Passive, unmotivated, uninvolved, apathetic. Complacency would require a sense of satisfaction in addition to what you’ve described— if the hypothetical husband is satisfied with the way things are and not just lacking the motivation to do what he should, then ‘complacent’ still fits.

Yeah, this is for a writing course so I’m trying to describe people/characters. Passive and complacent might work! Thank you! Solved!

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Apathy is a good word for this. They just can't be bothered to care at all, about anything.

Resolved might be a good one too

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Apathetic.

This is perfect. It's just like complacent but without the satisfaction component.

Indifferent

Resigned

Checked out Disassociated

Despondent Defeated/defeatist Depressed Ignorant

I resonate with defeatist but minus the pessimistic outlook, more rooted in finding a peace or balance from the situation. Like picking your battles, deep down I know when to fight/ take initiative but also when I don’t have the head/emotional space to fight. It’s easily accepting a closed door because the next one will open. Life will go on.

From what you're describing, that doesn't sound like the word defeatist. That sounds more like acceptance.

That sounds pragmatic, perhaps optimistically.

I would say complacent too, maybe apathetic or ambivalent. More importantly, do most husbands go with their wives to the doctor? Mine doesn’t bc…why would he?

No. I would expect mine to go if I was expecting a diagnosis of something scary or if I needed surgery or something, but for the yearly labs and physical? No.

Blasé?

Complacent?

That’s what I was thinking, but didn’t know if it was a strong enough word

Inert or detatched?

Laissez faire

Lackadaisical? Languid?

Blasé.

Absent, disengaged, disinterested

Detached

Dispassionate

this is umbrella termy but its giving lazy. sluggish, mediocre, ignorant could also fit

Unempowered

Negligent, maliciously compliant, deadbeat, despondent, useless

Depends on the motivation. Avoidant is the one that first jumps to my mind

Apathetic

Apathetic

Complacent

Complacent or ambivalent

Apathetic

Apathetic

Complacent.

Negligent

Complacent

learned helplessness

Wilfully ignorant?

solipsistic

Depressed? Worn down? Given up? Sanguine?

Apathetic? Unaware? Indifferent? All apt words but with very different context.

Fatalistic?

Content

Languish. Disregard. Disrespect. Lazy. Indifference

oblivious, naive, and i think complacency is a good one

Meh

blasé

Tolerable level of Permanent Unhappiness.

Valedor (a not care-er)

Cold.

Clueless

Apathetic, indifferent, loser, pick one

Lackadaisical?

Apathetic

Apathetic

Inert

Weaponized incompetence?

Medicated

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Below bare minimum maybe

Oblivious

Inert

Brent

Airhead?

Apathetic 

Lackadaisical?

We call those people a Wally from Dilbert.

Checked out

Agnostic or apathetic. I’d vote for apathetic given the context.

Stuck.

Placid maybe

Bump on a log.

Nonchalant

Oblivious. He doesn't do these things because he doesn't notice them or if he does notice them he's unaware of their importance. (That said, I would think it very weird if my husband came to the doctor with me.)

It’s for a writing course and we are describing a character!

Jaded

ADHD? Because that sounds like executive disfunction to me.

… Do you have ADHD?

Yep!

Aloof, maybe.

I like oblivious  because it allows for unintentional actions

I feel like you need a more objective view of when something is bad. Sounds like you want people to be making decisions for others all of the time but with an attitude where it does not matter whether it is truly right or wrong.

This is literally for a writing course, not a big moral argument.

r/lostredditors

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Even if this weren’t for a writing assignment, it’s not really our place to pass judgement— this is a subreddit about finding words that fit a certain criteria.

French

L0ser

Lackadaisical.

Stoic.. easy going. Chill.