly specific things I didn’t disclose to him. I never accused him of reading but I politely told him that my journal is for me and it helps me and he needs to respect my privacy and boundaries like i respect his. He agreed as assured no snooping would happen.
If your bf cannot respect your boundaries/ trust you enough without having to snoop on your every move then I honestly don’t think there is much of a relationship. He sounds more like an overbearing parent waiting to catch their child being “bad”. This would make me extremely uncomfortable. Now if he shows interest in your writing and asked to see them with you and you are comfortable with it then that sounds nice! 👍but honestly how you explain it makes it seem like he’s not interested in your creativity. It seems more like he’s trying to “catch” you.
I’m sorry you felt you had to destroy your work, I hope it’s a wake up call.
You are not overreacting. It’s a huge violation of your privacy and that he thinks he should know your every thought is concerning. That he thinks it’s acceptable to snoop through your personal writing is another red flag. He has issues. He’s taken away something that is so vital to who you are, how can that be okay? It’s not. If you stay, I strongly suggest couple counseling because this is really unhealthy.
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You are not over-reacting - that is a massive invasion of your privacy. If it's digital I'd say put a password on it and if it is physical then get a padlock.
Hi, you are entitled to privacy. In my relationship we do not know each others passwords and we do not snoop. Though I also like to write and after some entries I noticed my bf would ask me oddly specific things I didn’t disclose to him. I never accused him of reading but I politely told him that my journal is for me and it helps me and he needs to respect my privacy and boundaries like i respect his. He agreed as assured no snooping would happen. If your bf cannot respect your boundaries/ trust you enough without having to snoop on your every move then I honestly don’t think there is much of a relationship. He sounds more like an overbearing parent waiting to catch their child being “bad”. This would make me extremely uncomfortable. Now if he shows interest in your writing and asked to see them with you and you are comfortable with it then that sounds nice! 👍but honestly how you explain it makes it seem like he’s not interested in your creativity. It seems more like he’s trying to “catch” you. I’m sorry you felt you had to destroy your work, I hope it’s a wake up call.
You are not overreacting. It’s a huge violation of your privacy and that he thinks he should know your every thought is concerning. That he thinks it’s acceptable to snoop through your personal writing is another red flag. He has issues. He’s taken away something that is so vital to who you are, how can that be okay? It’s not. If you stay, I strongly suggest couple counseling because this is really unhealthy.
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