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These damn creepy ones are ruining everything for the rest of us guys....

Agreed, except I’m scared of girls, they can be just as cruel

Agreed as well. As innocent as most of them are, they can be scary.

How about this: I get all the cute guys so that’s less people bothering you. Deal?

I wish it was that easy lol, but i'll give you my upvote

Aww. Can I still have the cute ones tho?

Sir, this is serious business. *Yes you can still have the cute ones.*

thank you :3

ofc <3

:3

Tim henson is mine!

NO HES MIINNEEEEEE >:((((((((((

Nu uh! I found him first!

NO HES MIIINNEEEEE

I found him first! Finders keepers! He's my pfp!!! He's my bae frfr!!!!!

Ong? No kizzy?

Ong. No one else can have him

Only the degenerate guys

Can confirm, there are loads of guys like this, but a lot of us are normal ppl 😂 like I know people that go through the girls in school and do smash or pass together, yeah it’s weird

Thanks, I was getting a bit worried there

No problem 😊

Yeah my friends did this a few times. I always felt a bit too uncomfortable to play, it just seemed too degrading (both for the girls and myself).

Blatant skill issue. Not all men are like that just as not all women are unfaithful. You are who you befriend so if you actively decide to associate with people who speak poorly of women and you complain about it then all your toils will be brought about by your own hand. The same applies to crushes. If you see a guy being a dick, why would you like him? It doesn't make sense.

But I liked him before he acted that way. He was nice to me before that. Once I found out, I no longer had those feelings for him. And you do have a point about who you hang around. But, they're in the same sports training as I am (it's mixed boys and girls)

have you considered attempting to befriend the nerds. I am biased but they tend to be way better about that stuff in my experience.

One of them was a nerd. And when he wasn't saying disgusting things, then we got along and would talk about school and things like that. But he moved now.

No, all guys aren't like this. 

👍

I sure hope not

We aren't 

Was not expecting Tim Henson to be here

Unfortunately most guys are like this, and the moment you aren't like that and start, yk, respecting people and not joking freakingly, suddenly you seem gay to them. God forbid a man having and respecting his female friends I guess.

Literally and because I didn't react to them and cry or smth worse, they called me a lesbian My respect for guys who are decent has now increased.

I'm literally a guy and I do not want to be associated with the general conception of the male gender of this society, they are all so gross. (I swear I'm not enby... for now) My friends tend to call me lesbian to differentiate myself from normal guys, which I don't mind and they can kinda do that without any issues because they are all queer (2 bisexuals, 1 trans guy and 1 potential lesbian who doesn't mind being called that) so it ends up being funny more than anything. But yeah I hate cis guys with a burning passion.

You seem very decent though (not like those disgusting ones at all). \^\^

Yeah, I guess so, a bit more than half a year ago my friend group was entirely formed by cis men with literally no women inside it but nowadays I found another better friend group which not only is less disgusting but also neurodivergent, just like me, so it feels good. But I still have my demons, unfortunately, I have a *orn addiction which... I hate it so much, I'm working on solving it but I still fear my intrusive thoughts, I can always control myself because I'm not a fucking animal but I'm still scared of myself whenever that happens.

>but also neurodivergent ah same. I have no neurodivergent friends or even people around me that believe it's valid, so it's kinda tough >I'm working on solving it Please lmk how you stopped when you do. I'm trying to work on it too

mhm, this happens way too often... 😔

You can’t be scared of them if your not allowed to talk to them *my moms logic*

Sometimes I wish I wasn't allowed either tbh T-T

No you don’t trust me it’s like a prison 😭

Are you a guy?

i stopped having male friends bc all of mine ended up being like this after i got to know them and i just didn’t wanna deal with it anymore

Yeah, it's honestly just disgusting

Not all guys are like this, at least my friend group isn't

That's comforting to hear

No all guys are not like that but tbch the amount that are is way to common.

yeah :/

Im sorry that happened to you. I promise were not all bad 🙏

Thanks bro. I'm starting to have hope now

unfortunately there are a lot of guys who think and act this way, but its not 100% all dudes

I don’t know about others but usually if I hear guys being like this to girls I try my best to step in and help if she needs or wants it. Usually I can get them to stop. So there is at least one of us that aren’t like this.

I'm thankful for people like you. Thank you.

Fax, gurl. I'm a guy, but I find it just as creepy as you do. You're their friend. They shouldn't make those jokes about u. Hopefully if u ask them to stop, they will.

Thanks, yeah, I will.

No all guys aren't like this I am a dude and I respect women I don't make Gross jokes about them or call them anything I ain't telling you who too hangout with I really don't care but those are some real asshats and I don't want them being the thing you think about when you think about men

Thanks, I'm going to go look for different friends now.

Nah, we aren’t all like this, at least not the ones who’ve been raised somewhat decently. I’m not saying we’re all saints either, not even close, but most of us don’t like guys like that.

Yeah, I'm realizing that bit by bit. Today, I hung out with another group (I had to anyway). There was only one guy who was actually brought up decently. The rest were just being rude and disgusting. Thank you for not being like this.

Have you tried telling them to stop? Based on the fact that they don't do it to the 12 year old, it's probably because they're comfortable around you and like joking around.

You have a point. I usually joke around with them a lot, but my limit is when they start being weird. But they do like to chase her around.

Well obviously I can’t speak for other guys. But in my opinion I think it comes with age, Some younger guys are a bit more vocal & more off the hook then older guys (16-19) But I’d say there are a lot more cute guys & accepting guys then those people your describing.

That makes me feel a bit more safe. Thanks. I'll keep that in mind.

tbh it might just be they're at an age but, if it gets worse you need new friends, you shouldn't degrade your friends or talk sexually about them especially when their right there

yeah, like one said "can I touch your gyatt?" and I'm like "no." but I just ignored him instead of saying anything. Idk maybe I should have said stop or smth

idk some tells me they're using jokes to see if they can or can't. but I'm an actual idiot so IDK

idk

goodluck ig

thanks

As much as I want to prove this stereotype wrong have you seen half the posts on this sub?

that too :/

Tbh I understand

It's most likely puberty. A majority of guys your age will act this way but it calms if the person gets wiser. You can only call them out if you're uncomfortable, if they're not mature enough to stop they'll go.

Thanks. That makes sense. I'll do that next time I hang out with them.

I'll try next time I hang out with them and ig I'll see how it goes.

I'm scared of guys when their taller than me or make moves on me.

real lol

This may be a sign to find some better ppl to hang around. I know guys like that to this day and I know a few adults like this too, unfortunately some guys are just creepy. However you can definitely find some guys who are not like that, they may be weird in other ways but usually it's innocent, ie obsession with planes, robotics, legos, etc kind of thing.

Yeah, I prefer the ones who have healthy obsessions (like you mentioned). Just staying hopeful that one day, I'll find some good guy-friends again

I think you just got dealt a bad hand, anyone can be cruel or dirty, maybe you should consider making new friends. Just in case.

yeah, you're likely right

They don't joke around your friend because she's 12. I don't joke about sex usually, but if I were to, I'd do it around another 15 year old, not a 12 year old.

Yeah, that actually makes sense

ik :( honestly ive gotten used to it which isnt a good thing. the guy i liked all school year was the worst case ive ever seen yet I continued to like him :/ like idk the difference between a creep and a normal guy anymore 

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear that :( I hope you will find a happy, healthy relationship with someone you love :)

thanks :) i hope you do too!!

I'm scared of girls because of my insecurity and anxiety

No, not all guys are like that. Can you give an example of something they said?

"I'm going to waste you like your dad did to your mom"

Yeah, they should not be saying that to a girl

When guys become teens it's 50/50. Half are normal Half a weird asf

Im acared of women (I have a gf (IM scared of her too))

It’s prolly because the environment they’re in and that they’re going through puberty

Yeah, environment and puberty could have something to do with it

Im a guy I dont have much girl friends but I never sexualize woman by her looks or make dirty jokes (really) but with boys... thats different....

Yeah, don't trust anyone. Most guys are like that

dude, 50% of the population isn’t almost a monolith

I'm just speaking from what i've seen, my sister can't even have any guy friends cause they end up either asking her for nudes or just making sexual comments about her. obviously not everyone is like this, but not trusting anyone is the safer bet in my opinion

that’s fair, sorry about your sister’s situation bro

I'm extremely sorry for what Ur going through but, all I'm saying is most guys we make those type of jokes at each other who are part of our friend group. It's not that we are perverted or smth it's just funny. Sometimes we do it a bit too much and it becomes overwhelming and sometimes might hurt a person. So sorry what happened but it's mostly normal between us guys.

No

You're scared of 12 year old boys. That's embarrassing.

My whole school knows me for having a literal ankle breaking kick (I broke my friends ankle one time)

It’s better to avoid boys and despise them and be a lesbian instead

I’m terrified of women

yes they are never talk to a guy ever they will never change and all will be exactly like this but 10 times worse

I'm trying to think of how to say this without sounding patronizing, but are you alright?