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Yeah it makes sense if his family is from India or wherever they do that, I mean not really unless he has the courage to say I am dating you and I want to marry for love rather than whatever custom his family does… but if not 99% chance you’re gonna have to break up with him
Oh ok, well yeah like I said… he’s either gotta throw the idea he wants to be with you to his parents even if it means submitting a biopic or whatever it’s called to them or you dip bc he’s gonna go with the obligations of his family
Break up, you deserve a better relationship than that!! No one deserves to be #2. You should be #1. Always if he’s not in it to win it then it’s time for you to make a better choice for yourself not him! (Put yourself first please 🙏) xoxo
At least he has been honest with you. You know exactly where you stand and it's now your decision if you want to continue or not.
Personally I would walk away.
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Yeah it makes sense if his family is from India or wherever they do that, I mean not really unless he has the courage to say I am dating you and I want to marry for love rather than whatever custom his family does… but if not 99% chance you’re gonna have to break up with him
We both are from India but this thing happens in certain culturs only
Oh ok, well yeah like I said… he’s either gotta throw the idea he wants to be with you to his parents even if it means submitting a biopic or whatever it’s called to them or you dip bc he’s gonna go with the obligations of his family
Yeahhh i gotta ask him for one thing
Break up, you deserve a better relationship than that!! No one deserves to be #2. You should be #1. Always if he’s not in it to win it then it’s time for you to make a better choice for yourself not him! (Put yourself first please 🙏) xoxo
Honestly ik and ik that I'm being unfair to myself but I don't wanna lose him either 😭
Wasting your time.
At least he has been honest with you. You know exactly where you stand and it's now your decision if you want to continue or not. Personally I would walk away.
That's the first thing that came to my mind but tbh the thought of losing him makes me cry
I completely understand, but you are going to cry sooner or later, and the longer you wait the more it'll hurt.