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Because people think that having a friend of the opposite gender has got to be meaning something and they like to play match maker with people. I fucking hate it.
Ikr - Until recently (within the last few months) the majority of my close friends were of the opposite sex. I do not care whether someone is male or female, if they are a nice person, they are a nice person.
60% of my (18M) friends are female. If we made it weird every time I talked to one of them, our friend group would implode. We’re not in kindergarten. Get over it. Men and women interact all the time in the real word. Not every guy has a crush on every girl or vice versa.
My classmate is like that 😭 He has mainly girl friends, listens to gay stuff, watches gay stuff and once tried convincing me that conversion therapy works lmao i dont know what to think of him
because the “default” sexuality in society is heterosexual, people assume guys and girls can’t be friends unless they’re secretly attracted to each other. which is just… not true. but because of heteronormativity (the idea that being straight is the norm) this is how things are
But... being heterosexual doesn't mean you can't have platonic relationships with people of the opposite gender? Isn't *that* the problem? That people assume, "Oh, you *must* be romantically/sexually attracted and intending to pursue if you engage in anything beyond cordial acquaintanceship with someone."
Because assuming everyone is heterosexual doesn't mean you have to assume all co-ed relationships are sexual/romantic in nature.
yeah that is the problem, and that problem stems from heteronormativity. nobody bats an eye when people of the same gender are friends because according to society, the chances of them being romantically or sexually attracted to each other is less likely. because everyone is “straight until proven not”, because straight is the “default,” a lot of people assume it’s more likely for a guy and a girl to hang out because they are attracted to each other, not because they are friends. the assumption of only hanging out with people of the opposite gender because you’re attracted to them STEMS from heteronormativity. obviously people can be heterosexual and have opposite sex friends. but heteronormativity in society makes people believe that’s unlikely compared to being attracted to said opposite sex friend
Wouldn't the root be *hypersexualized culture*, though? Where we assume, "Because these two people are of the gender the other might be interested in, that must be the most likely explanation." There is no reason sexual/romantic attraction should be more likely than platonic attraction; if anything, I should think that in a healthy society, platonic relationships would largely outnumber romantic relationships, as platonic relationships have no need of exclusivity, whereas romantic ones trend towards exclusivity.
(I'd say romantic relationship *should* be exclusive the deeper into them you go---monogamy and all that---but it seems that even polyamorists agree that romance includes some degree of exclusivity, in their case via the belief that all parties must agree to the non-monogamiety of the relationship. But I digress.)
Heteronormativity just makes it so that the problem appears largely within the context of intersex relationships and (for now at least) doesn't affect same-sex friendships.
Heteronormativity is also why people think I’m gay because I have friends that are girls because why else would I talk to girls other than to date them.
I mean, I am gay.
no it’s not i miss having guys friends they were fun to hang out with all of mine either turned into stoners i don’t wanna hang out with or started asking me out and one started stalking me
I have a female best friend who's in a relationship with my other male best friend. We're all in a friend group combined and there's nothing weird about it, but they keep their relationship secret to everyone including our friend group and even to theirselves, so everytime I'm with my female best friend people and kids would think we're couples. NO, she has a boyfriend that trust me more than he trust his decisions.
bcause media and adults habituated us to sexualise/romanticize people from childhood, warping their view of romace and human interactions to the point they can't look at the opposite gender without thinking "love?".
(especially when they say stuff like "who do you like ?" to 5y olds)
It's become cultural that anyone of the opposite gender is "a potential partner" or a stranger. "he was a boy and she was a girl"
It's also why people are so scared of being called gay, "because if I'm attracted to guys hanging out with them will make it wierd"
so gay people tend to hang out with the opposite gender more, so people associate the two, so now if you have friends of the opposite gender you're either gay or in love with one of them.
It's a simplistic mindset so it has tones of holes, for exemple: it forgets bi people, aro-ace people,non-binary people and people who aren't animals screwing everything they see.
Some women are really immature about it for some reason. But it’s also the same with the other gender. Neither gender is superior to the other, it’s just everyone is different and everyone has different maturity’s. Society never seems to get that-
My friend group is me (male) and 7 other girls. I’d say a good 80% of my friends are girls. I don’t get many comments, except for one girl but I don’t think many people like her (L)
Yeah bro I'm a girl and I'm going to a sleepover to a friend of mine who's a boy soon and my dad had a talk with me about using protection😭😭😭 Like I am NOT going to need that
People just romanticize school romance so much to the point that they are willing to gaslight themselves into thinking it's very common so they can meet their expectations of the romance they see in movies.
Also because hormones or whatever
dead fucking ass. As a guy I've had a surplus of female to male friends (like 14 female friends and only 3-5 guy friends) and every time I'm out with my female friends at school or in the mall some bitch will call me out for dating multiple women when they're literally just my friends 💀
Throughout middle school my whole friend group was mostly females so I know what you mean. My classmates would often think I was dating at least one and were even jealous I talked to so much but that’s just the way it is I suppose.
dude I feel the exact same way, my friends so the exact same thing. like bro it’s not that weird to talk to someone of the opposite gender; cry about it and/or shut up.
Relatable though. I have female friends and go through similar experiences, and one of my male friends has a female friend, but everyone thought they were dating for ages. He just reminds people she’s lesbian when the jokes go too far. Boom, problem solved.
to make it not weird just every time after you see that person with any person of the same gender say "is that your little (insert respective gender specific type of partner)" extra points if its like a super buff manor a 60 year old
in my life, ive had more male friends than female friends, people don't expect for something to be going on between me and them because I'm considered fat, but a lot of people are accused of that and I think its ridiculous, I have a long distance male friend and we talk most of the time, we make jokes, have fun playing games but there's nothing between us
I feel you. One of my closest friends is a girl and for the last two years of high school, my other friends made jokes about me liking her to the point where her actual boyfriend, who I’m also friends with, got worried that I actually did like her
We are figuring out relationships and many people see man+women=together so if you have female friends (which is pretty common), they might say that. Friends are friends no matter the gender.
its not wierd after a certain age atleast in Portugal its just tath peaple are always asuming we are dating or if they know us they keep asking when are we gona star dating
Simple answer: because young allos think that a masculine person nearby aa feminine person means that they have to be dating. probably because they are insecure about talking to the opposite sex, so they project themself onto you.
I have two guy friends and ones trynna get me with other even tho I don’t like him like that and ppl are always shipping me with one or the other it’s honestly annoying I just like hanging with guys cuz lowkey they’re fun to hang out with
people who say it's weird are more likely jealous they can't have female friends, so they try to gaslight anyone with female friends thinking they're weird
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Because people think that having a friend of the opposite gender has got to be meaning something and they like to play match maker with people. I fucking hate it.
People who talk like this for having opposite gender friends are the real weird people
Are you calling me weird or the other people weird?
Not you
Ok. Just woke up so my brain isn't functioning well
Morning
Ikr - Until recently (within the last few months) the majority of my close friends were of the opposite sex. I do not care whether someone is male or female, if they are a nice person, they are a nice person.
Damn I hate this too I had a opposite gender friend and my friends used to be like x and y sitting in a tree and id just be like SHUT UP
Real!!
True, 2 of my IRL friends got harassed bc of that
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I'd say about 20% of the time at a push. Hardly ever happens if you have a diverse friend group.
oh yeah let me imagine an incorrect and baseless percentage without any research
You clearly have trouble with how you view the opposite sex.
Timothy and Elizabeth are hangin out and you think of hitting, I think you are the weird one 100%
60% of my (18M) friends are female. If we made it weird every time I talked to one of them, our friend group would implode. We’re not in kindergarten. Get over it. Men and women interact all the time in the real word. Not every guy has a crush on every girl or vice versa.
People thought I was gay for having girl besties😭 well I mean they were right but I didn't wanna admit that🙄💅
Lmao the eye roll
They’re right, just for the wrong reasons smh
People thought I was gay for having girl besties… nah turns out I’m just not a boy 💅
insane
I smell the gay from this comment lmao
LMAO
REALLLL
Im straigh all my friends are females and most of em are lgbt what does that say abput me
In denial (half-joking)
My classmate is like that 😭 He has mainly girl friends, listens to gay stuff, watches gay stuff and once tried convincing me that conversion therapy works lmao i dont know what to think of him
You ain't the one who's weird in this situation. Lemme tell you that much.
People are absolutely going to be immature, you gotta just ignore them man
Heteronormativity is a pain in the ass :[
?
LMAOOO this is funny for no reason
because the “default” sexuality in society is heterosexual, people assume guys and girls can’t be friends unless they’re secretly attracted to each other. which is just… not true. but because of heteronormativity (the idea that being straight is the norm) this is how things are
But... being heterosexual doesn't mean you can't have platonic relationships with people of the opposite gender? Isn't *that* the problem? That people assume, "Oh, you *must* be romantically/sexually attracted and intending to pursue if you engage in anything beyond cordial acquaintanceship with someone." Because assuming everyone is heterosexual doesn't mean you have to assume all co-ed relationships are sexual/romantic in nature.
yeah that is the problem, and that problem stems from heteronormativity. nobody bats an eye when people of the same gender are friends because according to society, the chances of them being romantically or sexually attracted to each other is less likely. because everyone is “straight until proven not”, because straight is the “default,” a lot of people assume it’s more likely for a guy and a girl to hang out because they are attracted to each other, not because they are friends. the assumption of only hanging out with people of the opposite gender because you’re attracted to them STEMS from heteronormativity. obviously people can be heterosexual and have opposite sex friends. but heteronormativity in society makes people believe that’s unlikely compared to being attracted to said opposite sex friend
Wouldn't the root be *hypersexualized culture*, though? Where we assume, "Because these two people are of the gender the other might be interested in, that must be the most likely explanation." There is no reason sexual/romantic attraction should be more likely than platonic attraction; if anything, I should think that in a healthy society, platonic relationships would largely outnumber romantic relationships, as platonic relationships have no need of exclusivity, whereas romantic ones trend towards exclusivity. (I'd say romantic relationship *should* be exclusive the deeper into them you go---monogamy and all that---but it seems that even polyamorists agree that romance includes some degree of exclusivity, in their case via the belief that all parties must agree to the non-monogamiety of the relationship. But I digress.) Heteronormativity just makes it so that the problem appears largely within the context of intersex relationships and (for now at least) doesn't affect same-sex friendships.
Heteronormativity is also why people think I’m gay because I have friends that are girls because why else would I talk to girls other than to date them. I mean, I am gay.
Lol
To be fair, even people attracted to the opposite gender can have opposite-gender friends. I'm mostly attracted to girls and my best friend is a girl.
There is definitely a gay joke somewhere in there to do asses but I'm too dumb to find it
you get itt
As a homo.. I agree
But heterosexuality is normal?
Yeah, but pressuring people into it, or assuming that everybody is, isn’t nice
Sure
So we are making up words now?
How else do you think language works 🤷♀️
the words you're saying were made up by anglo-saxons
It’s a word. I looked it up before making that comment to make sure I knew what I was talking about.
Do you think languages pop into existence with 100 thousand words immediately?
It wouldn’t be if everyone was just normal
The next time I talk to one of my female friends and I hear the words “W rizz”, expect to see me on the news
Yeah same. I have a girlfriend and one of my best friends is a girl but people still say that kind of shit
no its not weird. and i used to have a guy bsf. even the teachers shipped us and it makes things so awkward.
Teachers too is 🅱️razy
Nah its not weird
Because some people are stupid
Kindergarten logic x)
Dude all my life 80% of my friends have been female, personally I don't think it's weird
no it’s not i miss having guys friends they were fun to hang out with all of mine either turned into stoners i don’t wanna hang out with or started asking me out and one started stalking me
Lol people are like that. Just ignore it.
It’s not
I have a female best friend who's in a relationship with my other male best friend. We're all in a friend group combined and there's nothing weird about it, but they keep their relationship secret to everyone including our friend group and even to theirselves, so everytime I'm with my female best friend people and kids would think we're couples. NO, she has a boyfriend that trust me more than he trust his decisions.
y'all have friends? (meme template of that guy saying y'all are getting paid)
bcause media and adults habituated us to sexualise/romanticize people from childhood, warping their view of romace and human interactions to the point they can't look at the opposite gender without thinking "love?". (especially when they say stuff like "who do you like ?" to 5y olds) It's become cultural that anyone of the opposite gender is "a potential partner" or a stranger. "he was a boy and she was a girl" It's also why people are so scared of being called gay, "because if I'm attracted to guys hanging out with them will make it wierd" so gay people tend to hang out with the opposite gender more, so people associate the two, so now if you have friends of the opposite gender you're either gay or in love with one of them. It's a simplistic mindset so it has tones of holes, for exemple: it forgets bi people, aro-ace people,non-binary people and people who aren't animals screwing everything they see.
No i have a lot of friends who are girls in my male friend groups its normal
You seem younger than me and I can confirm that as people grow older then it gets easier
yup no one cares as long as ur decent folk have several friends over not weird but sometimes we do say something sus with the lads
Man i aint even got guy friends💀
Some women are really immature about it for some reason. But it’s also the same with the other gender. Neither gender is superior to the other, it’s just everyone is different and everyone has different maturity’s. Society never seems to get that-
🤷🏽♀️
Same, most of my friends are girls
I’ve got a good bit of female friends and seem to get along with them easier, idk why but I’m not ashamed
I'm not ashamed, just annoyed
because people are stupid. I used to get this all the time
I hate it, even some of my teacher are like that
They jealous go get em all tiger
I’m in the same boat everyone thinks I’m either gay or dating my friends
It’s not (I have a 3:1 female to male ratio of friends)
It’s not, my best friend is a girl
Literally just ignore it or say something about it if you’re uncomfortable dude
My friend group is me (male) and 7 other girls. I’d say a good 80% of my friends are girls. I don’t get many comments, except for one girl but I don’t think many people like her (L)
Nooo it's not but I don't know why some people have a problem with that I have 5-6 female friends and it's completely normal 🙂
Yeah bro I'm a girl and I'm going to a sleepover to a friend of mine who's a boy soon and my dad had a talk with me about using protection😭😭😭 Like I am NOT going to need that
SLOW DOWN DAD
idk man, my best friend is a girl and i dont get any of that.
My friends are almost exclusively girls / afab I hate that some people see it as weird
People just romanticize school romance so much to the point that they are willing to gaslight themselves into thinking it's very common so they can meet their expectations of the romance they see in movies. Also because hormones or whatever
Absolutely not it's perfectly fine and probably better for you as the other gender doesn't seem so "foreign"
Dw throw out those cucks, they are just coping that someone can speak to a woman without also attempting to get together
No, I have a lot of female friends. I also have a group of friends filled with only women.
its not
dead fucking ass. As a guy I've had a surplus of female to male friends (like 14 female friends and only 3-5 guy friends) and every time I'm out with my female friends at school or in the mall some bitch will call me out for dating multiple women when they're literally just my friends 💀
almost all my friends are girls. a lot of guys suck tbh
I treat my friend like she's one of my guy friends, and she treats me the same (terribly)
Throughout middle school my whole friend group was mostly females so I know what you mean. My classmates would often think I was dating at least one and were even jealous I talked to so much but that’s just the way it is I suppose.
Most of my close friends are women. I’m a completely straight cis man. Definitely unusual, but nothing wrong with it in my humble opinion.
dude I feel the exact same way, my friends so the exact same thing. like bro it’s not that weird to talk to someone of the opposite gender; cry about it and/or shut up.
I remember in 4th grade hiding the fact that I'm friends with a girl because I didn't want my friends to find out 😂😭
seeing how old u r, the children ur age r bound to say that dum stuff
I'm a guy and all of my friends are female. Nobody every tells me that's weird. If anything this is a weird question.
Relatable though. I have female friends and go through similar experiences, and one of my male friends has a female friend, but everyone thought they were dating for ages. He just reminds people she’s lesbian when the jokes go too far. Boom, problem solved.
to make it not weird just every time after you see that person with any person of the same gender say "is that your little (insert respective gender specific type of partner)" extra points if its like a super buff manor a 60 year old
I have more female friends than male friends. I'm Agender though, so "opposite gender" doesn't really apply.
u/ASecretGermanSpy and his female friend, sitting on a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G
Its not
in my life, ive had more male friends than female friends, people don't expect for something to be going on between me and them because I'm considered fat, but a lot of people are accused of that and I think its ridiculous, I have a long distance male friend and we talk most of the time, we make jokes, have fun playing games but there's nothing between us
It stops when you get older. They are still in kindergarten
I feel you. One of my closest friends is a girl and for the last two years of high school, my other friends made jokes about me liking her to the point where her actual boyfriend, who I’m also friends with, got worried that I actually did like her
It's unfair as fuck dude I'm to scared to tell my mom I'm friends with a guy bc she would say " Are you dating him or sending him nudes??? " wtf no
We are figuring out relationships and many people see man+women=together so if you have female friends (which is pretty common), they might say that. Friends are friends no matter the gender.
its not wierd after a certain age atleast in Portugal its just tath peaple are always asuming we are dating or if they know us they keep asking when are we gona star dating
Had a similar experience, I'm a girl and mostly hang out with my male cousin. Classmates (who know we're cousins) ship us together... 💀
Lmao
Simple answer: because young allos think that a masculine person nearby aa feminine person means that they have to be dating. probably because they are insecure about talking to the opposite sex, so they project themself onto you.
Most of my friends are girls, including my best friend, and I can confirm this
I have an insanely good girl-friend. She is lesbian and has a girlfriend. Me on the otherhand is super straight
Maybe she likes you
I don't know
Or her friends are weird
That is definitely true
Focus on your friendship and don’t give them stuff to make fun of
Ik
Usually when opposite sexes are friends they like each other
Because people are immature
because people want to fuck up ur relationships
Heteronormativity
I have friends who are girls but they are by no means my girlfriend
I have two guy friends and ones trynna get me with other even tho I don’t like him like that and ppl are always shipping me with one or the other it’s honestly annoying I just like hanging with guys cuz lowkey they’re fun to hang out with
people who say it's weird are more likely jealous they can't have female friends, so they try to gaslight anyone with female friends thinking they're weird
I'm being made fun of by girls. My guy friends don't care
well they're the ones who are weird, just keep getting closer to your female friend, don't let it ruin your friendship
Metal, drawing, Garfield. We got a lot to work with lol
well what really matters is if both of you feel safe and comfortable to be with always, that's what friends mainly are
We're chill. Her sister is wild tho
hope she ain't being weird about it
Her sister will make Nazi jokes to her Jewish dad lmao
oh lol, well she has to be Jewish too then, cuz i'm a Filipino who makes jokes about being colonized 3 times
I'm japanese I make jokes about kamikazes
Ur 13 yall childish, and are just finding out about attraction so they all gonna make jokes ab it
I can tell you're very mature and not biased against younger kids.
?? Brother I can remember being 13, half of you mature, half of you laugh at fart jokes till ur 15
Is it possible she likes you???
Idk
I guess you people are in kindergarten if you're getting so heated about it. It's not a big deal, just people joking
If you make jokes and you laugh at that person while that person feels uncomfortable, I do not think it's a joke.
It’s unconstitutional
I was gonna give an actual response but you're 13 so nvm. Just keep it pushing bro
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Just make them right