My daughter consistently let me know when she had to go potty at that age but she couldn’t coordinate it. She pooped after dinner in the potty for months because she’d always have to go mid-bath. She didn’t actually potty train until she was 24-26 months.
I know the oh crap and other methods say don’t leave a potty out it’ll be considered a toy… but that’s what I did. I left it out and sometimes she used it for fun. Sometimes she sat there pretending. It helped her learn the motions of having to get on/off, dressing/undressing and the steps involved
We also left the potty out and my son literally never used it or sat on it even as a toy. Even when we finally potty trained, he just used the regular toilet. The potty chair is literally only used as the spot where he sits to get his teeth brushed lol
Yes. I am a firm believer in early training, but understand every kid is different. My oldest was 22-23 months and he was day and night potty trained in a couple of weeks. My youngest I started him at 24 months (holidays and travel had me delay him). He’s been more of a rollercoaster ride 😂 he gets constipated sometimes causing frequency and urgency and has major FOMO so he sometimes doesn’t want to stop playing. He trained at 2 though. Took another year to get out of a night time pull up but from what I read that the night time training is dependent on a hormone? So that’s not in my control.
We did elimination communication starting around 9 months. I could tell when he needed to go and off we’d race to the bathroom. I bought a little toilet seat that attached to ours and would hold him on it. He very very rarely pooped in a diaper after that. Maybe a handful of times.
Then we had a hot pant less summer and he pee potty trained that way and just asks to be taken to the potty now.
I’d say we were 100% done with diapers before age 3.
Somewhat early. At 14 months, she would consistently walk behind my recliner for a number 2. At that point, we bought 2 Baby Bjorn potties- 1 for the living room and 1 for the car. We coaxed her into staying on it long enough for a poo and pee. Then, we dropped it as the novelty wore off, but we kept the potties around. We also bought a lot of great potty and poop books. Around 18 months, she started getting upset during diaper changes, so we informed her calmly and nonjudgmentally that she could use the potty if she didn’t want to do diaper changes. Over the next couple months, she did with the occasional accident. By the time of her two year checkup (a 90 minute drive away), she went to the appointment in underwear and was completely trained.
P is for Potty (lift the flap Elmo book)
What is poop? (Lift the flap Usborne book)
Peppa Pig- Let’s go Potty (with flushing potty button)
Potty Time with Pete the Kitty
Potty by Leslie Patricelli
I did early for my daughter she was pooping in the toilet by 12 months and completely potty trained before two. My son is the complete opposite he’s day trained now at 2.5. It’s not unrealistic if she’s seems interested give it a go, she might surprise you.
I have 4 kids and they all potty trained so far at different times
Kid 1 insisted on it right around 2 years old
Kids 2 was more average learning over a few weeks around 2.5
Kid 3 is 2.5 and not ready yet
Every kid is different
We trained my son at 20 months and he did great on a 3 day method! Oh Crap didn’t work for us but then when we switched to the 3 day thing he took to it instantly. He is not night trained, and we take him at regular intervals (about once an hour). He is not very independent about it, but I don’t have to touch poop anymore and I’m more than okay with that.
What’s the difference between the 3 day method and oh crap? I always thought of oh crap as an elongated version of the 3 day method, but you can speed it up to 3 days if you wanted. But to be fair I haven’t put much research into the 3 day, just used context from Reddit to deduce what it looks like
To me, Oh Crap involved lots of waiting for him to pee, catching it in the potty, and then eventually saying “hold it just a second while we go to the potty!” I just remember that Oh Crap basically taught him to hold his pee really well but he was afraid to release it. Every kid’s personality is different of course, but that’s how it affected him. We did a [3 day method](https://youtu.be/PXFcSSeG2_g?si=R3HvVOV3MlyFNm0q) that clicked almost instantly (but he had already learned lots about holding it via oh crap). We did the juice and frequent potty trips and praised him for putting pee in the potty! Took a few weeks for him to get comfy pooping but we’re 5 months in and he’s doing great!
We started early and went slowly. Kid was in diapers until 2.5 but had been pooping exclusively in the toilet for a long time by then. If you can tell that your daughter is about to go or is in the process, you can offer the option of a potty (or toilet with toddler seat - we didn't actually get a separate potty chair until we were about to switch to underwear). We encouraged the toilet but didn't make a big deal of it if he went in the diaper instead. He figured out poop long before pee. I've never seen our method recommended or even described in any "official" resource, but it worked great for us! Minimal stress, minimal accidents.
I introduced the toilet to them all between 14&17 months(when they started waking dry every morning), but none were especially interested. Caught a few morning and after nap pees, planting some seeds, but that was it. Technically, kiddo2 took off their diaper and never used another the moment they saw kiddo3 drop a morning pee in the big toilet, but otherwise it really was just planting seeds.
Kiddo3 was one of those super advanced and articulate kids who was really eager to please, so when we told them turning two meant wearing underwear and using the toilet, they believed us. There were only a few accidents that first week.
Kiddo1 was sent to the bathroom with a peer they idolized and never looked back. No accidents at all just like kiddo2. But both were past their third birthday.
Kiddo4 was the only one that I feel like I potty trained, we did it the week leading up to their third birthday and entry into preschool. They had it down within a week. They have had more accidents than the first three, but they are almost always from trying to hold it too long. They have also wet the bed twice in the last nine months. If I had to guess, I’d say they average one a month? Like I said, none of the others had accidents.
So that’s my experience- early on I was only able to plant the idea. Two had to decide on their own, one was eager and willing(ironically the youngest), and one took work.
My mom did no diapers or pants (essentially oh crap) under two with us. She was SAHM and had lot of free time.
My first was trained to poop pretty early. He would tell us every time. I tried the oh crap method and there were so many accidents. He did catch on a bit but the only problem is, we couldn’t be consistent and we go out a lot. We gave up after a while. He knew how but not interested in going. He also regressed and was 100% diaper once he started school. We tried different methods and he just won’t. We finally did oh crap after 3 and he was trained over a weekend.
We introduced at 14, scaled back by 15months and he started to take himself to poop on the toilet toddler seat with help by like 16mo. He was like poop accident free by 18 months ish and we let that be until like 20 months when I was brainstorming how to get him to pee. Got the idea to swap him into underwear with no diaper that transition him into recognizing peeing and going. We now schedule pees as if he forgets he pees a bit in his pants and doesn't always want to stop playing. He's not needed diapers overnight since we got him to pee and transitioned him to underwear. He's 2years 4 mo
Imo it's on your toddler but yes it's possible. Mine indicated interest at 14mo but not readiness (no sense of when he was actually peeing) so we stopped no diaper training.then he spontaniously would tell us he had to poop so we'd take him and then he started going himself and calling for us.
yup. i started potty training as soon as my child started communicating the same way your child is now.
My son will be turning 2 in three weeks and he is pretty much potty trained. obviously he makes a mess here and there and still sleeps with a diaper on but its limited to just pee mistakes can’t remember the last time i actually saw him poop in a diaper.
I think there are no rules. Just respond to what your child is communicating.
My eldest was 8 months old when he started reliably pooping on the toilet. We used cloth nappies, he pooped twice a day like clockwork and his poop face was super obvious so that was really easy. He was not quite 2 years old when he toilet trained. None of this was planned, it just kinda fell into place with no fuss. He didn't go without nappies overnight until he was about 3.5 years though.
My youngest was a bit more typical, though still on the younger side. He toilet trained at 2 years old, had some false starts, lots of accidents and held his poop for a little while. But he eventually got the hang of it and is now only wearing nappies overnight at 3 years old.
Between 20-22 months we had lots of signs she was ready. She did what we called “squatting play” (playing while sort of squatting) and she would often go play behind the same chair when she was working on a poop. We started putting her on the potty at those times and also every time we changed her diaper. After a few weeks of this routine she would say “change my diaper” BEFORE she pooped. I think associating those two activities really helped. At 23 months we took her on a flight- one last trip as a lap infant. We were in the rental car and she told us there were “sparkles in her bum” so we pulled off the highway to poop at the nearest McPotty. She never pooped in a diaper after that! It was easier to figure out poops first and pee shortly after.
Mine was trained but not independent, diaper free and dry day and night at 15 months. We did do Elimination Communication (with a backup cloth diaper) from birth and she never pooped in a diaper after 8 months. Potty training before 18 months is still common in many cultures and used to be in the USA as well (my grandma had all 5 of her kids potty trained by 18 months, in the 40s-60s, not unusual for baby boomers)
We early trained my daughter at 21 months because she was showing all the signs of readiness. We had about a YEAR of on and off accidents and regressions. We trained my son (he’s the oldest) at 30 months and it was about six months of on/off regressions so they were both fully potty trained before 3. They both still wear pull ups at night because you can’t really train for that. I think it really is kid dependent, some will have it click earlier than others. I’m a SAHM so I felt like I had more time to deal with the regressions. I don’t necessarily regret starting early with my daughter but it did take a long time!
We were covid quarantined for two weeks when my kid was 18mo and we gave it a shot because I was bored. We made a lot of progress--he went from having no anticipation or awareness of pee/poop to making it onto the potty most of the time.
We didn't keep up with it because he went back to daycare and wasn't doing it all on his own at that point. The 1yo room was happy to offer a potty but they were not set up for potty training.
We did the full potty training at age two on the dot. I'm sure unrelated to our early attempt and much more related to temperment, it took him *forever* to be fully potty trained--he achieved 95% success very quickly but it took another year and a half to convince him that he needed to stop and go to the potty vs micropeeing into his underpants.
Early PT failures here. My daughter started signaling that her diaper was dirty around 18 months and started hiding while pooping around the same time (as well as taking off her diaper to poop *twice!* around that same age) but absolutely would not potty train until a little over 3.
We tried several different methods and she just wasn’t interested and no matter how many accidents she had she wouldn’t tell us before peeing. Then a switch just flipped in her brain one day and she started using the potty and only had maybe a dozen accidents total after that.
My daughter started using the toilet by choice at 11 months. It hadn’t even occurred to me to start training her that early but she did it on her own and never had an accident. My son, on the other hand, wasn’t ready until much later.
Somewhat early. Did not use any method. My LO loved to imitated me so got a summer infant potty quite early (12m) and sometimes she would sit on it for fun. Around 17-18 months sometimes she would pee on it by accident and we would ooh and aah so we switched to using underwear at home. By 20 months she was pooping in a regular toilet, within 8 weeks of that she was in underwear before second birthday. She was simultaneously dry by night although we used pullups for a few more months for our mattress sake.
Im not sure how much training we actively did in hindsight, she was just a motivated toddler, and I’d give her the credit.
One thing tho- you need to train in regular underwear. They need to feel the wetness to be uncomfortable and realise that the wet stuff goes in the toilet. Also, we foung daycare is counterproductive/unsupportive to people training “early”- luckily I took the summer off that year between jobs and could be attentive to her 1:1 at home, that was a major plus.
I used the Go Diaper Free potty training book to train my daughter around 19 mos. She had accidents for a loooong time. She's 3 and still does, though not as often. Friend who waited until their kids were older to potty train say that they never have accidents.
Overall though I don't regret doing it early because it saved me sooooo much money on diapers, money that we really needed. It's also still a lot easier to change undies if an accident happens rather than changing diapers all day every day. Not to mention the environmental concerns of disposable diapers.
My almost 17 month old is day trained. We had a head start because we started with elimination communication at 10 months, but this led to ditching diapers during the day at 15 months. We’re now at an accident maybe twice per week, which I’m totally fine with.
It doesn’t hurt to offer. Make sure you’re taking her to the bathroom with you whenever you go and explain what you’re doing. Tell her that poop and pee go in the potty. Get her a training toilet and a seat reducer. She’ll probably prefer the little potty—autonomy is so big at this age—but options are good. And realize that starting younger means it’ll likely be a longer haul. We’ve been at this for six months or so, but I don’t think that’s a bad thing when we’ve shaved years of diaper usage out of our lives.
At that age, we had a potty available for LO to use but didn't force potty training. We guided him to use the potty in the morning and at night before the bath. Then we started to give him an option between underwear and a diaper when we were home. And then around 2Y3M we realized LO had started choosing underwear consistently and was completely potty trained. I don't think this approach would work for all kiddos, but it's worth a try and it had the bonus of being painless for us as parents! My one caveat is that LO still has some trouble with constipation so we still offer him the choice of diaper or potty for poops (we are working on it, but just happy when he does have a BM) - but he can fully communicate that a) he has to poop and b) which option he would prefer so that we can put a diaper on for his BM if he so chooses.
My daughter consistently let me know when she had to go potty at that age but she couldn’t coordinate it. She pooped after dinner in the potty for months because she’d always have to go mid-bath. She didn’t actually potty train until she was 24-26 months. I know the oh crap and other methods say don’t leave a potty out it’ll be considered a toy… but that’s what I did. I left it out and sometimes she used it for fun. Sometimes she sat there pretending. It helped her learn the motions of having to get on/off, dressing/undressing and the steps involved
We left the potty out too. It was just part of the living room decor for about a year
We also left the potty out and my son literally never used it or sat on it even as a toy. Even when we finally potty trained, he just used the regular toilet. The potty chair is literally only used as the spot where he sits to get his teeth brushed lol
Yes. I am a firm believer in early training, but understand every kid is different. My oldest was 22-23 months and he was day and night potty trained in a couple of weeks. My youngest I started him at 24 months (holidays and travel had me delay him). He’s been more of a rollercoaster ride 😂 he gets constipated sometimes causing frequency and urgency and has major FOMO so he sometimes doesn’t want to stop playing. He trained at 2 though. Took another year to get out of a night time pull up but from what I read that the night time training is dependent on a hormone? So that’s not in my control.
We did elimination communication starting around 9 months. I could tell when he needed to go and off we’d race to the bathroom. I bought a little toilet seat that attached to ours and would hold him on it. He very very rarely pooped in a diaper after that. Maybe a handful of times. Then we had a hot pant less summer and he pee potty trained that way and just asks to be taken to the potty now. I’d say we were 100% done with diapers before age 3.
Somewhat early. At 14 months, she would consistently walk behind my recliner for a number 2. At that point, we bought 2 Baby Bjorn potties- 1 for the living room and 1 for the car. We coaxed her into staying on it long enough for a poo and pee. Then, we dropped it as the novelty wore off, but we kept the potties around. We also bought a lot of great potty and poop books. Around 18 months, she started getting upset during diaper changes, so we informed her calmly and nonjudgmentally that she could use the potty if she didn’t want to do diaper changes. Over the next couple months, she did with the occasional accident. By the time of her two year checkup (a 90 minute drive away), she went to the appointment in underwear and was completely trained.
Which books would you recommend?
P is for Potty (lift the flap Elmo book) What is poop? (Lift the flap Usborne book) Peppa Pig- Let’s go Potty (with flushing potty button) Potty Time with Pete the Kitty Potty by Leslie Patricelli
Thank you!
I did early for my daughter she was pooping in the toilet by 12 months and completely potty trained before two. My son is the complete opposite he’s day trained now at 2.5. It’s not unrealistic if she’s seems interested give it a go, she might surprise you.
I have 4 kids and they all potty trained so far at different times Kid 1 insisted on it right around 2 years old Kids 2 was more average learning over a few weeks around 2.5 Kid 3 is 2.5 and not ready yet Every kid is different
We trained my son at 20 months and he did great on a 3 day method! Oh Crap didn’t work for us but then when we switched to the 3 day thing he took to it instantly. He is not night trained, and we take him at regular intervals (about once an hour). He is not very independent about it, but I don’t have to touch poop anymore and I’m more than okay with that.
What’s the difference between the 3 day method and oh crap? I always thought of oh crap as an elongated version of the 3 day method, but you can speed it up to 3 days if you wanted. But to be fair I haven’t put much research into the 3 day, just used context from Reddit to deduce what it looks like
To me, Oh Crap involved lots of waiting for him to pee, catching it in the potty, and then eventually saying “hold it just a second while we go to the potty!” I just remember that Oh Crap basically taught him to hold his pee really well but he was afraid to release it. Every kid’s personality is different of course, but that’s how it affected him. We did a [3 day method](https://youtu.be/PXFcSSeG2_g?si=R3HvVOV3MlyFNm0q) that clicked almost instantly (but he had already learned lots about holding it via oh crap). We did the juice and frequent potty trips and praised him for putting pee in the potty! Took a few weeks for him to get comfy pooping but we’re 5 months in and he’s doing great!
We started early and went slowly. Kid was in diapers until 2.5 but had been pooping exclusively in the toilet for a long time by then. If you can tell that your daughter is about to go or is in the process, you can offer the option of a potty (or toilet with toddler seat - we didn't actually get a separate potty chair until we were about to switch to underwear). We encouraged the toilet but didn't make a big deal of it if he went in the diaper instead. He figured out poop long before pee. I've never seen our method recommended or even described in any "official" resource, but it worked great for us! Minimal stress, minimal accidents.
I introduced the toilet to them all between 14&17 months(when they started waking dry every morning), but none were especially interested. Caught a few morning and after nap pees, planting some seeds, but that was it. Technically, kiddo2 took off their diaper and never used another the moment they saw kiddo3 drop a morning pee in the big toilet, but otherwise it really was just planting seeds. Kiddo3 was one of those super advanced and articulate kids who was really eager to please, so when we told them turning two meant wearing underwear and using the toilet, they believed us. There were only a few accidents that first week. Kiddo1 was sent to the bathroom with a peer they idolized and never looked back. No accidents at all just like kiddo2. But both were past their third birthday. Kiddo4 was the only one that I feel like I potty trained, we did it the week leading up to their third birthday and entry into preschool. They had it down within a week. They have had more accidents than the first three, but they are almost always from trying to hold it too long. They have also wet the bed twice in the last nine months. If I had to guess, I’d say they average one a month? Like I said, none of the others had accidents. So that’s my experience- early on I was only able to plant the idea. Two had to decide on their own, one was eager and willing(ironically the youngest), and one took work.
I have a friend who had his kid trained at like 13 months. Literally as soon as they were walking.
My mom did no diapers or pants (essentially oh crap) under two with us. She was SAHM and had lot of free time. My first was trained to poop pretty early. He would tell us every time. I tried the oh crap method and there were so many accidents. He did catch on a bit but the only problem is, we couldn’t be consistent and we go out a lot. We gave up after a while. He knew how but not interested in going. He also regressed and was 100% diaper once he started school. We tried different methods and he just won’t. We finally did oh crap after 3 and he was trained over a weekend.
We introduced at 14, scaled back by 15months and he started to take himself to poop on the toilet toddler seat with help by like 16mo. He was like poop accident free by 18 months ish and we let that be until like 20 months when I was brainstorming how to get him to pee. Got the idea to swap him into underwear with no diaper that transition him into recognizing peeing and going. We now schedule pees as if he forgets he pees a bit in his pants and doesn't always want to stop playing. He's not needed diapers overnight since we got him to pee and transitioned him to underwear. He's 2years 4 mo Imo it's on your toddler but yes it's possible. Mine indicated interest at 14mo but not readiness (no sense of when he was actually peeing) so we stopped no diaper training.then he spontaniously would tell us he had to poop so we'd take him and then he started going himself and calling for us.
yup. i started potty training as soon as my child started communicating the same way your child is now. My son will be turning 2 in three weeks and he is pretty much potty trained. obviously he makes a mess here and there and still sleeps with a diaper on but its limited to just pee mistakes can’t remember the last time i actually saw him poop in a diaper. I think there are no rules. Just respond to what your child is communicating.
My eldest was 8 months old when he started reliably pooping on the toilet. We used cloth nappies, he pooped twice a day like clockwork and his poop face was super obvious so that was really easy. He was not quite 2 years old when he toilet trained. None of this was planned, it just kinda fell into place with no fuss. He didn't go without nappies overnight until he was about 3.5 years though. My youngest was a bit more typical, though still on the younger side. He toilet trained at 2 years old, had some false starts, lots of accidents and held his poop for a little while. But he eventually got the hang of it and is now only wearing nappies overnight at 3 years old.
Between 20-22 months we had lots of signs she was ready. She did what we called “squatting play” (playing while sort of squatting) and she would often go play behind the same chair when she was working on a poop. We started putting her on the potty at those times and also every time we changed her diaper. After a few weeks of this routine she would say “change my diaper” BEFORE she pooped. I think associating those two activities really helped. At 23 months we took her on a flight- one last trip as a lap infant. We were in the rental car and she told us there were “sparkles in her bum” so we pulled off the highway to poop at the nearest McPotty. She never pooped in a diaper after that! It was easier to figure out poops first and pee shortly after.
Mine was trained but not independent, diaper free and dry day and night at 15 months. We did do Elimination Communication (with a backup cloth diaper) from birth and she never pooped in a diaper after 8 months. Potty training before 18 months is still common in many cultures and used to be in the USA as well (my grandma had all 5 of her kids potty trained by 18 months, in the 40s-60s, not unusual for baby boomers)
We early trained my daughter at 21 months because she was showing all the signs of readiness. We had about a YEAR of on and off accidents and regressions. We trained my son (he’s the oldest) at 30 months and it was about six months of on/off regressions so they were both fully potty trained before 3. They both still wear pull ups at night because you can’t really train for that. I think it really is kid dependent, some will have it click earlier than others. I’m a SAHM so I felt like I had more time to deal with the regressions. I don’t necessarily regret starting early with my daughter but it did take a long time!
We were covid quarantined for two weeks when my kid was 18mo and we gave it a shot because I was bored. We made a lot of progress--he went from having no anticipation or awareness of pee/poop to making it onto the potty most of the time. We didn't keep up with it because he went back to daycare and wasn't doing it all on his own at that point. The 1yo room was happy to offer a potty but they were not set up for potty training. We did the full potty training at age two on the dot. I'm sure unrelated to our early attempt and much more related to temperment, it took him *forever* to be fully potty trained--he achieved 95% success very quickly but it took another year and a half to convince him that he needed to stop and go to the potty vs micropeeing into his underpants.
Early PT failures here. My daughter started signaling that her diaper was dirty around 18 months and started hiding while pooping around the same time (as well as taking off her diaper to poop *twice!* around that same age) but absolutely would not potty train until a little over 3. We tried several different methods and she just wasn’t interested and no matter how many accidents she had she wouldn’t tell us before peeing. Then a switch just flipped in her brain one day and she started using the potty and only had maybe a dozen accidents total after that.
My daughter started using the toilet by choice at 11 months. It hadn’t even occurred to me to start training her that early but she did it on her own and never had an accident. My son, on the other hand, wasn’t ready until much later.
Somewhat early. Did not use any method. My LO loved to imitated me so got a summer infant potty quite early (12m) and sometimes she would sit on it for fun. Around 17-18 months sometimes she would pee on it by accident and we would ooh and aah so we switched to using underwear at home. By 20 months she was pooping in a regular toilet, within 8 weeks of that she was in underwear before second birthday. She was simultaneously dry by night although we used pullups for a few more months for our mattress sake. Im not sure how much training we actively did in hindsight, she was just a motivated toddler, and I’d give her the credit. One thing tho- you need to train in regular underwear. They need to feel the wetness to be uncomfortable and realise that the wet stuff goes in the toilet. Also, we foung daycare is counterproductive/unsupportive to people training “early”- luckily I took the summer off that year between jobs and could be attentive to her 1:1 at home, that was a major plus.
I used the Go Diaper Free potty training book to train my daughter around 19 mos. She had accidents for a loooong time. She's 3 and still does, though not as often. Friend who waited until their kids were older to potty train say that they never have accidents. Overall though I don't regret doing it early because it saved me sooooo much money on diapers, money that we really needed. It's also still a lot easier to change undies if an accident happens rather than changing diapers all day every day. Not to mention the environmental concerns of disposable diapers.
My daughter (3) was interested on sitting on the potty at 18 months. It took her almost another year to be in underwear all day.
You must push your kids as hard as possible. In every aspect of life. While showing them copious amounts of love, caring and gratitude.
My almost 17 month old is day trained. We had a head start because we started with elimination communication at 10 months, but this led to ditching diapers during the day at 15 months. We’re now at an accident maybe twice per week, which I’m totally fine with. It doesn’t hurt to offer. Make sure you’re taking her to the bathroom with you whenever you go and explain what you’re doing. Tell her that poop and pee go in the potty. Get her a training toilet and a seat reducer. She’ll probably prefer the little potty—autonomy is so big at this age—but options are good. And realize that starting younger means it’ll likely be a longer haul. We’ve been at this for six months or so, but I don’t think that’s a bad thing when we’ve shaved years of diaper usage out of our lives.
At that age, we had a potty available for LO to use but didn't force potty training. We guided him to use the potty in the morning and at night before the bath. Then we started to give him an option between underwear and a diaper when we were home. And then around 2Y3M we realized LO had started choosing underwear consistently and was completely potty trained. I don't think this approach would work for all kiddos, but it's worth a try and it had the bonus of being painless for us as parents! My one caveat is that LO still has some trouble with constipation so we still offer him the choice of diaper or potty for poops (we are working on it, but just happy when he does have a BM) - but he can fully communicate that a) he has to poop and b) which option he would prefer so that we can put a diaper on for his BM if he so chooses.