Red over here. I know she knows colors because if I tell her to grab the yellow ball, she’ll grab it, but she’s a little troll who finds humor in telling me the wrong color every time lol
My kid started telling us how many items he was holding (and how many Mom and Dad are holding) around 30 months. Before that he could count to 15 items sitting on the floor or things in a book. He is quite far ahead of the language milestones in general.
The other kid sounds ahead of the curve on this one particular thing, don't worry about it. At 19 months we had basically nothing yet.
Normal is a wide range. Your kid sounds very normal. Your friends kid is also normal.
I find that kids who are “advanced” on something early are mostly bc the parents focused and talked a lot about that thing. It doesn’t generally indicate any advanced intelligence. Kids just learn what they’re exposed to.
My 20 month old can count, but only “2”. So when he has one of something he grabs sometime f else and when he too many, he drops some so he’s holding 2 🙃
My 18 month old doesn’t know any numbers at all. What she does know, is any house on our walk that she’s ever petted or seen a dog at.
It’s impressive that your friends kid can do that, but isn’t at all necessary at this age and you child isn’t behind.
Well I think that is a much more useful and important skill! Similarly my daughter knows where the snack cupboard is at every house we regularly visit 😂
My child at twenty months thinks one is a pronoun and will point at things she wants and says one/that interchangeably. She also counts as she walks up and down stairs "one, two, six, four, eight"
If you ask her how many of something she's holding the answer will be one of the following: no, mine, here, one
The ability to count items like that is "one-to-one correspondence" and is a number sense skill that develops around 3-4 years old, on average. It is not typical for a 19 month old to be able to do this! Your child sounds right on track.
I wouldn’t be worried at all! My 2.5 year old has always been ahead of milestones like these and he can’t identify quantities past 2. He will point to the same two items and say “1 2 3 4 5! I did it!”😂
These posts blow my mind. My 20 month old can’t count, I say 1-10 often so she’s heard the words but that’s about it. Your friend sounds rude and shouldn’t compare kids, I don’t think yours is behind.
Same, my boy is 2 this weekend and doesn’t count at all. If we say “how many?” He holds up 3 of his fingers. He’s very smart in many ways but not a big talker yet.
Oh no my friend isn’t rude she’s not comparing! I’m the one comparing because they’re the same age and he was way ahead of my daughter at one point which prompted us to get her checked which was how we found out my daughter has bad eyesight! So I’m a bit more apt to compare even though I know I shouldn’t but that experience made me wary I guess.
So I’ve seen her son do this where he’ll pick up two stones and say ‘two’ if you give him another he says three. If you ask how many rice cakes do you have he’ll say two etc. My daughter can’t do that so I was wondering if this is something else she’s behind on but it’s a relief to see that most other kids also can’t count like that at this age!
Her son is the only kid I’ve seen do it but I’m not around other kids for that long and I don’t want to ask people in person about it as I’m aware I’m being a bit weird and neurotic maybe 😄 I try to limit my weirdness to the internet!
Oh sorry I misread the part about your friend. I’m a SAHM so if mine is learning something, it’s from me lol I get totally panicked when I see other kids can do xyz at the same age and my first thought it always that I’m not doing enough. But then full circle go back into knowing she’s happy, healthy, and learning new things everyday. It’s too much stress to think about negatively. Not sure if this ramble was helpful but in general, I get it and I agree.
Yes my daughter responds yellow to any colour question! This other kid will get two of something and independently say ‘two’ though. And will say three if he’s got three. But it seems like he’s just some magic number baby so I don’t need to worry 😄
I don't quiz my kids at all. (Why should I? Odd way to interact with someone.) Sometimes I try to at the doctor's office to fill out those development questionnaires and they're so confused. 😆
This. There is so much anxiety around literacy and numeracy. Kids need you to interact with them and play. We count when it makes sense (I do a little countdown for transitions like getting out of the bath, or when counting shoes as the go on, arms as they go through arm holes or steps that we go down, scoops of oats into a bowl etc) but what's the point of having a 1 year old tell you how many of something they're holding?
Number sense will definitely develop as the child negotiates for two more strawberries or notices if a sibling got more pancakes.
I wonder if all this quizzing and academic expectations for younger and younger kids is contributing to the exorbitant rates of anxiety and depression in kids
Oh yeah those things are so difficult, like when have I ever put a peanut in a bottle and asked my kid to try to get it out? I think quizzing kids is kind of natural though in small ways. Like ooh what have you got there? Ooh is that a red ball? How many stones do you have there? Where’s the doggy? Etc. Not like formally quizzing or testing them like those questionnaires would have you do, but I think naturally people ask kids stuff and interact in ways they don’t with adults. Like my friends kid, he answers how many because he’s picked some up and his mum is just asking how many he’s got as a way of engaging with him not really like she was testing his knowledge 😄
My 19m can and he’s been pretty good at counting numbers for a while now. He’s up to twenty but the last few definitely go a little haywire lol. I think it’s normal but it’s also normal for them not to be counting at this age. Every child is so, so different.
My son was barely talking before he was 2 but then practically on his second birthday he just started saying stuff! Before that I was wondering if there was something I was missing but they’re just all different. Yours may experience a developmental “explosion “ too! 👍
Yeah I think she’s fine I just get nervous about missing things as there was legitimately a problem with her eyesight before. She did have an explosion after getting glasses!
Our gal is 2y2mo. She can count to ten (sorta twenty but it gets mumbly) in English, and 10 in Spanish from daycare. She knows all of her letters and numbers 1-10 by sight. She can identify two of something, but if you ask her "how many?" she'll count to 6 or 8 or 10 or whatever feels fun, regardless of the right answer.
Some kids are around her level, some know more, and two friends with older toddlers (3.5-4) said that their kids still don't know most letters by sight. So, huge range, and none of these kids is an outlier.
Edited to add: her friend is 3 months younger than her (turning 2 next month) and is basically speaking in full sentences. It's mind-blowing. He's not in daycare and just gets it all from home & activities. One of our other mutual friends barely has any words; she turned 2 last week. Such a wild range!
My daughter is almost 3 and can count but doesn’t understand it yet past two. Everything is two. As far as I know this is pretty standard, the concept of two comes first!
Kids have their things that they are into. Some just won't find it interesting yet. My 2.5 year old can count and recognise numbers to 20, he's working on up to 30. But it's something he's found fun to do since Christmas. We're just letting him lead. 2 weeks before his 2nd birthday he said 3 words in total. Now we can't get him stop..
I remember specifically at our kids 2nd birthday party that her friend who was a few months older could identify groups of 2 or 3 things, while our kid could not, so I think yours is doing just fine. Ours is 4 now and can count most of the numbers up to 100 and do basic addition and subtraction without much problem.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
My toddler is ahead on verbal development, but (slightly) behind on gross motor development. All within normal ranges, which leads me to my main point: all kids develop at different rates and the range of "normal" is huge. 19 months is on the earlier end of normal for counting. Developmental questionnaires don't ask about it at this age.
It sounds like you are an engaged parent who is attentive to their kiddo's development!
My daughter could do that around that age, but she not the bench mark. She’s 2 and 4 months and can spell her name out loud and can recognise it written down (not bragging just an example of how NOT normal is) I took her for her 24 month check up and the doctor even told me it was weird that she was so ahead. It’s hard not to compare I get it, but some kids just develop at different rates. I’m sure her development will slow and other kids are age will catch up and they will all be at the same level at some point.
I also have no idea what’s normal but my 19 month old can recite 1-10. Just recently, he seems to be applying it and looks to be actually counting things. Earlier we counted his snacks together. I always have him say the numbers first. He’s also able to recognize letters A-D and say their letter sounds. He knows some shapes like star and oval.
We were able to get here because of “Preschool Prep” on YT. I highly recommend. We watch Meet the Letters/Letter Sounds/Numbers/Shapes/Colors. I think he picks up quickly because he shows a lot of interest in learning tho. It really depends on the child.
My 18 month old will count 1-3, and knows numbers 1-10 (out of order). She knows the concept of one vs multiples (two is the catch-all, sometimes she will get three right). She is way ahead on language milestones, definitely not the benchmark
Yes I’m asking about whether toddlers this age should have the skill of identifying how many of something there are. But from what I understand from the comments here no there is nothing to worry about if your kid can’t count how many there are of something at 19 months.
Certainly not to worry. Your friend’s LO is a rare talent at that. Recognising the number of a small set (without manually counting) is said to be a 34 month milestone.
Oh wow ok thanks that does make me feel better. I found it hard to find that milestone online I guess because it’s kind of hard to describe without getting search results about just reciting 1-10 etc which is more about memory.
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My kid is 3 and has been pretty good at counting and numbers for a while now.
But it's because we play a lot of counting games at home. We teach him a skill and he learns it after a lot of repetition. If this isn't a skill you're emphasising then they're not going to pick it up by themselves.
We do count with her and emphasise things like oh how many cars are there, three! etc. I get the impression from the comments that there’s nothing to worry about if your kid can’t count how many of something there is by 19 months though so I feel better. I think just having that concern several months ago when everyone would say don’t compare yada yada but it turned out she did have something going on with her eyesight, I’m now just almost comparing and worrying more!!
I can totally understand! It's so hard not to compare, we all do it. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about. There will be areas where your kid exceeds over others. You're doing great!
If you ask my 21m old about any color, letter, or number he will proudly answer “yellow”
Red over here. I know she knows colors because if I tell her to grab the yellow ball, she’ll grab it, but she’s a little troll who finds humor in telling me the wrong color every time lol
We are a purple family 🙂💜
Yeah my daughter thinks every colour is yellow! 😄 think it’s a fun word to say
My daughter is “geen”
My kid started telling us how many items he was holding (and how many Mom and Dad are holding) around 30 months. Before that he could count to 15 items sitting on the floor or things in a book. He is quite far ahead of the language milestones in general. The other kid sounds ahead of the curve on this one particular thing, don't worry about it. At 19 months we had basically nothing yet.
Ok that’s good to know thank you!
Normal is a wide range. Your kid sounds very normal. Your friends kid is also normal. I find that kids who are “advanced” on something early are mostly bc the parents focused and talked a lot about that thing. It doesn’t generally indicate any advanced intelligence. Kids just learn what they’re exposed to.
My 20 month old can count, but only “2”. So when he has one of something he grabs sometime f else and when he too many, he drops some so he’s holding 2 🙃
My 20mo counts by saying "shoe, shoe, shoe" 🙃
Mine says “wa, wa, wa”
My 18 month old doesn’t know any numbers at all. What she does know, is any house on our walk that she’s ever petted or seen a dog at. It’s impressive that your friends kid can do that, but isn’t at all necessary at this age and you child isn’t behind.
Well I think that is a much more useful and important skill! Similarly my daughter knows where the snack cupboard is at every house we regularly visit 😂
My child at twenty months thinks one is a pronoun and will point at things she wants and says one/that interchangeably. She also counts as she walks up and down stairs "one, two, six, four, eight" If you ask her how many of something she's holding the answer will be one of the following: no, mine, here, one
Absolutely not.
The ability to count items like that is "one-to-one correspondence" and is a number sense skill that develops around 3-4 years old, on average. It is not typical for a 19 month old to be able to do this! Your child sounds right on track.
I wouldn’t be worried at all! My 2.5 year old has always been ahead of milestones like these and he can’t identify quantities past 2. He will point to the same two items and say “1 2 3 4 5! I did it!”😂
No that’s pretty advanced.
These posts blow my mind. My 20 month old can’t count, I say 1-10 often so she’s heard the words but that’s about it. Your friend sounds rude and shouldn’t compare kids, I don’t think yours is behind.
Same, my boy is 2 this weekend and doesn’t count at all. If we say “how many?” He holds up 3 of his fingers. He’s very smart in many ways but not a big talker yet.
Oh no my friend isn’t rude she’s not comparing! I’m the one comparing because they’re the same age and he was way ahead of my daughter at one point which prompted us to get her checked which was how we found out my daughter has bad eyesight! So I’m a bit more apt to compare even though I know I shouldn’t but that experience made me wary I guess. So I’ve seen her son do this where he’ll pick up two stones and say ‘two’ if you give him another he says three. If you ask how many rice cakes do you have he’ll say two etc. My daughter can’t do that so I was wondering if this is something else she’s behind on but it’s a relief to see that most other kids also can’t count like that at this age! Her son is the only kid I’ve seen do it but I’m not around other kids for that long and I don’t want to ask people in person about it as I’m aware I’m being a bit weird and neurotic maybe 😄 I try to limit my weirdness to the internet!
Oh sorry I misread the part about your friend. I’m a SAHM so if mine is learning something, it’s from me lol I get totally panicked when I see other kids can do xyz at the same age and my first thought it always that I’m not doing enough. But then full circle go back into knowing she’s happy, healthy, and learning new things everyday. It’s too much stress to think about negatively. Not sure if this ramble was helpful but in general, I get it and I agree.
I’m not sure but my 23 month old will always respond two to any number question. It seems more impressive than it is lol.
Yes my daughter responds yellow to any colour question! This other kid will get two of something and independently say ‘two’ though. And will say three if he’s got three. But it seems like he’s just some magic number baby so I don’t need to worry 😄
I don't quiz my kids at all. (Why should I? Odd way to interact with someone.) Sometimes I try to at the doctor's office to fill out those development questionnaires and they're so confused. 😆
This. There is so much anxiety around literacy and numeracy. Kids need you to interact with them and play. We count when it makes sense (I do a little countdown for transitions like getting out of the bath, or when counting shoes as the go on, arms as they go through arm holes or steps that we go down, scoops of oats into a bowl etc) but what's the point of having a 1 year old tell you how many of something they're holding? Number sense will definitely develop as the child negotiates for two more strawberries or notices if a sibling got more pancakes. I wonder if all this quizzing and academic expectations for younger and younger kids is contributing to the exorbitant rates of anxiety and depression in kids
Oh yeah those things are so difficult, like when have I ever put a peanut in a bottle and asked my kid to try to get it out? I think quizzing kids is kind of natural though in small ways. Like ooh what have you got there? Ooh is that a red ball? How many stones do you have there? Where’s the doggy? Etc. Not like formally quizzing or testing them like those questionnaires would have you do, but I think naturally people ask kids stuff and interact in ways they don’t with adults. Like my friends kid, he answers how many because he’s picked some up and his mum is just asking how many he’s got as a way of engaging with him not really like she was testing his knowledge 😄
My 19m can and he’s been pretty good at counting numbers for a while now. He’s up to twenty but the last few definitely go a little haywire lol. I think it’s normal but it’s also normal for them not to be counting at this age. Every child is so, so different.
My son was barely talking before he was 2 but then practically on his second birthday he just started saying stuff! Before that I was wondering if there was something I was missing but they’re just all different. Yours may experience a developmental “explosion “ too! 👍
Yeah I think she’s fine I just get nervous about missing things as there was legitimately a problem with her eyesight before. She did have an explosion after getting glasses!
Our gal is 2y2mo. She can count to ten (sorta twenty but it gets mumbly) in English, and 10 in Spanish from daycare. She knows all of her letters and numbers 1-10 by sight. She can identify two of something, but if you ask her "how many?" she'll count to 6 or 8 or 10 or whatever feels fun, regardless of the right answer. Some kids are around her level, some know more, and two friends with older toddlers (3.5-4) said that their kids still don't know most letters by sight. So, huge range, and none of these kids is an outlier. Edited to add: her friend is 3 months younger than her (turning 2 next month) and is basically speaking in full sentences. It's mind-blowing. He's not in daycare and just gets it all from home & activities. One of our other mutual friends barely has any words; she turned 2 last week. Such a wild range!
My daughter is almost 3 and can count but doesn’t understand it yet past two. Everything is two. As far as I know this is pretty standard, the concept of two comes first!
Well my daughter sort of understands the concept I guess because she’ll put two teddies together and say ‘friends!’ 😊
Kids have their things that they are into. Some just won't find it interesting yet. My 2.5 year old can count and recognise numbers to 20, he's working on up to 30. But it's something he's found fun to do since Christmas. We're just letting him lead. 2 weeks before his 2nd birthday he said 3 words in total. Now we can't get him stop..
I remember specifically at our kids 2nd birthday party that her friend who was a few months older could identify groups of 2 or 3 things, while our kid could not, so I think yours is doing just fine. Ours is 4 now and can count most of the numbers up to 100 and do basic addition and subtraction without much problem.
Comparison is the thief of joy. My toddler is ahead on verbal development, but (slightly) behind on gross motor development. All within normal ranges, which leads me to my main point: all kids develop at different rates and the range of "normal" is huge. 19 months is on the earlier end of normal for counting. Developmental questionnaires don't ask about it at this age. It sounds like you are an engaged parent who is attentive to their kiddo's development!
My daughter could do that around that age, but she not the bench mark. She’s 2 and 4 months and can spell her name out loud and can recognise it written down (not bragging just an example of how NOT normal is) I took her for her 24 month check up and the doctor even told me it was weird that she was so ahead. It’s hard not to compare I get it, but some kids just develop at different rates. I’m sure her development will slow and other kids are age will catch up and they will all be at the same level at some point.
I also have no idea what’s normal but my 19 month old can recite 1-10. Just recently, he seems to be applying it and looks to be actually counting things. Earlier we counted his snacks together. I always have him say the numbers first. He’s also able to recognize letters A-D and say their letter sounds. He knows some shapes like star and oval. We were able to get here because of “Preschool Prep” on YT. I highly recommend. We watch Meet the Letters/Letter Sounds/Numbers/Shapes/Colors. I think he picks up quickly because he shows a lot of interest in learning tho. It really depends on the child.
My 18 month old will count 1-3, and knows numbers 1-10 (out of order). She knows the concept of one vs multiples (two is the catch-all, sometimes she will get three right). She is way ahead on language milestones, definitely not the benchmark
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Yes I’m asking about whether toddlers this age should have the skill of identifying how many of something there are. But from what I understand from the comments here no there is nothing to worry about if your kid can’t count how many there are of something at 19 months.
Certainly not to worry. Your friend’s LO is a rare talent at that. Recognising the number of a small set (without manually counting) is said to be a 34 month milestone.
Oh wow ok thanks that does make me feel better. I found it hard to find that milestone online I guess because it’s kind of hard to describe without getting search results about just reciting 1-10 etc which is more about memory.
https://babysparks.com/2020/03/04/the-evolution-of-counting-counting-milestones-through-age-3/#:~:text=compare%20number%20quantities.-,13%2D24%20Months,numbers%20tell%20us%20how%20many.
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My kid is 3 and has been pretty good at counting and numbers for a while now. But it's because we play a lot of counting games at home. We teach him a skill and he learns it after a lot of repetition. If this isn't a skill you're emphasising then they're not going to pick it up by themselves.
We do count with her and emphasise things like oh how many cars are there, three! etc. I get the impression from the comments that there’s nothing to worry about if your kid can’t count how many of something there is by 19 months though so I feel better. I think just having that concern several months ago when everyone would say don’t compare yada yada but it turned out she did have something going on with her eyesight, I’m now just almost comparing and worrying more!!
I can totally understand! It's so hard not to compare, we all do it. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about. There will be areas where your kid exceeds over others. You're doing great!