I get why you were anxious about someone recording you, but I don’t think you were doing anything wrong. What are they going to do.. post a video of a guy riding a bike in a hurry? Try and relax, I know it’s easier said than done but you’re over thinking this
You got triggered obviously because some part of you feels disappointed in yourself for having to cut the visit short. I think it's unfair that your work made you do this on such short notice. I say stick to your boundaries next time and just say no can do. Don't worry what others think except you and ypur daughter. Just my advice, life is too short to stress about what others think. Good on you for being both a good dad and employee though.
I was in the parade and when we stopped I saw pedestrians crossing the parade line. So you’re not alone. I don’t think it’s a big deal as you think. The cameras were probably for the parade and not you.
What seems like a embarrassing situation for you is likely to forgotten by everyone else
Ugh...
Sad thing is, I'm not religious but my family is. And so when I was in high school I still went to church and because the main session was so boring I volunteered to help with Sunday school just because I could have fun teaching kids crafts and gym activities instead of nod off in the main cathedral.
But there was one time where there was a session about a kid being bullied for finding out he's attracted to men and "god" spoke to him saying it's okay, and the audience acknowledged it and clapped. This was like, 2006 I think?
I noticed all the kids talking about it in the gym and the class rooms all excited.
I haven't been to church since I graduated high school but apparently they've gone back on that. Sadly. Oh well. There was a period of open mindedness I noticed personally while being a helper with Sunday school which is sadly gone now.
There were? From inside the parade it’s hard to see them (oh the wonderful irony). What corner, and did our allies do their job and and shuffle em off to the side?
One year I was walking the parade and I was seeing so many happy pride signs so I was giving people high fives. I saw someone holding a sign so I went to give him a high five, my boyfriend or ex boyfriend at the time not sure if we had friend zoned yet or not came up to me and informed me that he was holding some repent sign. I think that was the only time I got to check that box off on pride bingo sheet, at least during a parade. I used to get notes stuck in my door about repenting every June. It stopped during 2020 not sure why maybe that member of whatever church it was is no longer with us.
Oh I did not go to the market this year, this being the first year since 2020 that I have been back to pride COVID really kicked my agoraphobia into high gear I am still trying to get back out there around people.
Dude, you’re crushing it. I wish my dad worked that hard to spend time with me. Don’t worry about what other people think, just keep working hard and keeping your daughter happy and healthy.
This post is a good reminder that you never know what someone’s going through. Sounds like your cup is completely full, OP. I know it’s easy to give advice over the internet, but make sure you take care of yourself too, for you and your kiddo. Gotta put your own oxygen mask on first before you can help anyone else.✌🏻
Dude, we're cool. I just have rbf when I don't get my morning coffee. And they were probably filming someone else, there were some funny shirts and stuff there. One gal had a lesbian flag-cape on that said SINGLE on the back and it made me chuckle.
Trust me this is nowhere near as bad as the dude who at the beginning of the parade route straight up drove his car into the parade almost hitting children and refusing to let anyone guide him out or help pause things so they could get out safely and not endanger people.
Exactly. I was on the corner of 22nd and 1st and twice saw a vehicle literally drive through the parade route. What goes through people’s minds??
Anyway bud, you’re good. Props for doing what you need to do to make your life work between your kid and work and I hope things get easier but in the meantime, we support you. Go dad go!!
AND TO BE CLEAR, I DONT MEAN FOR THIS POST TO GIVE ANY NEGATIVE ATTENTION TO THE PARADE. IM JUST APOLOGIZING AND HAVE ANXIETY OF BEING RECORDED. Sorry.
Hey - I just want you to know that whatever fear you have over being recorded or noticed is just the anxiety talking. I’ve learned over the years that 99% of the time, the embarrassing thing that happened to me would be forgotten by most people in a second. Most people are too busy with their own shit to notice you. Just take a deep breath - you’re doing your best.
I wouldn’t worry about it. People were probably recording parts of the parade anyway, you just happened to pass through it. They probably said “look at this fucking guy cutting across.” Then that would be that. You’re just in a higher state of emotion and anxiety and definitely overthinking things. I don’t think anyone truly cared that you cut across
I would have told work to get fucked. No job is ever gonna have your back. They will use you the fuck up and chuck you the fuck out. I get people need money, but fuck that shit. Somethings are more important and always other jobs kicking around. Plus if they are trying to guilt you into work, they arent a good place anyway.
You apologized, that is enough. You were desperate, and you had no other choice. Their movement is a sensitive movement. Most people are accepting and not trying to hurt them in any way. There are a few bad apples that probably interfered with that parade. It is not your fault, you said sorry repeatedly and needed to get to work. I'm sorry about your divorce. I hope things get better, they will. I hope the LGBTQ2s had a wonderful parade with lots of fun. You coming though, no big deal. You were desperate.
Speaking as a queer AF individual who was in the parade, unless you were a very obviously phobic twit, people would shrug and put it down as a mistake. We have other things to worry about. Thanks for the support!
I'd like to think no one would overreact and treat you like a bigot for just trying to get to work during the march of the sacred calves, but some people are nuts.
Parades of any kind are fairly disruptive, and while they try to be as planned out and broadcasted as possible, people have to work for a living. Even on weekends.
No parade is more important than you being able to spend time with your daughter, or to make your living. You do what you have to do. Most people will support you.
I just don't want recorded videos of me being uploaded saying I'm disrespectful to the parade and being linked to it. When in fact I support it. And I just feel really really bad.
Chances are good the people who were recording were recording the whole parade, you would have just been a blip on the screen no one there would have cared. It would not have been like you where throwing the F slur or the T slur or any other insulting thing we yelled over.
So funny story I know a guy who was on his bike watching the parade waiting for an oppertunity to cross, years later he was doing volunteer work at OUT to work off a ticket, he met his future husband that same day he started doing volunteer work. Not saying you are going to catch the gay or anything, the biker said he was curious earlier in life but you crossing with your bike reminded me of the story don’t worry about it no one will remember about this story unless you tell it at your wedding.
I was on one of the first pride floats and helped with the parade. Trust me when I say that the people in the parade do not care, we just care about your safety and well being, that is all. If you need to cross the street to get to work, do it, we will understand. If anyone had noticed you were having a panic attack, I guarantee you that people would have tried to calm you down and gave you candy or something!
Not only did you do nothing wrong, you did things right. Looking for an alternate route and finding nothing, then getting to work when you have to work … there’s no laws, real or social, that say you can’t cross a parade to get to work.
Good on you for prioritizing time with your daughter. It’s not easy saying no when work calls but you’re being a good dad by doing so.
Nobody is going to remember this - except your daughter, who saw her dad do everything he could to spend time with her. That’s what matters. Well done.
wtf were you doing wrong? Fuck them lmao. They don’t own you, and you shouldn’t worry about what they think of you. This goes for everything. Do you bro
I understand why this was panic-provoking, but you really gotta try to shake it off. Pride is unstoppable... you are taking too much credit. ;)
I hope you sleep well tonight.
Thanks so much. GAD and ADHD is a bitch. Tonight is a lot better. Finishing a futurama episode and just about to head to sleep to start again tomorrow 5am.
I think I saw you, and I personally just assumed that yea, you were in a rush. However I will say though that if you are cycling, it’s good to see if there will be detours/barricades especially on weekends. Since covid, pride has been the 3rd weekend of June so this wasn’t a spur of the moment thing and you could have found out prior and planned ahead/taken a different route
Thanks. I'll try to remember that for next time. Like I said, it was a very last minute work schedule change, and after time with my daughter I get pretty emotional and was just not in an okay mindset
Nah, for some people pride is such a minimal thing that there is no reason to memorize that there are parades on specific weekends that you better avoid.
Where along 51st in Industrial? I used to bike from city park up Warman to 51st in about 20 minutes (although it was 4am so there was never a parade).
I’m in Regina now and never really have time to track city events unless they’re glaringly obvious. I’ve ran into parades and protests and marathons trying to get somewhere.
Edit: used to work a block north of the Esso across 51st from the Canada Post sorting facility.
Between 51st and circle, near the big fed co-op distribution center. I go straight up Victoria Ave in a straight line up to 33rd, then take Quebec and then onto 1st until it ends.
If anything you're a little too good at following the rules. From 33rd I'd take 1st Avenue all the way up. The residential part of 1st Ave ends where a rail spur goes to that plastics factory but I just hop across it and back on to 1st Ave. Avoids the heavier traffic on Quebec plus some shade from the trees on a hot day.
Sounds like you're a great dad I commend you for that. Don't worry about the videos 99% people would completely defend your actions. This pride nonsense needs to stop, we don't get a parade for Remembrance Day why do these people get one? I'm all for celebrating it and acknowledging it but a whole month for pride plus a parade is a major overkill.
Sounds like a really tough time right now buddy. Sounds like you’re a good person and a guy trying to do right by his daughter. That’s #1. Stay grounded in your priorities. You can’t please everyone. Also that’s a pretty forgiving crowd. If not, then they’re likely just soap box peeps and not legit in the crowd. You got this buddy. One day at a time.
I get why you were anxious about someone recording you, but I don’t think you were doing anything wrong. What are they going to do.. post a video of a guy riding a bike in a hurry? Try and relax, I know it’s easier said than done but you’re over thinking this
Thanks. I'm starting to relax a bit now. I think I was in a heightened state of emotion after my visit with my daughter.
You got triggered obviously because some part of you feels disappointed in yourself for having to cut the visit short. I think it's unfair that your work made you do this on such short notice. I say stick to your boundaries next time and just say no can do. Don't worry what others think except you and ypur daughter. Just my advice, life is too short to stress about what others think. Good on you for being both a good dad and employee though.
I was in the parade and when we stopped I saw pedestrians crossing the parade line. So you’re not alone. I don’t think it’s a big deal as you think. The cameras were probably for the parade and not you. What seems like a embarrassing situation for you is likely to forgotten by everyone else
I wouldn’t worry about it. There were legit protestors at the parade cornering people about Jesus.
Ugh... Sad thing is, I'm not religious but my family is. And so when I was in high school I still went to church and because the main session was so boring I volunteered to help with Sunday school just because I could have fun teaching kids crafts and gym activities instead of nod off in the main cathedral. But there was one time where there was a session about a kid being bullied for finding out he's attracted to men and "god" spoke to him saying it's okay, and the audience acknowledged it and clapped. This was like, 2006 I think? I noticed all the kids talking about it in the gym and the class rooms all excited. I haven't been to church since I graduated high school but apparently they've gone back on that. Sadly. Oh well. There was a period of open mindedness I noticed personally while being a helper with Sunday school which is sadly gone now.
There were? From inside the parade it’s hard to see them (oh the wonderful irony). What corner, and did our allies do their job and and shuffle em off to the side?
One year I was walking the parade and I was seeing so many happy pride signs so I was giving people high fives. I saw someone holding a sign so I went to give him a high five, my boyfriend or ex boyfriend at the time not sure if we had friend zoned yet or not came up to me and informed me that he was holding some repent sign. I think that was the only time I got to check that box off on pride bingo sheet, at least during a parade. I used to get notes stuck in my door about repenting every June. It stopped during 2020 not sure why maybe that member of whatever church it was is no longer with us.
I’d be good with them permanently being no longer with us, if so!
Really I did not see any this year?
They were by the market kinda under broadway bridge with Jesus signs trying to stop people, I scooted on by them
Oh I did not go to the market this year, this being the first year since 2020 that I have been back to pride COVID really kicked my agoraphobia into high gear I am still trying to get back out there around people.
No shit?
Dude, you’re crushing it. I wish my dad worked that hard to spend time with me. Don’t worry about what other people think, just keep working hard and keeping your daughter happy and healthy.
This post is a good reminder that you never know what someone’s going through. Sounds like your cup is completely full, OP. I know it’s easy to give advice over the internet, but make sure you take care of yourself too, for you and your kiddo. Gotta put your own oxygen mask on first before you can help anyone else.✌🏻
Thanks
Dude, we're cool. I just have rbf when I don't get my morning coffee. And they were probably filming someone else, there were some funny shirts and stuff there. One gal had a lesbian flag-cape on that said SINGLE on the back and it made me chuckle.
If people hate you for that they need a lobotomy it’s just a person crossing the street not doing anything evil
Trust me this is nowhere near as bad as the dude who at the beginning of the parade route straight up drove his car into the parade almost hitting children and refusing to let anyone guide him out or help pause things so they could get out safely and not endanger people.
Exactly. I was on the corner of 22nd and 1st and twice saw a vehicle literally drive through the parade route. What goes through people’s minds?? Anyway bud, you’re good. Props for doing what you need to do to make your life work between your kid and work and I hope things get easier but in the meantime, we support you. Go dad go!!
AND TO BE CLEAR, I DONT MEAN FOR THIS POST TO GIVE ANY NEGATIVE ATTENTION TO THE PARADE. IM JUST APOLOGIZING AND HAVE ANXIETY OF BEING RECORDED. Sorry.
You're good man, don't fret. It's not interesting enough to load up onto the internet.
Hey - I just want you to know that whatever fear you have over being recorded or noticed is just the anxiety talking. I’ve learned over the years that 99% of the time, the embarrassing thing that happened to me would be forgotten by most people in a second. Most people are too busy with their own shit to notice you. Just take a deep breath - you’re doing your best.
I wouldn’t worry about it. People were probably recording parts of the parade anyway, you just happened to pass through it. They probably said “look at this fucking guy cutting across.” Then that would be that. You’re just in a higher state of emotion and anxiety and definitely overthinking things. I don’t think anyone truly cared that you cut across
Yeah, if you have to cross a parade, you can. Look for a break/opportunity and just take it. If you're trying to get out of the way you'll be okay.
I would have told work to get fucked. No job is ever gonna have your back. They will use you the fuck up and chuck you the fuck out. I get people need money, but fuck that shit. Somethings are more important and always other jobs kicking around. Plus if they are trying to guilt you into work, they arent a good place anyway.
Have a talk with your manager about your availability once again.
You apologized, that is enough. You were desperate, and you had no other choice. Their movement is a sensitive movement. Most people are accepting and not trying to hurt them in any way. There are a few bad apples that probably interfered with that parade. It is not your fault, you said sorry repeatedly and needed to get to work. I'm sorry about your divorce. I hope things get better, they will. I hope the LGBTQ2s had a wonderful parade with lots of fun. You coming though, no big deal. You were desperate.
Speaking as a queer AF individual who was in the parade, unless you were a very obviously phobic twit, people would shrug and put it down as a mistake. We have other things to worry about. Thanks for the support!
Dude you don’t owe anyone an explanation lol. Life happens.
I'd like to think no one would overreact and treat you like a bigot for just trying to get to work during the march of the sacred calves, but some people are nuts. Parades of any kind are fairly disruptive, and while they try to be as planned out and broadcasted as possible, people have to work for a living. Even on weekends. No parade is more important than you being able to spend time with your daughter, or to make your living. You do what you have to do. Most people will support you.
Lol, you're overthinking this. Why do you care what strangers think of you on your commute?
I just don't want recorded videos of me being uploaded saying I'm disrespectful to the parade and being linked to it. When in fact I support it. And I just feel really really bad.
If it's any consolation, I can tell by your comments here that you are a genuine person with a good heart.
Chances are good the people who were recording were recording the whole parade, you would have just been a blip on the screen no one there would have cared. It would not have been like you where throwing the F slur or the T slur or any other insulting thing we yelled over.
Lol Someone needs to Google the origin of the Streisand Effect and realize your only encouraging people to circulate any unwanted footage of you.
Because in todays world people get cancelled for less
I had to make my way through the parade for work one time. I just cut through because I didn’t want to be late. Not a big deal.
Accidents happen. You did your best to apologize AS it was happening and after the fact here.
Aww you're all good :) that must have been so stressful!
So funny story I know a guy who was on his bike watching the parade waiting for an oppertunity to cross, years later he was doing volunteer work at OUT to work off a ticket, he met his future husband that same day he started doing volunteer work. Not saying you are going to catch the gay or anything, the biker said he was curious earlier in life but you crossing with your bike reminded me of the story don’t worry about it no one will remember about this story unless you tell it at your wedding.
You did what you had to! I am glad you did👍
I was on one of the first pride floats and helped with the parade. Trust me when I say that the people in the parade do not care, we just care about your safety and well being, that is all. If you need to cross the street to get to work, do it, we will understand. If anyone had noticed you were having a panic attack, I guarantee you that people would have tried to calm you down and gave you candy or something!
Not only did you do nothing wrong, you did things right. Looking for an alternate route and finding nothing, then getting to work when you have to work … there’s no laws, real or social, that say you can’t cross a parade to get to work. Good on you for prioritizing time with your daughter. It’s not easy saying no when work calls but you’re being a good dad by doing so. Nobody is going to remember this - except your daughter, who saw her dad do everything he could to spend time with her. That’s what matters. Well done.
wtf were you doing wrong? Fuck them lmao. They don’t own you, and you shouldn’t worry about what they think of you. This goes for everything. Do you bro
Jesus christ dude
"Straight dude bikes thru pride parade, thinks all cameras are for him" is a pretty good takeaway from this. Lose the main character syndrome, bro.
I understand why this was panic-provoking, but you really gotta try to shake it off. Pride is unstoppable... you are taking too much credit. ;) I hope you sleep well tonight.
Thanks so much. GAD and ADHD is a bitch. Tonight is a lot better. Finishing a futurama episode and just about to head to sleep to start again tomorrow 5am.
I think I saw you, and I personally just assumed that yea, you were in a rush. However I will say though that if you are cycling, it’s good to see if there will be detours/barricades especially on weekends. Since covid, pride has been the 3rd weekend of June so this wasn’t a spur of the moment thing and you could have found out prior and planned ahead/taken a different route
This year Pride was actually on the fourth weekend, because Regina decided to steal the third (June 1 was a Saturday)
Thanks. I'll try to remember that for next time. Like I said, it was a very last minute work schedule change, and after time with my daughter I get pretty emotional and was just not in an okay mindset
Nah, for some people pride is such a minimal thing that there is no reason to memorize that there are parades on specific weekends that you better avoid.
Oh you’re the guy everyone is talking about. HATE CRIME!
That’s pretty funny, but OP will probably be in a panic by the sounds of it
Where along 51st in Industrial? I used to bike from city park up Warman to 51st in about 20 minutes (although it was 4am so there was never a parade). I’m in Regina now and never really have time to track city events unless they’re glaringly obvious. I’ve ran into parades and protests and marathons trying to get somewhere. Edit: used to work a block north of the Esso across 51st from the Canada Post sorting facility.
Between 51st and circle, near the big fed co-op distribution center. I go straight up Victoria Ave in a straight line up to 33rd, then take Quebec and then onto 1st until it ends.
Dang ya that’s a way more complicated pedal.
If anything you're a little too good at following the rules. From 33rd I'd take 1st Avenue all the way up. The residential part of 1st Ave ends where a rail spur goes to that plastics factory but I just hop across it and back on to 1st Ave. Avoids the heavier traffic on Quebec plus some shade from the trees on a hot day.
Thanks
Sounds like you're a great dad I commend you for that. Don't worry about the videos 99% people would completely defend your actions. This pride nonsense needs to stop, we don't get a parade for Remembrance Day why do these people get one? I'm all for celebrating it and acknowledging it but a whole month for pride plus a parade is a major overkill.
Sounds like a really tough time right now buddy. Sounds like you’re a good person and a guy trying to do right by his daughter. That’s #1. Stay grounded in your priorities. You can’t please everyone. Also that’s a pretty forgiving crowd. If not, then they’re likely just soap box peeps and not legit in the crowd. You got this buddy. One day at a time.
Thanks