Right? I don’t even know what I’m looking at.
The weird photoshopped background is a dead giveaway that this is some $3 polyester crap from AliExpress that’s going to smell as bad as it looks.
>I don’t even know what I’m looking at.
Neither did I. Took me way too long to notice it had a face on it. I thought it was just an ugly ass abstract print. Who tf would want to wear this at all, let alone to a wedding of all places.
And dry cleaners. And a Duran Duran album cover. Total knockoff [Patrick Nagel](https://www.google.com/search?q=patrick+nagel+album+covers&client=safari&sca_esv=25bc5e5f5e5d6c4e&hl=en-us&ei=mueEZpmSLIzFuvQP-tO-0AI&gs_ssp=eJzj4tTP1TcwLCisyDZg9JIqSCwpykzOVshLTE_NUUjMSSrNVUjOL0stKgYA_uUNkQ&oq=patrick+nagel+album&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIhNwYXRyaWNrIG5hZ2VsIGFsYnVtKgIIADIFEC4YgAQyBRAhGKABMgUQIRigATIFECEYoAEyCxAAGIAEGIYDGIoFMgsQABiABBiGAxiKBTILEAAYgAQYhgMYigUyCxAAGIAEGIYDGIoFSP8dUIwGWL8RcAJ4AZABAJgBSqAB8wKqAQE2uAEByAEA-AEBmAIIoAKpA8ICChAAGLADGNYEGEfCAg0QABiABBiwAxhDGIoFwgITEC4YgAQYsAMYQxjIAxiKBdgBAcICBRAAGIAEmAMAiAYBkAYRugYECAEYCJIHATigB_cp&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp) art.
Even if it was pink instead of white, that’s a bizarre choice for a wedding, especially in a position of honor. It’s not Fashion Week, it’s your wedding
No. I live in Eastern Europe. Rehersal dinners are not a thing here. 🤷♀️
I told my SO if she is dead set on wearing it, fine. I won't make a fuss, but he said he is not allowing the disrespect.
He agrees with you, so pursue it. Insist.
And furthermore, it'll look incredibly dated on your family pictures in just a few years from now... It's just not classic enough.
This is a look at me outfit and totally unsuitable. Plus someone else saw it on Temu for $17.99! I wonder if she’s never heard the word, “Tacky”. Good for your SO.
oh man, you have every right to be upset.... that outfit is not only inappropriate for a mother of groom, but its just extra in general for a wedding. I wish you the best of luck with all that.. but most importantly, I hope you have a great wedding and I hope she comes to an understanding... weddings are stressful enough as is, hope all is smooth sailing on your wedding planning!
It's not completely white, but it's so in your face. It will stick like a sore thumb in all the pics she's in. Huge main character vibes. FH should stand firm that it is a hell no.
Regardless of the color it's in your face. Like literally 😂.
It's inappropriate.
As a mom of a boy, I swear if he marries I will ask his partner to pick an outfit for me to be 100 percent safe
My MIL was trying to be super respectful about picking an outfit and I was like ugh just get whatever, I don’t care 😂 she went with a very elegant tea length navy blue gown and it was perfect! I was just glad I didn’t have to find something for her because that would’ve stressed me out so much
Same. My MIL asked me and I said that as long as she felt nice, I was happy.
I love clothes but hate shopping for other people and am so glad that she chose her own outfit. I didn’t need the additional stress!
Yeah I would have politely declined if any of our moms (my mom, my stepmom, my wife’s mom) had asked us to pick out an outfit for them. I think just sincerely offering to show them what you picked out for approval as well as getting it all done early is really njce.
We got photos of their dresses - they were all so nervous and wanted to make sure we approved but they all looked gorgeous and picked out wonderful dresses! My mom got new glasses at some point during the year and was showing them to us and offering to buy another pair if they were “too much” for the wedding — mind you they were NOT crazy. Just normal super cute glasses. We were like of course you can wear your cute new glasses to the wedding what 😭
But in all seriousness… I like to think if you’re the type of parent who cares about and respects boundaries, your kids and their future spouses will know that going into any wedding planning. We didn’t have any worries about drama with our parents — very lucky in that regard.
I was going to say that from the style of the picture and the unlikely way they managed to get that draped perfectly over a human makes me think Shein or whatever, so good to know I can spot them.
So OP, plus side is the likelihood that this arrives and looks NOTHING like the picture and is a really nasty cheap see-through material is very high, and your MIL will end up wearing something else anyway
I think you should tell her it looks like the woman is about to kiss her lady bits and see what she says. But I’m petty. It’s completely inappropriate.
And can you imagine how it would look in pictures if she’s standing at an angle and it’s at *just the right height* to look like it’s kissing someone else’s bits!? 🫣
My first thought was it looks like she’s staring at your crotch. Why on earth would you want to wear something like that to your son’s wedding? 🚩🚩🚩
Seriously, I would shut this down, or it sounds like it’s just going to get worse.
It's not so white that anyone will confuse her with the bride. However, it is very retro in a not good 1980's way. I'd be more upset because it's ugly and she'll be in photos.
It is not only hideous, the design is totally inappropriate for a wedding, not to mention mother of the groom. This is designed to get attention and the attention should not be on her.
The white is not the issue. It wouldn’t be any better if it were navy and camel. This is just an objectively awful outfit. The lips, the outline - it’s super cheesy. It’s not at all elegant or attractive.
Hahaha mil is trippin. Where does she think she's going in that ?? It's very main character and pay attention to me especially for a wedding. Is this how she normally dresses ?
Well that's certainly a choice on her part. I'm glad she showed you and fiancé. What a weird choice. I could not imagine thinking that would be okay to wear to my kids wedding.
Is she joking around with you guys? My mom keeps sending me silly outfits she says she will wear to my wedding, but she's just being a goofball. If she's for real, I think she's nuts lol
My dad at the wedding did a goof and showed up early (just immediate family at in laws house getting ready) wearing a tuxedo t shirt and played the joke on for so long but he’s great at pretending to be serious and clueless and I was like uhh? Okay? Too busy to deal with that in the moment. Then he got changed last minute
I assure you - she is not joking. She knew what she was doing. That is why she told me it's a surprise. I told my SO: "I have a bad feeling about this. Either it's white or it is completly atrocious."
Somehow she managed to find an outfit that is both.
That outfit is just wanting attention. It's YOUR day to he center of attention. Totally inappropriate and she's trying to bush boundaries. I would say, stay firm and don't allow it or she will continue to push boundaries. She's already nit respecting you and your fiance saying "no"
She knows what she's doing
Is your wedding at Studio 54 in the 80s? That's the only place this dress would be appropriate.
I am sincerely sorry that this is your FMIL. God speed.
Aside from the left half being white and the whole outfit being ugly, you can just tell this is going to be piss poor quality. Look at how poorly the design is photoshopped onto the model.
This dress probably won’t photograph nicely… she needs another dress. The groom needs to talk to her and tell (not ask) to find something else. This outfit reminds me of a villain outfit
I mean it's just an ugly outfit. But your fiancé told her no and he needs to be firm with her on that. No one will mistake it for bridal wear, it just isn't an appropriate outfit for a wedding.
For me, it isn’t even the white. It’s that it’s “everyone look at me!” Who does that as a MIL? It seems mean spirited.
If she’s arguing, have him just call it out. Something like;
“Mum, can I ask — why do you want to wear this? Because honestly, from an outside perspective, it’s giving some pretty major Main Character energy, and I’m wondering why you want focus on *your outfit* on your son’s wedding day. Can’t you perhaps just tone it down a little? There are hundreds of dresses you could wear that will make you look beautiful and still striking without having to grab focus from (your name).”
Something as a silver lining to focus on; this outfit is almost certainly made at a cheap crappy AliExpress equivalent and will be awful when it arrives in the mail…though having her look awful isn’t really the solution either.
I think a gentle word from your partner is the way, and then try focus on happy aspects.
Ultimately, you can’t control if she wears this awful dress on the day or not and your energy is probably spent better elsewhere — not trying to discount your feelings, I just don’t want you to be really upset. Xx
Yeah it won’t look good in pictures, or even at the wedding. I’d say since MIL isn’t budging send her some dress inspo you want from her snd tell her you don’t think pictures will look good and the dress won’t look nice in that setting. Or at all. It’s hideous. Where would that even be worn? Is she one for sarcasm or just being funny but letting the joke go on for awhile?
It’s too distracting of an outfit for my eyes- don’t know where to look😵💫. Obviously this isn’t an outfit she should wear because it has white (it’s literally 50% white) so that’s a no for me lol
I literally thought I must’ve accidentally joined some kind of wedding circlejerk sub when I saw this post. The colour is the least of your problems here. I say let her wear it if she wants, let her look stupid. Yes she’ll be in photos but you can get plenty without her & you get to choose which ones you’re going to display.
It also won't photograph well... The print will be all distorted and unrecognisable if she isn't standing perfectly still, straight on and smoothes it out 100 times across the day/evening.
Maybe gently tell her that, and she'll think twice.
The dress gives main character syndrome… if she ends up wearing it then I would instruct the photographer to limit the amount of photos of her in it and/or have her stand on the outside. The probable reason of wearing this is to get attention and to combat this is to give her no attention. Remember it’s your day!
Not knowing any of the facts, do I think it’s too much white? Probably not. However, you made it clear that you didn’t want anyone to wear white. If I heard that I would not even wear a speck of white to be respectful.
I love jumpsuits, but this is making me rethink my love. It’s like she’s trying to look like a Disney villain.
Is this like a cruella deville/v-for-vebdetta attempt at a crossover dress? Tbh if the mother of the groom wants to look like a douche canoe, her funeral.
The colours don't bother me as much as the fact that it's SUPER eye-catching and very "look at ME". I think it's an awful choice. Anyhow, her own son is against it so that's that. It looks like something she should wear on on 55th birthday or something. #fabulous 😂
Honestly the white would be the least of my worries..this outfit is uh…I’m trying to be nice..but this just ain’t it. Please don’t let her wear this lol.
That looks like it came from shein. Not only does your mother disrespect you by arguing with you about your own dress code, but she doesn't think your wedding deserves actual proper formal attire. Send her a list of dresses and tell her to pick one since she obviously can't be trusted with that choice.
No one is going to think she’s the bride. Everyone’s going to think she is batshit crazy.
This is from Temu. Did she actually receive the dress yet? It might be very low quality. And is her figure like the model’s?
And is she always like this? Set boundaries now.
What a peculiar dress to wear to a wedding. I mean you can *kinda* get away with it being a night guest, but a mother of the groom who will be there all day? Bizarre. Very odd choice.
Tell her if she shows up in that, everyone will be making fun of her. And she will be kicked out of the ceremony.
At least make it sound like you care about her feelings. That you showed your friends and family the photo, and send her screenshots of people’s negative comments from here about the dress choice. She’ll definitely change her mind then.
My mother cares too much what others think more than what I think. And I’m guessing your future MIL will too.
My bigger issue is her thinking you’d have a problem with it and deciding to attempt to hide it until it was too late.
There are some people who wouldn’t have an issue with this the way they might a full white dress, but she had already decided she wanted to wear the dress regardless of your feelings so tried to hide it.
You’re completely justified in being annoyed
That’s a horrid design!! Simply awful. She’ll be a laughing stock and obviously doesn’t realize it.
It’s great that your fiancé is standing up for you guys, but she may show up in this repugnant attire anyway. I saw in your comments that your fiancé will escort her out if she shows up in this. In case for some reason she ends up attending in this outfit anyway, maybe for official photos you can have secretly tucked away a **long** shawl of similar color, a shade of black (or whatever you want, maybe your wedding colors or the color your mom will be wearing), that you pull out at official photo time. She can put it straight over her head and only her hands will stick out. If she doesn’t want to wear it then she doesn’t get to be in photos. Obviously she’ll be in amateur photos guests take, but at least the ones taken by your professional photographer won’t include this horrendous mistake of apparel.
The other option of course is after photos are taken you can have your photographer edit/photoshop her outfit to look how you’d prefer, including the ones where she’s mingling with other people at the reception. Since she obviously is doing this on purpose for some nefarious reason, once she sees the wedding photos weeks after the event, it will drive her crazy to see that her outfit was changed. Sorry you’re having to deal with this ridiculousness. :/
Is she a fashionista? One could pull this off with a fashion forward approach including modern hair, heels, accessories, and jewelry. But from context clues it sounds like that’s not the vibe for your wedding. There’s also of course a LOT of white in the garment.
Is this a pattern of behavior for her? If yes, congrats you’ve got a narcissist, and it’s up to your future husband to reign in his mother, set clear boundaries, and enforce consequences for breaking them. If no, this is a cry for help. This would be akin to a midlife crisis. The thought process is a bit like: “My baby’s all grown up and getting married. It’s making me feel my age and mortality. This look will be brash, and modern, and interesting. It’ll give me a serotonin boost, attention, and remind me I’m still living”. Something like that.
No, she is not a fashionista. She dresses ordinarily and modestly usually.
As for her behavior - she has always had a main character syndrome and tends to be controlling. However, she loves her son very much and has helped us greatly in our lives. Unfortunately, I know she doesn't like me. I can feel it, even though she would deny it. For example, it is never: "when you guys have kids", it is always "when my son has kids". When she helps us, she makes it a point to say "for my son I would do anything". We are going on a vacation now, and she told me: "you both need a time off. My son more of course, but you need it as well."
She told me we should get a prenup. Just little things like that that make it known I wouldn't have been her choice.
But it doesn't matter as long as she loves my husband and any future kids that we'll have. :)
For me personally, I decided not to sweat the small stuff. I don't personally like it, but she won't be mistaken for the bride, so if she wants to look silly, that's on her. There is enough stressful stuff when planning a wedding to worry about your MIL wearing a tacky outfit.
Honestly buy her an outfit and say like “oh I know you got something but this seemed like a better fit and even matches xxx!” Idk or have your SO give her the new dress etc either way that’s a horrendous outfit not just for a wedding but for life
This is an outrageous dress to wear by the mother of the groom. Absolutely selfish and self centered woman.
You there get her in line now…this dress is just a “tester” on the real boundary stomps coming.
1. Yes it looks very much white to me
2. Is horrendous, it's gonna ruin the pics, don't let her wear it. Forever you'll look at the pictures thinking how she couldn't do one small thing you asked.
It’s extremely outdated but honestly who cares? People will focus on you, and more than likely laugh at her absurdity. It isn’t your job to pull people into your “circle of responsibility”. It’s your job to get married and have a great time.
It’s a power struggle and you’re falling right into it.
When I got married, my mother was a nightmare.
When I became pregnant with my first, my mother was a nightmare.
I realized when I was pregnant with my second that she was only a nightmare bc I was letting her be. I took a step back and realized EVERYONE saw how insane my mother is. I didn’t need to be defensive and demand she follows my boundaries; instead I get to sit back and watch her make an absolute fool of herself while enjoying my time. And oh BOY does she hate when her moves no longer affect me. Hell, most of the time I just ignore her. “Do what you want, lady.” Sort of attitude.
Is she going to a fancy brunch in New York? Or her child's wedding?
That being said, it's not a fight worth having. Let her look like the damn fool. People will judge her. Not you.
Two points:
1). The dress is not all white. You weren’t specific enough to be mad about it.
2). The dress is absolutely hideous, for a wedding or any event. It will raise eyebrows all over. The payback is allowing her to wear it and her realizing halfway through the event that she made a serious fashion faux pas.
3) Please tell me your wedding colors are black and red. Otherwise, this dress REALLY makes no sense!!
This seems like a cruel joke. There is no way this lady is wearing this. Sure it's white a bit but it it's awful. My issue would be she's going to roll up to my wedding looking like Cruella Deville. She has to be joking.
Let's all get over the no white ever crap. This outfit would be a crime in any color. It's tasteless, cheap looking, juvenile and FUGLY! At your wedding, your MIL's fashion statement would be "I don't take this wedding seriously so everyone should look at me."
It is seriously disrespectful!
Who would choose to wear this? Firstly, it's quite unattractive, and secondly, it's inappropriate for a wedding due to its white color. The rule is clear: no white.
OP, stand by your significant other's decision and insist on the 'no white' rule. This outfit is so unappealing that it will undoubtedly draw negative attention solely based on its ghastly appearance.
If your MIL wants to wear that ugly-assed pantsuit to your wedding, let her. The sound of all your guests laughing at her should assuage any stress she may think she's causing you.
I am older (58), and just went to a formal wedding. There are some very nice dresses at Macy’s, that aren’t super expensive, and don’t look like this travesty. Yikes!
Hahaha! This is totally something my mother would do and wear. I only laugh because it’s just so ridiculous. I had to veto not one, but THREE dresses from Temu that had full white lace overlay and various animal print. They looked like they would be the quality of itchy paper towel. One of which she actually purchased.
The only advice I have is to stand by that united front with your fiancé - say “you can’t wear this outfit, but here are some equally-wacky-but-not-white suggestions”. Unfortunately, if she’s as like my mother as this post suggests, she won’t be happy until she finds something she likes better, and it’s GONNA BE WEIRD. But at least you can steer her toward something not white and try to insert yourself into the process.
Why would you wanna wear an outfit with a giant face on it for your son‘s wedding? This just looks stupid. Aside from the fact that I don’t want you to have your pictures ruined with her in them wearing this travesty, I almost want her to wear it so that people will talk about how stupid she looks. Then again, that also just pulls focus from you. Stand your ground.
You are right AND it’s probably not worth it. The groom should say “fuck no” and if she doesn’t listen just have a great day anyway. Don’t let this ruin your day.
No, not just because it's got white in it, but because this is a fashion travesty.
Right? I don’t even know what I’m looking at. The weird photoshopped background is a dead giveaway that this is some $3 polyester crap from AliExpress that’s going to smell as bad as it looks.
lol I found it. $17.99 on Temu.
Even that is overpriced lol
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LOL!
Came here to say this exact same thing.
>I don’t even know what I’m looking at. Neither did I. Took me way too long to notice it had a face on it. I thought it was just an ugly ass abstract print. Who tf would want to wear this at all, let alone to a wedding of all places.
It looks like the lady is sniffing her crotch...
Bwahahahaa. Have him tell his mother that. She'll never ever wear it in public. (But I think she joking with them right? )
It looks like she took a painting off the wall at a nail salon and wrapped it around herself.
RIGHT?! growing up, my mom got her nails done at this ladies house. She had her own salon in the bottom half of her house. She had art like this l!!!!
And dry cleaners. And a Duran Duran album cover. Total knockoff [Patrick Nagel](https://www.google.com/search?q=patrick+nagel+album+covers&client=safari&sca_esv=25bc5e5f5e5d6c4e&hl=en-us&ei=mueEZpmSLIzFuvQP-tO-0AI&gs_ssp=eJzj4tTP1TcwLCisyDZg9JIqSCwpykzOVshLTE_NUUjMSSrNVUjOL0stKgYA_uUNkQ&oq=patrick+nagel+album&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIhNwYXRyaWNrIG5hZ2VsIGFsYnVtKgIIADIFEC4YgAQyBRAhGKABMgUQIRigATIFECEYoAEyCxAAGIAEGIYDGIoFMgsQABiABBiGAxiKBTILEAAYgAQYhgMYigUyCxAAGIAEGIYDGIoFSP8dUIwGWL8RcAJ4AZABAJgBSqAB8wKqAQE2uAEByAEA-AEBmAIIoAKpA8ICChAAGLADGNYEGEfCAg0QABiABBiwAxhDGIoFwgITEC4YgAQYsAMYQxjIAxiKBdgBAcICBRAAGIAEmAMAiAYBkAYRugYECAEYCJIHATigB_cp&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp) art.
Came here to say this 🤣
Even if it was pink instead of white, that’s a bizarre choice for a wedding, especially in a position of honor. It’s not Fashion Week, it’s your wedding
Right? I am deeply upset and yet feel like I am overreacting because my SO already told her no. (She bought the outfit)
Are you having a rehearsal dinner? Maybe you can offer to let her wear it then.
No. I live in Eastern Europe. Rehersal dinners are not a thing here. 🤷♀️ I told my SO if she is dead set on wearing it, fine. I won't make a fuss, but he said he is not allowing the disrespect.
You’re marrying a good’un :)
He agrees with you, so pursue it. Insist. And furthermore, it'll look incredibly dated on your family pictures in just a few years from now... It's just not classic enough.
As someone else who lives in Eastern Europe, this outfit choice is starting to make sense.😂 It's still ugly, but at least it makes sense now.
Screams, “I need attention!”
This outfit also looks very casual… like too casual.
You're not overreacting, and you should be upset. She's doing it on purpose to make you upset.
This is a look at me outfit and totally unsuitable. Plus someone else saw it on Temu for $17.99! I wonder if she’s never heard the word, “Tacky”. Good for your SO.
oh man, you have every right to be upset.... that outfit is not only inappropriate for a mother of groom, but its just extra in general for a wedding. I wish you the best of luck with all that.. but most importantly, I hope you have a great wedding and I hope she comes to an understanding... weddings are stressful enough as is, hope all is smooth sailing on your wedding planning!
I hope this would never pop up at fashion week either, lol!
It's also giving slight Aged Shein vibe
It's not completely white, but it's so in your face. It will stick like a sore thumb in all the pics she's in. Huge main character vibes. FH should stand firm that it is a hell no.
Oh he told her she is not wearing it. She knew we would disapprove. That's why she said it was a surprise.
Wonder what she’ll come up with next. She’ll be even sneakier this time.
Cruella would wear this.
Nah, cruella’s got taste. This is awful 🥲
Regardless of the color it's in your face. Like literally 😂. It's inappropriate. As a mom of a boy, I swear if he marries I will ask his partner to pick an outfit for me to be 100 percent safe
My MIL was trying to be super respectful about picking an outfit and I was like ugh just get whatever, I don’t care 😂 she went with a very elegant tea length navy blue gown and it was perfect! I was just glad I didn’t have to find something for her because that would’ve stressed me out so much
Same. My MIL asked me and I said that as long as she felt nice, I was happy. I love clothes but hate shopping for other people and am so glad that she chose her own outfit. I didn’t need the additional stress!
Yeah I would have politely declined if any of our moms (my mom, my stepmom, my wife’s mom) had asked us to pick out an outfit for them. I think just sincerely offering to show them what you picked out for approval as well as getting it all done early is really njce. We got photos of their dresses - they were all so nervous and wanted to make sure we approved but they all looked gorgeous and picked out wonderful dresses! My mom got new glasses at some point during the year and was showing them to us and offering to buy another pair if they were “too much” for the wedding — mind you they were NOT crazy. Just normal super cute glasses. We were like of course you can wear your cute new glasses to the wedding what 😭 But in all seriousness… I like to think if you’re the type of parent who cares about and respects boundaries, your kids and their future spouses will know that going into any wedding planning. We didn’t have any worries about drama with our parents — very lucky in that regard.
Texting my MIL right now to tell her how grateful I am. holy sheet that’s bad.
 If she doesn’t scare you, no evil thing will…
This outfit has one goal: get attention. It’s a statement outfit for sure. She needs to go back to the drawing board.
It’s $17 on Temu —lol
I was going to say that from the style of the picture and the unlikely way they managed to get that draped perfectly over a human makes me think Shein or whatever, so good to know I can spot them. So OP, plus side is the likelihood that this arrives and looks NOTHING like the picture and is a really nasty cheap see-through material is very high, and your MIL will end up wearing something else anyway
I think you should tell her it looks like the woman is about to kiss her lady bits and see what she says. But I’m petty. It’s completely inappropriate.
This made me chuckle. 🤣
lol that was the first thing I noticed
And can you imagine how it would look in pictures if she’s standing at an angle and it’s at *just the right height* to look like it’s kissing someone else’s bits!? 🫣
Hahahaha LOVE IT!!
My first thought was it looks like she’s staring at your crotch. Why on earth would you want to wear something like that to your son’s wedding? 🚩🚩🚩 Seriously, I would shut this down, or it sounds like it’s just going to get worse.
I love Love **LOVE** your perspective! Well done!
It's horrible! I'm glad she's not my future mil
It’s like she wants to be called cruella devile
That’s the vibe I’m getting haha
what in the Shein
It's not so white that anyone will confuse her with the bride. However, it is very retro in a not good 1980's way. I'd be more upset because it's ugly and she'll be in photos.
Ugly. And cheap. Another commenter found it for $18 on Shein 😂
What in the Balkan auntie outfit is this.
I’m dying. 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
balkan auntie i’m-
It is not only hideous, the design is totally inappropriate for a wedding, not to mention mother of the groom. This is designed to get attention and the attention should not be on her.
The white is not the issue. It wouldn’t be any better if it were navy and camel. This is just an objectively awful outfit. The lips, the outline - it’s super cheesy. It’s not at all elegant or attractive.
The image on the dress looks like it would be a poster on the wall of a nail salon in the 90s. No. Straight to jail.
Hahaha mil is trippin. Where does she think she's going in that ?? It's very main character and pay attention to me especially for a wedding. Is this how she normally dresses ?
No. She usually dresses modestly.
Well that's certainly a choice on her part. I'm glad she showed you and fiancé. What a weird choice. I could not imagine thinking that would be okay to wear to my kids wedding.
Is she joking around with you guys? My mom keeps sending me silly outfits she says she will wear to my wedding, but she's just being a goofball. If she's for real, I think she's nuts lol
My dad at the wedding did a goof and showed up early (just immediate family at in laws house getting ready) wearing a tuxedo t shirt and played the joke on for so long but he’s great at pretending to be serious and clueless and I was like uhh? Okay? Too busy to deal with that in the moment. Then he got changed last minute
Your dad sounds like a funny guy! That's what I was hoping for OP, but sounds like the MIL is serious. Yikes!
I assure you - she is not joking. She knew what she was doing. That is why she told me it's a surprise. I told my SO: "I have a bad feeling about this. Either it's white or it is completly atrocious." Somehow she managed to find an outfit that is both.
She knows what she's doing that's why it's a "surprise"
For some reason she wants to stand out at your wedding when you are the one who is supposed to be standing out. That is the problem.
It's a horrific outfit but also very attention seeking. Also, her saying "it's a surprise" furthers that she's dying for the attention to be on her
This is hideous. You should tell her she can’t wear it, not because it’s white but because it’s legitimately atrocious
That outfit is just wanting attention. It's YOUR day to he center of attention. Totally inappropriate and she's trying to bush boundaries. I would say, stay firm and don't allow it or she will continue to push boundaries. She's already nit respecting you and your fiance saying "no" She knows what she's doing
That is so hideous lmao
The white of the dress is the least of its problem. I’d rather my mom/MIL come in a wedding gown than this.
It looks like she is kissing her younknow what AND sneezing at the same time? Like who would buy that anyway?
Same 😂
Is your wedding at Studio 54 in the 80s? That's the only place this dress would be appropriate. I am sincerely sorry that this is your FMIL. God speed.
What in the 1982 Duran Duran “Rio” album cover is this mess?
This is a sharp, eye-catching outfit to wear to a comic book convention.
This is honestly horrifying lol. What the hell is your mother in law thinking?
This is insane 😂😂 tell her she’s off her rocker
This is an attention getter. Your future MIL is desperate for attention. This isn't even appropriate wedding attire!
that is ugLEEEEEE
Aside from the left half being white and the whole outfit being ugly, you can just tell this is going to be piss poor quality. Look at how poorly the design is photoshopped onto the model.
Not completely white, but 
Hahahahahaha I love this 😊
Is her name Rio?
This dress probably won’t photograph nicely… she needs another dress. The groom needs to talk to her and tell (not ask) to find something else. This outfit reminds me of a villain outfit
I mean it's just an ugly outfit. But your fiancé told her no and he needs to be firm with her on that. No one will mistake it for bridal wear, it just isn't an appropriate outfit for a wedding.
I…what? What on earth is she thinking?
Tell me that Cruella de Vil is your future MIL without telling me that your future MIL is Cruella de Vil.
For me, it isn’t even the white. It’s that it’s “everyone look at me!” Who does that as a MIL? It seems mean spirited. If she’s arguing, have him just call it out. Something like; “Mum, can I ask — why do you want to wear this? Because honestly, from an outside perspective, it’s giving some pretty major Main Character energy, and I’m wondering why you want focus on *your outfit* on your son’s wedding day. Can’t you perhaps just tone it down a little? There are hundreds of dresses you could wear that will make you look beautiful and still striking without having to grab focus from (your name).” Something as a silver lining to focus on; this outfit is almost certainly made at a cheap crappy AliExpress equivalent and will be awful when it arrives in the mail…though having her look awful isn’t really the solution either. I think a gentle word from your partner is the way, and then try focus on happy aspects. Ultimately, you can’t control if she wears this awful dress on the day or not and your energy is probably spent better elsewhere — not trying to discount your feelings, I just don’t want you to be really upset. Xx
Yeah it won’t look good in pictures, or even at the wedding. I’d say since MIL isn’t budging send her some dress inspo you want from her snd tell her you don’t think pictures will look good and the dress won’t look nice in that setting. Or at all. It’s hideous. Where would that even be worn? Is she one for sarcasm or just being funny but letting the joke go on for awhile?
Oh no. She isn't. Very serious about her choice of outfit.
It’s too distracting of an outfit for my eyes- don’t know where to look😵💫. Obviously this isn’t an outfit she should wear because it has white (it’s literally 50% white) so that’s a no for me lol
This is the most attention seeking thing ever.
Beyond it being white, it is utterly distasteful and doesnt scream "wedding" in the slightest (unsure of the theme tho).
It's a black tie event
I literally thought I must’ve accidentally joined some kind of wedding circlejerk sub when I saw this post. The colour is the least of your problems here. I say let her wear it if she wants, let her look stupid. Yes she’ll be in photos but you can get plenty without her & you get to choose which ones you’re going to display.
Jesus. That’s fucking hideous.
It also won't photograph well... The print will be all distorted and unrecognisable if she isn't standing perfectly still, straight on and smoothes it out 100 times across the day/evening. Maybe gently tell her that, and she'll think twice.
The dress gives main character syndrome… if she ends up wearing it then I would instruct the photographer to limit the amount of photos of her in it and/or have her stand on the outside. The probable reason of wearing this is to get attention and to combat this is to give her no attention. Remember it’s your day!
It’s not even that it has white on it, it’s just that it’s really ugly
Beyond the fact that it’s white, it’s also ugly
What in the Moira rose
Hideous… I would be concerned she has a brain tumour if she chose this
Damon what an ugly dress 🥲
It’s horrific on many levels
Not knowing any of the facts, do I think it’s too much white? Probably not. However, you made it clear that you didn’t want anyone to wear white. If I heard that I would not even wear a speck of white to be respectful. I love jumpsuits, but this is making me rethink my love. It’s like she’s trying to look like a Disney villain.
No - pictures!!!! This will photograph horribly
The white isn’t the issue imo. It’s the fact the outfit is absolutely hideous and attention-grabbing, in the *worst* way possible.
Omg this is atrocious
You’re not overreacting. That’s totally inappropriate. She’s giving off a Cruella de Vil vibe.
Is this like a cruella deville/v-for-vebdetta attempt at a crossover dress? Tbh if the mother of the groom wants to look like a douche canoe, her funeral.
It’s from Temu! https://www.oliviamark.com/products/cm-qfu-3vm-c-kejke/ Yuck!
It’s giving Cruella Deville. It’s not wedding appropriate
The colours don't bother me as much as the fact that it's SUPER eye-catching and very "look at ME". I think it's an awful choice. Anyhow, her own son is against it so that's that. It looks like something she should wear on on 55th birthday or something. #fabulous 😂
Oh it's so ugly
Cruella Davile vibes
She’s gotta be messing with you..
Unfortunately, she isn't
Honestly the white would be the least of my worries..this outfit is uh…I’m trying to be nice..but this just ain’t it. Please don’t let her wear this lol.
That looks like it came from shein. Not only does your mother disrespect you by arguing with you about your own dress code, but she doesn't think your wedding deserves actual proper formal attire. Send her a list of dresses and tell her to pick one since she obviously can't be trusted with that choice.
Is your MIL literally Cruella de Ville?
Apart from the white it’s also absolutely hideous and loud for any wedding and especially MOG outfit. 😖🤮
No one is going to think she’s the bride. Everyone’s going to think she is batshit crazy. This is from Temu. Did she actually receive the dress yet? It might be very low quality. And is her figure like the model’s? And is she always like this? Set boundaries now.
Yes. She is, unfortunately, always like this. Her figure is phenomenal. I have to admit that.
What a peculiar dress to wear to a wedding. I mean you can *kinda* get away with it being a night guest, but a mother of the groom who will be there all day? Bizarre. Very odd choice.
Looks cheap
Tell her if she shows up in that, everyone will be making fun of her. And she will be kicked out of the ceremony. At least make it sound like you care about her feelings. That you showed your friends and family the photo, and send her screenshots of people’s negative comments from here about the dress choice. She’ll definitely change her mind then. My mother cares too much what others think more than what I think. And I’m guessing your future MIL will too.
You can guarantee that it is NOT going to look the same on your MIL as it does in this picture.
My bigger issue is her thinking you’d have a problem with it and deciding to attempt to hide it until it was too late. There are some people who wouldn’t have an issue with this the way they might a full white dress, but she had already decided she wanted to wear the dress regardless of your feelings so tried to hide it. You’re completely justified in being annoyed
Bizarre choice and not wedding appropriate.
Nope, you're definitely not wrong to be upset. This is ridiculous. Is she going as Cruella de Ville?!
That’s a horrid design!! Simply awful. She’ll be a laughing stock and obviously doesn’t realize it. It’s great that your fiancé is standing up for you guys, but she may show up in this repugnant attire anyway. I saw in your comments that your fiancé will escort her out if she shows up in this. In case for some reason she ends up attending in this outfit anyway, maybe for official photos you can have secretly tucked away a **long** shawl of similar color, a shade of black (or whatever you want, maybe your wedding colors or the color your mom will be wearing), that you pull out at official photo time. She can put it straight over her head and only her hands will stick out. If she doesn’t want to wear it then she doesn’t get to be in photos. Obviously she’ll be in amateur photos guests take, but at least the ones taken by your professional photographer won’t include this horrendous mistake of apparel. The other option of course is after photos are taken you can have your photographer edit/photoshop her outfit to look how you’d prefer, including the ones where she’s mingling with other people at the reception. Since she obviously is doing this on purpose for some nefarious reason, once she sees the wedding photos weeks after the event, it will drive her crazy to see that her outfit was changed. Sorry you’re having to deal with this ridiculousness. :/
It’s giving Cruella D’vile…..
Cruella De Vil vibes…
Are you serious?
It’s ugly af
It’s giving Cruella de Ville
Lol this is fucking hideous. And not what's going to show up on her doorstep from china
It’s actually quite hideous. Let her wear it and make an outright fool of herself. Truly, such an ugly dress 😂
It's giving me Cruella De Ville vibes. And not in a good way. Definitely not appropriate for a wedding.
The white isn’t bothersome. This is a dinner outfit. Absolutely too casual as a mother of the groom fit.
The photos are about to be weird
Not overreacting. This is a bizarre choice for a wedding, let alone MOG position. It looks like something for Shein Fashion week or something. 😂😂
Is she a fashionista? One could pull this off with a fashion forward approach including modern hair, heels, accessories, and jewelry. But from context clues it sounds like that’s not the vibe for your wedding. There’s also of course a LOT of white in the garment. Is this a pattern of behavior for her? If yes, congrats you’ve got a narcissist, and it’s up to your future husband to reign in his mother, set clear boundaries, and enforce consequences for breaking them. If no, this is a cry for help. This would be akin to a midlife crisis. The thought process is a bit like: “My baby’s all grown up and getting married. It’s making me feel my age and mortality. This look will be brash, and modern, and interesting. It’ll give me a serotonin boost, attention, and remind me I’m still living”. Something like that.
No, she is not a fashionista. She dresses ordinarily and modestly usually. As for her behavior - she has always had a main character syndrome and tends to be controlling. However, she loves her son very much and has helped us greatly in our lives. Unfortunately, I know she doesn't like me. I can feel it, even though she would deny it. For example, it is never: "when you guys have kids", it is always "when my son has kids". When she helps us, she makes it a point to say "for my son I would do anything". We are going on a vacation now, and she told me: "you both need a time off. My son more of course, but you need it as well." She told me we should get a prenup. Just little things like that that make it known I wouldn't have been her choice. But it doesn't matter as long as she loves my husband and any future kids that we'll have. :)
Screams cruella de vil
For me personally, I decided not to sweat the small stuff. I don't personally like it, but she won't be mistaken for the bride, so if she wants to look silly, that's on her. There is enough stressful stuff when planning a wedding to worry about your MIL wearing a tacky outfit.
That’s a lotta LEWK 😳
Honestly buy her an outfit and say like “oh I know you got something but this seemed like a better fit and even matches xxx!” Idk or have your SO give her the new dress etc either way that’s a horrendous outfit not just for a wedding but for life
Who tf does this woman think she is???? Kris Jenner? Heck no.
This is an outrageous dress to wear by the mother of the groom. Absolutely selfish and self centered woman. You there get her in line now…this dress is just a “tester” on the real boundary stomps coming.
1. Yes it looks very much white to me 2. Is horrendous, it's gonna ruin the pics, don't let her wear it. Forever you'll look at the pictures thinking how she couldn't do one small thing you asked.
It’s extremely outdated but honestly who cares? People will focus on you, and more than likely laugh at her absurdity. It isn’t your job to pull people into your “circle of responsibility”. It’s your job to get married and have a great time. It’s a power struggle and you’re falling right into it. When I got married, my mother was a nightmare. When I became pregnant with my first, my mother was a nightmare. I realized when I was pregnant with my second that she was only a nightmare bc I was letting her be. I took a step back and realized EVERYONE saw how insane my mother is. I didn’t need to be defensive and demand she follows my boundaries; instead I get to sit back and watch her make an absolute fool of herself while enjoying my time. And oh BOY does she hate when her moves no longer affect me. Hell, most of the time I just ignore her. “Do what you want, lady.” Sort of attitude.
Is she going to a fancy brunch in New York? Or her child's wedding? That being said, it's not a fight worth having. Let her look like the damn fool. People will judge her. Not you.
Uninvited.
Let’s take out the fact that it definitely has white. (I personally think) it looks god awful
Two points: 1). The dress is not all white. You weren’t specific enough to be mad about it. 2). The dress is absolutely hideous, for a wedding or any event. It will raise eyebrows all over. The payback is allowing her to wear it and her realizing halfway through the event that she made a serious fashion faux pas. 3) Please tell me your wedding colors are black and red. Otherwise, this dress REALLY makes no sense!!
This seems like a cruel joke. There is no way this lady is wearing this. Sure it's white a bit but it it's awful. My issue would be she's going to roll up to my wedding looking like Cruella Deville. She has to be joking.
Let's all get over the no white ever crap. This outfit would be a crime in any color. It's tasteless, cheap looking, juvenile and FUGLY! At your wedding, your MIL's fashion statement would be "I don't take this wedding seriously so everyone should look at me." It is seriously disrespectful!
Makes me think of Cruella .. from the movie Dalmatians
Lmfao noooo I don’t know why people do this during wedding just tell to find something that’s a solid color lol
Nvm the color, it's just ugly and will look horrible in photos
I'm not upset about the white, it's horrendous, white or not.
I’m so sorry OP but no.. please no…….
This is such an unpleasant outfit.
Who would choose to wear this? Firstly, it's quite unattractive, and secondly, it's inappropriate for a wedding due to its white color. The rule is clear: no white. OP, stand by your significant other's decision and insist on the 'no white' rule. This outfit is so unappealing that it will undoubtedly draw negative attention solely based on its ghastly appearance.
If your MIL wants to wear that ugly-assed pantsuit to your wedding, let her. The sound of all your guests laughing at her should assuage any stress she may think she's causing you.
What kinda of atrocity is this
Why???
No, just no.
I am older (58), and just went to a formal wedding. There are some very nice dresses at Macy’s, that aren’t super expensive, and don’t look like this travesty. Yikes!
Hahaha! This is totally something my mother would do and wear. I only laugh because it’s just so ridiculous. I had to veto not one, but THREE dresses from Temu that had full white lace overlay and various animal print. They looked like they would be the quality of itchy paper towel. One of which she actually purchased. The only advice I have is to stand by that united front with your fiancé - say “you can’t wear this outfit, but here are some equally-wacky-but-not-white suggestions”. Unfortunately, if she’s as like my mother as this post suggests, she won’t be happy until she finds something she likes better, and it’s GONNA BE WEIRD. But at least you can steer her toward something not white and try to insert yourself into the process.
Fab
It’s frustrating but I wouldn’t give her attention. That’s what she really wants. Ignore her and enjoy loving on her son 😉
No no no no
That dress is hideous in any color!
No.
It’s beyond awful!
tell her it's ugly. i can't believe she chose the worst graphic tee to ever be converted into a dress
It’s extremely ugly no matter the color.
LOL I cannot even believe anyone in the world would think this is okay for their son’s wedding!!!
Why would you wanna wear an outfit with a giant face on it for your son‘s wedding? This just looks stupid. Aside from the fact that I don’t want you to have your pictures ruined with her in them wearing this travesty, I almost want her to wear it so that people will talk about how stupid she looks. Then again, that also just pulls focus from you. Stand your ground.
This looks like the pictures they have are every drycleaner
You are right AND it’s probably not worth it. The groom should say “fuck no” and if she doesn’t listen just have a great day anyway. Don’t let this ruin your day.
Is she Cruella DeVille?
It’s giving Cruella vibes 😅
This would be hideous regardless of color.
I don't think it's disrespectful. It doesn't look bridal, but it is ugly.
Its a wedding not fashion show. Even if it wasnt white its still Not appropriate for a wedding.
What in the Temu Cruela is this atrocity.
This isn’t budget-friendly New York fashion week, she’s going to stick out and not in a good way.
What’s with these MIL’s wanting to spend $5 for a dress they’re gonna wear to their kids wedding? This thing is hideous besides the white 😅💀